When is enough enough?

[Jys0204]

When is it okay to walk away from your marriage? I have made all efforts to save our marriage but my husband never learns to trust me. I have been faithul althoughout our relationship and marriage but he always finds faults in me and calls me degratory names. I have tried to understand him and i extended my patience but each person has a limit, a breaking point. And i am about to break from all his false accusations and name calling. I dont know what to do.i dont want to give up because i really did take my vows in front of God and our family and friends seriously. But i cant be feeling this way anymore. God help me.

[McNasty]

To say that you're in a tough spot is an understatement. I mean, you are married and you should brave any and all storms that come by that test your union. But I don't think your husband is ever going to change. And sadly, I sense that he was psychologically unfit to enter into Matrimony. To be angry at you if he found out you cheated or lied is one thing, but he shouldn't be taking out his infidelity issues with his exgf with you, the woman he married. I find that iffy.

[Jys0204]

To say that you're in a tough spot is an understatement. I mean, you are married and you should brave any and all storms that come by that test your union. But I don't think your husband is ever going to change. And sadly, I sense that he was psychologically unfit to enter into Matrimony. To be angry at you if he found out you cheated or lied is one thing, but he shouldn't be taking out his infidelity issues with his exgf with you, the woman he married. I find that iffy.

I told him that if he had issues with his ex, he should not take it out on me because im not doing anything wrong. Pero ngayon may bagong gimmik si husband. He's threatening to leave because ive been lying to him daw. Of course, to him im lying kse di naman siya naniniwala in anything i tell him or explain to him. Naubos na talaga pasensya ko.

[F-A Soldier]

"Enough enough"? Well shouldn't you know that? Kinda stupid if you ask me. Seems like you just want to parade your problem because despite how much you hate the situation you're just gonna let it continue. Like a ghost venting it's regrets. (Paraphrased from Mark Twain. )

Am I right or am I right?

[McNasty]

I told him that if he had issues with his ex, he should not take it out on me because im not doing anything wrong. Pero ngayon may bagong gimmik si husband. He's threatening to leave because ive been lying to him daw. Of course, to him im lying kse di naman siya naniniwala in anything i tell him or explain to him. Naubos na talaga pasensya ko.

Stop. I get it. You're a victim. Boo-Hoo! Your husband's ex cheated on him and he's treating you like how he wishes he could have treated his ex in the aftermath of her infidelity. He's taking out on you what he wishes he could have taken out on his ex and that blows. But he's living out his dream. Do you know how fortunate she is that she does not have to deal with this?

I trust that you know what the smart thing to do is.

[my_2_cents]

May asawa na, ex- pa rin ang issue? PALAYASIN na iyan!

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my_2_cents

[irubyou]

May mga pagkakataong nakakairita talaga ang mga asawa. At times we say ENOUGH is ENOUGH pero hindi ganon kadali. Lots to consider.

[irubyou]

Check also possibilities of "projection". I mean he might be doing what he's trying to accuse you. Thinkers are doers sabi nga nila.

[hooney]

pumapayag ka kase na ganyanin ka niya, bakit hindi ka lumaban?hindi ka na nga niya tinuturing na better half eh hindi ka pa niya itinuturing na tao?we all have a choice kahit pa may mga anak kayo layasan mo yan para malaman niya kung anu ang nawala sa kanya

[Nils]

"Honey, since hindi ka naniniwala sa mga sinasabiko sa iyo at ayoko naman ng asawang mali mali ang sinasabi, sige, gagawin ko yang mga sinasabi mo para di ka maging mali sa mga bintang mo"

[vincex]

Possibilities:
1. It is possible that he wants out. that's his style of trying to leave you.
2. if what you say is true, and it is not scenario #1 above, then he is a real douchebag. if you have common sense, you should leave.

[pushpop]

that's emotional and psychological abuse, and if you let him continue doing that to you, eventually you will see yourself in the same light as he does and it's near impossible to recover from that.

better leave now while you still can. good luck TS

[purpleheadd07]

"If two people love each other, but they just can't seem to get it together, when do you get to that point of enough is enough?"

"Never."

The Mexican (crappy movie by the way hehe)

but you are married, you as a couple should talk about this and work on it, it won't make sense if you are alone in this. maybe you'd like to go back to that time when you first decided to get married, what made you want to stick it out with him the rest of your life?

[speedsterdemon]

You guys need some time away from each other. If he wants to leave, let him. It will give you guys time to think and refresh. If he still treats you the same after a period of time of absence from each other, its time you think hard about your marriage whether its worth living hell for the rest of your life.

[simplelangako82]

If you 're miserable and there no hope at all of it getting in better, than the only sane thing to do is throw in the towel and call it quits, if you can't have a happy marriage you can at least have peace of mind.

[enaej426]

let him have his cake and eat it too... in the end you'll know who is the loser.

[monster88]

When is it okay to walk away from your marriage?

If he is already physically abusing you?

Kung puro dak dak lang, pwede pa pag usapan yan o mag pa marriage counsel kayo. O isumbong mo sa women and children help desk for verbal abuse.

[vincex]

Many times, the verbal abuse can be more damaging than the physical. but the most damaging of all, is the mental....

what part of the mental? .. The part called stupidity when the person didn't know what she was getting into.

[lancealmekian]

^lol chicken and egg conundrum na naman yan dre. a different topic altogether. dapat may magstart ng bagong thread dyan.

@ts
when's enough enough? get your spouse to look into your eyes without turning away, and you do the same. do it for as long as you can. then start talking. if the only things you can talk about are the negatives, then end it.

if, in the first place, you can't even get your spouse to look you in the eye and/or hold your gaze for more than a couple minutes, that's another reason (a bigger one) to say goodbye. rationale: people who don't like each other can hardly look into each other's eyes.

[love_always]

i totally feel you. hearing every possible bad thing you can hear and doing all the thing u can possibly do.. pero isa lang narealize ko being in that position, marriage would never work if you are just the only one making effort. so if you feel you are already in you breaking point, baka mas mabuting save yourself from what could possibly change you forever, and sadly that change may be very different from who you maybe.. so save yourself, that marriage maybe evrything for you and that vow is something that represent us and our dreams but, its not a one man decision and action. just be open always but learn to walk in a better road even if you'll be alone in that road.