Meron bang patutunguhan ito?

[kirk_hammett]

1. Been dating this girl for 5 months. We are not in a friend zone, right from the beginning I told her I like her. i send her flowers and 'sweet' presents. When I told her I like her for the first time, she told me that she's still enjoying and just going with the flow, right after that conversation she asked for a 'hug' which was a bit surprising for me, she is never flirty or touchy to her guy friends.

2. I asked her one time if she likes me, she said she's unsure, but she doesn't dislike me.

3. I tried to play 'on and off' sometimes but to no effect, she never did text or call me, but she always reply whenever I send messages. It's like "she will not talk to me if I don't talk to her".

4. I asked her one time if it is okay to continue liking her, she said that's normal.

5. Sometimes I play a joke on her, I say 'Eh di sayang pala effort ko'? Then she said like, 'grabe ka naman di naman sayang'.

6. I told her one time, 'Gusto kita but tell me if I should stop liking you', there was no answer.

7. I even asked her friends if they think she likes me, they said whenever they talk about me, the answer is always 'unsure'.

8. We're both 24, turning 25 this year. She never had a boyfriend, she got broken hearted 2010 by her suitor who got tired of chasing her. Although she admits that she had already moved on completely.

9. I asked her if he dated anybody else other than me, she said no. Although I'm not 100% sure, but I'm quite sure. She is always with her female friends and she is honest, at least based on my observation.

10. She comes from a very conservative family, her parents and her brothers are all active on their parish church.



Bottom line, I am clueless of where am I or kung may progress ba ako.

[kirk_hammett]

11. Nagpapaalam siya sakin pag may lakad siya kahit di ko naman tinatanong kung saan siya pupunta.

[jazzmine22]

Na broken hearted dahil lang sa nanliligaw sa kanya na napagod ng manligaw?

Aba, sobrang pakipot naman ang babaeng yan.

Mapagod ka na rin, baka sakaling ikaw naman ang habulin.

[Romanticure]

sagrado katoliko na conservative pa? kung gusto mo ng challenge ipagpatuloy mo lang, matagal sila mag decide kung gusto ka nya o hindi, nanliligaw ka ba? saan mo kinakausap? alamin mo muna sa kanya ano problema dati bat naghiwalay sila.

Tanggalin mo muna takot nya sa lalake dahil tiyak yan nabasag nung dating guy yan kaya laging "unsure" sagot syo, sobra nipis ng damdamin ng hardcore conservative, super sensitive pa, mabilis umiyak, mabilis magtampo, daming rules.pero pagnapasagot mo yan... ikaw na dumiskubre.

[99luftballons]

i think she likes you pa naman. kase kung wala na siyang interest sayo, di na yan magrereply pa sayo sa text or she'd say right away na you stop liking her. plus the fact na she tells you mga lakad niya i think that's a clear sign. continue ka lang.
good things happen to those who wait

yang 5 months na yan maikli pa yan kung ang involved ay mga conservative na babae.

her 'unsure' means there's a chance. siguro tinitingnan nya kung hanggang kailan ka din mapapagod.

btw, alam mo ba kung how long nangligaw yung last?

[kirk_hammett]

i think she likes you pa naman. kase kung wala na siyang interest sayo, di na yan magrereply pa sayo sa text or she'd say right away na you stop liking her. plus the fact na she tells you mga lakad niya i think that's a clear sign. continue ka lang.
good things happen to those who wait

yang 5 months na yan maikli pa yan kung ang involved ay mga conservative na babae.

her 'unsure' means there's a chance. siguro tinitingnan nya kung hanggang kailan ka din mapapagod.

btw, alam mo ba kung how long nangligaw yung last?

3 months yung last.. kaso 'unsure' din yung sinagot niya dun sa guy, ayun napagod nagkaron ng iba, tapos nahurt siya.

Oh well I'm not losing patience, reality check lang siguro kung may progress ako.

[99luftballons]

oh eh take cue na from her previous experience, the fact na nasaktan siya means may feelings na involved na. maybe she fell for the guy na pero nagpapaka-demure pa siya kaya di pa niya sinagot

pero siguro kailangan mo na din diretsuhin at one point to get a straight answer from her.

good luck TS, as i always say, sarap ng feeling ng inlab

[kirk_hammett]

oh eh take cue na from her previous experience, the fact na nasaktan siya means may feelings na involved na. maybe she fell for the guy na pero nagpapaka-demure pa siya kaya di pa niya sinagot

pero siguro kailangan mo na din diretsuhin at one point to get a straight answer from her.

good luck TS, as i always say, sarap ng feeling ng inlab

Siguro nga. hehehehe.

She is really my ideal girl and I will not waste this chance )

[popsky]

Unsure = Yes or No
Convince her to choose, not really choose but TRY.
Huwag mo pilitin mamili - NO ang isasagot niyan.
1week is enough

Proven yan. Bahala ka na paano mo iexecute.

[blue_tracer]

if in the end, sasagutin ka pala niya. kahit pa abutin ng 1 year ang pangliligaw mo, it's worth the wait. sabi mo nga siya na yung ideal girl para sa iyo.

kaso, wala namang kasiguraduhan dito. 50/50.

siguro it would be better if you set a deadline. ikaw lang nakakaalam. say, 4 months.. 6 months.. 12 months.. 18 months..or whatever. it's up to you.

i said, deadline na ikaw lang nakakaalam according to your threshold. kasi hindi gentleman ang nagtatanong lagi, hey kailan mo na ba ako sasagutin?

pero sana, pag lampas sa deadline na 'yan kung wala pa siyang positive response despite your efforts, it's time to let go. the point im driving at is this:

sabi mo 5 months ka nang courting sa kanya. let's say nag quit ka sa 7th month. puwede niya sabihin, sayang kung nakapaghintay lang sana siya.

or, say.. nag quit ka sa pangliligaw after 12 months. puwede niya rin sabihin, sayang kung naghintay lang sana siya a bit longer.

okay.. say nag quit after 24 months. again, puwede pa rin niyang sabihin, sayang kung nakapaghintay lang sana siya kahit kaunti. gusto ko na sana siya.

yes, she's a nice girl.. pero hindi sapat na rason 'yan ubusin mo ang panahon para sa kanya. let me ask you this, do you consider yourself a good man?

because, if so.. by today's standards, sa dami ng reklamo ng mga girls about their partners being playful.. abah suwerte sa iyo ng babae.

ngayon.. puwedeng kang hoard ni ms. nice girl ng matagal na wala naman kayong relasyon.

nawawalan ng chance ang ibang girls na maaaring nagtataglay ng qualities puwedeng equal or better than ms. nice girl na maka-relasyon ka.

think it over. balansehin mo ang worth nitong girl.. pero isama mo naman panahon din na involved.

[purpleheadd07]

if you know deep inside that she's the right girl then you'l wait no matter how long it takes.

if someone else comes while you're waiting then hindi nga siya para sa iyo. sorry na lang siya.

[kirk_hammett]

if in the end, sasagutin ka pala niya. kahit pa abutin ng 1 year ang pangliligaw mo, it's worth the wait. sabi mo nga siya na yung ideal girl para sa iyo.

kaso, wala namang kasiguraduhan dito. 50/50.

siguro it would be better if you set a deadline. ikaw lang nakakaalam. say, 4 months.. 6 months.. 12 months.. 18 months..or whatever. it's up to you.

i said, deadline na ikaw lang nakakaalam according to your threshold. kasi hindi gentleman ang nagtatanong lagi, hey kailan mo na ba ako sasagutin?

pero sana, pag lampas sa deadline na 'yan kung wala pa siyang positive response despite your efforts, it's time to let go. the point im driving at is this:

sabi mo 5 months ka nang courting sa kanya. let's say nag quit ka sa 7th month. puwede niya sabihin, sayang kung nakapaghintay lang sana siya.

or, say.. nag quit ka sa pangliligaw after 12 months. puwede niya rin sabihin, sayang kung naghintay lang sana siya a bit longer.

okay.. say nag quit after 24 months. again, puwede pa rin niyang sabihin, sayang kung nakapaghintay lang sana siya kahit kaunti. gusto ko na sana siya.

yes, she's a nice girl.. pero hindi sapat na rason 'yan ubusin mo ang panahon para sa kanya. let me ask you this, do you consider yourself a good man?

because, if so.. by today's standards, sa dami ng reklamo ng mga girls about their partners being playful.. abah suwerte sa iyo ng babae.

ngayon.. puwedeng kang hoard ni ms. nice girl ng matagal na wala naman kayong relasyon.

nawawalan ng chance ang ibang girls na maaaring nagtataglay ng qualities puwedeng equal or better than ms. nice girl na maka-relasyon ka.

think it over. balansehin mo ang worth nitong girl.. pero isama mo naman panahon din na involved.

Taas noo kong sinasabi na I'm a good man.

I'm not really into relationships because I don't want commitments. But this girl somehow changed me.

[Nils]

THe girl is probably waiting for a guy na malalaglag panty nya... Yung parang tinamaan sya ng kidlat at head over heels sya sa guy na iyon... Unfortunately for you, hindi ganun reaction nya sa iyo (and sa mga nanligaw sa kanya in the past)... You are just there as "if i don't meet such a guy I can settle for this one"...

[99luftballons]

Taas noo kong sinasabi na I'm a good man.

I'm not really into relationships because I don't want commitments. But this girl somehow changed me.

akin ka na lang pwede? gusto ko din ng 'good man' kase

THe girl is probably waiting for a guy na malalaglag panty nya... Yung parang tinamaan sya ng kidlat at head over heels sya sa guy na iyon... Unfortunately for you, hindi ganun reaction nya sa iyo (and sa mga nanligaw sa kanya in the past)... You are just there as "if i don't meet such a guy I can settle for this one"...

Nils, babae ka ba o lalaki? parang dami mong alam sa mga babae. based on experience na ba yan?

hindi naman lahat ng babae ganoon. based sa past ni girl na na-hurt siya obviously that contributes sa reason kung bakit ang tagal pa din sagutin si guy.

but oh well, we can only guess but coming from a woman's pov, i believe may pag-asa si guy.

[F-A Soldier]

LOL, 'a suitor that got tired of chasing her'. Smells like history repeating itself.

Chase is fun, but there's a certain threshold I don't go past. Don't waste your time.

[curly tops]

she's so taking her time. clearly, you're exclusively dating but until when? time will come na gugustuhin mo na ring magka label ang anumang meron kayo, she better decide now, after all, parang kayo na naman na hindi.

i agree, mapapagod ka din, i think nag uumpisa na nga, the mere fact na nag post ka dito at nafufurustrate ka na sa situation niyo.

[Nils]

Nils, babae ka ba o lalaki? parang dami mong alam sa mga babae. based on experience na ba yan?

Maniniwala ka ba sa sagot ko? Gusto mo silipin mo na lang...

[kirk_hammett]

THe girl is probably waiting for a guy na malalaglag panty nya... Yung parang tinamaan sya ng kidlat at head over heels sya sa guy na iyon... Unfortunately for you, hindi ganun reaction nya sa iyo (and sa mga nanligaw sa kanya in the past)... You are just there as "if i don't meet such a guy I can settle for this one"...

Siya ang bahala. Wag lang siya matulad dun sa dalawang nambasted sakin dati, na sila ang naghabol after, hindi naman sa pagmamayabang Wala na siyang mahahanap na tulad ko Talkin' about confidence

[kirk_hammett]

she's so taking her time. clearly, you're exclusively dating but until when? time will come na gugustuhin mo na ring magka label ang anumang meron kayo, she better decide now, after all, parang kayo na naman na hindi.

i agree, mapapagod ka din, i think nag uumpisa na nga, the mere fact na nag post ka dito at nafufurustrate ka na sa situation niyo.

Yeah minsan parang 'nagoover-wonder' ako. Pero minsan lang naman ako mag effort kaya I'll give it a go.

At isa pa, marami din akong ibang bagay na pinagkakaabalahan na makakapagpasaya sakin in case man na mabulilyaso etong efforts ko. lol. So ok lang. D

[ty_kun]

To answer your question, Meron bang patutunguhan ito? My answer is none.

Why?

This:

1. Been dating this girl for 5 months. We are not in a friend zone, right from the beginning I told her I like her...

And backed it up with things like this:

2. I asked her one time if she likes me, she said she's unsure, but she doesn't dislike me.

No-no question of the lifetime. How sure are you sa mga sagot nya?

3. It's like "she will not talk to me if I don't talk to her".

Why would she chase someone whom she don't need chasing?

4. I asked her one time if it is okay to continue liking her, she said that's normal.

5. Sometimes I play a joke on her, I say 'Eh di sayang pala effort ko'? Then she said like, 'grabe ka naman di naman sayang'.

6. I told her one time, 'Gusto kita but tell me if I should stop liking you', there was no answer.

She does not want to be mean.

7. I even asked her friends if they think she likes me, they said whenever they talk about me, the answer is always 'unsure'.

...and her friends either.

8. We're both 24, turning 25 this year. She never had a boyfriend, she got broken hearted 2010 by her suitor who got tired of chasing her. Although she admits that she had already moved on completely.

Age does not matter. She got broken-hearted kasi she lost the great feeling of being chased. Admits = not sure.

9. I asked her if he dated anybody else other than me, she said no. Although I'm not 100% sure, but I'm quite sure. She is always with her female friends and she is honest, at least based on my observation.

Again, another no-no question.
Yet again, how sure are you sa observations mo? I'll tell you - NOT sure.

10. She comes from a very conservative family, her parents and her brothers are all active on their parish church.

She's still a girl, with feelings, kahit anong religion pa yan.

Bottom line, I am clueless of where am I or kung may progress ba ako.

I hope you know now where you are in this situation. Moreso, I hope you know now what to do, and that is two words, four letters first two letters second.

5 months is too long. In a span of two weeks dapat alam mo na where you stand. Yes, only two weeks. Why? Kasi in two weeks pag alam mo na where you stand, (listen here) alam na rin nya where she stands. Don't make it hard for her. Well, with what you're doing now, you're making it VERY VERY hard for her.