Being taken for Granted

[dominiquefrancon]

did he really change? or is it just because you're expecting more from him...now that you guys are together

[skyblush]

did he really change? or is it just because you're expecting more from him...now that you guys are together

yup, i think may nagbago. parang simula naging kami naging kampante siya sa relationship namin kasi during the time we're still friends, mas maalaga siya. sinusundo pako pag ginagabi ako sa mga lakad ko then ihahatid nya ko hanggang sa house tapos nagpapaumaga na din siya samin. ok lang sa parents ko kasi magkaibigan naman kami mejo nag iba lang non nalaman na mag bf/gf na kami. tapos ngayon pag magkikita kami nalelate na siya dati hindi naman lagi siya maaga at ngayon nagka cancel na siya pero dati nauunawaan ko naman pero nagkakasunod sunod na kasi. natural lang naman na mgkaron ako ng expectation at demand kasi hindi nalang naman kami basta magkaibigan diba? dapat alam din nya yun.

[JUST_JT_]

Dude. If your boy is 30. All he wants is to play.

So let him play.

Actually, any age a man has. He always want to play.

So... let him play.

This world is a big playground. Stop acting like a grouchy lola.

Would you believe it... You and I have the same age. Thing is, I let my man play tantra. I don't care. Pinababayaan ko pa ngang makipag tournament eklat, keri lang.

Ngayon he's leaving for the sea. Siyempre bilang isang babae, gusto lahat ng time sa babae, pero para sakin ngayon, gora lang siya ng gora kahit san siya magpunta. Bibigyan ko ng limit, pero hello? Ang limit overnight at 24 hours. Meron bang matinong lalaking hanggang umaga at tanghalian nasa bar pa ren? Wala naman. Haha

Believe it or not, nun isang araw nakipag inuman pa at nag-Padi's pa. Eh di ba maraming sayawan don?

Siya pa ang nagsabi sakin na nakipagsayawan siya don sa mga babaeng naroon, pero parang tangengot na sayaw.

For me, it's a good way to measure hanggang saan na ang tiwala niya sakin bilang gf. He knows hindi ako mababaw.

He even says hi-hello to his ex-gfs and flings. AGAIN. Walang problema sakin yun. But he knows that even if he doesn't tell me... I know. I have my means. And I am not stupid.

He crosses the fine line of being friendly/flirty to cheating and giving away his heart. Boom! Byebye black bird ang drama ko.

Isa lang naman ang hindi ko matotolerate eh. Yung makipag-landian siya at makipag meet pa sa ibang babae... at mang-cheat. At mang jerjer ng ibang babae.

Physical and emotional sex is a no-no to me.

No deal yon.

Other than that, as long as nasakin ang allotment at nasakin ang puso niya, I am happy.

Kasi... I have my own world. I have things that I also take care of and marami din akong pinagkakaabalahan. Hindi siya ang mundo ko.

It wasn't bec we became us, I already forgot becoming me.

Good luck to you.

Bakit parang naging thread mo na ito adi
Hehe ingat ka lang magbigay ng advice jan sa "let him know he's not your priority also".
If you think that way now maybe you feel your bf is straying away from you. It's your defense mechanism to keep you sane. You have to keep tabs on your bf's shenanigans before it's too late. Or is it

[JUST_JT_]

yeah! you're really great. minsan kailangan siya naman mag isip at siya naman ang maghabol hindi yung ako pa nagmamalimos sa oras nya at ako pa ang nagiging option kahit na nagcommit na siya saken. i like you girl, very straight to the point and clear ang advice mo. thumbs up.

Ts, na badtrip lang yung bf mo sa pinakitang asal ng father mo sa kanya. Huwag mo munang pag-isipan ng masama yung bf mo. He's just beating around the bush...Wait for him to cool down and adjust .. he'll turn around. Just be patient with him for now.

[blithesome]

Pa-chime in ha...

TS, 2 months pa lang kayo as lovers, ganyan na siya. What more pa in the future? I mean, if ever siya ang makatuluyan/mapangasawa mo...

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"If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs." ― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

[Nils]

Pa-chime in ha...

TS, 2 months pa lang kayo as lovers, ganyan na siya. What more pa in the future? I mean, if ever siya ang makatuluyan/mapangasawa mo...

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"If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs." ― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

lol! 2 months pa lang sila as partners, ganyan na si TS. what more kung matagal na sila? tama bang masamain yung pag-spend ni bf ng oras sa mga family crisis/affairs?

[skyblush]

Pa-chime in ha...

TS, 2 months pa lang kayo as lovers, ganyan na siya. What more pa in the future? I mean, if ever siya ang makatuluyan/mapangasawa mo...

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"If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs." ― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

hindi ko po maintindihan ngayon kung bakit ngkaganon, kung dahil lang sa naging treatment sa kanya ng father ko na sinungitan siya non nagpunta siya sa bahay isang buwan na nakalipas un at halos bihira nalang kami magkita ngayon. ang sabi ng isang kabarkada naming guy, sa nakikita daw niya parang gumagawa daw un bf ko ng ikagagalit ko baka daw may gustong mangyari or sabihin at hinihintay nalang na masagad un pasensya ko. tinext ko siya na mag usap kami pagdating nya ng manila, nagreply siya non nakauwi na siya then d pa kami nakapag usap until now. kahapon tumawag siya at tinanong kung ano daw nangyayari saken bakit daw d ko sinasagot txt niya tinotopak nanaman daw ako. parang wala lang sa kanya ngayon un nangyari.

[skyblush]

lol! 2 months pa lang sila as partners, ganyan na si TS. what more kung matagal na sila? tama bang masamain yung pag-spend ni bf ng oras sa mga family crisis/affairs?

hindi ko naman po minamasama ang pagsama niya sa mga family affairs ang sakin lang may kinommit na siya saken tapos ganon ganon nalang nya ko bibitawan? ikaw ba naman sayo gawin un hindi ka ba dapat magdamdam o mainis? kung isang beses lang gawin un ok lang maiintindihan ko pero un mangangako sayo at may usapan din kayo ng araw na un tapos ika cancel at un pinangako sayo e di tutuparin double entry na un diba? salamat sa reply mo

[may2]

You state that his family has a crisis, then understand him or at least be patient. I think when his family crisis has stop, he will communicate with you or make his promises realistic. I think, its understandable that he ignores you at the moment, because he does not want to choose between his family or you. Maybe, he wants to resolve his family issues or crisis, then get back to you.

[skyblush]

You state that his family has a crisis, then understand him or at least be patient. I think when his family crisis has stop, he will communicate with you or make his promises realistic. I think, its understandable that he ignores you at the moment, because he does not want to choose between his family or you. Maybe, he wants to resolve his family issues or crisis, then get back to you.

nope, wala pong family crisis.. family outing po un, kaya nagka cancel siya saken ng lakad kahit may usapan na kami. kung kelan umasa nako saka niya babawiin un word nya kaya i don't know until when will i'll hold on to his words. mga salita na sa kanya mismo nanggaling tapos later on babawiin niya. un prob. po na nabasa nyo siguro is un treatment ng father ko sa kanya other than that wala naman prob. hindi ko alam kng dapat ko bang isipin na sinasadya nya un para may reason siya to break up with me.

[softy]

Follow your GUTS girl...it's there with the purpose...STOP finding excuses for your man's behavior.

If you're with a person who doesn't treat you right, stop questioning why they are treating you poorly... as that's pointless. Stop thinking you can fix things by yourself, because the truth is: You can't make a relationship all on your own; they have to choose to join you.

[infinite_trial]

kung friends talaga kayo before, bakit hindi ka mag-open up sa kanya at sabihin mo na nasasaktan ka sa ginagawa niya? communication is part of a good foundation of a relationship. kung siya ay passive-aggressive at ikaw naman ay nanghuhula lang kung bakit siya nagkakaganun, walang mangyayari. talaga naman nakakapikon yung last minute mag-cacancel. it kinda tells you your bf doesn't respect your time.

[purpleheadd07]

this is what i don't like with labeling. when you start calling each other as girlfriend-boyfriend there becomes the need to change roles. expectations become higher, in short, the job description eventually changes. kaya di naiiwasan yung nagkakaroon ng pressure porke't biglang nagkakaroon ng responsibilities.

nasabi mo na ba sa kanya yang nararamdaman mo? sabihin mo, wag dito kasi di kami ang bf mo.
and guys don't like reading minds. kailangan mo iyan sabihin at linawin sa kanila.

one other thing, guys don't like talking about relationships hehe. kaya be careful din. makiramdam ka. good luck!

[Jameaux]

Pag nababasa ko yung thread title naaalala ko yung korning banat na "Sorry I'm taken..."

..taken for granted.

[Bigot3AtBalbas]

Aba! At least you are taken

[F-A Soldier]

Count your blessings better than being Taken

[blithesome]

Follow your GUTS girl...it's there with the purpose...STOP finding excuses for your man's behavior.

If you're with a person who doesn't treat you right, stop questioning why they are treating you poorly... as that's pointless. Stop thinking you can fix things by yourself, because the truth is: You can't make a relationship all on your own; they have to choose to join you.

Ditto.

Additional: Kung may problema/crisis man siya sa family nya, haller? Ano lang ba yung kausapin ka & bigyan ka ng assurance na after nung crisis na yun, he'll work things out naman sa inyo. But TS said wala naman crisis, so ganyan na kagad siya. Tsk. Tsaka yung pag cancel ng walang anuman sayo to think na nakapag pabook na kayo, ano lang ba yung ipaalam man lang sayo diba. Respeto & konsiderasyon man lang 'cos afterall, you're not just his friend. Karelasyon ka nya. GF.

I wish ya all the best TS.

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"If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs." ― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

[kreuk]

Ts, na badtrip lang yung bf mo sa pinakitang asal ng father mo sa kanya. Huwag mo munang pag-isipan ng masama yung bf mo. He's just beating around the bush...Wait for him to cool down and adjust .. he'll turn around. Just be patient with him for now.

agree.

wag mo muna isipin ang hindi niya nagagawa para sayo... sa kabila ng mga un siya pa naaalipusta eh. medyo demoralizing ang maging 30 na tinatratong parang di karapdapat.

ikaw nalang muna ang pumuno ng mga pagkukulang niya.

[invi]

ts.. if you look deep down, nothing has really changed except the expectations. you are the same person and so is he. tama lang naman na itaas ang expectations but I think hindi gets or hindi ready yung guy mo. your dad is reacting naturally like a father to his daughters lover so he just needs to take the role of potential son in law.

wala namang big deal dito. its just a matter of every one adjusting to their new roles. that includes you too ts. strong relationships are developed over time.. not packaged and delivered overnight. maganda yung foundation niyo as friends but you still have a long way to go.

This.

It's a commitment. Can you and your boyfriend commit to building a deeper relationship? If both of you are willing, then work on it. But it's both of you who have to be involved, you can't do it on your own.

I believe sincere and loving communication is the foundation of a great relationship for both friends and lovers. I'm sure you were very open to each other as friends. I think it's important that you don't lose that, and you even have to strengthen it further now as lovers. The difference now is that there is romance involved, but the bottomline is you are still the same people, he's still the same friend.

[theadviser]

thanks sa advice mo.

anyway wala pa naman kami sa level na naiisip na magpakasal pero 27 nako and 30yrs old na siya. di na bata un teh. siguro nga pinalalala ko lang ang issue e wala naman dapat. humihingi lang ako ng opinion sa mga pexers. kasi magulo isip ko. salamat na din sa opinyon mo. tc

DAFUQ!, your 27 and hes 30?... but then you are acting like a highschool student??? ampfness, The only thing that you can do is stop being a control freak and love your man on what he is, not what you want him to be.

Good Luck to both of you.