LDR (long distance relationship)

[hobgoblin]

OK pala, good for you. Ang swerte, deserve mo yan. Yun nga lang, hindi lahat ng love story, katulad ng iyo -- fairy tale, happy ending. May in sa circle of the lucky ones. Ako doon ako sa isa, sa dun sa kabaliktaran. Regardless though, hindi ibig sabihin na pag hindi happy ending eh, final ending na.

hindi naman kasi minamadali ang pakikpagrelasyon, wag pumasok sa relasyon para lang masabing may relasyon, LDR, kung mauwi man sa hiwalayan sadyang di lang siguro laan sa isa't isa.

[siathens]

caio , the woman is playing with your emotions , wag ka na padala sa kanyang act , baka lonesome lang yan kasi hindi available yung "rich friend" niya dun .
let her go , wag mo na lang kausapin , or maging cold ka na din sa kanya , you deserve better .

Totally! Very well said. Wala ng sugar coat - sugar coat.

[Imen]

she is at SG now...imagine...6 yrs in 3 months tapos ang usapan...same issue hirap mag-txt..busy daw..i mean lunch break di makapindot ng 2 letters na "hi"? or "musta ka na?" pero when i visted her there at di nya alam na hinhintay ko sya mag-out sa work nya sinisilip ko sya and i see her checking her phone out..ibig sabihin ayaw nya na talaga.period...

basta wag ka na umasa..ako i threw away our 6 yrs of memories na...i wenti nto clinical depression pa kaya...it is very hard..up to now i'm still getting treatment for what she's done to me...masakit but i have to live my life din naman...ano ako *****?sya nag-eenjoy at di ako iniisip aklo praning dito thinking of her??? mag-isip ka ng pangit about him..ako that's what i do kahit sobra ganda nya iniisip ko na lang yung masasama sakanya when we wre together..yung ika nga turn off moments...

Haynako eto na caiomhin eto na nagkausap kami the other day he seemed to be in good spirit kaya i ceased the moment to confront him about our situation, ayun I asked him ano ba talaga status namin tapos sabi baket daw masyado ako concerned sa status namin parang ang babaw ko daw sinabi ko lang naman sa kanya I just want to know where I stand kasi nga nahihirapan nako kasi never naman namin naclarify kung ano talaga kami labo talaga kapag laki sa bansa epal lang. So he finally admitted na hes really having a hard time with our LDR situation since hes busy nga (he got promoted pa) and the time difference bla bla sabi ko ako din nahihirapan din naman pero nag-eeffort naman ako kahit papaano.

Then I told him na I notice he doesnt say I love you anymore the first few weeks oo he tells me he loves me pero when he started working na ulet wala ng i love you, sagot nya saken Im sorry I dont want to say if I dont mean it matagal na kita hindi nakikita and im not sure if I still feel the same If mahal pa kita. Tinanung pako bakit daw nagmamadali ako maging in a relationship with him sabi ko di ako nagmamadali gusto ko lang malaman talaga yung kung ano kami sabi nya sakin kung talagang gusto mo na magkaron ng ka-relasyon dahil hindi mo nako mahihintay then go on do your thing okay lang naamn sakin naiintindihan kita.

Ako naman si baliw sagot ko sa kanya hihintayin naman kita eh yung ang promise ko sayo mahihintay naman kita eh tapos sabi nya malapit na naman daw sya umuwi (september) pag nagkita kami tignan namen kung may something kung may mangyayari.

So basically right now were friends, all along akala ko kami yun pala friends lang. I should have asked him nung una palang para di nako nahirapan aba ilang linggo din ako nag-eemo kasi nga ang communication namen pabawas ng pabawas. Ayun naiintindihan ko na ngayon baket sya ganun baket walang effort kasi wala na sya nararamdaman.

Magmomove on nako from this masyado na nacompromise happiness ko for him.Hindi naman ako galit sa kanya siguro lang hindi talaga meant to be kaming dalawa. Masakit pero you know sa mga gantong situation we just have the move the f**ck on.

Im trying to keep my self busy the past few weeks I hang out a lot with his cousin ngayon babawasan ko na makipagkita sa pinsan nya para wala nako marinig. Pag tumawag sya edi okay kakausapin ko pero hindi nako magtetext or mageeffort for him.

Hay ang sakit. Sorry ang haba ng post..

[caiomhin]

caio , the woman is playing with your emotions , wag ka na padala sa kanyang act , baka lonesome lang yan kasi hindi available yung "rich friend" niya dun .
let her go , wag mo na lang kausapin , or maging cold ka na din sa kanya , you deserve better .

thank you...ako kasi si dumb@ss still sends good AM notes etc to her skype...she even said, "we'd still communicate of course but don't expect frequently" THE PHUCK?!!! ano ako, someone she just had a fling with???parang the 6 yrs were like 6 friggin days to her...weird...

thanks again i appreciate that enaej..you and siathens!

[caiomhin]

Haynako eto na caiomhin eto na nagkausap kami the other day he seemed to be in good spirit kaya i ceased the moment to confront him about our situation, ayun I asked him ano ba talaga status namin tapos sabi baket daw masyado ako concerned sa status namin parang ang babaw ko daw sinabi ko lang naman sa kanya I just want to know where I stand kasi nga nahihirapan nako kasi never naman namin naclarify kung ano talaga kami labo talaga kapag laki sa bansa epal lang. So he finally admitted na hes really having a hard time with our LDR situation since hes busy nga (he got promoted pa) and the time difference bla bla sabi ko ako din nahihirapan din naman pero nag-eeffort naman ako kahit papaano.

Then I told him na I notice he doesnt say I love you anymore the first few weeks oo he tells me he loves me pero when he started working na ulet wala ng i love you, sagot nya saken Im sorry I dont want to say if I dont mean it matagal na kita hindi nakikita and im not sure if I still feel the same If mahal pa kita. Tinanung pako bakit daw nagmamadali ako maging in a relationship with him sabi ko di ako nagmamadali gusto ko lang malaman talaga yung kung ano kami sabi nya sakin kung talagang gusto mo na magkaron ng ka-relasyon dahil hindi mo nako mahihintay then go on do your thing okay lang naamn sakin naiintindihan kita.

Ako naman si baliw sagot ko sa kanya hihintayin naman kita eh yung ang promise ko sayo mahihintay naman kita eh tapos sabi nya malapit na naman daw sya umuwi (september) pag nagkita kami tignan namen kung may something kung may mangyayari.

So basically right now were friends, all along akala ko kami yun pala friends lang. I should have asked him nung una palang para di nako nahirapan aba ilang linggo din ako nag-eemo kasi nga ang communication namen pabawas ng pabawas. Ayun naiintindihan ko na ngayon baket sya ganun baket walang effort kasi wala na sya nararamdaman.

Magmomove on nako from this masyado na nacompromise happiness ko for him.Hindi naman ako galit sa kanya siguro lang hindi talaga meant to be kaming dalawa. Masakit pero you know sa mga gantong situation we just have the move the f**ck on.

Im trying to keep my self busy the past few weeks I hang out a lot with his cousin ngayon babawasan ko na makipagkita sa pinsan nya para wala nako marinig. Pag tumawag sya edi okay kakausapin ko pero hindi nako magtetext or mageeffort for him.

Hay ang sakit. Sorry ang haba ng post..

good imen!!! do that: get out more..hang out with good peeps...scratch him out of your mind...ako i started getting back into the dating scene...AFTER THOUSANDS OF YRS i tried it na last night...like a whole new world...WOOOW....whenever he enters your mind, think of other good things...ako i think of my baby (whom i don't see kaya puro imagination) whenever thoughts of our "moments" invade my peace...medyo magastos but i needed to be surrounded by noise and good peeps..ayun...PM me lang chong if you need a drinking buddy or yung maingay, hehehe...i can do that! we have no other option but to force them out of our system eh...oh EB na tayo dito...inom sessions...

[Imen]

good imen!!! do that: get out more..hang out with good peeps...scratch him out of your mind...ako i started getting back into the dating scene...AFTER THOUSANDS OF YRS i tried it na last night...like a whole new world...WOOOW....whenever he enters your mind, think of other good things...ako i think of my baby (whom i don't see kaya puro imagination) whenever thoughts of our "moments" invade my peace...medyo magastos but i needed to be surrounded by noise and good peeps..ayun...PM me lang chong if you need a drinking buddy or yung maingay, hehehe...i can do that! we have no other option but to force them out of our system eh...oh EB na tayo dito...inom sessions...

Hahaha inom kagad? umiiwas ngako sa alak kasi it f**cks up my mind. Nababaliw ako pag nakainom kung ano ano naiisip ko kaya iwas muna sa alak exercise lang tanging outlet ko HAHA.

Naiinis ako kasi yung katawan ko nakaprogram parin na tuwing madaling araw nagigising (kasi tumatawag yun saken noon ng madaling araw) napapacheck ako ng fone ko ng di oras nakakayamot nakakatulog naman ulet ako pero pag gising pakiramdam mo parang kulang ka sa tulog haha. Like the other day nagtext sya saken parang very casual friendly text e di naman nagtetext saken yun! may tinanung lang tapos nun wala na di na nagreply aynako. Mind f**ck.

[abusado23]

Hahaha inom kagad? umiiwas ngako sa alak kasi it f**cks up my mind. Nababaliw ako pag nakainom kung ano ano naiisip ko kaya iwas muna sa alak exercise lang tanging outlet ko HAHA.

Naiinis ako kasi yung katawan ko nakaprogram parin na tuwing madaling araw nagigising (kasi tumatawag yun saken noon ng madaling araw) napapacheck ako ng fone ko ng di oras nakakayamot nakakatulog naman ulet ako pero pag gising pakiramdam mo parang kulang ka sa tulog haha. Like the other day nagtext sya saken parang very casual friendly text e di naman nagtetext saken yun! may tinanung lang tapos nun wala na di na nagreply aynako. Mind f**ck.

Keep yourself busy..in time you'll get over it and you can sleep soundly..

about the phone..turn if off and keep it away from you so that you won't be tempt to check it..

[caiomhin]

Hahaha inom kagad? umiiwas ngako sa alak kasi it f**cks up my mind. Nababaliw ako pag nakainom kung ano ano naiisip ko kaya iwas muna sa alak exercise lang tanging outlet ko HAHA.

Naiinis ako kasi yung katawan ko nakaprogram parin na tuwing madaling araw nagigising (kasi tumatawag yun saken noon ng madaling araw) napapacheck ako ng fone ko ng di oras nakakayamot nakakatulog naman ulet ako pero pag gising pakiramdam mo parang kulang ka sa tulog haha. Like the other day nagtext sya saken parang very casual friendly text e di naman nagtetext saken yun! may tinanung lang tapos nun wala na di na nagreply aynako. Mind f**ck.

haay nako..same here...it's been months i know but each night i had to tire myself out to the point na naduduling nako kasi i still see her holgraphic body sleeping beside me..st times my hand reaches out to an empty space kasi we used to sleep holding hands...and in the middle of the night i would hug her while she sleeps just taking in her scent and i'd smile...then in the morning i wake up to her sleeping face and caress her cheeks and hair then kiss her lips very gently...

i would wake up each morning still seeing that happening..it's killing me each time...dunno how to get that otta my mind..then this new song my band wants me to sing, "when she was mine" pa...damn...thus i go back to my alcohol...when i don't rly drink much before...

[caiomhin]

Keep yourself busy..in time you'll get over it and you can sleep soundly..

about the phone..turn if off and keep it away from you so that you won't be tempt to check it..

bro...i even stopped using the sheets we used to have...i threw away her perfumes...her clothes...but 6 yrs of that pattern and your body seeks it out involuntarily...i can't believe she got over THAT so easily...when she knew what i went through with my ex of..wld you believe 11 yrs naman???? i was devastated and she did it to me too...all coz of a friggin LDR crap...w/c she said she'll never do to us..

[caiomhin]

bro...i even stopped using the sheets we used to have...i threw away her perfumes...her clothes...but 6 yrs of that pattern and your body seeks it out involuntarily...i can't believe she got over THAT so easily...when she knew what i went through with my ex of..wld you believe 11 yrs naman???? i was devastated and she did it to me too...all coz of a friggin LDR crap...w/c she said she'll never do to us..

magve-vent lang ako mga peeps... nang-aasar pa talaga ang tadhana sa akin oh...just 5 mins ago i got a call from this HR from a certain company...she was looking for my ex...i was surprised and then i remembered before she left pinas she was borrowing my number too kasi di gumagan phone nya (so we were sharing phones)....

it felt weird and heavy to hear her full name being mentioned and asked from me...all our past memories came flooding back...when the phone call ended i cried...i'm back to feeling gloomy again...damn it...and i couldn't tell her how much she left me besides her stuff i had to get rod of by myself...now it's the damned calls looking for her (3x na yan eh!)..how do i deal with this sh!t diba???

[enaej426]

awwww ....grabe talaga yan caio..

Pero you have To have Deal with it face on . It's the Acceptance of the Reality na it's over and you have to move on.

Para naman dun sa mga things ni ex , why not set-up a Garage Sale .. hehe . It will help you get rid of her stuffs , me money ka pa .

ano?

[kleenexlambot]

TS, refrain from being emotional kasi. Eh ano ngayon kung may phone call regarding your ex? Normal lang yan kasi nag share kayo ng no. dati. wag mong lagyan ng meaning ang lahat ng bagay....tapos na kayo kaya tapos na dapat.

[siathens]

bro...i even stopped using the sheets we used to have...i threw away her perfumes...her clothes...but 6 yrs of that pattern and your body seeks it out involuntarily...i can't believe she got over THAT so easily...when she knew what i went through with my ex of..wld you believe 11 yrs naman???? i was devastated and she did it to me too...all coz of a friggin LDR crap...w/c she said she'll never do to us..

It's undesrtandable -- that 6 years is 6 wonderful meaningful years. But heck, marami pang years ahead of you, and if right now, you'd start to move on, and detach yourself from the past, you won't believe how much a surprise it would all be. (I am starting to get carried away na---) Nagawa ka nga ipagpalit in a snap eh, keep that as motivation to move on!! Tama nang na hurt ka, but don't live your life in pain, kase, sayang naman. Hindi dahil na hurt ka many times in the past (with the highest of intensities) eh hindi ka na pwede maing masaya. Now I feel like talking cliches, pero totoo naman. Take it from me, I have been through the worst!

[siathens]

TS, refrain from being emotional kasi. Eh ano ngayon kung may phone call regarding your ex? Normal lang yan kasi nag share kayo ng no. dati. wag mong lagyan ng meaning ang lahat ng bagay....tapos na kayo kaya tapos na dapat.

I agree. It was good while it lasted. Tapos. Hindi naman tayo nagllive in the past right?! The laws of physics require us to live at present. Now I am talking physics, I must be crazy! Don't let your emotions eat you up. If the emotions are getting bad for you, control them (or at least try), use your brain. It will take a lot of effort and hardwork, but surprisingly, doable naman Cheers!

[siathens]

magve-vent lang ako mga peeps... nang-aasar pa talaga ang tadhana sa akin oh...just 5 mins ago i got a call from this HR from a certain company...she was looking for my ex...i was surprised and then i remembered before she left pinas she was borrowing my number too kasi di gumagan phone nya (so we were sharing phones)....

it felt weird and heavy to hear her full name being mentioned and asked from me...all our past memories came flooding back...when the phone call ended i cried...i'm back to feeling gloomy again...damn it...and i couldn't tell her how much she left me besides her stuff i had to get rod of by myself...now it's the damned calls looking for her (3x na yan eh!)..how do i deal with this sh!t diba???

Hahaha! Funny how fate makes a joke out of life! Ganun talaga.. How do you deal with that sh!+? Internalize the meaning of "so what?!?!?!?"

[caiomhin]

awwww ....grabe talaga yan caio..

Pero you have To have Deal with it face on . It's the Acceptance of the Reality na it's over and you have to move on.

Para naman dun sa mga things ni ex , why not set-up a Garage Sale .. hehe . It will help you get rid of her stuffs , me money ka pa .

ano?

done! earned like 10K (and growing) kasi expensive stuff nya...she used to model kaya nabenta pa shoes and clothes...tinapon ko lang yung super meaningful na bad vibes na...pati expensive jewelry nya kasi binenta naman nya yung Geess watch na bigay ko sa kanya to get into that friggin country...

It's undesrtandable -- that 6 years is 6 wonderful meaningful years. But heck, marami pang years ahead of you, and if right now, you'd start to move on, and detach yourself from the past, you won't believe how much a surprise it would all be. (I am starting to get carried away na---) Nagawa ka nga ipagpalit in a snap eh, keep that as motivation to move on!! Tama nang na hurt ka, but don't live your life in pain, kase, sayang naman. Hindi dahil na hurt ka many times in the past (with the highest of intensities) eh hindi ka na pwede maing masaya. Now I feel like talking cliches, pero totoo naman. Take it from me, I have been through the worst!

thank you...much appreciated!!! i'm trying to date again or at least get to know people...get back on my lost social life when i was too focused on her...

[caiomhin]

awwww ....grabe talaga yan caio..

Pero you have To have Deal with it face on . It's the Acceptance of the Reality na it's over and you have to move on.

Para naman dun sa mga things ni ex , why not set-up a Garage Sale .. hehe . It will help you get rid of her stuffs , me money ka pa .

ano?

TS, refrain from being emotional kasi. Eh ano ngayon kung may phone call regarding your ex? Normal lang yan kasi nag share kayo ng no. dati. wag mong lagyan ng meaning ang lahat ng bagay....tapos na kayo kaya tapos na dapat.

thank you...YES..TAPOS NA KAMI!TAPOS NA KAMI!

[siathens]

hindi naman kasi minamadali ang pakikpagrelasyon, wag pumasok sa relasyon para lang masabing may relasyon, LDR, kung mauwi man sa hiwalayan sadyang di lang siguro laan sa isa't isa.

Yes ganun lang ka simple. I probably deserve someone better or someone worse (huwag naman sana), but to keep it short and simple, we're not meant for each other!

[Imen]

magve-vent lang ako mga peeps... nang-aasar pa talaga ang tadhana sa akin oh...just 5 mins ago i got a call from this HR from a certain company...she was looking for my ex...i was surprised and then i remembered before she left pinas she was borrowing my number too kasi di gumagan phone nya (so we were sharing phones)....

it felt weird and heavy to hear her full name being mentioned and asked from me...all our past memories came flooding back...when the phone call ended i cried...i'm back to feeling gloomy again...damn it...and i couldn't tell her how much she left me besides her stuff i had to get rod of by myself...now it's the damned calls looking for her (3x na yan eh!)..how do i deal with this sh!t diba???

Dont over annalyze bruv, nagkataon lang na ganyan e ikaw na nagsabi na ginamit nya phone mo noon kaya nangyari yan. Sana sinabi mo nalaglag yung ex mo sa manhole at di mo alam kung nasan na sya ngayon choz!

[Imen]

Keep yourself busy..in time you'll get over it and you can sleep soundly..

about the phone..turn if off and keep it away from you so that you won't be tempt to check it..

Tried that didnt work. Parang automatic na din kamay ko once magising nirereach out kagad yung fone ko hahaha.

I find it kinda weird na these past few days parang ang positive ko parang ang happy ko na ewan minsan ninenerbyos ako lalo na kapag the whole day ang saya saya ko kasi usually in the end may nangyayaring aberya may pahabol na badtrip. Maybe its because I exercise at night? Effect ba ng Endorphin ito? haha