How do I get pass this thing?!

[Red_Vixen]

I've been insecure for the longest time now and I don't know how to get over it! I'm so insecure because of this former classmate of mine who happens to be very pretty (prettier than everybody else I should say and she is very well aware of it..) and that's just about it,actually..it's not that i don't have any confindence in me but it'a just that she always ends with everything in her favor! She isn't exactly a joan of arc or something but she has the looks so its like she's considered "complete" even though she has the worst attitude. Im definitely not jealous but more of insecure and I really want to move on and forget her and everything thats holding me back...please give me some tips or advice on how I can get pass this insecurity of mine...Id really appreciate even the simplest advice!

[cong]

get a plastic surgery, you jealous b*tch!

accept the fact that beautiful women get all the break. thats how it is.

average and below average looking people have to work a little bit harder. live with it.

[n0b0dy]

cong dont be cruel, masisira image mo...

the only advice i can give you gurl is that live for yourself.

[oui_oui]

Originally posted by cong
get a plastic surgery, you jealous b*tch!

accept the fact that beautiful women get all the break. thats how it is.

average and below average looking people have to work a little bit harder. live with it.

[Red_Vixen]

Originally posted by cong
get a plastic surgery, you jealous b*tch!

accept the fact that beautiful women get all the break. thats how it is.

average and below average looking people have to work a little bit harder. live with it.

WOW! What great advice!! Yipee-huueey.....can't wait to put that into action!!!

[cong]

Originally posted by Red_Vixen


WOW! What great advice!! Yipee-huueey.....can't wait to put that into action!!!

which one? the plastic surgery or the live with it part?

[HoYaSaXa]

Originally posted by Red_Vixen
I've been insecure for the longest time now and I don't know how to get over it! I'm so insecure because of this former classmate of mine who happens to be very pretty (prettier than everybody else I should say and she is very well aware of it..) and that's just about it,actually..it's not that i don't have any confindence in me but it'a just that she always ends with everything in her favor! She isn't exactly a joan of arc or something but she has the looks so its like she's considered "complete" even though she has the worst attitude. Im definitely not jealous but more of insecure and I really want to move on and forget her and everything thats holding me back...please give me some tips or advice on how I can get pass this insecurity of mine...Id really appreciate even the simplest advice!

Give me your friend's phone number!
LOL...just kidding. Just don't hang around with her so you (and others) aren't constantly comparing you to each other Peace!

[misbee]

just an excerpt from the poem "Desiderata"...
"If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain & bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. "

i guess, my take on this learn to love yourself and be appreciative of what you're blessed with.

[Spicybabe]

Ewan ko lang kung tapos na *** insecurity stage mo kasi medyo matagal na tong thread na to, pero anyway..

There must be something else your not telling us... kasi you wouldn't be that bitter kung yun lang ang reason... your holding that grudge because meron kang mas mabigat na dahilan, diba??

[sillymcbeal]

Originally posted by cong
get a plastic surgery, you jealous b*tch!

accept the fact that beautiful women get all the break. thats how it is.

average and below average looking people have to work a little bit harder. live with it.

[zen_g]

Originally posted by n0b0dy


cong dont be cruel, masisira image mo...

the only advice i can give you gurl is that live for yourself.

i agree ....

[Sweetkay]

there will always be someone better, prettier, smarter than you

there will always be someone uglier, fatter, worse, and dumber than you

point is, live for yourself and not for others

you can never please everyone

also, if you think you're a loser, you will be

[silver_eris]

hello there.

i used to feel that way too. what's worse, i really thought that i was nothing when compared to anybody and everybody. that was before. now i know the secret and i want to share it with you all you need to do is feel beautiful and feel superior. and soon, people will think that you're beautiful and, errm, even superior to them. hahaha!!

and yeah, missbee's right. love yourself...

well, all these stuffs worked for me. i really hope that they'd work for you too.

[CaRaMBa]

Hey misbee, that's a nice one! I'll post it again here: "If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain & bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. "

You know, what cong posted is actually true - not just for women, also for men. The good looking people get the break. So those who aren't good looking need to work a little harder to get those breaks. But after the break, it's all about personality and attitude. Someone may get a job faster because he/she's good looking, but he/she will not survive in the company on looks alone.

I won't tell you "Don't be insecure!". Can't help it at times. But you really have to do something about it if it's affecting your life - if you can't move on, if it's holding you back. Think about your strengths. You may not be very pretty but I'm sure you're good at something. Think about that. Concentrate on that. Aim for improvement.

But when you do these things, don't do them to be 'better than someone' else. As you go along, don't compare. 'Oh no she's still better than me I still have to improve!' Do it for yourself.

[takookie24]

amen!!!

[Red_Vixen]

Originally posted by CaRaMBa
Hey misbee, that's a nice one! I'll post it again here: "If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain & bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. "

You know, what cong posted is actually true - not just for women, also for men. The good looking people get the break. So those who aren't good looking need to work a little harder to get those breaks. But after the break, it's all about personality and attitude. Someone may get a job faster because he/she's good looking, but he/she will not survive in the company on looks alone.

I won't tell you "Don't be insecure!". Can't help it at times. But you really have to do something about it if it's affecting your life - if you can't move on, if it's holding you back. Think about your strengths. You may not be very pretty but I'm sure you're good at something. Think about that. Concentrate on that. Aim for improvement.

But when you do these things, don't do them to be 'better than someone' else. As you go along, don't compare. 'Oh no she's still better than me I still have to improve!' Do it for yourself.

Ei there!!! thanks for all your replies!! I really appreciate people like you... i guess i posted that thread at around September? it's already November so, i'm not into it anymore...although i must admit..there are times when i get recurring spurts of insecurities but not as much as before! I know that it would take a gradual change before i can finally tell myself..she isn't worth it! I mean hello?! Do you know how many pretty girls i get to see here in Taft everyday?! I don't think she'll even live up to these girls...argh! i think im not really over it yet... There is actually more to it...im like this because of a certain incident that happened to us way back 4th year high school but i wouldn't want to elaborate..it's to complicated.... My (pretty) friend is in UST and im in LaSalle, so we obviously live in different worlds now!

Caramba: Thanx a lot gurl!!!

[CaRaMBa]

Hey! No problem! This is really what you get in PEx! That's why I love this site so much.

[Bostsip]

[PasteL]

Hello Red_Vixen! I just want to tell you na i've been through that THING also but not with a friend, with my sister! She was always better...always prettier..etc. but I guess its a stage we all go through and it just takes time for you to eventually get over it.