SOLONG ANAK: What's your impression?

[iSKOph]

Most people think that being an only child causes one to be a little bit more selfish than the rest...

siguro nga may mga ganoon..... pero most probably misunderstood lang ang mga solong anak.....

fact is, we did not grow up sharing w/ a sibling pero that in itself doesn't make one 'madamot'....

what do u guys think? what are your other impressions of 'solong anak'?

sa mga solong anak.... let's enlighten our fellow Pexers.....

[rms]

Everytime na lang na sabihin ko na only child ako, laging reaction is "ang swerte mo naman!" Hay naku, kung alam nyo lang. Malungkot pag only child, wala kang kalaro, pag may kailangan gawin sa house, ikaw lang ang uutusan, pag may sakit ang parents *** lang ang mag-aalaga, *** lang lagi napapansin kaya mas magiging strict sila sayo, feeling ng parents ay baby ka pa rin nila.... basta mahirap!

[crazy_psyko]

hindi naman siya totoo para sa lahat e.

may kaibigan ako, only child siya pero sobrang bait niya. bait niya sa parents niya, bait niya sa kaibigan niya... ang bait niya sa lahat!

lalaki pa yun ha!

tapos sobrang banal pa... kulang na lang magpari siya... buti na lang walang pari sa relihiyon niya, kundi isang malaking kawalan yun.

[cmars2]

SOLONG ANAK = BRAT

Not true at all...

[the_FLY]

well many people generalize people with no siblings as spoiled brats, rebellious,anti-social etc.

...well i don't think any of these allegations are true...since i know some people who are also "mga solong anak"...but their characteristics totally differ the standards set by some close-minded people...

[iSKOph]

it's hard for me to say na life would have been better for me kung may mga kapatid ako kasi i don't know different. I grew up not having anybody else kaya di 'ko lam how life is like kung may kapatid kaya i also cannot say it's better or worse than being alone....

but i do wish, sometimes, na sana may kapatid na lang ako to lighten my load.... i agree w/ you crazy_psyko to some extent.... isa ka lang kaya ikaw lang ang napagtutuunan ng pansin....

i suppose, ang personalidad ng isang tao is less related to how many siblings you have but more on how u were brought up...

mabuti sa Pilipinas dahil relatives are just close by....

isa pa, i believe, ang mga 'solong anak' make really good friends.... i personally, treasure the company of friends more dahil wala akong kapatid na pwendeng lapitan......

[WICKEDQUEEN]

we're even more than willing to share!

except boyfriend ha. lahat pwede wag lang yun.

[wonder_chaser]

Ako, gusto ko marami akong kaibigan kasi nga wala po akong kapatid. Di totoo na ang mga solong anak ay selfish kasi tulad ko, generous ako basta kaya kong ibigay sa mga kaibigan ko ang mga gusto nila.

[rms]

Originally posted by iSKOph

isa pa, i believe, ang mga 'solong anak' make really good friends.... i personally, treasure the company of friends more dahil wala akong kapatid na pwendeng lapitan......

i agree!!!!

[iSKOph]

I guess we could probably say.... based on most of the opinions na na-post na ang mga 'solong anak' are actually quite the opposite of the 'stereotype'.... we're actually generous and not selfish....

[Apolpay]

ako solong anak, pero mabait at mapagbigay ako, kakainin ko na nga lang ibibigay ko pa sa iba, lalo na pag kaibigan ko ang isang tao lahat gagawin ko para lang sa friend ko, ganun ako ka bait.

YUN nga lang MALUNGKOT kasi nag iisang anak ka lang. Kaya ang ginagawa namin nakikipagkaibigan kami at halos dun na namin inuubos ang oras namin, kse sa bahay wala kang kalaro.

KAYA ANG PLANO KO PAG MAG KAKA-BABY KO DAPAT DALAWA para me kalaro....

[gasoline]

yap wer not selfish and we're not spoiled brats

[the_FLY]

Originally posted by the_FLY
well many people generalize people with no siblings as spoiled brats, rebellious,anti-social etc.

...well i don't think any of these allegations are true...since i know some people who are also "mga solong anak"...but their characteristics totally differ the standards set by some close-minded people...

i can attest to these...since i for one am an only child...the only creatures i considered as my siblings are my music and my pet cats...

[jobin]

uy, hindi ako madamot ha!!! i have loads and loads of friends nga eh....

[DELISYUS]

Originally posted by iSKOph
Most people think that being an only child causes one to be a little bit more selfish than the rest...

siguro nga may mga ganoon..... pero most probably misunderstood lang ang mga solong anak.....

fact is, we did not grow up sharing w/ a sibling pero that in itself doesn't make one 'madamot'....

what do u guys think? what are your other impressions of 'solong anak'?

sa mga solong anak.... let's enlighten our fellow Pexers.....

am not a solo child........and i guess it really does pain you guys to have other people always readily assume that you're spoilt....

still, you have to acknowledge that the typical solo child is usually so sheltered and pampered and better provided for...sharing DOES become an issue.....an only child can go 2 ways actualy, to be rather quite stingy (thru upbringing and conditioning) or to be very giving (to compensate for the feelings of alone-ness)....and i think more solo kids go the stingy, anal retentive way.....

and it's really very natural....after all, kids who do have brothers and sisters but also grew up with their own rooms and their own things ALSO do tend to have issues about sharing and compromises (like me for example)

[iSKOph]

Originally posted by DELISYUS


am not a solo child........and i guess it really does pain you guys to have other people always readily assume that you're spoilt....

still, you have to acknowledge that the typical solo child is usually so sheltered and pampered and better provided for...sharing DOES become an issue.....an only child can go 2 ways actualy, to be rather quite stingy (thru upbringing and conditioning) or to be very giving (to compensate for the feelings of alone-ness)....and i think more solo kids go the stingy, anal retentive way.....

and it's really very natural....after all, kids who do have brothers and sisters but also grew up with their own rooms and their own things ALSO do tend to have issues about sharing and compromises (like me for example)

i suppose mas pre-disposed nga ang mga solong anak to be less than generous.. pero a big factor in one's personality eh how one was brought up.... not entirely due to being an "only child"...

[marcy 16]

Originally posted by rms
Everytime na lang na sabihin ko na only child ako, laging reaction is "ang swerte mo naman!" Hay naku, kung alam nyo lang. Malungkot pag only child, wala kang kalaro, pag may kailangan gawin sa house, ikaw lang ang uutusan, pag may sakit ang parents *** lang ang mag-aalaga, *** lang lagi napapansin kaya mas magiging strict sila sayo, feeling ng parents ay baby ka pa rin nila.... basta mahirap!

[wavefront]

I'm a solong anak and I have to admit that sometimes I tend to have things done my way as they are at home (can't blame my folks --they love me!)

But the thing is, the unico hijo = brat perception is really unfair AND overrated.

[iSKOph]

Originally posted by wavefront
I'm a solong anak and I have to admit that sometimes I tend to have things done my way as they are at home (can't blame my folks --they love me!)

But the thing is, the unico hijo = brat perception is really unfair AND overrated.

di naman siguro mga solong anak lang ang may gusto to have things their way.... siguro kung may ganoong prerogative ang kahit sino, that person would choose to do things his/her way....

it's a question siguro of how much we compromise....

[CaRaMBa]

Have you heard about the "only syndrome"? I think it's the result of stereotyping an only child as a spoiled brat. Yes, I am a bit spoiled, but I don't think my parents can be blamed for that. I still grew up not getting everything that I wanted - geez I remember those days when I really wanted something but my parents didn't buy it for me. I could be bratty at times, but I can definitely say that I am NOT a spoiled brat. There is a difference.

I'm definitely not madamot! I actually like sharing. My house before used to be the "project house" during college. We finished all our projects here 'cause it's near school. Name the subject, we did the projects here! Daming overnight! My parents were willing 'cause at least sumasaya dito sa bahay sa dami ng tao. Tatlo lang kasi kami eh.