Why is the Philippine society accepting of a man's infidelity

[mcgirl04]

but not too forgiving (if at all) when a woman strays? Do you guys agree or disagree?

[despisePappus]

Dahil walang mawawala sa mga lalaki? Iputok lang nila yun, wala na. Sa babae kasi, pinapangalagaan dapat ang kanilang pagkababae. Chastity kumbaga.

However, yung infidelity ng mga lalaki ay di acceptable para doon sa mga apektado (family).

[mcgirl04]

Sa babae kasi, pinapangalagaan dapat ang kanilang pagkababae. Chastity kumbaga.

Are you talking about women who are virgins? I'm talking about married women who cheat.

[despisePappus]

Are you talking about women who are virgins? I'm talking about married women who cheat.

Ah well, by chastity I mean the integrity of women. I don't mean virgins.

Women are expected by the society to be faithful and to be "clean". Meaning, di siya sawsawan ng bayan o parausan nina kumpare.

[despisePappus]

Besides, even women themselves make tsismis of other women who sleep with other men.

This only shows that the standards are set by both men and women.

Double standards, yeah.

Ano ba kasi ang mas masama?

Ang sumawsaw sa iba't ibang sawsawan?

O maging sawsawan ng kung anu-ano?

[F-A Soldier]

"It's a maaannn's world. It's a man's, man's, man's world."

Solution: raise strong daughters who wouldn't put up with that sh!t.

[darmonx]

"It's a maaannn's world. It's a man's, man's, man's world."

Solution: raise strong daughters who wouldn't put up with that sh!t.

i agree. boys will be boys regardless of the country.. but most filipina women.. are accepting of cheating ways.

you can only blame the man so much but filipina women need to stop acting weak and helpless and start putting their foot down when their man cheats.

[kensamor]

i agree. boys will be boys regardless of the country.. but most filipina women.. are accepting of cheating ways.

you can only blame the man so much but filipina women need to stop acting weak and helpless and start putting their foot down when their man cheats.

Can't agree more. Pero mahirap din magtigas-tigasan kapag wala namang masyadong batas na nagpo-protekta sa kanila. Let's say nangaliwa si lalake, aside from hiwalay, anong resort ng babae....wala di ba? Mangaliwa ka sa US or Canada....alimony, child support, spousal support at kung anu-ano pa ang katapat mo.

[luks7210]

to add ang mahal mahal ng mga atty services. if you're filing for divorce/annulment, takes a while before court's decision. nakaapat ka na anak, saka magkaroon ng decision.

[Ice Burn]

- Walang Divorce
- Yung idea na buo dapat yung pamilya, mas gugustuhin mag-tiis kesa broken family
- Breadwinner si lalaki at kapag hiniwalayan ni misis wala siyang pansuporta sa mga anak
- tinatanggap kasi yung mentality na "lalaki kasi"
- battered woman si babae kaya hinde niya magawang sitahin si lalaki
- lahat ng kamalian sinisisi sa babae, kaya kapag naghiwalay, si babae ang tiyak na may kasalanan

Yeah, I agree with F-A Soldier, raise strong daughters who wouldn't put up with that shit. And raise sons to have good values so they wouldn't do that shit.

[luks7210]

also --

maraming babae ang nagaasawa -- kinakalimutan na ang pagpapaganda sa sarili. pag iniwan ng lalaki, their looks turn to worse na parang wala ng pakialam sa itsura pag labas.

kaya i admire strong-willed women who can stand on their own, whether its from a failed marriage or a failed life event.

[kim G]

my opinion,its a fair play

it is not acceptable para sa akin for my hubby to be unfaithful and he has no reason to do it.(but sometimes stupidity doesnt need reasoning)
and i am very sure my husband will prefer me dead than to cheat him.

hubby and i agree to the thought the spouses who cheats not only betrayed their partners but mostly they hurt their children.

[ututina]

MACHISMO!

Most pinoys secretly believe they are superior to women... the belief is so subtle that you'll only get hints of this mentality. Maybe they won't even admit it or sasabihin nila "medyo" lang.

[mcgirl04]

I think that men are visual and they can have sex without emotions. Women, on the other hand, would have to have emotional involvement somehow before they do the deed. So, if a man cheats, it wouldn't necessarily mean that he cares about the other woman. But if the woman cheats, most of the time, she has some feelings for the other guy.

And of course, I agree with above post that Filipino men do believe that they are above the women.

[dashingdevonair]

This was discussed by our legislators when they were enacting laws on adultery and concubinage.

The reason why mere sexual intercourse by a married woman with a man not her husband is a felony is because when a woman commits adultery, the husband is actually mocked and made fun of my society. When a man commits adultery, the woman is instead consoled and pitied by everyone.

[Jameaux]

Konti lang kasi lalake kaya malakas ang loob.

[scottstorch]

Mas mahirap kasi pag ang babae ang nangaliwa. Malaking kahihiyan sa asawa nya. Kadalasan mahal nanrin nya yung kabit at sasama na.
Pag ang lalake naman ang nagloko, uuwi pa rin naman sa tunay na misis nya.

[histrionic]

Philippines is stuck in the 19th century eh

kaya i admire strong-willed women who can stand on their own, whether its from a failed marriage or a failed life event.

You should also thank Zoloft

[ututina]

i think it's just second nature for some guys to think of women as inferior to him although he acts like he is a NICE GUY.

pilosopo minsan sumagot dahil hindi nila marecognize yung deficiency in proper conduct/fairness dahil nga second nature na to subconsciously think of women as with inferiority that they sometimes go as far as thinking girls won't be able to detect the unfairness of whatever.

my guess lang naman.

[Jameaux]

one time nagboil talaga yung blood ko.

i think it's just second nature for some guys to think of women as inferior to him although he acts like he is a NICE GUY.

pilosopo minsan sumagot dahil hindi nila marecognize yung deficiency in proper conduct/fairness dahil nga second nature na to subconsciously think of women as with inferiority that they sometimes go as far as thinking girls won't be able to detect the unfairness of whatever.

my guess lang naman.

Partly true but not always. Depende naman talaga sa girl yan. May mga babae na re-respetuhin mo talaga at meron namang hindi.