Do you believe that a sexually maniac guy will change because of love?

[PrettyCool_Dude]

But then again, hindi nga kaya ni TS ibigay yung motivation na yun kay BF. So, hopeless case!

[kleenexlambot]

....pwede niya yun ma-overcome just like in an ordinary married man with natural sexual urges with adult women (other than his wife). .

Cool-dude, im confused here -- all the while i thought we all understood that pedophilia was a mental disorder, so how come youre comparing it with "ordinary men's urges with adult women"??

[PrettyCool_Dude]

Cool-dude, im confused here -- all the while i thought we all understood that pedophilia was a mental disorder, so how come youre comparing it with "ordinary men's urges with adult women"??

Subjective kasi yung sabihing "mental disorder" yung case ni BF e. From my key points, I mentioned it's just a sexual orientation. Hindi nga lang katanggap-tanggap sa tao kaya tinawag nating "disorder."

[kleenexlambot]

BF already admitted that he slept with children. What else do you want to know? Lets not complicate things here

So to summarize my answer to TS' question:

QUESTION: "Do you believe that a sexually maniac guy will change because of love?"

ANSWER: Yes, you can love him all you want. But to change him, you need professional help because he has a psychiatric disorder.

[TTJ]

Romantic love is simply for motivation. Without it, mawawalan ng reason si BF para magbago. He's gonna be hopeless. Gaya nga ng sabi ko dun sa isang thread regarding male infidelity, pwede niya yun ma-overcome just like in an ordinary married man with natural sexual urges with adult women (other than his wife). Pero depende pa rin yun sa level ng kanyang perversion. Baka lang hindi naman ganoon kagrabe at kaya pa imanage, di ba? Hindi ko masabi kasi hindi natin kilala si BF.

Habol ko lang din... Faith can move mountains... "Nothing will be impossible for you." - from Matthew 17:20

Hindi rin natin alam,baka MIND GAME lang pala yun.Baka sinusubukan lang nya si TS kung talagang gusto sya o hindi.

[kleenexlambot]

Hindi rin natin alam,baka MIND GAME lang pala yun.Baka sinusubukan lang nya si TS kung talagang gusto sya o hindi.

"TS: Beh, nasan na ang mga ebidensya mo na nakipag "do" ka sa mga bebeh?"

O-M-G, baka mamaya child pornography na topic natin heheh

[tonton]

Ipa pray-over niyo lang sa mga born agen yang BF mo TS. Mawawala ang pagka pedophile nya.

[jazzmine22]

TS, for you, baka natatamad kang magbasa ng libro, oh eto google na lang:


Pedophilia is also a psychosexual disorder in which the fantasy or actual act of engaging in sexual activity with prepubertal children is the preferred or exclusive means of achieving sexual excitement and gratification. It may be directed toward children of the same sex or children of the other sex. Some pedophiles are attracted to both boys and girls. Some are attracted only to children, while others are attracted to adults as well as to children.


In some cases, pedophiles who are attracted to children within their extended family may offer to baby-sit for their relatives. They often have good interpersonal skills with children and can easily gain the children's trust.


Treatment:

the most common form of treatment for pedophilia is psychotherapy , often of many years' duration. It does not have a high rate of success in inducing pedophiles to change their behavior.

Pedophilia may also be treated with medications.

Surgical castration is sometimes offered as a treatment to pedophiles who are repeat offenders or who have pleaded guilty to violent rape.


Prognosis:

The prognosis of successfully ending pedophilic habits among persons who practice pedophilia is not favorable. Pedophiles have a high rate of recidivism; that is, they tend to repeat their acts often over time.


http://www.minddisorders.com/Ob-Ps/Pedophilia.html

[jazzmine22]

Nabasa mo na TS? Lahat ng description mo sa BF mo, isa lang ang tawag sa kanya pedophile.

I bolded the most essential parts, baka tamarin ka kasing basahin, ayan, basahin mo lang yung bolded parts, alam mo na ang kinasusuungan mo ngayon.

Pakibasa na din ang treatments, walang LOVE, CARE, SUPPORT, or romantic chuvaness diyan.

And please read the prognosis, handa ka bang mag stay sa side niya, pag naulit?

Perhaps, ikaw pa maging taga restraint sa mga bata while he's doing the deed? Just like the couple in the news a month ago.



Napansin ko sayo, habang pinipigilan ka, lalo kang nanggigil, so iba na sagot ko.

YES, go to him, love him blindly, have sex with him, marry him, get impregnated, make him the father of your children, it is you and him against the world now.

How romantic, be happy and hold hands till you're old.

Grow old together with a pedophile and while he's victimizing innocent children just think of your LOVE, perhaps he'll change just because of LOVE.

Don't give up, never, he'll change, just because of LOVE.

Promise.

[PrettyCool_Dude]

Sa dami na ng mga personal views and even professional opinions of all angles dito, ewan ko na lang kung di pa maliwanagan si TS. O, eto, kantahan na lang kita... Oops, walang wala yata ako sa tono... Tulain ko na lang...


When you try your best but you don't succeed
When you get what you want but not what you need
When you feel so tired but you can't sleep
Stuck in reverse

And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

And high up above or down below
When you're too in love to let it go
But if you never try you'll never know
Just what you're worth

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

Tears stream down your face
When you lose something you cannot replace
Tears stream down your face
And I
Ohh
Tears stream down your face
I promise you I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down your face
And I

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you



- O hayan, pinaghirapan ko pa talaga yan itype sa mobile phone ko ha.

[infinite_trial]

medyo duda naman ako sa post na ito. dati merong kaibigan si TS na borderline psychopath, ngayon naman maniac na bf.

[juanito5354]

tanong mo, sagot mo.

[TTJ]

medyo duda naman ako sa post na ito. dati merong kaibigan si TS na borderline psychopath, ngayon naman maniac na bf.

makikipaghiwalay sya sa manyak na bf nya,may makikila syang ex-convict naman.liligawan sya tapos sasagutin nya.after 6 months and 100 check-ins,magtatanong dito kung may pag-asang magbago ang mga ex-con.

[jazzmine22]

O TS, natauhan ka na ba?

[sheeponboard]

BF already admitted that he slept with children.

He did not actually sleep with children. He just fantasize them. He's making sexual advances by intentional touches (esp. when riding a bus/ jeep).

I talked to my bf already regarding that and he said " opinyon ko lang noon na baka kailangan ko ng doktor dahil sa kamanyakan ko. Opinyon yun, hindi fact at hindi ako doktor para masabi kung disorder nga talaga to o natural ng urge lang ng isang lalaking single."

Pero kung aatake dw ulit, willing sya mag pa doktor para malaman kung disorder nga. At willing sya pagamot.


I have no question about his intention. I see that he's a very good person (that possibly has a disorder). Sana lang kaya ko, kaya ng loob ko to live each day with suspicions.

[sheeponboard]

makikipaghiwalay sya sa manyak na bf nya,may makikila syang ex-convict naman.liligawan sya tapos sasagutin nya.after 6 months and 100 check-ins,magtatanong dito kung may pag-asang magbago ang mga ex-con.

Naku hindi naman sa ganon.. kung ex-con ang next na magiging BF ko, if I really love him I will accept him together with his imperfections. IT WON'T TRIGGER MY INSECURITIES. Everyone has their own flaws but to be with a lewd guy who check out girls everytime, it makes me feel less of a woman. Allergic ako sa babaero at mahilig sa babae pero any imperfection s okay with me. Kahit pa sugarol at nambubugbog, tingin ko mas tolerable yun kesa sa babaero kasi ang nambubugbog it will hurt me physically pero ang babaero, psychological at emotional ang epekto ng sakit. Kaya kong magmahal at tumanggap gaya ng love na ineemphasize ni prettycooldude pero pag mahilig sa babae, may limitasyon ako dyan.. yan ang kahinaan ko at yun pa ang krus na ibinigay sa akin

[sheeponboard]

Every person can change for good. And love is great enough to serve as a motivation to change. I think, tama si Pretty_Cooldude.

But my concern is... hanggang kelan ko kaya mag sacrifice thinking na he's a pedo or he's not. Siguro ang pinaka kailangan ko... hilingin ko sa knya to have himself checked para malaman ko na kung pedo nga ba talaga sya. What a mean decision na after the check up and finding out that he has a disoder, iiwanan ko sya. Wow, how painful on his part and also on my part. I can accept any imperfection, wag lang yung related sa babae. But if the doctor tell us na it's a short term medication and therapy, baka makaya ko magstay... maybe I can still give it a try.


I'm willing to support him, to love him unconditionally but I love myself better and I know my limitation (babaero, mahilig sa babae)

[sheeponboard]

TS, for you, baka natatamad kang magbasa ng libro, oh eto google na lang:


Pedophilia is also a psychosexual disorder in which the fantasy or actual act of engaging in sexual activity with prepubertal children is the preferred or exclusive means of achieving sexual excitement and gratification. It may be directed toward children of the same sex or children of the other sex. Some pedophiles are attracted to both boys and girls. Some are attracted only to children, while others are attracted to adults as well as to children.


In some cases, pedophiles who are attracted to children within their extended family may offer to baby-sit for their relatives. They often have good interpersonal skills with children and can easily gain the children's trust.


Treatment:

the most common form of treatment for pedophilia is psychotherapy , often of many years' duration. It does not have a high rate of success in inducing pedophiles to change their behavior.

Pedophilia may also be treated with medications.

Surgical castration is sometimes offered as a treatment to pedophiles who are repeat offenders or who have pleaded guilty to violent rape.


Prognosis:

The prognosis of successfully ending pedophilic habits among persons who practice pedophilia is not favorable. Pedophiles have a high rate of recidivism; that is, they tend to repeat their acts often over time.


http://www.minddisorders.com/Ob-Ps/Pedophilia.html

I can't take that. Thanks for all the replies. That's really helpful!

I'll have him checked. If he has a disorder, I'll leave him.(I just have to think how to do it nicely). I have to protect myself more than anyone else. But if he hasn't, I'll love him more.

[sheeponboard]

But then again, hindi nga kaya ni TS ibigay yung motivation na yun kay BF. So, hopeless case!

it might be. Pero kung ex-con sya, addict or irresponsible, baka maibigay ko pa yun if I really love the guy. Kaso babae. Allergic ako sa bababero, as u've sed.

Pero there's stil hope, malay natin hindi **** sya pedo and he was just being exxagerated sa pagkkwento nya.

[purpleheadd07]

so ano na talaga, TS? makikipaghiwalay ka na? or tuloy pa din?

or naghihintay ka lang din? okay lang naman maghintay pero wag naman na habang naghihintay ka eh ngawa ka naman nang ngawa jan.