Pariwarang Kapatid

[Daiju]

Do you have one? Share you experiences!

I love my brother but he's doesn't even care anymore if he graduates or not. In fact, naunahan ko pa siya grumaduate and it's already been a year. It's like he doesn't care about his future! I don't want to babysit in the future no, I have my own life!

[my_2_cents]

Kanya-kanyang buhay iyan; bahala siya sa buhay niya matanda na siya....

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my_2_cents

[juanito5354]

san parents nyo?

[MR.JOHANN]

Matigas na ang mga BUTO niya Bahala na siya sa buhay niya....

Go On With Your Life..( Based on my SEXPERIENCE)

[Daiju]

We live together with our parents, nako I just don't want him to be like my uncles na pensionado ng mommy ko na as if may patagong pera at nagagalit pa pag kulang ang binibigay.

[juanito5354]

malamang nga mangyari yon kasi nakikita nya sa ibang relatives mo.

kausapin mo malay mo machallenge mo at kumilos, bata pa at may buhay pa yan marami pang pag-asa.

[Daiju]

malamang nga mangyari yon kasi nakikita nya sa ibang relatives mo.

kausapin mo malay mo machallenge mo at kumilos, bata pa at may buhay pa yan marami pang pag-asa.

Galit pa pag kinausap mo, nako.

[my_2_cents]

Problema na niya iyan, basta ikaw magsumikap ka para umunlad ka. Wika nga, the BEST REVENGE is to LEAD a GOOD LIFE. Common sense lang ito.

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my_2_cents

[Daiju]

Problema na niya iyan, basta ikaw magsumikap ka para umunlad ka. Wika nga, the BEST REVENGE is to LEAD a GOOD LIFE. Common sense lang ito.

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my_2_cents

Hello? hindi ko naman siya kaaway?

[juanito5354]

magagalit nga kasi mas nauna ka pa nakatapos kesa sa kanya.

maybe not now marerealize nya naman yan at magsosorry pa sayo.

keep walking bro...

[bunny_boy]

Don't get me wrong but just because a person is not book smart or academically inclined makes him "pariwara" read: walang patutunguhan ang buhay. You see I have a cousin who is similar to your brother but worse. As in 3 of his younger siblings graduated before him (from college). He isn't smart to put it nicely and had a history of rebellious behavior but there's no denying that he is really good in business. Before he even graduated he was making his own money.

But if your brother is really patapon---> hindi na nga nag aaral walang pang ginagawa sa buhay i.e. work or at the very least aspirations or future goals then that is a problem.

I read from a post you made in another thread that you and your siblings are spoiled, add to that the fact that your mother acts as a milking cow to her brothers then that my friend makes for a disastrous combination.

Your mother is an enabler. Your brother and your uncles cannot continue with this type of behavior if your mother does not tolerate it. She needs to set boundaries and limits. Has your mother ever heard of the saying "Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day, teach a man to fish and he will eat for a lifetime." By not playing into their whims your mother will ultimately force them to change their ways lest they become poor (+ walang makain).

I have another cousin in a similar situation but this time she is the type na patapon (nakakailang transfer na ng universities) plus she was also rebellious. So her mom gave her an ultimatum if she did not change her ways and put her life straight (study hard, graduate, etch) then magkalimutan na sila and she will be asked to leave the family. This is despite the fact that they were WEALTHY in every sense of the word. But my aunt just didn't want her children growing up as good for nothings that will squander off their wealth when she dies. So my cousin ultimately had to comply (took her studies seriously, graduated and currently works).

You might want to talk to your mom about your concern and tell her she won't be there forever to support your brother. Or you can also go at it the other way. Talk to your brother to find out the real cause of his apparent lack of drive. Who knows maybe its a simple case of ayaw niya sa course niya.

Good luck TS

[Daiju]

Don't get me wrong but just because a person is not book smart or academically inclined makes him "pariwara" read: walang patutunguhan ang buhay. You see I have a cousin who is similar to your brother but worse. As in 3 of his younger siblings graduated before him (from college). He isn't smart to put it nicely and had a history of rebellious behavior but there's no denying that he is really good in business. Before he even graduated he was making his own money.

But if your brother is really patapon---> hindi na nga nag aaral walang pang ginagawa sa buhay i.e. work or at the very least aspirations or future goals then that is a problem.

I read from a post you made in another thread that you and your siblings are spoiled, add to that the fact that your mother acts as a milking cow to her brothers then that my friend makes for a disastrous combination.

Your mother is an enabler. Your brother and your uncles cannot continue with this type of behavior if your mother does not tolerate it. She needs to set boundaries and limits. Has your mother ever heard of the saying "Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day, teach a man to fish and he will eat for a lifetime." By not playing into their whims your mother will ultimately force them to change their ways lest they become poor (+ walang makain).

I have another cousin in a similar situation but this time she is the type na patapon (nakakailang transfer na ng universities) plus she was also rebellious. So her mom gave her an ultimatum if she did not change her ways and put her life straight (study hard, graduate, etch) then magkalimutan na sila and she will be asked to leave the family. This is despite the fact that they were WEALTHY in every sense of the word. But my aunt just didn't want her children growing up as good for nothings that will squander off their wealth when she dies. So my cousin ultimately had to comply (took her studies seriously, graduated and currently works).

You might want to talk to your mom about your concern and tell her she won't be there forever to support your brother. Or you can also go at it the other way. Talk to your brother to find out the real cause of his apparent lack of drive. Who knows maybe its a simple case of ayaw niya sa course niya.

Good luck TS

I did talk to my mom like a million times already and she just won't listen and say "anong gusto mo gawin ko? Pabayaan ko yung mga tito mo mamatay sa gutom?!"

Oh God please.

[juanito5354]

ok na yun bro at least hindi ka nagkulang sa payo...intindihin mo na lang yung buhay mo.

[Nietono_no_Shana]

@Daiju

Answer your mother yes, if they don't care what will happen to them why should you?

And tell her that it is setting a bad example to your brother, what will happen if she cannot provide their whims anymore? If she still don't understand it then its time to move out just to avoid conflict as you will always be irritated with the situation. I'm sorry to say but your mother wont see the problem until it hit her in the face.