I am the father of a daughter, a practicing doctor of medicine; she wants to get married because she is getting on in years, 35 going to 36 years old.
So she met a guy who is the self-claimed operator of a small pancitan, but I can see that the eatery belongs to his mother; they three brothers and one mother live together in an apartment unit.
It seems he is the first brother to get married; he is as I learned from my daughter who is very secretive, about perhaps as old as 40 years old or maybe 38 years old.
What is the most appealing merit of this man?
My daughter keeps saying that he is very mabait.
Otherwise my daughter is very secretive about him and his background and where he lives.
I had to find out myself and took the trouble to locate his eatery and his home, which both are not re-assuring.
I have two homes in a village both damaged by Ondoy and not occupied at present.
So my daughter asked me to use one as their home.
Since I had wanted to sell both of them cheap because I don't need them and besides I am paying their property tax, and she and her groom to be are now interested (previously they were not interested because they thought that it is easy to get a decent place for a home after the wedding, and why should they live in a damaged home in a flood-prone location), I agreed on condition that they would take the care to restore the one they have chosen to live in, and to eventually also restore the other one and do something with it to earn money for themselves as also for me.
They agreed; and I also imposed upon them that next year and every year thereafter they will pay the property tax of the two homes, on land and improvement.
They have cleaned up the home they want to live in, now they are looking for a contractor to do the restoration work.
They have been searching for a contractor I think over two months already, and their wedding is set for November this year.
I noticed that during the cleaning up phase my daughter was the one spending for work payments to workers outside and things used during the cleaning process, but the guy would get two workers from his eatery to do most of the work that was not done by outsiders; the work of cleaning was done in I think 4 Saturdays.
Well, good, the place is not as bad as before the cleaning up.
Now, the search for a contractor, and the guy has been at it for as I said over two months.
He finally found a guy acceptable to himself and my daughter; then out of the blue this guy is asking an advance of only 15,000 pesos to get started; I heard on telephone my daughter telling him, "No, no advance."
But I fear my daughter will give in eventually.
I told her that from my and my wife her mother's very sad experience, it will be ever recurring advances until her budget is used up and the work is not yet completed; and when the guy sees that there is no more money coming, he will also no longer be coming to continue with the work of restoration, even abandoning his own men.
I am writing this thread as a record for myself and for her to read later when the guy stops coming owing to no more money from my daughter.
And I fear that at that point my daughter will want me to come out with my money.
I am a retired professor in my 70's but with savings with which I hope to keep myself alive and comfortable, and also to die comfortably with.
I fear that the guy his groom to be is a sweet-talker and in effect an exploiter.
Let us see what is going to turn out eventually.