DUMB LOVE: I still love her and want her back even after she cheated on me.

[gamblingpinoy]

Di ba dapat love would conquer pride?

[iamlester]

But when I asked her again, she said YES.

It was a short fling, and they did try to make their relationship work again. Unfortunately, she chose me over him, and she also felt guilty/bad for betraying me.


I keep thinking of like... She chose me over his ex which means that she loves me more than him? Or am I just being stupid? I need some words of wisdom here! thanks!

Youre Stupid period. Niloko ka na alin doon di mo maintindihan?

[blue_tracer]

puwede mo lunukin ang pride, sige alang-alang sa love.. fine.

pero papano ang STDs, kung panay ang pa-simple nitong babae? patawid-tawid siya ganun? mabuti kung basta simpleng tulo lang ang mga sakit ngayon. susmiyo HIV/AIDS na.

anyway, it's your call.

[jazzmine22]

You're just being Stupid.

[hamsterson]

dude wake up di lolokohin mo lang sarili mo kung maghahabol ka pa alam mo ng niloko ka bakit ka pa mag hahabol, at kung sakali nga at kung ano naman gagawin mo kung uulitin niya lang ang panloloko niya sayo? mamahalin mo parin ba siya? tama na yung maging t*nga ka ng isang beses pero pag ginawa na ng maraming beses pa magising ka na.

[JaPino]

I won't say anything harsh like telling you that you are stupid... I will leave it up to you to decide after you read this. I know exactly how you feel bro! You are blinded to what you thought is love but it is actually only an infatuation. Pls. be patient enough to read this because i assure you that in some way, it will bring light into your confusion.

The BIG difference between love and infatuation... Don't be fooled by your feelings right now. Try to analyze it and give it time. Hindi kailangan magmadali. You might end up feeling sorry for yourself or even worst, you might even regret your decision.

Infatuation is ruled by feelings, but love's feelings are ruled by principle. In the field of infatuation, the feelings are in charge. But the problem is that our feelings are fickle. Nagbabago, nawawala, nagpapalit, madaling nalilimot. They change easily.

Today I feel great, so I kiss her. Tomorrow I feel terrible, so I kick her. Hindi yun love!.

True love has feelings, tender feelings that are put in the human heart by a caring God.

But love is not composed of feelings only. It is feeling plus principle.

Moreover, love is not controlled by feelings. It does not do anything and everything it feels.

Rather, in true love, the feelings are under control of principle.

One of the grandest descriptions of love is found in Scripture.



Here it is:

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude!

It is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love is not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, and always perseveres" (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

Then comes the profound statement, "Love never fails" (verse8).

Infatuation is blind, but love sees and examines. Like Cupid, Infatuation is blind.

It cannot see and does not wish to see! When a man recognizes that his girlfriend is cheating, but still proceeds with the relationship, Cupid has wounded him!

When a girl observes her boyfriend flirting continuously with other women but still goes ahead with the love affair, infatuation has blinded her! Jesus asked, "Do you have eyes, but fail to see?" (Mark 8:18). True love uses his eyes to see and to examine the strengths and weaknesses of the prospective partner. It is not afraid to ask hard questions or to do difficult examinations!

Infatuation is in a hurry, but love takes time. A very very long time! Everything of permanent value in life takes time. Walang short-cuts!

We can build a shack overnight, but if we are building a house that will stand the fury of a hurricane, that takes time. We can put up an artificial Christmas tree overnight, but to grow a real tree, that takes time. It has to be planted, watered and nourished for weeks, months, or years.

Love is a plant - a tender precious plant. Infatuation is ever in a hurry: see her today, court her tomorrow, and marry her the day after! It's Love at first sight. It's puppy love. Love is faithful. Hindi porket nag away kayo pwede ka mo na ipalusot na gumaganti ka lang at nagpapalipas ng oras.

And someone has rightly said, "Puppy love leads to a dog's life" But while this puppy love is in a hurry, true love takes time - time to know and time to grow. Knowing a person always takes time and there is no easy-fast ***. Growing a relationship takes time, and God expects couples in love to "grow-up" (Ephesians 4:15). Infatuation is obsessed with externals, but love is concerned with internals.

"Puppy love" is obsessed with the figure, is a slave to the fashion, and is intoxicated with sex appeal. In fact, where infatuation reigns, sex dominates the relationship. True love sees the totality of a person. True love admires the figure appreciates appropriate fashion, and anticipates sexual intimacy within the bond of marriage.

But these are not the greatest concerns of true love. True love is more concerned with the personality, the kind of person the partner really is. Love examines the habits, the virtues or vices.

True love pays attention to the character, the inner self. This love, which comes God, tries to look at a person the same way God looks at people. "Man Looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart" (1 Samuel 16:7). While we cannot read a person's heart, our concern should be more with the beauty of character rather than the beauty of figure. Infatuation is childish, but love is mature. Childish and selfish, this "puppy love" says, " Give me", with little or no concern for the other.

It self- centered. But true love is other-centered. Iniisip ang kapakanan ng kapareha at di pang sarili lamang, It is concerned with the welfare of one's partner. Childish and irresponsible, infatuation says, "I don't understand the word " tomorrow; give it to me now!" It cries for gratification today, regardless of the consequences later.

On the other hand, true love refrains from enjoying today that which it will regret tomorrow. Infatuation thinks " like a child" and behaves like a child, but true love is mature - it has " put childish ways behind" (1 Corinthians 13:11) Infatuation is a human ditch, but love! Is a divine ladder.

One goes down, the other goes up. Infatuation is a ditch into which blindfolded people fall, but love is a ladder onto which wide-eyed people climb. In a certain sense, we do not " fall" in love; we climb on to love. True love does not come by accident; it involves effort. It takes thinking and working and caring. So, while infatuation is a human pit, true love is divine ladder. And every person has the freedom to choose between the tragedy of one and the triumph of the other...



So now... Do you still think you are in love? How can you love a person who betrays your trust? It may hurt a while but be strong... Mas may nakalaang tao na mas karapat-dapat sa pagmamahal mo at di ka sasaktan. God bless and hope that mabigyan ka ng wisdom to choose and decide what is right.

[icemanila]

A M E N (been there, done that...and still doing it). In an IDEAL WORLD, you can let your love prevails... but reality, konti *** succesful sa second try. most of the times it fails. a player will always be a player even though you learn to trust her again...the thing is it repeats by itself. turned out to be a vicious cycle. well its all your call if you wanted to give it a try... but make sure you'll be able to face the consequences in return, physiologically

[ngf_0524]

kung magiging maayos kayo,
1 thing for sure pag nagaway kayo lagi mo iooopen yan..
isipin mo din, na nagwa na nya yan *** more soon..

ive been there.. i understand what you feel..