how to encourage children?
i have a younger sister who i think is really good in playing chess. as a matter of fact she bested other players in her level when she was in 3rd grade. she's now in 5th grade and i want her to join chess competitions during the intrams in the hope of boosting her self-confidence (because i think she has problems with this and she's now 12, in a crucial stage in building high self-esteem). i think she's good in sports because when she was younger she won a gold medal in swimming. i reward her for every achievements. for getting a gold medal in swimming, i got her a bike, things like that. i even promised her that i would give her 500 bucks just for joining chess games, with or without the gold medal. but still i don't think my "bribes" don't have any effect at all. what i'm trying to tell her indirectly is that she can do more than she thinks she can. what do i do? :help: