Terrible twos [Merged]

strawberyl

Hi guys..I was just wondering.... my first and only daughter is 2 and a half. And it seems like overnight she suddenly developed a talent for going into tantrums at the slightest provocation.

She also has become obstinate in everything she does...Is this "tantrum stage" normal for this age. And how long does this last....

distressed mom:(

mac_bolan00

mine is only pushing 1 year but i remember a niece of ours. she can already run around at age 1, throws a tantrums (whether geniune or just imitating the crazy adults around her). the biggest prob is whenever she wants to be wet nursed. impyerno talaga.

doc_irene

my son just turned 2 and i can see that he's already turning into a typical "terrible two".

i wonder why from being sweet kids, they suddenly turn into "little monsters" when they turn 2.

lana2003

stage ba talaga yan? when will it pass? kakatakot naman, my dear daughter is 4 months pa lang naman kaya mejo matagal tagal pa... pero parang nagtatantrums rin sya pag di agad nabigyan ng milk grabee kung umiyak abot sa kapitbahay... sos me kala mo kinakatay (=

mytitagirl

yup, according to my elders (mom and lola) until 5 daw yan. so my son started when he was 1 1/2, he is now 3, same pa rin at super hyper, so i still have 2 more years to go...pero sabi din nila na di bale na magulo't malikot, wala naman sakit...

JoYcE`TiK

shoot, if they stop being 'terrible' at age 5 then that means i have 2 and 2 1/2 more years to go!! huwaaaah!!

my son was iyakin when he was a baby and he still is. on the other hand my daughter has a strong personality and she is suplada and that's how she is 'til today. i guess depende rin sa ugali ng baby. mas terrible two yung panganay kong lalaki kasi iyakin nga sya. oh gosh, he is such a brat!! konting 'hindi pwede' lang iiyak na. but i love them nonetheless.

leanelle

my daughter is 2years and 2months old. nung infant sya very seldom lang sya umiyak. kahit nung mag-start syang maging toddler minsan lang sya magka-tantrums. pero nung laging nakakalaro yung pinsang lalaki at lagi syang inaaway at nakikita nya kung paano mag-tantrums yung pinsan, nagagaya na nya...nakakainis pala pagnahahayaang makahalubilo yung sobrang makukulit! nasisisi ko tuloy yung pinsan...buti na lang in 2wks time magma-migrate na sila sa canada! yipeeeeee!!!!

prettylilac

same problem here. My daughter is a li'l angel most of the time. She wasn't even fussy as a baby, just very playful, friendly, lagi nakatawa. Just last month (she's now 1yr 8mos old), we noticed a startling change in her. She has become very assertive and learned to throw tantrums when she doesn't get what she wants. Like at the mall, she doesn't want to ride in her stroller, she wants to push it herself. She sit on the floor pag di siya pinayagan mag push ng stroller niya. Unlike leanelle's daughter, wala naman pwedeng siyang pwedeng magayang bata.

I think it's really a stage when they start to show their initiative. as parents, esp us na di sanay na ganun ang babies natin, it can get very annoying. I jsut don't know how long this will last.

your_angel

my boy (nearly 3) grabe din kung magtantrums.. when you say "no" sissigaw na yan... pro pansin ko rin sa kanya when you explain things to him kung bakit hindi puede.. there are times na naiintindihan nman nya. pro may time din na kahit labas na ugat mo sa leeg ng kaka-explain at kakasigaw naku ayaw talaga intindihin sinasabi ko... tama sabi ni mytitagirl ok lang kahit malikot basta healthy.. at advantage sa mga batang malilikot alam na alam mo pag may sakit dahil once na tumahimik yan tyak may dinaramdam....

pro minsan talagang nakakaubos na pasensiya d ba mga mommies....

doc_irene

Originally posted by your_angel
my boy (nearly 3) grabe din kung magtantrums.. when you say "no" sissigaw na yan... pro pansin ko rin sa kanya when you explain things to him kung bakit hindi puede.. there are times na naiintindihan nman nya. pro may time din na kahit labas na ugat mo sa leeg ng kaka-explain at kakasigaw naku ayaw talaga intindihin sinasabi ko... tama sabi ni mytitagirl ok lang kahit malikot basta healthy.. at advantage sa mga batang malilikot alam na alam mo pag may sakit dahil once na tumahimik yan tyak may dinaramdam....

pro minsan talagang nakakaubos na pasensiya d ba mga mommies....

korek...nakakaubos ng pasensya at nakakatuyo ng dugo lalo na kung kayo lang maghapon magkasama.



ganyan na ang itsura ko pag gabi sa sobrang hyper at kulit ng anak ko.

pero mas ok na sa akin yun kesa pag may sakit ang baby ko. mas gusto ko na syang makulit kesa tahimik kasi may nararamdaman.

Eterna

My son's pedia told me that those are normal stages that a child goes thru. The tantrums are often made for want of their having a way of expressing what they feel without having to do with much words. At age 2 their vocabulary is limited so what do you expect if they want to express themselves...definitely they use their tantrums. Parents should be wary about this stage, because these is a way for kids to test how far they could manipulate their parents. If you fuss too much about these so called episodes, this could quite be detrimental on how they could easily get their way. HOwever, if you put your foot forward and show them who is boss, definitely that would draw the line as to what is expected of them.

My son's pedia further said that by age 5 more or less , a normal kid has attained 80% of his maturity as a person. So from those early years, you could more or less predict what type of teenager you are going to bring up. Actually, the years compensate each other. You start with "terrible two's" then it stops at age 3 when the kid becomes what we call " trusting three's" then at age 4 it becomes " formidable four's" then at age 5 there'se the "wonderful five"

altaire_27

my baby is turning two next year and she already has the manifestation of terrible two's. if she can't get what she wants she throws a hissy fit and screams her lungs out. i know that spanking a child is a big NO NO. how do i deal w/ this kind of behavior?

DELISYUS

i don't have a child yet... but anyway

know first who's boss... if you and your husband are, then make sure you project that to your child... be confident in your parenting, be consistent too and do not be scared that one single conflict that left your child weeping will create everlasting damage (esply since you know you dote and care for her naman din)

they also say that when you're saying NO to a child, you should try to at least offer something you're saying YES to... like if she is drawing on the wall, you say NO but also hand her a drawing book which she can use...

anyway, am sure the other Moms have other tested tips... just be firm and fair when handling your child sis, and good luck

doumyugi

My son is not yet two yrs. old but he's already showing a lot of signs of terrible two's like throwing a feet, throwing his body on the floor, banging his head if he didn't get what he wants. I know he still can't understand everything that I'm trying to tell him but what I usually do I put him in time out, I put him in his crib and when he's crying I leave the room. I only return to the premise when he's done from crying.
Another technique that I do when I was working with two yrs old.

When your child is throwing a feet get close to her face and look her in her eyes then talk her out. Don't yell or scream at her, but well enough for her to understand that you're not happy with her attitude. Or take away her favorite toy she can only get her toy back if she learns how to listen to you.

tina11

My daughter did those things when she was around 15-18 months, but it stopped and she's been an angel ever since (she's turning two next month). I'm sure she'll go through a terrrrrible phase again pretty soon! We just talked to her calmly and avoided yelling or spanking out of anger. If you're reaching the breaking point already, just remember that like everything else, this is just a phase. Like DELISYUS suggested, explain to her that while she can't have what she wants, she can have this other thing or can play with this toy.

The time out corner works for some, but I don't know how to keep her in a corner or sitting in a "naughty chair", siguradong magwawala siya at tatakbo paalis.

sneezy

tina11 wrote: »

The time out corner works for some, but I don't know how to keep her in a corner or sitting in a "naughty chair", siguradong magwawala siya at tatakbo paalis.

When we were just starting Robert on timeouts (we don't call it naughty chair because we try to stay away from negative labels) he would often walk away from it so pabalik balik lang kami. Now he knows na to just sit still or at least remain in the area for the duration of the timeout. Thank goodness we don't have to use timeouts on him often.

altaire_27

ang baby ko kasi pag alam niya na may kasalanan siya she runs around the house and cries kahit wala naman kaming ginagawa sa kanya.minsan pag my tantrum na siya hinahayaan ko na lang but the problem is, yung hubby ko is such a spoiler. instead of imposing his authority pinapamper niya pa yung baby namin. kaya hindi na nakikinig sa kanya yung bata pag pinagsasabihan niya.

prity_joie

OMG!!! Terrible two..

My baby just turned 2 last dec.16.. so far, medyo medyo nakaka-experience na ako ng mga tantrums from him, but still tolerable.. ang minsan lang nakakapikon is yun sobrang kulit at likot nya and sobrang clingy sa kin.. parang he cant do things without me.. (when I'm around).. pero pag wala daw ako, behave naman daw ang bata..

Pag minsan pag talagang nasasagad ako, nasisigwan at napapalo ko na siya (bad mommy) i know! :( have no good excuse for that...

But i'm working on it.. I'm reading this book entitled, "Discipline Without Shouting or Spanking".. which I think a good tool during this phase wherein critical yung physical, emotional and intellectual learning ng mga bata.. And hopefully, I'll be able to apply whatever tips ang meron dito sa book.. bago ko pa sinisimulan.. so I hope, as I finish the book, well guarded and guided na ko sa pagpapalaki ng aking lil boy

sweetwahm

Don't I know the Terrible Two phase all too well! And Isaac wasn't even two yet when he started with the tantrums.

My experience... timeout didn't quite work. Oh it was all so good at the start, but he started getting crafty. For one, the tantrums only get louder, it filled the whole house. And he just has to get what he wants. He doesn't of course. We see to that. Still, the cries are deafening. Hehehe.

He'll be turning 3 this month and thank goodness, he seems to be outgrowing the tantrum phase. (Maybe 'cause he got a headstart when he wasn't even 2 yet? ). When I'm mad, he knows it and he behaves -- for like, 5 seconds! Nah, behave na sya ngayon. He's more into discovery and playing and showing off whatever new thing he's learned. The tantrums -- well, we get it sometimes, but he seems to have learned when and how to use them to his advantage.

mytitagirl

my last post was 2004, 2008 na at 7 years old (grade 2) na yung anak ko. they do mature and outgrow all the tantrums, pero iba na ngayon, pi-pilosopo ka na sa sagot at parang waiting game if makakalusot siya o hindi. parang mini-adult na, pero nakikinig pa at nag-ask permission pa naman.

Sweetkay

My son is two years already and he goes through this stage but it's very short (thank God!) His tantrums lasts for about 2 minutes and then he goes all quiet and would say sorry.

Just talk to them calmly and if it doesn't work, make him sit in a corner. That surely works.