Lonely Mom

[Aling Menggay]

Para sa mga malungkot na Nanay ....

[Aling Menggay]

Toddler stage = From birth to Kindergarten

Nanay ---> Inalagaan mga anak ni ayaw padapuan ng lamok at langaw . Kung madapa sila alalang alala na masugatan . Kahit pagud na pagud galing sa trabaho uuwi ng bahay bilis bilis mag hahanda na magluto para me makain mga anak, check ang assisgment sa school while kids having their snacks........ and the same time thinking what to cook for dinner.

While cooking she'll be checking the kids closet to see if they would have clean clothes for the following day, then preparing their clothes for them to take a shower before bed,

Assist them with their homework then tell them a short story before they go to sleep. So nice to watch them sleeping, so content , so innocent.

Mom back downstairs checking on their shoes to make sure they are clean ,clothes and backpacks are ready for the following morning.

Only then when they are asleep do i have time for myself , things i need to do for the following day at work .... nakakabaliw


to be continued:

[my_2_cents]

Single parent ka? Nasaan ang tatay ng anak mo?

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my_2_cents

[damn_U]

maghire ka ng katulong, para di ka malosyang sa bahay, u need to love yourself tooo

[you_too]

naalala ko yung mom ko. Mag-isa na rin sya ngayon. ang bait-bait pa naman. ayaw manlalake Kaya ngayon ayun, malungkot. Haaayy..

[Aling Menggay]

Single parent ka? Nasaan ang tatay ng anak mo?

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my_2_cents

After i gave birth and while am on maternity leave he ( my husband ) usually was the one who would wake up at night to take care of the kids to give me a break ... sometimes i would wake up alone in the room to find the three of them ( my hubby and my kids ) cuddled by my hubby in the rocking chair all sleeping with their mouth open hahahah truly it's a kodak moment

Love to look back to reminish those moments

[Aling Menggay]

maghire ka ng katulong, para di ka malosyang sa bahay, u need to love yourself tooo

Believe me if i could afford i would but am in a place wherein to have a maid is only for the rich and famous. And the babysitter also cost a fortune. We arranged our schedule so the kids only stay with the baby sitter ( one who has good reference ) for couple of hours.

[my_2_cents]

After i gave birth and while am on maternity leave he ( my husband ) usually was the one who would wake up at night to take care of the kids to give me a break ... sometimes i would wake up alone in the room to find the three of them ( my hubby and my kids ) cuddled by my hubby in the rocking chair all sleeping with their mouth open hahahah truly it's a kodak moment

Love to look back to reminish those moments

Hindi naman habang panahon na ganyan. Lalaki rin ang mga bata at mag-aaral na iyan. Pagkatapos magbabago na rin ang takbo ng household.

Kapag nasa tamang gulang na ang mga anak mo, hahanap-hanapin mo naman noong musmos pa sila ... mga tao nga naman, oo .. CHERISH EVERY MOMENT, wika nga.

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my_2_cents

[Aling Menggay]

Continuation: Toddler to Kinder.....

House a mess, noisy and you're never alone .... I remember vividly twas stressful and busy at work, i was so glad to be able to go home.
Opening the door, guess who greeted me .... is my son , he's so cute.

But that day i just needed to be alone , so decided to go to the bathroom welll there he is with me to the bathroom .... so i asked him that Mommy need sometime alone ....

Son: you mean youwill close the door mom?
Mom: yes son ... say 10 min is that ok with you?
Son: ok mom
Mom: thanks son.... (thinking that my son went downstairs to continue to play with his sister) twas quite for about 5 min or so..... aahhh

knock..knock..knock... ( someone knocking at the door)

Mom : who's there?
Son : it's me mom, is 10 min over yet????
Holy Cow he was outside the door waiting for the 10 min

hahahhaa kids truly are a gift.... they are adorable. Nawala lahat pagod ko at sakit ng ulo hahahahah

Got out of the bathroom gave my son a real big bear hug.... and he proceeded telling me his stories.....

When my hubby is home sometimes i find myself talking to him in the bathroom too... a place where we can talk but before you know it... there they are ( kids) .... it's a whole family affair in the bathroom ... hahahhahahaa

[my_2_cents]

^^Hindi ko pa rin maunawaan kung bakit LONELY ka. Sa kuwento mo mukhang ang saya-saya nga ng buhay mo, e.

O baka naman LABAG SA KALOOBAN mo ang mag-anak at mag-alaga ng anak? Ano ba talaga ang gusto mo sa buhay?

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my_2_cents

[Aling Menggay]

^^Hindi ko pa rin maunawaan kung bakit LONELY ka. Sa kuwento mo mukhang ang saya-saya nga ng buhay mo, e.

O baka naman LABAG SA KALOOBAN mo ang mag-anak at mag-alaga ng anak? Ano ba talaga ang gusto mo sa buhay?

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my_2_cents

Mother ka rin ba? i guess you would understand it better if you were in my shoes, most especially if your kids are teenagers , you become the wicked witch of the west. Nothing you do is right even if it's for them. On some occasion i've attempted to have a dialogue esp. with my daughter but twas futile. Nothing makes sense to her but her own reason, and she's stuck with it.

My daughter is beautiful and talented, i didn't say this becoz am the mom, she dances ballet so gracefully and plays piano with honors.

One time she played this piano piece ( my fave. piece, i didn't tell her that twas my fave one coz' she might not play it ) in which on that competition she got Top scores, Excellence in Performing Arts which she refused for me to attend. That tore my heart into pieces. Everytime i recall that i find myself sobbing.....

With my son we can discuss things and compromise on some issues, but we are able to talk. No faces and rolling of eyes .

Somehow there are times i think that a UFO landed on our roof , took my daughter and replaced her.

[my_2_cents]

Mother ka rin ba? i guess you would understand it better if you were in my shoes, most especially if your kids are teenagers , you become the wicked witch of the west. Nothing you do is right even if it's for them. On some occasion i've attempted to have a dialogue esp. with my daughter but twas futile. Nothing makes sense to her but her own reason, and she's stuck with it.

My daughter is beautiful and talented, i didn't say this becoz am the mom, she dances ballet so gracefully and plays piano with honors.

One time she played this piano piece ( my fave. piece, i didn't tell her that twas my fave one coz' she might not play it ) in which on that competition she got Top scores, Excellence in Performing Arts which she refused for me to attend. That tore my heart into pieces. Everytime i recall that i find myself sobbing.....

With my son we can discuss things and compromise on some issues, but we are able to talk. No faces and rolling of eyes .

Somehow there are times i think that a UFO landed on our roof , took my daughter and replaced her.

Ganyan talaga ang mga teenager minsan tinotopak. Para ka namang hindi dumaan sa pagka-teenager. Huwag mong patulan iyan, balang araw mag-ma-mature din iyan at titino.

Mga anak ko nasa tamang gulang na kaya parang magbabarkada na lang kami ngayon. Nakaraos na kami sa malilinggit pa sila at alagain.

Hindi ko pa rin maunawaan kung bakit ka LONELY... ang ganda-ganda nga ng buhay mo....

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my_2_cents

[Aling Menggay]

[QUOTE=my_2_cents;61520410]
Hindi ko pa rin maunawaan kung bakit ka LONELY... ang ganda-ganda nga ng buhay mo....

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my_2_cents i don't understand what you meant by that quote na maganda buhay ko ?

I'll be more happier if i can talk with my daughter ... the way she's acting leaves a hole in my heart ... but of course this doesn't affect buhay ko sa araw araw ...life goes on ... things can be treated like a grain of sand but there will always be some sadness ... some gap... feeling of something missing......

My hubby often say .... it'll pass lalaki din mga bata but i can't help it but wait for that day .....

[my_2_cents]

I'll be more happier if i can talk with my daughter ... the way she's acting leaves a hole in my heart ...

Nakuha ko iyon - malungkot ka sa asal ng iyong anak na babae. Maski sinong magulang nais maging malapit sa kanyang anak. No brainer ito.

Pero LONELY? May kasama ka sa buhay ... mahusay ang asawa't anak ... mahusay ang buhay ... BAKIT KA ***LONELY***?

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my_2_cents

[perryparanoid]

maybe it was just a phase aling menggay, you feel lonely kasi they are growing up na. please spend time with them, magbond kayo every week or even everyday, if your time permits - punta sa church, mag shopping, mag visit sa park. kumain sa labas. bond.

ang dapat di mawala - open communication.

kahit simpleng bagay lang- pag kumain kayo ng dinner, make it a habit to be with them, talk to them, listen.

i know it won't be easy. make an extra effort.

tbh, I wish I can talk to my parents and brothers like this; but I think it was hard for me to communicate properly with them, I wish they were like you- someone who can be open enough, with no awkwardness and all that embarrassment.

before when I was so much younger, I can say that my family has close ties but as the years go by.. I think nawawala, nawawalan ng essence ang pagiging 'family', we're physically together pero parang pointless.

I dont want that to happen sa kahit kaninong pamilya.

I bet, maiintindihan ka rin ng daughter mo

I was touched by this short film,

http://www.theyearsareshort.com/

[Aling Menggay]

maybe it was just a phase aling menggay, you feel lonely kasi they are growing up na. please spend time with them, magbond kayo every week or even everyday, if your time permits - punta sa church, mag shopping, mag visit sa park. kumain sa labas. bond.

ang dapat di mawala - open communication.

kahit simpleng bagay lang- pag kumain kayo ng dinner, make it a habit to be with them, talk to them, listen.

i know it won't be easy. make an extra effort.

tbh, I wish I can talk to my parents and brothers like this; but I think it was hard for me to communicate properly with them, I wish they were like you- someone who can be open enough, with no awkwardness and all that embarrassment.

before when I was so much younger, I can say that my family has close ties but as the years go by.. I think nawawala, nawawalan ng essence ang pagiging 'family', we're physically together pero parang pointless.

I dont want that to happen sa kahit kaninong pamilya.

I bet, maiintindihan ka rin ng daughter mo

I was touched by this short film,

http://www.theyearsareshort.com/

Thank you PerryParanoid for the response. I tried even some unconventional way in an effort to keep our communicatin open. I am thankful she's open to his brother so most often my son keeps me informed.

One good thing with the celfone, if i text her , she respond faster than if i call her to come downstairs to eat.

[perryparanoid]

I was thinking maybe there was just a little misunderstanding between you and your daughter. so maybe there is no need for you to feel lonely?
good thing nga may connection talaga ang family nyo.. she respond to your texts. =)
god bless you po Aling Menggay and to your family also.
*btw, where'd you get your username? menggay is actually my household nickname when I was young. haha

[Aling Menggay]

Nakuha ko iyon - malungkot ka sa asal ng iyong anak na babae. Maski sinong magulang nais maging malapit sa kanyang anak. No brainer ito.

Pero LONELY? May kasama ka sa buhay ... mahusay ang asawa't anak ... mahusay ang buhay ... BAKIT KA ***LONELY***?

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my_2_cents

hhhmmm alam mo mga katagang Lonely is pretty subjective. Kaya mo siguro hindi maintidihan kasi your definiton of lonely can be different from mine. So kahit na paulit ulitin mo tanong mo bakit ka lonely ...... i've said it!

If you cannot take it... leave it....

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BTW: thanks for your reponses

[Aling Menggay]

I was thinking maybe there was just a little misunderstanding between you and your daughter. so maybe there is no need for you to feel lonely?
good thing nga may connection talaga ang family nyo.. she respond to your texts. =)
god bless you po Aling Menggay and to your family also.
*btw, where'd you get your username? menggay is actually my household nickname when I was young. haha

I know , i even went into the extent of sending her IM to get her stuff that i bought for her downstairs, hindi naman kalakihan bahay namin ... thats how i can get to her.... oh gosh twas sooo rediculous totally absurd .... but tried to keep my cool......... God Help me......

My son would help me in the kitchen but never would she initiate to help unless asked but of course that would be another story.....

Just venting out , nothing serious....

As for my username , she's a cartoon character that i came across when i was still young .... my Tatay would be reading the sunday newspaper and i always get the comic section where i met Aling Menggay.

[perryparanoid]

haha, pasaway si girl. (sya pa naman yung older)
buti pa si kuya,

now i know! C: i've always wondered where they got it. haha. thanks!