Why is the Philippine society accepting of a man's infidelity

[Nils]

Because they can

[aislinn]

Most young women -- girls were taught by their mothers to take it and be quiet. "Ganyan naman talaga ang mga lalaki. Huwag kang mag alala, ikaw ang pinakasalan, basta umu-uwi pa yan sa inyo, hayaan mo na."

Or secretly, society, lay the blame on the woman when the husband cheats. "May pagkukulang ka siguro kaya ganun. Baka hindi kana nag-aayos masyado."

That's probably why society in general are accepting of man's infidelity.

[TTJ]

Because it is convenient for the men and most of the women can't afford to do the opposite.

[kensamor]

Birth control, abortion, and divorce are what empowers women. There is a reason why the church strongly oppose having them.

If there is infidelity, you are allowed to divorce your spouse because he/she broke the covenant. That is actually in the Bible and so most of Christian churches allowed them. Ewan ko kung bakit against dito ang Catholic church.

[kensamor]

Because they can

Yun nga. They can dahil because they don't suffere the consequence of their action.

[cyberfunk]

So many Pinays, so little time. They do come cheap.

[despisePappus]

Can't help but comment.

Meanie said "don't complicate things" pertaining to other's pexer's comment that the TS should cite facts about the topic.

Which is true. We don't always need to cite facts, especially if there's no study done yet on the subject. Simple observation of your surrounding will do.

But here is Krayon doing it again. Muddling the discussion. This time, with fallacy of equivocation.

Do not complicate things = the world IS simple

Where the fvck did that come from?

[Alpha_Green]

I will never ever ever ever ever EVER settle for a man who cannot be content with one woman.

And please don't tell me every one does it. There are some men who don't. I believe in that.

Yeah, some men can be contented with just one woman....but in the sense that they are contented with just one wife or life partner....but when it comes to sex (as in sex lang)....that's a different story.

Sometimes too it's just a temporary phase. Some often end up eating their words later on whenever they say they'll be loyal to their wives forever.

Just sayin.

[Alpha_Green]

Or secretly, society, lay the blame on the woman when the husband cheats. "May pagkukulang ka siguro kaya ganun. Baka hindi kana nag-aayos masyado."

Nothing wrong with that. Thats a fair and reasonable assumption.

[Kray0n]

Meanie said "don't complicate things" pertaining to other's pexer's comment that the TS should cite facts about the topic....

but I was pertaining to citing facts and saying cráp, what are you talking about?

the world certainly isn't simple, and just saying whatever stuff you can think of and putting that as the truth?

like I said, NO.

[Kray0n]

Nothing wrong with that. Thats a fair and reasonable assumption.

why is that reasonable?

[Kray0n]

Most young women -- girls were taught by their mothers to take it and be quiet...

this is the thing I don't get. are you guys actually filipinos?
did you know that filipinos love to gossip? and especially families, filipinos are pretty close-knit, don't you think?

i mean i'd agree it's more expected of a man to cheat, but i don't really think people are being quiet about it.

[aislinn]

this is the thing I don't get. are you guys actually filipinos?
did you know that filipinos love to gossip? and especially families, filipinos are pretty close-knit, don't you think?

i mean i'd agree it's more expected of a man to cheat, but i don't really think people are being quiet about it.

I am referring to the woman being cheated on. It is as if young women are taught to turn a blind eye to infidelities as long as the man continues to provide for the family. Don't rock the marriage boat. Yes, families, neighbors, friends talk but the premise of the TS is about how forgiving we are as a society when it comes to men being unfaithful, not about how gossipy we are when it comes to these things.

[Meanie!!]

this is the thing I don't get. are you guys actually filipinos?
did you know that filipinos love to gossip? and especially families, filipinos are pretty close-knit, don't you think?

i mean i'd agree it's more expected of a man to cheat, but i don't really think people are being quiet about it.

...........................................dafuq?

[Kray0n]

I am referring to the woman being cheated on. It is as if young women are taught to turn a blind eye to infidelities as long as the man continues to provide for the family. Don't rock the marriage boat. Yes, families, neighbors, friends talk but the premise of the TS is about how forgiving we are as a society when it comes to men being unfaithful, not about how gossipy we are when it comes to these things.

I know. but it's certainly nothing like being quiet, or turning a blind eye to it, especially after your whole clan, all your friends and co-workers, and even random acquaintances know.

there are consequences even if the woman decides to forgive the guy. and don't think people won't judge her for forgiving the man either. as a society, i don't think we forget.

[Kray0n]

I am referring to the woman being cheated on. It is as if young women are taught to turn a blind eye to infidelities as long as the man continues to provide for the family...

oh and about this, that depends on if the woman can provide for herself (and her children), or if the family of the woman can take them in. i know of cases where they do. here it's different, not like in other countries where you don't have the support system of the extended family.

[aislinn]

I know. but it's certainly nothing like being quiet, or turning a blind eye to it, especially after your whole clan, all your friends and co-workers, and even random acquaintances know.

there are consequences even if the woman decides to forgive the guy. and don't think people won't judge her for forgiving the man either. as a society, i don't think we forget.

Assuming that these "friends" do have the gall to say about right? Most of the time, they don't. There are exceptions of course but do you know that most people, families, won't really tell the wife about the infidelity and that they consider this as protecting her?

Yes. In the end, the woman still gets the short end of the stick damn if they forgive the man, damn if they don't especially when children are involved?

And yes, I am talking about Philippine society here.

[aislinn]

oh and about this, that depends on if the woman can provide for herself (and her children), or if the family of the woman can take them in. i know of cases where they do. here it's different, not like in other countries where you don't have the support system of the extended family.

Exceptions rather than the rule. Yes, my family for one made it clear that it's okay to leave my husband if he cheats or hurts me in any way. My mother made that clear.

But come on, Krayon. You know how it is here in the Philippines. While there are families nowadays who won't stand for a cheating spouse, there are hundreds more who think otherwise.

[Kray0n]

Assuming that these "friends" do have the gall to say about right? Most of the time, they don't...

dunno, people don't really stop talking.
it's a pretty good assumption that she'll find out, even indirectly.

and yeah, she'll be judged either way, definitely. the guy too. how harshly the guy is judged? well it's up to how women react when cheated on. in the end, it's up to them to keep quiet or take action. people will know about it either way anyway.

[Kray0n]

...But come on, Krayon. You know how it is here in the Philippines. While there are families nowadays who won't stand for a cheating spouse, there are hundreds more who think otherwise.

it's not really about the families, it's about the woman's decision. am just saying, if she does decide to leave, providing for her and her children's needs isn't really gonna be a problem, her family will gladly take her in. if not her family, her titos and titas.