ANYONE, ADVICE PLEASE. Its been three years and im still not over my ex bf

[blue_tracer]

pag lagi kang kumukuha ng updates tungkol sa kanya.. at kung hindi mag entertain ng suitors.. walang mangyayari. baka abutin ka ng 5 years ganun pa rin.

mabuti kung may reward na naghihintay sa iyo after 5 years, papano kung invitation pa sa wedding ng ex mo ang matanggap mo?

ikaw din ang kawawa. it's your call.

[caiomhin]

and how do you just "cut" off communication?yung nga mahirap diba?doing that act of deleting, throwing stuff away...

[may2]

TS


It is not easy to forget someone you love. Especially, you always think of your good and bad times together, the memories still linger, or there are moments that will remind him of you.

But you also have to accept that you exerted all efforts, like stalking his friends or his family, and still he wont communicate.

As the saying, Time heal all wounds. All you need is time and prayer. You ask God what his plans for you. Is this bf is the one for you or God has another one for you?

Someday, you'll be able to sing 'I remember the boy, but I don't remember the feeling anymore...'

[caiomhin]

TS


It is not easy to forget someone you love. Especially, you always think of your good and bad times together, the memories still linger, or there are moments that will remind him of you.

But you also have to accept that you exerted all efforts, like stalking his friends or his family, and still he wont communicate.

As the saying, Time heal all wounds. All you need is time and prayer. You ask God what his plans for you. Is this bf is the one for you or God has another one for you?

Someday, you'll be able to sing 'I remember the boy, but I don't remember the feeling anymore...'

i keep asking myself the same questions...tried dating around, but at the end of the day i see her in our kitchen cooking for me, our living room on our couch as we do our dvd marathons...in the bedroom as we lie down to sleep and pray together...i see her everywhere..and i continue asking GOD why...still hard to let go...

[JadedAsFock]

i keep asking myself the same questions...tried dating around, but at the end of the day i see her in our kitchen cooking for me, our living room on our couch as we do our dvd marathons...in the bedroom as we lie down to sleep and pray together...i see her everywhere..and i continue asking GOD why...still hard to let go...

How long we're you in a relationship with this girl? Yes it is hard to let go... But hey I got to throw all his letters and cards to me awhile ago, even if I didn't want to. I read each one of them for the last time and cried my eyes out. I was asking myself how this person, who I truly cared for, can say loving things to me three years ago and now, what the fuq happened to it? Well, my fault i guess... For not being able to let go sooner. But yes, i did it! I'm doing this for myself because it's true, I'm causing more harm to myself and i feel it's getting out of control. Now, I still have a couple of his stuff and... Pictures to throw out....

[janinep0t]

weve been together for 4 years, mutually broke up 3 years ago. Weve been friends ever since we broke up, and now he has moved on and found a new girlfriend.

I initiated the break up because it was hard for me to be in a long distance relationship.... (we broke up a year after he left for Canada), and though he is a good man, I honestly thought that he still needs a lot of growing up to do. I felt that he didn't have goals at the time we were together and I wanted him to experience more of life. Of course he doesn't entirely know my reasons. All he knows is that LDR is hard for me and besides, we didn't have the means to visit each other because of financial reasons. It was very painful for me to let him go because I did love him so damn much. We used to loved each other so damn much. But I felt my decision was right at that time.

Though weve been friends these past three years, I can say that it was never possible for me to just be friends with him. We were friends in a sense that we say hello to each other but without the closeness that we used to have. I pretended to be friends with him, just like everyone else who loves and hopes. How can I be friends with someone I passionately loved and cared for, for 4 years? How can I be friends with someone I used to be intimate with? How can I be friends with someone I shared my life with? but somehow, I agreed to it because in my heart and mind, I was still hoping that we'd get back to each others lives someday.

But now, I feel like a dumbazz for feeling this way, for foolishly dreaming of something that is long gone. Ive never had a boyfriend since we broke up though I tried dating a few men, but I cannot seem to entertain the idea of holding someone else's hand or being with someone else. Is it a sin to still love him all these years? Am I making myself miserable by still being friends with him? Should I just leave everything to fate? I don't want to unfriend him on fb (where their pictures are all over the place) because I don't want him to think that I clearly haven't moved on.

My mind is happy for him, my heart says otherwise.

Harsh comments are welcome. Burst my bubble. I need to fckng wake up.

nung nabasa ko story mo...nakarelate ako..in a way na..naranasan ko to..our relationship ended a couple of weeks ago..we've been almost four years na rin..everything was doing fine and its so sad that he didnt want to have commitment to me while for me ..its not easy to end something that has been part of my life a very long time ago..he wants us to be friends..like starting our life again like we didnt love each other..its so hard for me because i love him...but then there are things that i have to give up..im hopeless in a way there we are not meant to be..and the relationship was over..

my sisters adviced me to put some pride for myself..its hard to pretend that everything is ok for me..that its ok to have communication with him even it hurts me..so much..dumaan na din kame sa LDR stage..maybe he's not the one for me....i found myself crying and crying. and acceptance was not easy for someone whos more affected to the situation....

like what everybody knows...Letting go the one you really love is not easy..and moving on is not easy..but one thing i can say is that..learn to love myself first than anyone...because when were together pa.. i used to believe that he will not hurt me and he will always love me.im thankful that my family are very supportive to me on what im experiencing right now..a lot of heartaches but then i have to continue my life like he didnt exist anymore...i choose to have no communocation with me..for me to easily move on and start new life again...Remember: Dont let anyone to make your life miserable...many peole around you loves you more so you must appreciate it..

sharing lang..

[isteypler]

Cut him off your system...as in totally tanggalin mo lahat...yan naman yung mahirap na step, pag nagawa mo na yan, makikita mo, magiging madali na lahat at tatawanan mo na lang 'tong post mo after some time

[JobyBryant24]

You got 2 choices: Suicide or Move on.

[may2]

caiomhin

it is hard to let go, because the person you love made an impact in your life. you treasure each moment of your life together.

[saweverything]

you know ts. siguro na realize mo na that you'll never really become friends with him again.. thats ********.

[nev3rmind]

being friends with your ex is like kidnappers asking to stay in touch after they let you go

[honey4evr]

ask yourself kung gusto mo talagang ganyan ka na lang palagi. kung kaya mong manatili na depressed, alone, miserable. get to terms with yourself and decide on what you really want. after you made a decision, then live with it. remember, it's us who make up our lives. what happens in your life is only based on what you decided for yourself. sa ngayon, miserable ka at hindi maka-get over ke ex mo kasi yan ang pinili mo. gusto mo yan eh. kasi kung hindi, sana hindi ganyan ang kalagayan mo ngayon.

there are many things you can do in order to ease the pain and help yourself to move on. kung hindi mo tutulungan ang sarili mo, you'll never get over him. you'll stay miserably stuck to where you are right now while the rest of the world are living their lives to the fullest, including your ex.

there's no reason to forget people who've been part of our lives. the memories will linger no matter how hard you try to take them out of your system so we got to learn to just live with the memories. the only thing left to do for you is move on and live your life out of your ex-bf's shadow. meet new people. enjoy being single. have fun with your friends. spend more time with family. join church activities. do better at work. pamper yourself. date again. if you haven't done these things yet, then start now. mopping around and living in the past won't get you anywhere but self-destruction. so live again. maiksi ang buhay para itapon lang sa isang failed relationship. learn from the past, not live in it. start working on your future coz that's how you'll find that illusive happiness you richly deserve. the right man for you will come. you'll see.

[yans972]

"An unscarred heart is a shallow soul"

tama ba english ko? hehe. anyways, nakarelate din ako sa situation mo TS. My ex-GF broke up with me even though we love each other. I asked her that time why does she wanted to break up with me? all she said was LDR won't work. I cried secretly...Then just before my trip back to province, i asked one of her closest friends if she knows what the real reason is aside from LDR. Her friend answered it with watery eyes, like she feels my pain and her bestfriend's pain as well. Her reply was "she let you go dahil ayaw nyang maging hadlang sa mga pangarap mo. alam nyang marami ka pang gustong gawin sa buhay mo at ayaw niyang mawala ang focus mo dun. When the time comes na na achieve mo na dreams mo and mahal mo pa din siya,bumalik ka nalang.". That even made it even painful for me to leave But I know I have to.I cried and cried but I decided not to communicate anymore. IT was very painful but I invested on myself. I worked my a$$ up and studied hard to graduate and eventually forgot my feelings for her. There I met my loving wife at school and I am now happily married.

My point is, if you have the will, kaya mong magmove on. lahat naman mahirap sa una. ang pag aaral, trabaho, pagmamahal din. but kaya mong makaget over kung gugustuhin mo. kaya nga siguro ginawa ni lord ang utak na mas mataas sa puso kasi yun ang dapat, pero hindi naman gagana ang utak kung wala si puso. You have to make logical decisions, even it is painful and even there are things that only the heart can understand, you still have to make those decisions. and believe me, may mas magandang plan si Lord for you =)

[F-A Soldier]

Another Scorpion song for this thread.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q34pU...feature=relmfu

[ettevyvi]

Harsh comments are welcome. Burst my bubble. I need to fckng wake up.

Go in a no contact mode. Delete him sa fb, phone number, etc. you can never be friends with an ex kung may feelings ka pa. That's pseudo-friendship.

Wag mo na syang kausapin. You broke up for a reason, hindi na dapat yan balikan. Start NC now. Miserableng andyan sya o masayang wala sya? Take your pick.

[abe05]

if you really aren't over with him, have you tried talking to him again re: getting back together? since di pa naman siya married and di ka pa naman married? wala lang, just curious on what other steps you've taken before you totally forget him. Gawin mo muna lahat and exhaust everything in your powers to get him back, siguro in that way kung malaman mo na he's not into you na mas madaling maglet go and you'll be free na rin.

[Romanticure]

kamusta na kaya si jade?

[Nils]

^andun sa kwarto ko, hindi pa bumabangon nung umalis ako... masyado ata napagod...

[Romanticure]

^ahahahaha wala ng mga feedback. di mo alam kung effective ang advice mo o hindi.

[theadviser]

Your ex is way over your head my dear. you have been thinking on what life would be if you never gave up, if you have not broken the relationship, few years ago, you said you cannot cope up with a "Long Distance Relationship", do you think you can live with that now if ever?

Love is a mere emotion and feeling that could go away and be forgotten with a snap of your finger.

Reality bites for sure, your insecurity is killing you thinking that your EX was able to move on and you haven't, also how can you forget someone you technically did not lose?

I mean, he is abroad, the only means of communication is either through phone, social networking sites and skype, you "physically" do not have him, just like what you have been experiencing since you two broke up. You kept the FB connection between the two of you and silently checking his every updates so that you would know when would he be able to move on.

The mere fact that you decided to end the relationship because you don't want a "Long Distance Relationship" is proof enough that you don't love your ex, guilt is what is consuming you as of now.

Believe me, i know..... (Based from Experience)