pov's please! problem suitor

[lalaine]

see, *** suitor ko, let's call him Lestat, broke up with his gf a month ago, ending a 3-year relationship. actually, *** girl daw *** nakipagsplit sa kanya. accdg to him, before they split up, the relationship was rocky na raw.

he asked me out 2 weeks after they split up but he was texting me before that pa. he proposed to me a week after we first went out and he's still courting me now.

he told me that he can't spend wednesday and thursday nights with me kc he has to tend to a friend who has a problem with her work. a mutual friend had warned me that his ex was trying to win him back.

with this knowledge, i strongly suspected that this friend who has a problem with her work is lestat's ex. the suspicion turned out to be true as confirmed by lestat's housemate. turns out that the girl spent the night in their apartment and that they spent the whole thursday together.

the problem is, i can't confront him without me telling or implying to him that my brod/his housemate ratted out on him. i can't do that. that would be betraying the trust of my brod/his housemate. okay...here comes the question...what do you think of this guy? i feel kc na he's just on the rebound eh. i really like this guy and dahil nga i suspect that he's just on the rebound, lalo ko patatagalin ang panliligaw nya.

whatcha think? male pov naman please!

[bluetaurus]

You're smart enough to feel that your suitor is just on the rebound and may actually be only using you. Now, be smart to get rid of him after you discovered the truth about him and his gf. Even if you like him, don't be fooled. If he couldn't set things straight with you, there's no reason for you to entertain him further. You deserve a better guy. Cheer up!

[slipstream]

give him time to sort things out... that's too short a gap to be changing gfs anyway... pero entertain his calls, go out on dates with him, but nothing more... and then, when you think the time is right... make him choose

good luck sa iyo

[kNIGHT]

Know him more before making a decision or giving in to him. In the end, you will have no regrets if you are 100% sure about his character.

[nerdox]

Uhm, just don't let yourself fall into him, yet. Mukhang ginagamit mo naman utak mo eh. Sakyan mo lang panliligaw niya, pero wag kang magbibigay, tanggapin mo lang lahat! Saka, innocently ask him about your suspicion. Then tell us how he reacts, and i'll tell you what i think. Iba kasi kung magiging honest siya or not about this matter e.

[edwincasimero]

A three year relationship is nothing to sneeze at.

Panakip butas ka lang.

Or unintentionally nagagamit ka para matauhan yoong ex-GF ng suitor mo.

That kind of thing happened to me noon.
I was the guy.
You were the girl.
My "ex" eventually, natauhan, came back to me and she's now my wife.

[lalaine]

hey there!

thanks po ulit sa mga povs ninyo...


NERDOX: i was thinking na of how to confront him without seeming too obvious and without betraying a chain of trust. i promise to post it here. any ideas on how to ease the info out of him? hehehehe.... thanks ulit!

SLIPSTREAM: hmmm....i wonder when the "right time" is...oh well, i guess i'll just know.

BLUETAURUS: thanks! i know i'll get through this...di naman malalim itong prob na ito eh...bothered lang ako kanina....

EDWINCASIMERO: good for you your story turned out okay...ouch lang sakin yan kc i like him na nga...sad

[xheartbreaker]

4get about him.. babae pa! malakas ang pakiramdam nyo.. iwasan mo n yun.. manloloko *** yun, trust me.. **'t waste ure time 4 him... dami nmng iba dyan eh.. just pray n' ask guidance 4 ok..

[greenspan]

hmmm as i can see, you are in a dangerous situation

[nerdox]

lalaine: The next time he brings it up, like, making it an excuse not to see or call you, simply ask innocently who's the person he's helping out. You know the truth already, what matters is kung aaminin niyang ex niya yung tinutulungan niya.

[kAeDe_LuKaWa]

aha!! he's making a fool out of you .. lam mo naman yung dapat mong gawin! build up your courage and confront him .. la ka namang gagawing masama sa kanya dba?? or if you don't want to talk to him, then text him the message na lang ..

saka pag break na yung guy & girl .. expect that the other will be on the rebound .. find another person para lang makalimutan yung ex- nya .. they're just stupid and won't face the fact na ala na sila kaya naghahanap agad ng iba ..

guys like that should be bashed in the head!

[mx75]

just ignore him, give him the same reason, tell him ur busy, there are so many guys out there, i think he's just on rebound......

[arki_f]

i think you like the guy cuz he's become a problem to you. oh well, if i were you (pov ng femme to) i wont go and get it on with the guy. di ok yun kasi 3 yrs is still 3yrs, kawawa naman yung girl (it happened to me).


but i'm ok now.

[lalaine]

NERDOX : i asked the question kanina.....

Lestat: i can't tomorrow kc i promised to see a friend.

Me: does this friend have a name?

Lestat: um....yeah....*** ex ko...si Lea....

Me: a..ok...

Lestat: sabi nya kc "lestat, help me move on". we're friends lang ****, lalaine....friends lang ****....



....and he seemed really sincere abt it too. i asked two of his male close friends who at the same time, are like big brothers to me. kinonsensya ko muna...sabi ko na since they're my brods (sa frat-soro thing), i know di naman nila ako papahamak. i asked them to tell me honestly if they think that lestat is over lea or not.

they both said na he is indeed over her becoz knowing him, he doesnt move from one thing to the next until di pa natatapos un. ewan ko ha....i trust my brods sa mga ganitong situation.

kaya i'm giving him a chance...until further notice....


to everyone who replied: a million thanks sa inyo for your valuable povs...i really appreciate it

[nerdox]

Good! I think he deserves a chance. You could even help him with this "unfinished business" of him if you want. But I suggest that until he does finish this, don't start the relationship going just yet.