Happiness or righteousness.

[kleenexlambot]

Kung gagayahin ng lahat ng kalalakihan si TS na naghahanap pa ng iba kahit may asawa na, ano na lang ang mangyayari sa mundong ito???

TS, happiness is a state of mind -- as a family man you should find the center of your happiness in raising your family, and not in chasing girls !

[jazzmine22]

noong bata pa sya, ang reason dun, sex/lust lang alam nya...

yung 2nd time around, he knew better... uhmmmm... not!!!

so eto yung 'the one', he's sure he knows what's right na... gagamit na sya ng condom pramis!!!!

pramis na ba talaga sa tingin mo Nils?

Kung magiging masaya siya na mawawalan ng respeto sa kanya ang mga anak niya, eh di sige lang magpakasaya siya. Huwag lang siyang magmamakaawa sa huli and then pull out the 'I'm still your father' card pag kailangan na niya mga anak niya.

Ang puno't dulo lang dito, lahat ng desisyon mo, panindigan mo. Huwag kang iiyak iyak sa huli kapag nagsisi ka na at na-realize mo hindi naman pala palaging masaya ang buhay kahit ano pang desisyon ang ginawa mo. You don't live in a fairytale. At pag nagkakamali ka, huwag kang mandamay ng iba.

Naglayas nga yung ka close namin na anak niya, gusto nga makitira dito sa amin, payag naman sana kami, kaso ano ba yun, kapitbahay lang kaya namin ang bahay nila

Honestly, naaawa ako doon sa nahihibang nilang tatay, at 60 years old ganun pa din ang state niya, ni hindi niya narating ang self actualization phase na dapat eh at that age, fulfilled ka na sa sarili at sa mga nagawa mo.

60 years of wasted time, and until now, nagsasayang pa din ng oras as if hindi siya mamamatay.

Pag nagkasakit, tignan ko lang kung alagaan siya ng batang bata niyang kabit.


On your second paragraph, well said Invi.

[Nils]

pramis na ba talaga sa tingin mo Nils?

sa 1st round... yung succeeding rounds malamang hindi... pero gumamit pa rin ng condom!

[revhard]

Sa bibig kasi iputok para sigurado

[love_always]

kung hindi sya nastroke, then by all means do what makes you happy.pero since na stroke yun wife mo, makisama ka naman..

being a wife (once upon time), nakakabwisit talaga yan mga linya linya ng happiness with somebody else, pero matanda ka na.kahit bwisit ang mga asawang biglang bumibitaw sa asawa nilang pinilit DAW sila pakasalan... alam mo ng mali yan at yan pa rin naman ang gagawin mo.so gawin mo na lang..matapos man yan sa "the one" mo, tiyak maghahanap ka pa rin naman. kaya have an annulment na..yun mga nangangaliwang tao, dalawa lang: un naitulak na gawin yun due to pain tru out the years.. at pangalwa, yun sadyang makati lang at mahilig sa laman..

wag mo ng sabihin na ikaw bumuhay sa kanila or madami kayong utang, lahat ng mag asawa, dumadaan jan.. minsan nga lang, sumusuko ang isa sa realidad na masakit at mahirap ang buhay may asawa... at sa piling ng "the one" mas madali, kasi sa part ng mga new people in our life, nasa planning stage pa lang kyo ng partner mo, so masaya pa mag IMAGINE..pero kapag asawa mo na at may anak na kayo, implementing stage na, so dun nakikita how hard the dream is to be achieve..

ang taong sumusuko laging sumusuko yan.kahit san part ng buhay nila.so wala yan sa partner nila..at tuwing susuko sila, may ituturo sila sa kahinaan nilang yan..so iwan mo na lang asawa mo, katulad lang din yan ng mga iba pang babaeng iniwan mo sa ere or iniwan ka sa ere..

so anung gusto kong sabihin, wala lang.hahaha.

A month ago, i asked myself, what would i choose, the person i want to be with kahit alam kong he wont make me happy anymore or with someone who can make me happy and make new life with.. and though magkaiba tayo ng tanung, it boils to one thing, should we satisfy our emotion or our values??


our Values that may or may not conform with the norms or the majority of the people, but a close friend told me, "dont dwell to emotion. There's more to life than meets the eye" or maybe Matt 6:33.

Pero tanungin mo rin yun asawa mo, kasi baka nga piliin mo yun righteous, e ayaw na rin pala nya kasama ka..hehe.ika nga, gawin mo muna yun tama, pero kung yun partner mo mismo, ayaw ng itama pa, aba, since napipilitan ka rin naman lang, e di Go ka na sa gusto mo..so sa ending, ewan ko rin..hahahaha

[m_anne]

libog lang yan ts whahahhaha,gusto mo iba ibang babae ang natitikman mo,pag nagsawa palit na naman...wag mo namang gawing libangan ang mga babae may karma dyan pero i think nakakarma ka na ngayon kasi the way you talk parang miserable na ang life mo...kung sana nung umpisa ng marriage niyo ng wife mo ginawa mo yung part mo baka ng work pa yung relationship mo with your wife ayan tuloy nagka letse letse ang buhay mo.yung new girl mo let her go maawa ka sa future nung girl wag mo pairalin libog mo ts kakahiya ka....sana hoindi lahat ng lalaki katulad mo.

[christian5327]

Hi pexers. Matagal na kong follower ng pex. I just want to share my experience and I want your opinion. You may judge me and all pero ang gusto ko lang is mailabas ang feelings ko about my dillema.

I am a guy. I got my girlfriend pregnant 9 yrs ago and I was force to marry her at a young age not knowing what real life is. My parents are both religious, my dad is a former pastor and my mom is active sa church.

When they heard the news, they forced me to marry her and threaten me that they will abandon me if I don't.

The thing is, I was soo young and all I want back then was just pure lust and sex. But that does not mean I don't love my girlfriend. She was my first, everything and back then I'm a "stick to one" type of guy. But then, I still don't want to marry her. Now those naive people may say this quote " eh kung di mo sya mahal, bakit mo binuntis?" Well, I am too young and sex lang ang alam ko noon. di ko alam bumuhay ng pamilya noon.

Now, like some guys, na punta rin a ko sa path na mambabae and I had a lot of girlfriend after marriege which is bad I know. This has brought our relationship to become sour and bitter na din. It is all my fault. I tried to be "the man" but being married too young is just not that easy. I made my gf cry a lot of times and sorry isn't enough.

Me and my gf doesn't really have things in common. Her parents have some grudge to my grandparents and vice versa. But because may anak kami, sige lang. Btw, I love my son soo much and which make things hard for me.

3 years ago, I got another girl pregnant, and I admitted to my gf/wife about it, she has forgiven me and accepted me again. But after a few months, I found out that she was in love to another guy who died a few days ago because he was stabbed by one of his friends. "not me" I just found out after the incident.

I told her na kung di na nya ako mahal, please let me know para di nag lolokohan. ( I can't blame her for loving someone else).

She and her kababata also have some love affair pero sa fb lang. I gave up on it and told her thatif she wants to, she can. Pero I'm not doing this para even kami.

I mentioned earlier na marami kami differences. Utang is one of them and now, ako na ang bumubuhay sa kanya at sa anak ko dahil ang sweldo nya ay pambayad utang lang. This has made our relationship so broken that even if I tried fixing it, I just can't.

Ang haba na pala. Ok, Here is what I want to hear from you guys.

I got tired of chasing girls to love me, cos I know no one will do. But I met a girl who does, she knows my status and it was hard for her to accept na married ako. Btw I told my wife na gusto ko nang makipaghiwalay but I won't stop supporting her. The problem is, now she got stroke and made it more difficult for me.

This girl that I met, I told myself that she's the one. I find it hard to believe that this girl from the city is so hardworking at a very young age. Our gap is 10 years I am older, but it's not what you think. She knows how to cook, do the laundry, she's organized and has a leader value in her. Which is so opposite my ex. I appreciate everything she does and her love for me. She finally accepted our fate. I love her and will do anything for her but they, you guys may say it's not right.

Another thing I am worried about is what if I am not the one for her? I know girls want security but who knows, things change, eventually 5 years from now sya na ang nasa lagay ko?

I have done the right thing before, obeying my parents to get married. But now, I only got 1 life to live and I know that the right thing is to keep my marriege. But hell, I don't want my next 30 years to live in pain. To be with this new girl, I feel like life is worth living. And If loving her will condemn me, I'd gladly accept my fate.

But still, it haunts me.. Should I do the right thing or to be happy. What do you guys think?

If you truly care about this girl that is ten years younger without any baggage then you will leave her alone because in the long run you will scar her psychologically and emotionally. You must accept who you are as a person who is a womanizing philanderer. Men are naturally promiscuous anyway so you are not doing anything unnatural.

I am a man just like yourself. The reason why I resist the urges to womanize is because I come from a divorced family. My parents were divorced in Seattle by the time I was only 3. Although I was raised by my father and his family, I have always taken the lesson to heart about children needing both of their parents. Obviously, at least one of your illegitimate children will not have a father. I may sound harsh and blunt but I speak the truth.

So, stay away from this precious girl and find someone with your level of baggage and scarring.

[adiposethoughts]

Dear TS,

Let me put your situation and emotions in a nutshell.

First, may I say that you will never, ever be happy if you keep on allowing yourself to be attached to somebody, or to your past, or to your failures.

Your attachment to your current girlfriend, your past, your concern with your current situation, and your attachment to the things you failed to do are the reasons of your suffering.

Your past is just an illusion. Your future is also just an illusion. The reasons why you don't feel happy with your current life is a result of an illusion you made in your mind ---> Your Illusion: Past sucks. Present became sucky because of the past. Future looks bright with the new girl.

Those are all just illusions.

Remember: Changing your partner won't change the current you. It's like you want a change in atmosphere you decided to change your hairstyle.

If you think that highly of yourself, if you think that you deserve to be with someone you love, then, first and foremost... Show to the people in your current situation that no matter how you feel and no matter how unlovable they are... you will still love them and take care of them. You will also consider how they feel. That they're also human just like you... They also have their own problems.

And you not adding to the burden they carry in their hearts and minds would show the quality of person you really are.

They say that people who are truly successful are the people who look into their situations in so many different angles. They don't limit themselves to just one reason. They look at it from their angle, then the angle of their partner, then the angle of the people who are affected with the situation... like your kid's perspective.

However, they look at these angles because they really want to do so. They act accordingly bec they are happy to do it, not bec of what other people told them so nor only bec napipilitan lang sila. Inaayos nila ang buhay nila kasi doon sila may peace.

Peace, TS? Peace of mind? Meron ka ba niyan ngayon?

Kasi kung sa palagay mo sa lahat ng moment mo ngayon feeling mo lagi kang may iniisip, lagi kang may inaalala, lagi kang may iniisip na gustong mangyari at gawin... then wala sayo ang peace of mind mo.

At para ka makapag desisyon ng tama. Para di ka makasakit ng ibang nilalang sa paligid mo, kelangan mo muna huminto. Itigil mo ang kaaligagaan sa utak mo. Kontrolin mo ang bumubuhos na emosyon, galit, panghihinayang, paninisi, at lungkot.

Lahat yan kaya mong kontrolin. Kasi ikaw ang may lalang sa lahat ng nararamdaman mo ngayon.

Huminto ka muna.


At huminga ng malalim.


Itigil mo muna ang pag-iisip. Huminga ka ulet ng malalim.


Kontrolin mo ang utak mo. Huminga ka ulet ng malalim.



Marami kang gustong mangyari sa buhay mo. Lahat ng yon naka-dikit ang mga katagang namumukod sa utak at puso mo na, "Gusto kong maging masaya. Gusto ko ako naman ang lumigaya."

Pero ang kaligayahan ba ay makikita mo lang kung kelan ideal ang sitwasyon para sayo?

Again. The precept of ideal situations will cause happiness is just an illusion.

Ilusyon mo lang ang mga yan kasi yan ang pinaniwalaan mo. Pero hindi ibig sabihin na dahil pinaniwalaan mo ang isang bagay, totoo na ito.

Thoughts become things, ika nga ni Buddha. IKAW ang gumawa ng reyalidad mo ngayon.

At kung gusto mong sumaya, kelangan magdesisyon ka na maging masaya kahit nasaan ka pa.

Kasi kung ngayon pa lang di ka na masaya, wag ka nang umasa na sasaya ka sa mga tinatamasa mong bagay. Kasi pagbalibaligtarin mo man ang mundo. Wala sa sitwasyon o ibang tao ang kasiyahan o ang kaligayahan o ang kakuntetuhan sa buhay.

Nasa paniniwala mo yan. Lahat nanggagaling sa utak mo.



Tignan mo na lang ang mga pambabae mo. Sa likod ng isip mo ngayon gusto mo ring sumaya.

Pero may napala ka ba? Sumaya ka nga ba?


Umupo ka. Huminga ka ng malalim. At umpisahan mong wag mag isip. Tignan mo lang ang ginagawa mo ngayon. Ang paghinga mo.

Sa pamamaraan na yan makikita mo ang totoong reyalidad ng sitwasyon mo.

[adiposethoughts]

Parang gusto mo kasing ipakita samin dito na hindi nagtutugma ang happiness at righteousness.

Na para ka maging masaya may kelangan kang maapakan o masaktan. May kelangan kang iwan.













Pero, hindi nga? Sigurado ka ba sa pinaniniwalaan ng utak mo na yan?

[F-A Soldier]

Well two women preggers, and in love with younger one.

Next time put on some condom and maybe live on your own so you don't have to rely on your parents.

[jazzmine22]

sa 1st round... yung succeeding rounds malamang hindi... pero gumamit pa rin ng condom!

ah sabagay, baka naubos na yung sperms sa unang putok




Adipose, feeling ni TS ata, hindi niya mahahanap ang kanyang happiness habang gumagawa siya ng "kabutihan".

[christian5327]

Dear TS,

Let me put your situation and emotions in a nutshell.

First, may I say that you will never, ever be happy if you keep on allowing yourself to be attached to somebody, or to your past, or to your failures.

Your attachment to your current girlfriend, your past, your concern with your current situation, and your attachment to the things you failed to do are the reasons of your suffering.

Your past is just an illusion. Your future is also just an illusion. The reasons why you don't feel happy with your current life is a result of an illusion you made in your mind ---> Your Illusion: Past sucks. Present became sucky because of the past. Future looks bright with the new girl.

Those are all just illusions.

Remember: Changing your partner won't change the current you. It's like you want a change in atmosphere you decided to change your hairstyle.

If you think that highly of yourself, if you think that you deserve to be with someone you love, then, first and foremost... Show to the people in your current situation that no matter how you feel and no matter how unlovable they are... you will still love them and take care of them. You will also consider how they feel. That they're also human just like you... They also have their own problems.

And you not adding to the burden they carry in their hearts and minds would show the quality of person you really are.

They say that people who are truly successful are the people who look into their situations in so many different angles. They don't limit themselves to just one reason. They look at it from their angle, then the angle of their partner, then the angle of the people who are affected with the situation... like your kid's perspective.

However, they look at these angles because they really want to do so. They act accordingly bec they are happy to do it, not bec of what other people told them so nor only bec napipilitan lang sila. Inaayos nila ang buhay nila kasi doon sila may peace.

Peace, TS? Peace of mind? Meron ka ba niyan ngayon?

Kasi kung sa palagay mo sa lahat ng moment mo ngayon feeling mo lagi kang may iniisip, lagi kang may inaalala, lagi kang may iniisip na gustong mangyari at gawin... then wala sayo ang peace of mind mo.

At para ka makapag desisyon ng tama. Para di ka makasakit ng ibang nilalang sa paligid mo, kelangan mo muna huminto. Itigil mo ang kaaligagaan sa utak mo. Kontrolin mo ang bumubuhos na emosyon, galit, panghihinayang, paninisi, at lungkot.

Lahat yan kaya mong kontrolin. Kasi ikaw ang may lalang sa lahat ng nararamdaman mo ngayon.

Huminto ka muna.


At huminga ng malalim.


Itigil mo muna ang pag-iisip. Huminga ka ulet ng malalim.


Kontrolin mo ang utak mo. Huminga ka ulet ng malalim.



Marami kang gustong mangyari sa buhay mo. Lahat ng yon naka-dikit ang mga katagang namumukod sa utak at puso mo na, "Gusto kong maging masaya. Gusto ko ako naman ang lumigaya."

Pero ang kaligayahan ba ay makikita mo lang kung kelan ideal ang sitwasyon para sayo?

Again. The precept of ideal situations will cause happiness is just an illusion.

Ilusyon mo lang ang mga yan kasi yan ang pinaniwalaan mo. Pero hindi ibig sabihin na dahil pinaniwalaan mo ang isang bagay, totoo na ito.

Thoughts become things, ika nga ni Buddha. IKAW ang gumawa ng reyalidad mo ngayon.

At kung gusto mong sumaya, kelangan magdesisyon ka na maging masaya kahit nasaan ka pa.

Kasi kung ngayon pa lang di ka na masaya, wag ka nang umasa na sasaya ka sa mga tinatamasa mong bagay. Kasi pagbalibaligtarin mo man ang mundo. Wala sa sitwasyon o ibang tao ang kasiyahan o ang kaligayahan o ang kakuntetuhan sa buhay.

Nasa paniniwala mo yan. Lahat nanggagaling sa utak mo.



Tignan mo na lang ang mga pambabae mo. Sa likod ng isip mo ngayon gusto mo ring sumaya.

Pero may napala ka ba? Sumaya ka nga ba?


Umupo ka. Huminga ka ng malalim. At umpisahan mong wag mag isip. Tignan mo lang ang ginagawa mo ngayon. Ang paghinga mo.

Sa pamamaraan na yan makikita mo ang totoong reyalidad ng sitwasyon mo.

In your post you mention that "the past is an illusion, the future is an illusion". You, darling, are an existentialist. We need to chat one on one about some of this. You can add christian5327 on yahoo messenger and my email for msn is christian5327@hotmail.com. I hope to chat with you soon.

[adiposethoughts]

In your post you mention that "the past is an illusion, the future is an illusion". You, darling, are an existentialist. We need to chat one on one about some of this. You can add christian5327 on yahoo messenger and my email for msn is christian5327@hotmail.com. I hope to chat with you soon.

Yes sir. What's up. What do you mean? Anong meron?

[christian5327]

Yes sir. What's up. What do you mean? Anong meron?

It would be a lengthy conversation so it would be better if we chat on Yahoo messenger. Add christian5327 as a friend.

[adiposethoughts]

It would be a lengthy conversation so it would be better if we chat on Yahoo messenger. Add christian5327 as a friend.

Hmmmmmm.

[christian5327]

Hmmmmmm.

I'm on yahoo now.

[jazzmine22]

Uy, may nagpapatibong kay Adi.

Tadyakan na yan!

[christian5327]

Uy, may nagpapatibong kay Adi.

Tadyakan na yan!

I had to use Google translator. We are simply going to discuss existentialism off this board because it would be a lenghty discussion.

[decent]

kung naniniwala kayo sa love niyo darating din iyong panahon na magkakasama kayo. sa ngayon asikasuhin mo muna pamilya mo. stroke pa si legal wife, at magaaral pa si jun-jun

[Max_Buwaya]

This girl that I met, I told myself that she's the one. I find it hard to believe that this girl from the city is so hardworking at a very young age. Our gap is 10 years I am older, but it's not what you think. She knows how to cook, do the laundry, she's organized and has a leader value in her. Which is so opposite my ex. I appreciate everything she does and her love for me. She finally accepted our fate. I love her and will do anything for her but they, you guys may say it's not right.

double check your feelings dun sa bago mong babae, TS. baka naman it is just a temporary amazement na later, will let you find out na wala naman talaga palang extraordinary about her. malamang ganyan din ang feeling mo/nangyari sa ibang "niyari" mo. tsk tsk.