Paluwagin niyo nga ang turnilyo sa utak ko

[Jameaux]

Para sakin kasi adiposethoughts is omniscient about love eh.

Anyway kidding aside, if she can give more details like if they are living together maybe I can share something. Or if not, how often they see each other. Or maybe, provide more of his BF's personality, status, relationship records(nakailang GF, gaano katagal). Yung mga ganun.

At the back of my mind, duda pa rin ako sa pagkatao ni adiposethoughts.

[biancabee]

Talk about your hobbies, plans in the next months. Mahirap kausap ang taong wala talagang interest sa kahit na anong bagay. Favorite topic namen eh money making schemes Basta usapang paano kumita ng pera patok samen pareho.

[rendaku]

Para sakin kasi adiposethoughts is omniscient about love eh.

Anyway kidding aside, if she can give more details like if they are living together maybe I can share something. Or if not, how often they see each other. Or maybe, provide more of his BF's personality, status, relationship records(nakailang GF, gaano katagal). Yung mga ganun.

At the back of my mind, duda pa rin ako sa pagkatao ni adiposethoughts.

Adi, i-friend nyo nga ng friend mo si Jameaux. Padalhan mo na rin ng resume at NBI clearance.

Joke lang jameaux brad.

[Jameaux]

^

Okay lang. Pero serious talaga akong magbigay ng aking opinyon sa kalagayan ni adiposethoughts.

[adiposethoughts]

WOW. Above everything else, maraming salamat sa inyo lalo na dun sa mga kaututang dila ko dito sa pex na nag-comment at nagbigay ng time para magbigay ng opinion nila. Salamat sa concern at sa mga comments at advices. Sa mga opinion at perspective niyo (pala) tungkol sa kin. Na-touch naman ako. Hehe.

Pasensiya na ngayon ko lang kayo nareplyan at ang magaling na laptop dito sa bahay ay nag-crash.

Paano ko ba sisimulan?


Una sa lahat, I see myself more of an opinionated person THAN a love guru. Hehe. Though nakakatuwang isipin may napupulot ang ilan sa inyo sa mga sinasabi ko kahit papano. At least that makes me feel that whatever's going in my head, it DOES make sense to some people, to guys in particular (where I would usually post my comments from a guy's perspective). It's a balm for my soul to know that I have a lesser room for error especially in handling my own relationship because some people (most of which are the ones whose comments makes sense to me too) agree with me. It means my perspective makes sense to them as well; I would be fine.

AT kahit naman siguro si Joe D'Mango hindi rin naging perfect yun relationship niya sa asawa niya. He too needed help at that point of his life where his wife was starting to find a new apple of her eyes.

There are things that's happening to me and around me that I myself couldn't tell about too much because no matter how opinionated I am, I still am a private person. Hehe. But thank you. I have tried some of the things you posted (most of which I have already been doing even before it was posted here).

I guess all I am saying is that I want to evolve. To keep on evolving as a person. I don't want to get stuck with the same routine, same way of asking questions / opening a conversation, same way of doing things, same way of making lambing to my SO. I myself get bored with myself no matter how much I do now. Within the nooks and crooks of myself I know there are still things that I could still do to offer myself in a "new packaging". Parang, "same great taste, same great flavor, now in a 220 pet bottle you can carry everywhere."

Like the other day, it was our anniv. Couldn't believe nagtagal kami ng ganon katagal despite the differences our minds are wired. He's the kind of guy na kung tipikal kang babae, pipigain mo muna tong lalaking to bago magcelebrate ng kahit na ano. He doesn't celebrate his bday. Ako naman yung klase ng babae na pag mga mahahalagang occasions like anniv and bdays, gumagawa ng paraan para mag-surprise or magcelebrate. For us, any day could be celebrated because we're together.

to be continued...

[blue_tracer]

'yang mga authors ng mga sikat libro dati like men are from mars, women are from venus at sa iba pang books/instructional videos tungkol sa abc's of rel. or love..

sa palagay 'nyo ba pag namroblema sila sa buhay, like rel. or love at 'di makatulog madaling araw na, eh pupunta sa mga libro? hahanapin anong page, anong chapter doon para makuha ang technical na sagot?

i dont think so. palagay ko, hahanap sila ng comfort sa mga close friends, or family members. not necessarily, para maintindihan sila lagi pero kumbaga sa isang machine nag overheat na ito, kailangan vent out yung anong nasa loob nito.

marami na siguro tayong naipon na mga leksiyon at karanasan sa buhay over the years, pero sulyapan natin kahit minsan-minsan yung word na humility. importante 'din 'yan. tao lang lahat tayo puwede rin masaktan, mamroblema, etc.

may limitations ang lahat ng nalalaman natin sa buhay. sometimes kailangan mo ring dumulog sa opinion ng iba.

[malisyosa]

Familiarity breeds contempt... yun ang mahirap sa isang relasyon na nagiging routine or nawawalan ng spark... bakit hindi mo try maging spontaeneous, like bigla kang bumalik sa work... or awayin mo then suyuin mo... be spontaeneous...

[Jameaux]

WOW. Above everything else, maraming salamat sa inyo lalo na dun sa mga kaututang dila ko dito sa pex na nag-comment at nagbigay ng time para magbigay ng opinion nila. Salamat sa concern at sa mga comments at advices. Sa mga opinion at perspective niyo (pala) tungkol sa kin. Na-touch naman ako. Hehe.

Pasensiya na ngayon ko lang kayo nareplyan at ang magaling na laptop dito sa bahay ay nag-crash.

Paano ko ba sisimulan?


Una sa lahat, I see myself more of an opinionated person THAN a love guru. Hehe. Though nakakatuwang isipin may napupulot ang ilan sa inyo sa mga sinasabi ko kahit papano. At least that makes me feel that whatever's going in my head, it DOES make sense to some people, to guys in particular (where I would usually post my comments from a guy's perspective). It's a balm for my soul to know that I have a lesser room for error especially in handling my own relationship because some people (most of which are the ones whose comments makes sense to me too) agree with me. It means my perspective makes sense to them as well; I would be fine.

AT kahit naman siguro si Joe D'Mango hindi rin naging perfect yun relationship niya sa asawa niya. He too needed help at that point of his life where his wife was starting to find a new apple of her eyes.

There are things that's happening to me and around me that I myself couldn't tell about too much because no matter how opinionated I am, I still am a private person. Hehe. But thank you. I have tried some of the things you posted (most of which I have already been doing even before it was posted here).

I guess all I am saying is that I want to evolve. To keep on evolving as a person. I don't want to get stuck with the same routine, same way of asking questions / opening a conversation, same way of doing things, same way of making lambing to my SO. I myself get bored with myself no matter how much I do now. Within the nooks and crooks of myself I know there are still things that I could still do to offer myself in a "new packaging". Parang, "same great taste, same great flavor, now in a 220 pet bottle you can carry everywhere."

Like the other day, it was our anniv. Couldn't believe nagtagal kami ng ganon katagal despite the differences our minds are wired. He's the kind of guy na kung tipikal kang babae, pipigain mo muna tong lalaking to bago magcelebrate ng kahit na ano. He doesn't celebrate his bday. Ako naman yung klase ng babae na pag mga mahahalagang occasions like anniv and bdays, gumagawa ng paraan para mag-surprise or magcelebrate. For us, any day could be celebrated because we're together.

to be continued...

Alam mo adiposethoughts, the reason why I asked you to provide more details is because I was in the same position as yours with an ex I was with for 3 years. She was an intelligent woman. I guess in all aspects better than me other than "love". But after being together for more than a couple of years, the spark was fading. We felt that we should end it. It was hard for me but I had to accept that marriage was no longer an option. We had nothing more to talk about. Ironic, but I used to call her my "walking dictionary". She influenced me in reading books.

Additionally, based on your recent post something tells me I have the same personality as your BF. Let me guess at hindi ito pagbubuhat ng sariling bangko ha. I guess he has a good sense of humor. Makwento. May sense kausap. Sociable person. Wants to stand out in a crowd. Show-off(don't take this negatively). Optimistic. Are my guesses correct?

Pero bakit ganun ang naramdaman ko? Bakit parang may kulang. Bakit hindi ako masaya? I guess it was boredom. Naging tamad ako a pagiging sweet. It was as if pinabayaan ko sya na mawalan ng gana. I realized that sadness is not the opposite of happiness but boredom instead. It all ends in boredom when two people who used to be in love don't continuously share the same beliefs, passion, likes, etc. Though I believe we understand each other and know that each person is unique. I could've saved that relationship knowing the reasons why we no longer feel the excitement. But I decided to let it end naturally, yes, I waited until she said "I'm tired". I guess its my way of being a gentleman.

Hope may nakuha ka kahit papano sa experience ko.

I don't celebrate my birthdays as well.

[rendaku]

Told you she didn't need your advice. You merely echoed her opinion and she, her and herself have been there, doing or done that already.

[Jameaux]

^

Ongoing ba yung break-up process nya? I'm afraid she might turn into a break-up artist.

[adiposethoughts]

Hi sa inyong lahat. Sorry di ako nakakapagreply agad kahit nag oonline ako paminsan. Most of it was because as much as I wanted to reply to all your messages, it's like, I didn't know where to start.

Thank you sa lahat ng nagbigay ng advices. I appreciate them a lot. I'll do most of them... in time.

Anyway, magreply na lang ako ng naaayon sa tulin ng isip at mga daliri ko.


Update:
1 - I have done some thinking, and I guess for some reasons, I've forgotten where my roots where. Uh... ALL is fair in love and war nga di ba?
2 - RECENTLY my boylet told me he's still talking to his ex. He said he's making paasa her kasi daw she made paasa him for 4 years. Fine with me. (Though I was wondering WHY make paasa someone IF you don't have feelings for her, di ba?). He said he doesn't love her anymore. I was in (SLIGHT) doubt. Nonetheless, I set aside the doubt. JUST RECENTLY I read the content of their messages. They HAD plans of meeting up (which never happened). It was obvious that sometime last year he was still in love with her. I don't know what changed though. He stopped talking to her for months after. Then last December, the girl was wanting him back. He said there's no way to reconcile anymore kasi iba iba na daw ang plans nila at ayaw nun girl na mag seaman siya. I have no way of telling if he's doing that kasi he doesn't want her anymore na talaga or he's just playing along with her but eventually would reconcile with her. Ewan.
3 - The girl is MAJOR in paasa. AND I KNOW how much guys go gaga over girls who are paasa. It's like fcking with their minds eh. Eh guys like that. MOST guys, ok.



****... Rice is cooking... BRB.



Quick reply kay Jameaux:
YES. He's LIKE YOU.

BRB.

[alrem]

never thought a time would come that you will say you don't have any topic to talk about hehe, remember when I said "two people can have many differences but on some point they have commonality. Focus on that part and make it grow"

A guy can be an addict with computer games but he always needs to eat. All people have their favorite food so try to focus on that part for an example (I know your good at cooking). Then while eating try to discuss how you cooked it and say all other variations you can do on the recipe, ask him to help you some time so you can make it more delicious. I know how strong you are, never kang magpapatalo sa DOTA or PSP. And I'm sure you can win over it

but for the X of your guy... well... like what I've said before "never trust your emotions, use your reasoning". I know your smart but I also know how blind you can be when it comes to love...

God Bless my friend, be happy

[adiposethoughts]

^^ Oy alrem! Nabuhay ka! Thank you my dear friend. MIA ka ah! Where art thou, where art thou?

Be happy too.



Anyway, bottomline ng lahat. Naisip ko, masyado kong ti-nake personally ang mga ginawa niya sa akin. At isa sa mga deadly na pwedeng gawin ng isang babae sa isang relasyon eh yung magdemand na "bakit walang ganito, bakit di tayo nagcecelebrate ng ganyan? asan yung ganto ganyan?". There's a time for everything. There's a season for everything. And as for me, I realized that I should keep mum on those puny little things for now because there are a lot more things that I should divert my energy to.

I should disdain what I cannot have. Ignoring them is the best revenge.

[Ice Burn]

Adi, did you ever realize na baka meantime guy mo lang siya? That you're afraid to be alone kaya kahit na hinde ka naman compatible with him, you just don't want to be alone? Pero at the same time you're nitpicking at him for any or both of these reasons. The first one is so he will change to the guy you want him to be and the second one is so he will be the one to leave at masasabi mong you stayed yet he left.

[rendaku]

Jesus! You have so much uncertainty about yourself that you resort to busybodying for diversion and amusement?

[mocha1209]

Teka TS kayo ba ni guy o hindi??

[~gIrLnXtDoOr~]

Anyway, bottomline ng lahat. Naisip ko, masyado kong ti-nake personally ang mga ginawa niya sa akin. At isa sa mga deadly na pwedeng gawin ng isang babae sa isang relasyon eh yung magdemand na "bakit walang ganito, bakit di tayo nagcecelebrate ng ganyan? asan yung ganto ganyan?". There's a time for everything. There's a season for everything. And as for me, I realized that I should keep mum on those puny little things for now because there are a lot more things that I should divert my energy to.

I should disdain what I cannot have. Ignoring them is the best revenge.

yes, years of being in a relationship taught me these: DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF and CHOOSE YOUR (my) BATTLE...

however, with your last sentence:I should disdain what I cannot have. Ignoring them is the best revenge. Try to assess din, is it really a big deal for you? then this statement just means your settling... hindi pa naman kayo married diba para pagtiisan mo yung mga hindi mo gusto sa set-up nyo or sya... don't you think you deserve more than that? ...
but anyway, just my pov... good luck in your relationship

[petixmode]

for me time for self lang kailangan to do the things that you want seperately, kung hindi kaya maibigay ni bf ang mga bagay na kailangan natin bakit hindi mismo tayo sa sarili natin ang mapuno non diba kung kaya naman, pangit ang "co-dependent" love nakakatoxic yan.. eh kung si bf naman naghahanap ng hindi ikaw eh siraulo ba sya hehe eh hindi nga ikaw yun.. naniniwala ako na kung totoo ang pagmamahalan na meron kayo kahit anong kakulangan, imperfections at differences na meron kayo still you accept each other na kahit inis na inis ka na sa attitude na hindi mo kayang mabago yet mahal nyo parin ang isa isa at hindi nyo kayang ipagpalit sa iba.. lahat dumadaaan sa ganyang stage yung makikita yung differences at boredom lalo na pagmatagal na .. pagisa dyan ang bumitaw at nakakita ng iba para lang mapunan ang pangangailangan nya na hindi mo kayang ibigay hindi totoong pagmamahal yun "self centered" at "selfish" yun eh pano kung ganun din ang nangyari sa bago eh di hahanap uli ng kakaiba para maexperience ang excitement at spark..

kung kaya namang mapagusapan at maworkout yan ang big deal is kung nangaliwa at nananakit verbally at physically pero yung differences sa goals, outlook and personality kaya pang maworkout yan by supporting and accepting each others differences and imperfections.. pero when we are in the situation mahirap gawin pero if the love never dies kaya pa yan maworkout..

[adiposethoughts]

Jesus! You have so much uncertainty about yourself that you resort to busybodying for diversion and amusement?

OK you got two things you need to point a little bit more though... 1) What am I being uncertain with?; 2) What am I busybodying myself with again?

[adiposethoughts]

Adi, did you ever realize na baka meantime guy mo lang siya? That you're afraid to be alone kaya kahit na hinde ka naman compatible with him, you just don't want to be alone? Pero at the same time you're nitpicking at him for any or both of these reasons. The first one is so he will change to the guy you want him to be and the second one is so he will be the one to leave at masasabi mong you stayed yet he left.

Te, actually, IT started out as a meantime thing for us. There were no commitments whatsoever. Kahit naman ngayon eh. We don't really address each other as "committed". We usually joke around whenever we introduce ourselves to other people that we're just "friends". Hehe. Pero everytime we say that we look at each other and there's this "hahaha" going on in our eyes, parang, "Hahaha, "friends" lang pala ha.."

I THINK... I'm nitpicking at him because of #1. BUT this is just my assessment of myself from an objective perspective ha. My subjective side would say, "Ohhhh.. I WON'T do that. I won't make someone change to someone I want him to be... Nooo."

Anyhow, who doesn't want their partners to change? EVERYONE DOES.

It's how one make them change that makes the difference.