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HiNdi KO nA aLam KuNg aNo aNg GaGaWin Ko..

OtChOwHaLo8OtChOwHaLo8 whtizbeautyifdabrainisemp ty PExer
ehto sitwasyon namin. at sana may magbasa..

i cheated on him. twice! pero hindi niya ako iniwan. hindi ko sha mahal dati.. pero natutunan ko shang mahalin nung marealized ko na sha lang yung taong nandyan at nandito para sa akin. so ayun na nga, akala ko ayos na kami. pero pagkatapos kong lokohin nga siya nung pangalawang beses, he started treating me a like a piece of crap. i mean, fine he's there. but he doesnt treat me the way he treated me before. and i seriously do understand why he was doing that because of the fact that i cheated on him and i know that he's trying to protect himself naman.

so yeah.. months passed. i was getting used to the fact that im just a friend to him. like you know.. we're not really together pero parang kami pa rin. walang title. i give him his space. and i hardly even talk to him at all because i thought thats what he wanted. and little did i know that he was still talking to this girl that i am so jealous of.

he told me long time ago that he stopped talking to her. and this girl had the guts to tell me everything (i.e. what they were talking about and etc) last saturday.. after my ex or bf got in a car accident. after talking to this girl, i realized that i was exactly like her. i used to be that girl who always listen to his problems and etc. they're really close!!! like he even called her.. while i was talking to her just to check if she was mad at him!!!! he doesnt even do that to me anymore. and yeah.. i realized.. that im losing the man that i fell in love with. . that i also probably did and hasnt realized it yet. and sucks even more that he told her that i dont want him to talk to her.. and the girl told me that he still wants to talk to her.

so yeah.. there was more that she told me that hurted me so bad. and yeah.. i almost killed myself because i couldnt bear the pains. i have never felt those pains in my whole life. and yeah.. nakipagbalikan sa akin yung ex ko.. well not really.. pero sabi niya he'll stop talking to her and that he'll treat me right na daw. and yeah.. he actually picked her over me.. at first.. and then when i told him that i want him to stay and that i'll do something to myself if he'll leave me... then he said he'll stay.

pero yeah. i dont think i was fair. but then i was trying to protect myself.. i know that sooner or later he'll fall in love with her. he probably did.. but he just wouldnt admit it to me. and it sucks. argh. :(

and yeah.. i wanna move on and forget about him and just be damn fair to him. you know... let him do what's gonna make him happy. pero sabi niya.. do i really think that leaving him will make him happy? naguguluhan ako sa kanya.. and i guess naguguluhan rin sha sa takbo ng isip niya.

ewan ko. pero gusto ko sanang bigyan niyo ako ng advice kung ano ang dapat kong gawin. long distance relationship pa naman ito.. and yeah.. i live in california.. and he lives in chicago. i dont know if should leave him.. or endure all the pains that im feeling while i'm with him. sabi niya kasi before.. when he tried to leave me.. that makikipagbalikan daw sha sa akin kapag ayos na ang lahat. that'll be 2-3 years from now.

uuwi ako sa pinas in 2 months. and i hope na by the time na nandun na ako sa pinas.. ayos na ang lahat.
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  • GreatBopGreatBop Beerhand Gets Big Pots PExer
    "do i really think that leaving him will make him happy?"

    did you ask him "What makes him happy?"

    "sabi niya kasi before.. when he tried to leave me.. that makikipagbalikan daw sha sa akin kapag ayos na ang lahat. that'll be 2-3 years from now. "

    uh- THAT NEVER usually happens. I said that to my ex.. someone i was so gaga with. and now i don't even give a damned where she is right now. alot could happen in 2- 3 years. like makakahanap ka na ng ibang girl, etc.

    it is very possible na yung treat nya dun sa girl is just a friend. a good one, however. if the girl told you everything.. it could mean na nagyayabang sya sa harap mo. or she wants you to know how you bf's feeling..
  • QuentinQuentin Montejo PExer
    haha, maghahanap pa ko ng isang thread na ganito din ang pangalan. para tatlo na kayo ! :)

    advice? tama na muna lalake ngayon, sakit lang ng ulo mga yan. bata ka pa naman ata e :glee:
  • cyberblue18cyberblue18 Member PExer
    Quentin wrote:
    haha, maghahanap pa ko ng isang thread na ganito din ang pangalan. para tatlo na kayo ! :)

    :glee::glee:
  • queenkatiequeenkatie world's best ex-gf ✭✭
    quents, gawa ako...

    hinding-hindi ko na alam ng gagawin ko o di ba, para bang saming tatlo eh, ako ang may pinaka malalng problema hehe
  • curraheecurrahee Member PExer
    OtChOwHaLo8

    parang nakita ko na to sa ibang forum, sabi nya"

    pOSt NIYOOO PICTURE NG CELLPHONE NIYOO!!!
    otchowhalo8
  • cay_chucay_chu KaPaMiLyA PExer
    just remember this saying "ang pagsisi laging nsa huli"
  • shox920shox920 Slightly Green Minded ✭✭
    Walang ibang dapat sisihin kundi IKAW! IKAW! IKAW!

    Eh kung nagpakatino ka, eh di dapat sana maayos pa ang relasyon nyo.... salawahan ka kase.... hindi ka makuntento sa isa..... hehehe!!!


    oppps... :rotflmao:
  • cyberblue18cyberblue18 Member PExer
    sounds like.... what goes around, comes around... what goes up must come down.... it's called KARMA baby... and it goes around... lolz! :glee: :glee: :glee:


    whatever happens to you theres a reason behind it...remember that!

    nagkamali ka na once, twice or even more, right? take it as a lesson. dont blame yourself about it, too late na for that! what you must do now is take all the consequences and learn to accept it! and make sure n di mo na gagawin ulit un... believe in karma!
  • OtChOwHaLo8OtChOwHaLo8 whtizbeautyifdabrainisemp ty PExer
    GreatBop wrote:
    "do i really think that leaving him will make him happy?"

    did you ask him "What makes him happy?"

    "sabi niya kasi before.. when he tried to leave me.. that makikipagbalikan daw sha sa akin kapag ayos na ang lahat. that'll be 2-3 years from now. "

    uh- THAT NEVER usually happens. I said that to my ex.. someone i was so gaga with. and now i don't even give a damned where she is right now. alot could happen in 2- 3 years. like makakahanap ka na ng ibang girl, etc.

    it is very possible na yung treat nya dun sa girl is just a friend. a good one, however. if the girl told you everything.. it could mean na nagyayabang sya sa harap mo. or she wants you to know how you bf's feeling..

    u know what. that made me feel good. you're right.. her intention was to show off the fact that she knows everything about him.

    i mean.. she's aware that im jealous of her.. matgal na! pero ganun pa rin sha sa bf or ex ko.

    anywho.. tama ka rin about letting him for 2-3 yrs. kaya nga i wanna keep in touch with him kahit hindi kami.. para naman malaman kung ano ano na nangyayari sa kanya..

    so ngayon.. mejo under probation sha sa akin.. and same as me. kapag may nangyari pa uli.. we're gonna let go of each other na..

    period!
  • OtChOwHaLo8OtChOwHaLo8 whtizbeautyifdabrainisemp ty PExer
    sounds like.... what goes around, comes around... what goes up must come down.... it's called KARMA baby... and it goes around... lolz! :glee: :glee: :glee:


    whatever happens to you theres a reason behind it...remember that!

    nagkamali ka na once, twice or even more, right? take it as a lesson. dont blame yourself about it, too late na for that! what you must do now is take all the consequences and learn to accept it! and make sure n di mo na gagawin ulit un... believe in karma!
    yeps.. nakarma ako..

    pero just sad.. that he tried to get even with me.. i mean.. in some ways it is fair.. pero kung titingnan mo uli.. hindi talga tama
  • OtChOwHaLo8OtChOwHaLo8 whtizbeautyifdabrainisemp ty PExer
    and yeah.. i ask him what makes him happy..

    sabi niya.. he's happy with me when i dont ***** and whine about everything.. so yeah now i know what to do.. kasi dati.. we'll just hang up on each other kapag nag aaway kami.. at ayaw naman pinag uusapan..

    so yeah.. now mejo ako yung mas understanding kesa sa kanya.. but i guess i just have to be like that... in order to save whatever we have..
  • morganratemorganrate Free Spirit PExer
    Lambingin mo lang. Make him fall for you again.
  • pokerbuffpokerbuff Recovering Lurker PExer
    I think both of you have not been honest na. He stayed with you when you cheated on him, pero deep inside, galit siya. And that's the driving force behind his efforts to get even with you.

    I'm sorry to say, but it seems that your relationship is likely lost. You both have hurt each other so badly, and there's no longer trust between the two of you. He can say he'll love you after some years, but that's total bullcrap, as he will still feel the hurt, and it will show up years down the road. Ikaw na rin nagsabi na maski magkatuluyan pa kayo, he'll never look at you the same. And he'll probably be still in love with his ex.

    The best thing you can do, IMHO, is face the reality that the two of you will no longer be together, and get away from him. You need to heal and so does he. The more you can forgive him and yourself, the better you'll be in the long run. It's no longer a question of him and what he has done. But it's now all about you and how much you can forgive him. You might not want to forgive him at this moment, but unless you truly and sincerely do it--from the depths of your being--you'll suffer like you would never believe.

    It's not easy to forgive. It's not easy as saying "I don't hate him now", but deep inside of you, you're still simmering with anger. It's not like that... I wish I can tell what it feels like, but I can't. But when you do, there's a very good feeling of peace about it.

    Hope this helps.
  • farkasfarkas Peon PExer
    You Deserves It!!!!
  • arnold_classicarnold_classic CodeName:Honda PExer
    did you not realize before how much pain you've given to him???
    it really hurts when someone you love cheated on you..and you did it to him twice???
    oh great, if i were your man, i'll do the same thing...just a thought... peace...

    anyway make him believe that you can change, that you wouldn't cheat to him again..give him assurance... bring the trust that once he had for you...
    i know it's not easy to do it.. but if you really love this man.. go for it.. do anything to make him love you again, the way before..
  • mine02mine02 Member PExer
    ayos un ha! parang ko ang isa dun!sige try mong gumawa para happy. mang asar ba daw namomroblema na ang tao eh!
  • mine02mine02 Member PExer
    lamo tama sila kasalan mo yun e!salawahan ka kasi yan tuloy nasayo na nawala pa!edi nafil mo rin ang nafifil nya...mas masakit nga lang yung sayo ngayon,nagcheat ka kasi ng twice sa kanya kaya twice din dapat ang balik sayo!lamo i have met a person someone just like you!ganyan ganyan din ang ngyari sa kanya. Maraming nasaktan kaya yan siya tuloy nagdurusa ngayon!
  • OtChOwHaLo8OtChOwHaLo8 whtizbeautyifdabrainisemp ty PExer
    thanks sa mga nagpost at nagbigay ng comments.

    yeah. i do believe that i deserved whatever had happened to me. Good News though, for whatever had happened, it brought me closer to God. I realized a lot of things. Like i only go up to him when I'm down but forget about Him when i feel like im okay.

    and yeah. i do believe that my ex might or might not be my soulmate. now i am prepare for whatever worse might happen. last weekend, i was in so much pain that i even thought of killing myself. after realizing that God will always be there for me, i told to myself that my ex is not worth it!

    I just finished talking to him like 30 minutes ago and he told me straight out that he's not ready for a serious relationship. I do understand why and im not even going to push or risk anything to be with him again. I respect his decision and i just have to accept the fact that hey.. he's not ready.. rite?

    Now, it's not like i'm gonna go with the flow, but i'm gonna concentrate on my life and PAGBABALIK LOOB SA MAYKAPAL.

    i know, marami akong pagkukulang sa itaas. and I thank the situation for making me realized that God will always be there for me.

    Thanks, once again, for the lessons/advices and opening my eyes that he's not the only guy in this world..

    i still have God.

    :D
  • shox920shox920 Slightly Green Minded ✭✭
    Tama magbalik loob ka sa Diyos... Magsisi ka sa kasalanan mo... Tutal naman at malapit na ang mahal na araw.... Magnilay-nilay ka
  • pokerbuffpokerbuff Recovering Lurker PExer
    I'd just like to say na ndi na kelangan ni Otcho ng mga pagkutsa mula sa atin. Yung sa mga nagsasabi na "salawahan" siya at iba pang masasamang bagay, ano bang magagawa nun? Tapos na e. Nangyari na. Natapon na yung gatas, ndi na kelangang yurakan natin yung pagkatao ng iba.

    Buti nga at meron siyang lakas ng loob to be vulnerable to us. Ndi madaling gawin yun. Yun lang.
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