i cant get her off my mind.(VERY LONG STORY)

[bisayakadong]

i met this girl at my new job at a local store
recently, i was a trainee, she is a tenured
employee. i started to chat with her by adding
up her through our company facebook account.
later on, she helps me with work (she says
shes helpful because im new and she wants me
to learn more about my job) we send sms's to
each other, she becomes more friendly to me,
we open up to each other more. one sunday,i
ask her if we could meet and hang out,i agree,
but later do i find out she has a bf abroad
and has 2 kids. i even met her daughter. she
looks ok with it, we had a long 2 hour chat,
and i walked her to the bus stop. sooner or
later,i start accompanying her home to the bus/
taxi,we chat,she enjoys the conversation,sometimes
flirts, teases me, pinches me, and such. while
at work, shes always teasing me and i can notice
shes sweet and flirts too. then,we started
conversing everynight. i call her at her home
phone and we talk for hours on end. anything
under the sun, we give each otheradvice, she
asks if i ate already, etc. before and after work
she tells me if i had gone home already and stuff
like that. but she always emphasizes to me that
friendship is all she can offer and she just want
to bring out the best in me.

i always text her every time, im the type of
jealous guy, but i never had a girlfriend all
my life, im 34 by the way. if a woman doesnt
reply i tend to text her alot of times or call
her and its not that im nagging, i just ask
her if shes mad or such. but im happy when
we talkits like im in heaven.

recently, she wont let me walk her home,shes
always busy. she doesnt act like before anymore.
her reason is i should grow up and act like a man.
she also told me that her ideal man is someone who
can stand upon his own, knowing she has 2 kids,
perhaps help her later on. and such.

Most of the people in our company know about
me dating her, they tease her and stuff but shes
ok with it. they tease her with other guys too,but
i tend to get jealous. we talked about it and she
told me not to get jealous. and sooner, she told
me im acting immature to be jealous for that. lately,
i have been talking to my colleagues about what
advice they could give me about the situation,
she then always becomes pissed and asks my why
im becoming more and more immature by telling
other people.I even spoke with her girl best
friend, and she told me before she used to think
i was okay for herfriend, now im becoming insensi-
tive and i should just forget it. now she is barely
the woman i fell for before. she i sbeing accompanied
by a different guy (she says that he is just a crush
and no feelings and that she is just friendly with
all guys in our team) as of now, she doesnt want to
talk or text or have me accompany her anymore.
she says she will talk to me when ive learned to
accept that were just friends. but despite that, i
cant get her off my mind and want to bring back
the way things were before. she also told me to just
enjoy more important things in life and that shes just
thereand wont go anywhere, "who knows if you change
then maybe" she said. last text i got from her is, she
wants to think alone and have some space.

[bisayakadong]

badtrip.

[noitanigami]

basically, she's just longing for her bf. and you guys are tools for her to somehow alleviate her position.

[enaej426]

TS , i think at first she's testing the waters with you ... but somewhere along the line while you were both enjoying each others company , she sensed something different from you that made her start to back off
give her space if that's what she wants ... soon she'll realized what she's missing ...

[noitanigami]

^but at the end of the day, he's not the one the chic will be going home to. she has a bf overseas. diba? and if ts is not aware of the relationships of the girl prior to him getting involved, we don't know. maybe he's part of the girl's relationship cycle.

[enaej426]

yeah .. maybe she's just lonely and needs someone to cuddle with ..
" for the meantime "

[knives_18]

Base on you post,the girl seems to found out that you're still immature, insecure and clingy type of a guy. It doesn't hep na wala ka pang naging GF in the past to learn how to handle such things.

[infinite_trial]

agree with the above post. you are acting creepy

[blue_tracer]

find another girl. couldnt be simpler than that.

[kreuk]

people can be crippled at managing emotions, unaware of other people's feelings, how they make others feel and not knowing how to handle rejection.

It can frustrate others and i think that's what happened.

[jen_buga]

wala pa pala kayong relasyon, masyado ka ng clingy syempre kahit sino naman siguro matatakot sa ganun..and isa pa me BF, ok lang sa iyo maging panakip butas? na pwedeng pag magkasama kayo eh, di pala ikaw ang iniisip niya?

[bisayakadong]

we became friends again start of this week,
we talk, we joke around pero friendly lang talaga.
sometimes she talks to other guys, nkikipag flirt
pero when i ask her about it ( i know i dont have the right to)
she tells me ano kaba friends lang kami, im just friendly.
pag tinetext ko siya super konte ng reply and we cant
talk on the phone anymore because according to her,
shes busy and needs to sleep early. before hinde.
lately napapansin ko she talks to me a bit often,
but sometimes is moody, she even was teasing me
of buying her chocolates and treating her for lunch.
sometimes she is teasing me saying " hey i know
your not concentrating at work because i know your
thinking of me all the time." yesterday she wore something
so sexy and, she was teasing me again saying, "hey!
i made an effort to wear this, you should look good too!"

i gave her the chocolates and lunch she asked for and
thanked me for it. when her friends asked her what she
felt when i gave her those, she said its free and also were
friends so of course i would accept it. earlier today, she
was teasing me again, i know you wouldnt like me because
you like high class girls and pretty ones because im not
pretty. i told her no matter what she would wear, shes simple
and the prettiest girl ive met. she smiled. after work, i wanted
to bring her home, but i stayed overtime to finish some papers
for the next day, i told her ill just smoke downstairs, she told me,
why do you always smoke when i go home, maybe you just
want to bring me down? i said nah, just a coincidence! i yelled.
she said dont shout at me.

later on i apologized through sms, but she said to me,
dont ever yell at me again. and posted all sorts of stuff
on her twitter account about me being childish and such.
not her brother is pissed at me and doesnt want me to
touch his sister. pls help, i really like her and would do
anything even wait. but i am not sure how i will work
properly if i see her tommorow. should i find a new job?

[turatko!]

Minsan kase ikaw naman ang magpa hard to get, mahirap kase sa ibang babae pag masyado mong na iispoiled.

Diba nga may kantang " Oh Ang babae pag minamahal
May kursunada'y aayaw-ayaw
Pag panay ang dalaw ay nayayamot
Wag mong dalawin, dadabog-dabog
Pag iyong iniwan, hahabul-habol"

Nyahaha corny... pero tested na yan pre try mu lang..

[jazzmine22]

for the next day, i told her ill just smoke downstairs, she told me,
why do you always smoke when i go home, maybe you just
want to bring me down? i said nah, just a coincidence! i yelled.
she said dont shout at me.

hindi ko na gets pwedeng paki explain.

Kung magkwento tong si TS parang naka drugs, nag da drugs ka ba iho?

[bisayakadong]

http://electronicpoet.wordpress.com/

[abusado23]

one sunday,i
ask her if we could meet and hang out,i agree,

sabog nga yung TS.. sya na nagyaya sya pa nag agree... bisayakadong?

[bisayakadong]

now shes talking to me again, she even told me
that why cant i change to be better, and she hates me
for not doing so. and she even said she doesnt want
to act like that to me, but im forcing her to.

i dont get what she meant. she even joked around
coz i planned to leave, why would you be absent, wont you miss me?

.........

[purpleheadd07]

the TS here can't get her off his mind while the guy in the other thread can't simply get her gf off. kanya-kanyang pasanin lang talaga sa buhay.

[jazzmine22]

sabog nga yung TS.. sya na nagyaya sya pa nag agree... bisayakadong?

ah ahm!

TS: halika, nood tayo sine?

girl: sige!

TS: sige, payag ako, tara na nga!