i need advice and not judgement

[kleenexlambot]

kaya TS, bilisan mo ang paghahanap ng bagong fafa para madali kang maka move on.

pakita mo sa kanya na may value ka sa ibang lalake, at hindi umaasa sa awa niya.

[dominiquefrancon]

ano bang klaseng lalake yan umalis na pero dalaw dalaw pa din. anong klaseng lalake na wala ng bay@g pero ang kapal pa ng mukha at dedma pa sa pakiramdam mo. selfish ang lalaking yan TS! at dahil selfish, habampanahon na kalbaryo yan.

kung mukha gusto nya makita anak nya, ayusin muna nya ang sitwasyon...hiwalay kung hiwalay, visitation kung visitation, hindi yung ikaw ang nabibitin sa ere at sha ay nag e enjoy sa status nya na free as a bird.

anyway TS, baka naman 3 years ang time frame mo? bawat taon na lumilipas tumatanda ka at bumabagsak ang market value. tandaan mo ang mga lalaki pag umaalis, malabong bumalik yan.

a guy who wants to see his kid obviously...
Maybe the guy does care. Maybe it just feels so sh_tty to want to come back, miss the kid, miss the wife then when he does get back and find a weepy wife , that sudden realization that life with her kinda s_cks.

[love_always]

a guy who wants to see his kid obviously...
Maybe the guy does care. Maybe it just feels so sh_tty to want to come back, miss the kid, miss the wife then when he does get back and find a weepy wife , that sudden realization that life with her kinda s_cks.

well, you simply dont seem to know what your talking bout.. weepy wife?ive gone to that stage,and when you're in this stage,you'll keep on crying for certain period.this is a forum,we speak our mind. But remember, we are what we post,atleast in certain ways.

you dont know the hell i been,pero still hopeful na uuwi sya..
i cry everytime,aalis na sya sa bahay namin.pero hindi as if umiiyak ako sa harap nya..gusto ko sana sayo sabihin ang real score when he goes home, but it seems,you wont understand either..so, wag ka sanang mapunta sa stage na to.. no cross finger

[Romanticure]

kaya TS, bilisan mo ang paghahanap ng bagong fafa para madali kang maka move on.

pakita mo sa kanya na may value ka sa ibang lalake, at hindi umaasa sa awa niya.

okay sana yan pero mahirap. dahil nakatali pa yata si ts sa x nya. legal parin pwede pa rin makasuhan ng polygamy. malay natin tumatayming lang x nya na manghuli at mabaliktad pa si Ts? Mag file muna dapat ng legal separation before doing some dates. mahirap mabutasan ng lalaki ang babae. immoral lalabas ang babae maski pa kasalanan ng lalaki.

[love_always]

^galing mo tlaga romanticure..tama naman...pero minsan ang tali is never bout the legality..pero sige,lets see

[enaej426]

i think it will become bigamy/polygamy if TS will marry someone again while she's physically separated. Pero I don't think it will prevent TS from meeting new guys and to start dating again. Wala siyang nilalabag na batas dun.

[Romanticure]

nakakaisip ako madalas ng ideas kapag binabasa ko sagot mo enaej426

pwede ngang makipag date pero dyan malakas ang temptation, if you know what i mean.

[enaej426]

I know what you mean , it's inevitable . Murphy's Law nga di ba. I don't think me nilalabag ka pa din dun , because in the first place , hindi ka naman makikipagdate while you and your spouse are still together although meron ng gumagawa nyan panahon pa ni David di ba .

Now, if have found a New Love and you want to settle down again , that's the time you fix the legal papers .

[kleenexlambot]

if i understand it correctly, the ex-to-be is also seeing another girl. so patas lang sila.

what im after is to help TS move on faster. medyo kasi emote-emote pa siya at baka sakaling maawa sa kanya si ex (hello again). therefore, maghanap ka ng bagong fafa, TS. pag may nag aasikaso sayo ewan ko lang kung gusto mo pa makita yang si ex-to-be.

[love_always]

well,point taken girls..as i tried meeting new guys,pero so far,wala talagang effect for my side.kaya i just stop it, and instead i just compose my self and make myself better..minsan nga lang may heart lapses..hehe..

at yes,guilty as it is,that i still hope,kahit taken for granted for granted talaga.but hey,if i meet the next guy,and he's the right one to consider,id give it a try.but not my all, anymore

[Romanticure]

okay, i surrender ladies.

just be careful ts. daming matitinik na sweet talker/bolero ngayon.

[love_always]

^alam ko romanticure.thanks..saka alam mo naman di ako naghahanap diba?anjan ka naman e.hehehe.kahit sobrang bz ka

[Erning]

Hi Ms TS..
I want you to know na napagdaanan ko yan early last year.. parang 80% similar dun sa kwento mo, distant, cold, and kahit anong gawing lambing ayaw talaga. Ang payo ko lang, don't do anything stupid na you'll regret in the end, at pag nagkaron kayo ng confrontation would end up na ikaw pa ang may pagkakamali.

[love_always]

^point taken. n im not doing anything pa naman that is so major that can change my life..alam din nya ang nick ko dito.pati password..so i always watch my back din..thanks

[mack_mack]

di naman patas yun, inayawan ka na pero di papayag makipag date ka sa iba, sipain mo pag sinabi nyang kasal kayo at hindi ka pwede mapunta sa iba..

magiging ok ka din love panahon lang makakapagsabi kung kelan..sama sa EB pwede..?

[love_always]

^sure sure..let me know

[abusado23]

you let me know..di ko naman alam kung kelan EB nyo eh..hehehe..weekend off lang ako..

[gene69]

i been married for more than 4 years. been unhappy for those years. i've done everything to make my husband love me and show how much he love me.but instead of changing, he became colder, and colder each day..i know the question is why did we get married at the first place, you see, just like any young lover, i never saw how unsweet, unthoughtful and how distant he is to me, i thought that being together can change things and definitely, having a child can change matter. i've done everything to make him sense that im changing all the things he want me to change but he never change for me also. he just continue ignoring me. para lang akong katulong sa bahay. only left for me to do is leave him behind..

now, im on the verge of really lookng for someone else. i know its wrong, but that's how i feel..so how can ideal with how i feel?i really want to try it..

for the longest time, pinabayaan ko talaga srili ko because of depression and since last year, things are kinda changing in my perception, and evrybody from neighbors, to friend and even strangers do notice me now.im changing my looks, my weight n body improve.maybe not a big change,pero help my confidence in just 3months..

how would i really stop myself on trying to have an affair?when i mean affair, i just want to flirt around..

first things first, ikaw ba yang avatar pic mo?

[christian5327]

i been married for more than 4 years. been unhappy for those years. i've done everything to make my husband love me and show how much he love me.but instead of changing, he became colder, and colder each day..i know the question is why did we get married at the first place, you see, just like any young lover, i never saw how unsweet, unthoughtful and how distant he is to me, i thought that being together can change things and definitely, having a child can change matter. i've done everything to make him sense that im changing all the things he want me to change but he never change for me also. he just continue ignoring me. para lang akong katulong sa bahay. only left for me to do is leave him behind..

now, im on the verge of really lookng for someone else. i know its wrong, but that's how i feel..so how can ideal with how i feel?i really want to try it..

for the longest time, pinabayaan ko talaga srili ko because of depression and since last year, things are kinda changing in my perception, and evrybody from neighbors, to friend and even strangers do notice me now.im changing my looks, my weight n body improve.maybe not a big change,pero help my confidence in just 3months..

how would i really stop myself on trying to have an affair?when i mean affair, i just want to flirt around..

Loving a person involves not caring whether or not you get something in return. Looking at the structure of your post, count the number of times that you refer to gaining something for yourself from your husband. In fact, the post ends with you contemplating an affair. There are two kinds of people in this world who fall into two camps: givers and takers. You are a person that gives only so that you can receive/take. Logically, if you no longer received benefits from your giving then you would stop giving. My intuition tells me that you would keep on taking if you did not have to give in order to take. The problem here is that you and your husband are both not true givers. To be fair, I am not sure that your husband is a taker, rather based on your post he seems to be a non-giver. Otherwise, he wouldn't seem so cold and distant for you.

Essentially, on a practical level, you must find a giver that matches you as a taker. The signs are easy to spot. You can email me at christian5327@hotmail.com for more information and the characteristics of givers and takers.

[love_always]

^i guess you misunderstood most of what was discussed here.plus, people including me get tired of giving and giving after so many years and then just be maltreated.so its not because im just expecting a result or something to be given back.take note, i wasnt just lacking attention or something, things and words had been told and done to me which is unfair after what ive done and given.. but thanks for leaving ur comment.. but i dont think il need to email you for any details of signs i need to watch out. I think I know myself better and I'll cope with those signs that you re talking about..thanks anyways.