i need serious advice...

[Jameaux]

Basta ingat lang TS baka biglang maglaslas ng pulso yun lang advice ko. I have witnessed a friend doing that and it is not something you should take lightly. Depending on the level of suicidal tendency ng isang tao ah. But if you think hindi naman ganun ka-serious yung case ng current GF mo, go ahead and break up cold turkey.

Call Laila Chikadora baka sakali may maganda siyang advice. Wag si Papa Jack kasi sigurado pagagalitan ka agad nun.

[JUST_JT_]

during my college days, i met this probinsyana girl..i really really love her..but because i was young back then and extremely stupid..she left me..she was 4 mos pregnant back then...

now fast forward..since there's no Facebook and cellphones during those days are very expensive (i remember my 5110 cost almost 15k before) we didn't have communications...now our paths have crossed once again..and she stayed single (yes very hard to believe) and we have a daughter now 13 years old..

Let me play devil's advocate here..
She was 4mos preggy and she left you because you're stupid? Sigurado ka ba jan or assumption mo lang yan. Hindi kaya na-anakan siya ng iba kaya iniwan (nagtago sa iyo) ka niya?

And how did your paths cross? Hindi kaya iningineer ng ex mo yang pag cross ng path ninyo?

la lang baka hindi mo naiisip na pwedeng ganyan ang nangyare...

[mazda3]

@JUST_JT ako po ang ama ng bata, alam ko kase ako ang nakauna...if you know what i mean..oh..did i tell na brother nya ang nakita ko at hindi sya then saka ko sya tinanong kung nasaan si X ko?

i am determined to start a new life with her...problem lang is si GF ko kase alam ko mahihirapan sya intindihin yun..

[dominiquefrancon]

sounds screwed up.

are you sure you're still into this girl? are you sure she wants you back in her life?
are you sure your gf loves you that much?

[mazda3]

@dominique - she wants me back yes!!! and yes my current GF loves me that much...she did it twice already...(Suicidal tendencies)

[dominiquefrancon]

then it all boils down to your choice...your call. Having that kind of relationship is not healthy for both of you and the sooner you let her go, the sooner she'll be able to deal with her issues by herself. Cruel yeah sure but more so if you do it years from now.

[sheeponboard]

sometimes, a suicidal thoughts are just impulse. She might learned to live her life with you.. Deep attachment, complacency that your relationship is strong. Then all of a sudden, your ex gf and child enter the picture. It's too unexpected. Sobrang nakakabigla kaya ang unang naisip nya is to commit suicide. She's not ready to face that kind of heartbreak.
Sa tingin ko, the best thing that you can do for your current GF is to give her time and help her to find a life without you. But don't tell her to go out and find your life or happiness somewhere else. Just give her time, meaning wag ka muna agad agad bumalik sa ex mo.

I know some suicidal people. Pag may unexpected event na nangyayari sa kanila,naiisip nilang gawin yun right away.

Wait for the right time and break up. The best time is when you realize that your ex is happy with her job, friends, family, and there's so much occupying her time that makes her happy. Suggest her to join a club, group or other org. Make her explore life, by then marerealize nya na hindi lang pala umiikot sayo ang mundo nya. Madami pa palang bagay na magpapasaya sa kanya and killing herself is not worth the risk.

But if you do it right away, malamang magsuicide nga yan. Just be kind, tutal may pinagsamahan naman kayo. Break it to her gently. Love can wait naman.

[invi]

Wait TS when you said 'she did it twice', do you mean she really did slit her wrists? Or did she just threaten you?

I don't know if this is on topic but regarding suicidal folk, it matters how they do it. A person who uses a gun and shoots him/herself really wants to die, and wants to die fast. Someone who slits her wrist doesn't really want to die, it's more of a cry for help/attention because she knows she won't die right away and there is still time to save her.

Just something I read somewhere.

[Nils]

Wait TS when you said 'she did it twice', do you mean she really did slit her wrists? Or did she just threaten you?

I don't know if this is on topic but regarding suicidal folk, it matters how they do it. A person who uses a gun and shoots him/herself really wants to die, and wants to die fast. Someone who slits her wrist doesn't really want to die, it's more of a cry for help/attention because she knows she won't die right away and there is still time to save her.

Just something I read somewhere.

+1 here... nasabi na rin ni FA yan in some of his posts about the suicide hotline callers if im not mistaken...

just be sure that when you break up with your ex, her support structure is ready for her... they might think you are an @ss, but it's better to be thought of as an @ss than be the one who is the reason for another person's death...

[tukmolski]

First of all, don't go back to an ex simply because you think your daughter wants you to go together. You haven't seen or talked her in more than a decade. You think it'll be like old times? How do you even know you still like her or she still likes you? You think times don't change?

Secondly, obviously you want out of your current gf. Stop wasting your time. Most women I know that cut wrist do it for attention. If she does kill herself, oh well. What you gonna do, lie to her for the rest of her life because she threatens to kill herself? Let her go so she can find an overly dramatic man like she is. Or die trying.

Third, if the worst come to worse, you dump your gf, and you never come together with your baby's momma, never forget that all those people don't matter except the one you owe: your daughter. Straighten yourself out and make sure you take care of her. (And it doesn't mean you have to go back to some ex...a good dad don't have to be living in the same house as the mother.)

da best explanation pre

[blue_tracer]

hopeless na kayo dito ng current gf mo. simply because you dont love her anymore.

pag mahal mo pa isang tao, nandoon yung exhaust mo ang lahat ng remedy. pag hindi na, puro butas na lang hahanapin mo.

may paningit lang na tanong diyan.. if your ex got married to someone else.. sa palagay mo ba 'mawawala' ang pagmamahal mo dito sa current gf mo?

re: paglaslas

siguro noon panakot lang niya yun. kung talagang gagawin, ginawa na niya. hindi na natin alam ngayon.

kung iiwanan mo na rin lang siya, iwanan mo naman ng maayos huwag yung bigla kang sibat, after all 'minahal' mo rin siya 'di ba?

[tukmolski]

If I were your girlfriend, give it to me in one go. EVERYTHING. If I cannot have you, just give me your honesty.

Simple pero napakaraming meaning para sa napakaraming tao

[tukmolski]

Hear me out. Stop asking for our adv and start growing your backbone.

Nasasayang lang oras mo sa computer Kuya. Simulan mo na!

yan na ***** ang pinakamaganda advice na pwdeng gawin ni TS

[iwillfly]

yan na ***** ang pinakamaganda advice na pwdeng gawin ni TS

yan na ***** ang pinakamaganda advice na pwdeng gawin ni TS

Mabuti naman after 3 days, hindi na nasundan ulit ang pagpo-post mo dito Sir. Binabalik-balikan ko 'to eh.. Kasi until you dwell with your emotions, walang mangyayari. Kahit anong adv namin dito, walang mangyayari..Pwedeng malusutan mo ito but in the future marami ka pa ding pagdadaanang pagsubok.

Tigilan mo na manood ng mga teleserye at manood ng TV in general..pati na rin makinig ng mga senti songs. You might think nagjo-joke ako pero I swear fine-feed lang nila ang emotions natin unconsciously. Isa pa, would you agree if I say na kadalasan naman talaga hindi tayo humihingi ng payo for the sake of balancing things out. We just want someone to affirm with us. It all boils down sa feeling mo na "tama ka kasi may nag-agree sa'yo."

FEELINGS. Forget about feelings Sir. Ipapahamak ka nyan because feelings are fluctuating. Love is a choice. Love thinks. Ang pagsasabing "i fell in love" eh pagdedeklara na "nahulog ka" "wala kang nagawa" "aksidente" "hindi mo kontrol". Think about it. Lagi tayong may makikilalang mas maganda mas matalino mas loveable mas higit! Kung sasabihin mo na na-fall ka eh naku.. niloloko mo lang sarili mo. Na-fall in love ka sa GF mo ngayon.. na-fall out of love ka sa ex mo.. na ngayon eh nafo-fall in love ka na naman.

PANINIDIGAN. Nakakabilib ang mga lalaking meron nun. Yung hindi naka-base sa feelings ang desisyon. Kundi sa kung ano ang tama! Hindi ka maliligaw kung susunod ka sa TAMA SA PANINGIN NG TAO AT NG DIYOS!

[IwantTObreathe]

Tigilan mo na manood ng mga teleserye at manood ng TV in general..pati na rin makinig ng mga senti songs. You might think nagjo-joke ako pero I swear fine-feed lang nila ang emotions natin unconsciously. Isa pa, would you agree if I say na kadalasan naman talaga hindi tayo humihingi ng payo for the sake of balancing things out. We just want someone to affirm with us. It all boils down sa feeling mo na "tama ka kasi may nag-agree sa'yo."

feelings are fluctuating.

I so agree with these

May natutunan din ako.

[mother&wifey]

FEELINGS. Forget about feelings Sir. Ipapahamak ka nyan because feelings are fluctuating. Love is a choice. Love thinks. Ang pagsasabing "i fell in love" eh pagdedeklara na "nahulog ka" "wala kang nagawa" "aksidente" "hindi mo kontrol". Think about it. Lagi tayong may makikilalang mas maganda mas matalino mas loveable mas higit! Kung sasabihin mo na na-fall ka eh naku.. niloloko mo lang sarili mo. Na-fall in love ka sa GF mo ngayon.. na-fall out of love ka sa ex mo.. na ngayon eh nafo-fall in love ka na naman.

PANINIDIGAN. Nakakabilib ang mga lalaking meron nun. Yung hindi naka-base sa feelings ang desisyon. Kundi sa kung ano ang tama! Hindi ka maliligaw kung susunod ka sa TAMA SA PANINGIN NG TAO AT NG DIYOS!

i so love what you said..there are very few people who make decisions not basing on what their emotions are.

atleast alam na ni TS ang gusto nya. at i'm pretty sure alm na rin nya ang dapat gawin