Ever had the feeling that you're wearing a welcome mat t-shirt for so long?
I just realized this recently with three instances involving relatives and friends.
Case 1: A friend who seems forever in financial doldrums. I can rely on him to be at my front gate early in the morning every 15th to borrow money. Nagbabayad naman, yun nga lang ako pa pupunta sa kanya para kunin ang bayad. He fixes my scooter kaya ang payment bawas sa utang. Kaya ayun sira ang scooter ko ayoko nang ipaayos sa kanya. Ngayong 15th hindi napadaan. Nag-text. Kung pwede daw puntahan ko siya at wala daw siyang pang gas. Ayos!
Case 2: An older relative who I've been helping out with odd jobs in her house. I fix the small toilet fixture issues and minor car issues so she could save money from hiring professional help for these chores. Alam niyang hindi ko siya matatanggihan sa mga ganung issues dahil ninang ko siya. Ngayon she's using those SOS signals to bait me to go there so she can borrow money. And wants me to drive her friend to Tagaytay this weekend. As in driver ako. Eating driver food and hanging around with family drivers. Ayos2!
Case 3: A brother-in-law who thinks he's got all the answers to everything (opinionated). "Unfiltered" (his exact term) in telling what he feels about our side of the family. I wish I can be "unfiltered" with him and tell him he's a useless, ugly S.O.B. who's sure to kill himself if other people close to him goes unfiltered with him. Wants me to meet him somewhere "midway" to talk about a family crisis. Yes, "midway" in a park in their village 11 kms from my house! He has 2 cars and he wants me to bike (mountain bike) 11 kms to a park near his house. Midway (my car is coding, scooter is being repaired). Unfucking believable! Gusto ko nang barahin kaso ako aawayin ng kapatid ko. Ayos3
Incognito na ako sa Case 1 and Case 2 and am hardening my heart and have started to ignore them. Etong si bayaw ang mahirap ispelengin. Sabi ko hindi talaga ako pwede today of all days. Sabi niya "It's nice knowing you." Okay. Thanks?
Yup. That's my own genuine dilemma. Pagbigyan niyo na ako at wala lang akong makwentohan. I wish I can point these people to this forum para mas madali ko sila mabara.