DUMB LOVE: I still love her and want her back even after she cheated on me.

[siulmart93]

Just 3 weeks ago, there were rumors that my girlfriend for almost 6 months cheated on me with her ex.

When I asked her for the first time, she said it's not true AT ALL.

But when I asked her again, she said YES.

It was a short fling, and they did try to make their relationship work again. Unfortunately, she chose me over him, and she also felt guilty/bad for betraying me.

I was so mad and decided to break up with her.

However, just recently, I asked her to be with me again. She said NO for now. I was actually hoping she would say YES, but NO..?

So I'm kinda wooing her again, starting to courtship stage again...

This might sounds stupid but I feel like it was my fault? I shouldn't have broken up with her?

I keep thinking of like... She chose me over his ex which means that she loves me more than him? Or am I just being stupid? I need some words of wisdom here! thanks!

[pushpop]

Her having a fling with her ex shows she's not really over him yet. Her "choosing" you over him doesn't mean she loves you more - it means she hasn't gotten over her issues with her ex yet.

Her saying no to you now means she's still hoping to fix things with her ex.

Sorry. Hanap ka na lang ng iba. Good luck

[barelythere]

uh no, I beg to disagree lol. It ain't the love that is dumb, go figure.

I mean, isn't the fact that she "reunited" with her ex while in a relationsh!t with you an enough proof or ground that you should break if off with her?

So ok, she denied the first time that the rumors were untrue, idk probably coz she was afraid of how you would react but then not really considering on how it would make you feel (ouch!). I mean how sure were you that she did felt guilty, right?...And then she later on admitted that the rumors were true. And so now you're trying to get her back, the girl who admitted that she cheated on you.

I don't get it, how's that making you feel like it's your fault? Coz If that ex of yours really loves you, or have loved you right from the very start, then why would she say no? why would she let you go all through the courtship thing again? And if what she feels for you is real, all that would matter for her is on how she can make it up to you. Isa pa, if ever she did say yes, paranoid ka lang niyan lagi.

Trust and Respect is what makes a relationship work and lasts. Trust me, I've been there. Medyo may "twist" nga lang onti yung sa akin.

Wisest thing to do? Move on.

[jengineer]

it seems like she still has not moved on that's why she got involved with her ex again.

i feel sad for you but please ignore her na lang. kawawa ka lang po pag humabol-habol ka pa. kung mahal mo talaga siya, try mo maghintay until ma-realize niya na ikaw talaga ang gusto niya. i dunno, not really an expert i just feel na she is not worthy of your love.

[blue_tracer]

hindi malabo itong babae. dahil alam niya eh at aware siya kung saan siya lalagay.

sadly, hindi angkop sa pang long term + stable relationship ang gusto niyang 'lagay'.

wala ka ng mapapala na maganda dito sa babaeng ito. it's not that we're judging her, pero iniladlad naman niya na ang position eh.

detach mo na ang sarili mo sa kanya hangga't maaga pa. pag binigyan mo pa ng chance na mag drama 'yan yare ka diyan. para kang may tae niyan sa ulo mo, mamaya makapatay ka pa ng tao.

ang daming babae purbida.

one thing that makes us cling to someone: yung uniqueness kasi ng bawat nakakagustuhan nating tao. pero aanhin mo naman 'yang pagiging unique kung tae naman?

grave offense yung ginawa niyang pag simple doon sa ex niya. kaya ka lang siguro 'pinili' for security. malamang hindi siya binigyan ng assurance nun isa.

[Nils]

uh no, I beg to disagree lol. It ain't the love that is dumb, go figure.

+1

bakit ba kasi hindi tanggapin na sila ang may sayad at itinuturo pa sa iba ang pagiging eng-eng

[malisyosa]

have faith in fate...let her go, heal mo muna sarili and try to enjoy life ... suggestion, try to court other girls, see the difference, kung sya pa rin eh di saka ka magpatan-g.a. ulit. warning though, she lied before, anung assurance mo na she will not lie again.

[youknowhatido]

I have a friend who had experienced the same thing as you.

Like you, his girlfriend cheated on him with the "ex," the only difference is that after my buddy dumped her, the girl went back to her "ex" and my buddy dated a new girl.

I think it was after a month or two, the girl broke up with the "ex" and attempted to reconnect with my buddy. Although they got back together, it didn't last. My buddy couldn't trust her again and he was always paranoid.

So if you really want to get back with her... Consider all the worst possible things than can happen when you guys are together again... No guarantee!

[bluepimp]

I guess you're not really meant for each other, so all you have to do is move on. You should find another girl who is better than her. The fact that she tried to reconciled with her ex and now finally say NO to you simply means that she loved her ex more than you. I really don't know the real score between you and her but I think she is just using you as a replacement for his ex. She is just playing safe that whenever her ex rejects her she will still have you but unfortunately "maybe" her ex finally reconciled with her then, there is no reason to keep you that's why she said NO to you. Well there's a lot of girls out there which I'm sure willing to commit with you and can be loyal to you. Goodluck and hopefully on your next post, your title will be "the search is over".

[curly tops]

malakas loob niya kase alam niyang mahal mo pa din siya, na kahit lahat ng ex niya, balikan niya, you'd still be there, willing to accept and start all over again.

she's not worth it. move on.

[bendito]

malandi sya. may bf na nakikipagfling pa. iwan mo na lalandi ulit yan. kaya no ang sagot nya sayo kasi may kalandian na naman yan

[blue_tracer]

iwanan mo na 'yan at wala itong gagawing matino sa iyo. dinamita 'yan. masagi lang ng kaunti puputok 'yan.

sayang ang panahon. marami pang hello kitties ang mga kulang sa dilig. umalis ka na habang maaga pa. eto ang mga possibilities:

either eventually, mabuntis siya ng iba or masalinan ka ng std. nakakita ka naman na siguro ng videos/pictures ng advanced stage ng aids ano?

mag ex yung dalawa so may inherent na 'tiwala' therefore hindi malayo na todo-putukan 'yan sa loob. ang kaso sino naman nakakalam kung saan-saan pinagsusuksok ng ex niya yung alaga niya?

tingnan mo 'yang anggulo na 'yan. tama na muna ang emotional attachment. maging scientific ka kahit kaunti.

tanggalin mo na 'yang possibilities at humanap na ng bago. naw na before it's late.

[donnotaddme]

HER getting back with an EX is a sign of INFIDELITY

and she did that for 6months??

no offense but i'm also a girl..

and i know girls who do those things..

they're not sure of the current relationship that they have now.

that's why when you broke up with her, taz nakipagbalikan ka sakanya..

she was still in a state of confusion.

so better leave her be muna.

masakit man, pero you need to accept that she doesn't love you that much..

coz if she did, girls will always be girls.. and girls who love are loyal. :]

let her be. give her time. and if wala na talaga, let go.

best of luck~ ~^o^~

[Meanie!!]

Iwanan mo na sir

[freakster2k1]

Sir,

Have some pride. wag mo na balikan. sometimes certain things are best if wala na. Anyways, kung nagbalikan kayo, in the back of your head lagi mo rin naman iisipin na baka may ginagawang iba. and from her choosing you, sometimes a girl chooses not because she is happy, but because she wont get hurt.

So, just be friends with her. pero wag ka na manligaw. hanap na iba,

[ettevyvi]

Stop contacting her now. Bakit ka ba nakikipagbalikan? Dahil mahal mo? That's BS! Love is not even enough to make a relationship work. You need commitment, shared values, communication, trust and respect. Your case? Wala lahat nyan. Feelings are nothing. I'll repeat: FEELINGS ARE NOTHING.

Do yourself a favor. STOP courting her NOW. She will do the cheating a million times if you'll let this slide. Maniwala ka.

[barelythere]

Love is not even enough to make a relationship work. You need commitment, shared values, communication, trust and respect.

+1000...couldn't agree more.

[karenr99]

TS, I can't agree more to all opinions posted in here.
It's time for you to let go. Maybe you're regretting that you broke up with her - thinking that she chose me over him when they tried to make things work. But cheating is cheating - it cannot be justified. If she truly loved you, she wouldn't have tried to get back with her ex. How sure are you na she felt guilty?

Better let her go. I'm certain that if ever you get back together, you'll act as a paranoid bf. Avoid future worries.

[Vit@min_C]

Iwasan mo na,hanap nang bago. tapos i-text mo:

ang kapal nang muka mo,ginawa mo akong tester nang pabango.

[tendou_souji]

Just 3 weeks ago, there were rumors that my girlfriend for almost 6 months cheated on me with her ex.

When I asked her for the first time, she said it's not true AT ALL.

But when I asked her again, she said YES.

It was a short fling, and they did try to make their relationship work again. Unfortunately, she chose me over him, and she also felt guilty/bad for betraying me.

I was so mad and decided to break up with her.

However, just recently, I asked her to be with me again. She said NO for now. I was actually hoping she would say YES, but NO..?

So I'm kinda wooing her again, starting to courtship stage again...

This might sounds stupid but I feel like it was my fault? I shouldn't have broken up with her?

I keep thinking of like... She chose me over his ex which means that she loves me more than him? Or am I just being stupid? I need some words of wisdom here! thanks!

hahaha it means nakakita ng reason si girl para ibreak up ka hahaha yun ang tingin ko