My wife cheated on me....

[4Wheeler]

Do you really want to be in a marriage where you have to force your wife to be with you? From the description the TS painted on his original post, it's clear to me his wife doesn't love him anymore. I'm assuming she's staying with him because of guilt or being coerced (emotionally, psychologically, socially, or financial?). I wouldn't want to be with someone who would rather be with someone else. How long can you keep this up? Until she loves you back?

Like what I've said before, if it were me I'll let her go and take my daughter with me.

If you believe they haven't slept together yet then you're being naive.

[slytherin_chick]

Nangyari sa'kin 'to, and believe me, the relationship wasn't the same anymore. No matter how I tried to forget. Kasi maraming bagay ang makakapagpaalala sa'yo ng infidelity eh. Manood ka lang ng TV, halos araw-araw may issue about infidelity na siguradong makakarelate ka. Kami nga, sinubukan ulit naming mag-umpisa at magsama but it only lasted 8 months. Basically kasi hindi ako maka-move on at unconsciously, lagi ko siyang nasusumbatan about sa panloloko niya. I suggest, move on ka na lang with someone new.

[adiposethoughts]

you crow.

hanggang diyan na lang ba ang irarating ng pagkalalake mo? calling people names? sheeesh.

gimme a breeeeeeak.

[paul080808]

^galit ka na nyan...

[adiposethoughts]

^Ay hindi Bakla, ba't naman ako magagalit? wala akong time mag-aksaya ng panahon magalit sa mga taong gaya mo. Sa totoo lang, your posts make you look like a joke, so keri lang. Hehehe.

Tutal, all you can do is call people names and assume eh. Can't you give me a more stimulating correspondence other than this?

Hehehehehe.

[paul080808]

^ di raw galit. my galit pa rin ang post mo.. easy lang.hahahahaha.

[adiposethoughts]

^ Hoy bakla, tigilan mo na nga ako. Nambubuyo ka pa. Parang di ko alam ang style mo. Magkakagusto ka na niyan sa akin eh. Wag ganyan, di na ako available. May boypren na ko noh!

[paul080808]

haha..*basag*
sabi ko nga tatahimik na ko.hahaha
sorry na. peace.. hahaha

[dimsum888]

bro i can sense you are the type na mahirap maka limot ng painful events like me hehe, kaya better to let her go..you will never have peace of mind as long n kasama mo sya trust me..imho.

[4Wheeler]

It's not like they had a one night stand or a f*ck buddy setup. They had a relationship together. It's a relationship where they have decided to get an annulment, get married, and have a kid together.

It's over. Get your evidence and file an annulment. Get custody of your daughter. Plan for your exit strategy because you won't be able to coerce her to play the role of a happy wife forever.

[masteruten]

Kaya mo yan pre ... kung sa palagay mo wala na pag asa go na at layasan mo na asawa mo ...

[olh8red]

Salamat sa lahat ng nag reply sa post ko. Your words became my guide, along with prayers and an constant and open communication with my wife. At this point, thanks to faith not only to God but to a renewed promise of a better relationship, I have decided to keep the marriage in tact. Naive you might say, and despite the constant prodding of mistrust, I remain steadfast that there is hope. I keep praying.

It is true that I have shortchanged my wife in terms of attention, and the many undiscussed issues and disagreements that has gone stale, that is why as I asked my wife for change, I, too, did a self-review and have realized my own shortcomings and that I NEED TO CHANGE.

For those of you who believe in working things with my wife despite the betrayal, I salute you for your steadfast faith. Thank you for being my inspiration.

For those of you who have suggested to give it up, I agree with you that in the absence of trust, separation is the next best thing, and the only reason why I did not act upon this agreement is because being a parent, I am no longer along in the world and I have to keep this family together, for the sake of my little angel.

For those of who did nothing but vex, may God bless you and may you find peace if life and the true meaning it's challengess, and may you one day become a beacon for someone in need.

God bless us all.

[masteruten]

Salamat sa lahat ng nag reply sa post ko. Your words became my guide, along with prayers and an constant and open communication with my wife. At this point, thanks to faith not only to God but to a renewed promise of a better relationship, I have decided to keep the marriage in tact. Naive you might say, and despite the constant prodding of mistrust, I remain steadfast that there is hope. I keep praying.

It is true that I have shortchanged my wife in terms of attention, and the many undiscussed issues and disagreements that has gone stale, that is why as I asked my wife for change, I, too, did a self-review and have realized my own shortcomings and that I NEED TO CHANGE.

For those of you who believe in working things with my wife despite the betrayal, I salute you for your steadfast faith. Thank you for being my inspiration.

For those of you who have suggested to give it up, I agree with you that in the absence of trust, separation is the next best thing, and the only reason why I did not act upon this agreement is because being a parent, I am no longer along in the world and I have to keep this family together, for the sake of my little angel.

For those of who did nothing but vex, may God bless you and may you find peace if life and the true meaning it's challengess, and may you one day become a beacon for someone in need.

God bless us all.

Hindi masaya ang diyos sa mga naghihiwalay na pamilya, ang layunin nya ay maging buo lalo na sa may mga anak. Pero alam nya kung ganon kasakit lalo na sa lalake ang lokohin ng asawang babae kaya may provision na makipaghiwalay ( ganon din sa babae ) na sa ganitong situasyon, pero take note: mas gusto pa rin nya mag ayos
ang pamilya at magpatawaran, gawing halimbawa ang kaso ni hagar na ilang beses nagkasala at pinatawad pa din. Ganito yan,
kung tayo hihingi sa Diyos ng tawad papano nya tayo papatawarin kung tayo mismo di nakapagpatawad ... kaya ang tanong sincere ba sa paghingi ng tawad ang misis mo ? kung sincere isipin mong tao lang din tayo at nagkakamali at nagkakasala *** iba ay di lang nabubunyag at sinisikreto na hanggang mamatay lalo na sa lalake tira lang tira pag walang nakakakita. Pangalawang bagay, kung di mo papatawirin mo misis mo mas magiging masaya ka ba lalo na kung mahal na mahal mo ito, at manghinayang bandang huli na di mo siya pinatawad ? i try mo din walang mawawala kung talagang magbabago .. pati na din ikaw mas magiiging lalong matibay kayo. Me time na mabuburyong ka pag naiisip mo *** mga ginagawa nila (araw araw) pero darating ang time na kakayanin mo na ito lalo na kung makikita mo talaga ang pagbabago din nya. Maayos mo sana ang pamilya wag kang bumigay ... wag mo din ipanguwento kahit kangino para walang masyadong damage pwede yan sa siguradong sigurado kang kaibigan pero bihira un he he he

[soldier_x]

Ganto lang po kasi ang nasa isip ko. Ikaw na po ang nagsabi na financially broke at may problem kayo, among many other things.

Eh ikaw ser. Anong ginawa mo habang financially burdened kayo? Masaya ka pa rin bang kasama? Gumawa ka ba ng paraan para despite you both being dead broke happy at sweet pa din ang relationship niyo?

Ikaw na po ang nagsabi Christian ka. Naaalala ko po nun nag-attend ako ng isang Christian sunday sermon, nasabi nun pastor, "Husbands, love your wife. Wives, respect your husbands."

That did struck a cord in me somehow.

Did you LOVE your wife inspite of? Did you SHOW LOVE to your wife even if both of you didn't feel like it?


Kaming mga babae sensitive sa ganyan. Para kaming sinasaksak paulit ulit at walang katapusan kapag hindi na kami napapansin or na bibyigyan ng atensiyon at paglalambing ng mister namin (or in my case, ng partner ko).

Mas gugustuhin pa po naming mamatay.

Because we women, are made to be loved.

And when we're loved, we couldn't help but respect you in return. We'll do everything to protect your kahihiyan and your name.


Ganon po kasimple ser. Saan po ba kayo nagkulang?


It takes two to tango ser. And most women won't cheat unless there's a grave "need".

napaka ENEGOT mo mag advice


una sa lahat wag mong gawang ng excuse ang cheating

pangalawa wag mo i emphasize yung mali ni husband kasi nobody's perfect meron at merong magkakamali pero di yun dapat gawing reason to cheat

[4Wheeler]

Salamat sa lahat ng nag reply sa post ko. Your words became my guide, along with prayers and an constant and open communication with my wife. At this point, thanks to faith not only to God but to a renewed promise of a better relationship, I have decided to keep the marriage in tact. Naive you might say, and despite the constant prodding of mistrust, I remain steadfast that there is hope. I keep praying.

It is true that I have shortchanged my wife in terms of attention, and the many undiscussed issues and disagreements that has gone stale, that is why as I asked my wife for change, I, too, did a self-review and have realized my own shortcomings and that I NEED TO CHANGE.

For those of you who believe in working things with my wife despite the betrayal, I salute you for your steadfast faith. Thank you for being my inspiration.

For those of you who have suggested to give it up, I agree with you that in the absence of trust, separation is the next best thing, and the only reason why I did not act upon this agreement is because being a parent, I am no longer along in the world and I have to keep this family together, for the sake of my little angel.

For those of who did nothing but vex, may God bless you and may you find peace if life and the true meaning it's challengess, and may you one day become a beacon for someone in need.

God bless us all.

You've decided to stay together for you, for your kid, and for your God. What about what your wife wants? She might not want what you want anymore.

It's also interesting when you said "I have decided to keep the marriage in tact."

You have decided? You can decide all you want but if your wife wants out, then you can't do much about it.

[adiposethoughts]

napaka ENEGOT mo mag advice


una sa lahat wag mong gawang ng excuse ang cheating

pangalawa wag mo i emphasize yung mali ni husband kasi nobody's perfect meron at merong magkakamali pero di yun dapat gawing reason to cheat

Isa ka pang Bobo ka letche ka. Basahin mo nga lahat ng post ko bago ka magsabing pabor ako sa cheating.

Gag0.


Kaya nga nobody's perfect eh, ibig sabihin pareho silang may pagkukulang sa isa't isa kaya naging malabo ang relationship nila. ANONG MALI SA SINABI KO?



Anyway TS, may mga tao talaga na pagdadaanan ang sitwasyon na pinagdaraanan mo. Alalahanin mo lang ang sabi ng karamihan, the Big Man upstairs won't give you something you cannot bear.

Ingat kayo ni misis. Labing labing time.

Wala naman perfect sa atin eh. Hindi man ikaw yung pumagitna nun nalulungkot siya, ang mas mabuti eh at least ikaw naman yung huli niyang yayakapin, hahalikan, at mamahalin ngayong magiging OK na kayo uli.

And I hope you're not just doing this for your God and for your little angel. Alalahanin mo ser, si little angel by the time she's on her teen years, unti unti na yang maghahanap ng sarili niyang buhay. She won't be with you forever. You should be reconciling with your wife kasi amongst all the relationships you have in this life, your priority is your God first, THEN your wife. Kayo ni wife mo hanggang sa malagutan na kayo ng hininga magsasama. So pinakaimportante nanjan ka dahil you want to reconcile WITH your wife, not just to keep your family together. Remember, kahit na anong TRY mo na i-keep yung family mo together pero ang relationship mo with your wife would remain stale, wala rin patutunguhan. Parang niloloko niyo lang ang isa't isa.

Ingat ingat at baka sa sobrang labing labing masundan si little angel. Hehehe.


Good luck! =)

[Jameaux]

^

LOL.

@TS - Tama si adipose, baka nga may pagkukulang ka kaya naghanap ng iba yung misis mo. Mag-isip ka ng dahilan kung bakit nangaliwa ang misis mo. Kasi ngayon kontrolado mo na ang sitwasyon, try nyo i-workout. Kung mahal mo pa siya talaga. Mag-usap kayo.

[tonton]

napaka ENEGOT mo mag advice


una sa lahat wag mong gawang ng excuse ang cheating

pangalawa wag mo i emphasize yung mali ni husband kasi nobody's perfect meron at merong magkakamali pero di yun dapat gawing reason to cheat

I agree. Unfaithfulness is so devastating to a marriage and its effects can linger for a lifetime. Often it is an overkill to react with unfaithfulness specially when the affection is still there. This is not the time to play the blame game - kesyo hindi loving si lalake etc..unless na unfaithful din si mister? A deep wound has been inflicted and this needs to be healed.

Sabi nga ni TS:

It is true that I have shortchanged my wife in terms of attention, and the many undiscussed issues and disagreements that has gone stale, that is why as I asked my wife for change, I, too, did a self-review and have realized my own shortcomings and that I NEED TO CHANGE.

To try to save the marriage for the sake of children is not a good reason. The child will live in an environment of tension and fighting because IT WILL BE SO HARD TO FORGET WHAT HAPPENED and go on as if nothing happened. It's unbearable to think that somebody else's dick got stuck in your wife's *****. That could play over and over in the husband's head. There could be some psychological effects that can leave the child scarred for the rest of his life. You can't hide a corpse in a closet for long because it'll stink like hell and there's nothing you can do to hide the smell. Something's gotta give. Sure, you can live together, but with the love that the wife and the other guy feels for each other, the might try to seek each other and continue their liaison and plan behind you.

[masteruten]

Tandaan: hindi katwirana ng pagkukulang ng isa, para magloko at makiapid o mangalunya eto ay labag
at mabigat na kasalanan sa Diyos, pero sa tunay na pagsisi walang di pinapatawad ang Diyos, si
haring david na boso ng boso kay batsheba na balitang flawless that time ay sobrang natukso dito,
hanggang sa ipinapatay nya ang ang asawa nito para madali nya, ay tunay na nagsisi at kinilala ang pagkakamali nya kaya pinatawad pa din siya ng diyos at sa huli ay tinawag pa din siyang kaibigan.

Masakit ang at napakalaki ng damage pag ang ang mag asawa ay naglokohan kaya nga marriage vow, sa hirap at ginhawa at dami ng problema sa mga pagkukulang walang magloloko at kakalas. Pero kung nangyari na, di na mababalik pa, *** ibang di kinakaya e pumapatay at nagpapakamatay .. pero ang tunay na lalake un ang matibay
at di bumibigay at inaayos ang napakabigat na gusot, wag mo na isipin naiputan ka may balik at balik
un sa lalaking pumatol din naman sa may asawa na walang respeto sa damdamin na kanyang masasaktan kahit
alam nyang kamatayan ang hatol sa ganitong kasalanan, sira na ang buhay nito at naghihintay na lang
ng balik to.

Sa pagpapatawad mo natuwa sa yo ang Diyos, at ngayon mo naramdaman kung papano magpatawad ang Diyos sa
tao na mas maraming napakabigat na kasalanan. Isipin mo na lang ang marriage mo ay parang sisidlan
na nabasag na kailangan nyong buuin ulit, pupulutin nyo ang bawat piraso at muling buuin, mahirap di ba ?
oo pero kaya at talagang tiyagaan, it will take time, even years pero marami ng gumawa nito na
naging sucessful din. Tuloy mo lang nag pananampalataya mo sa Diyos siya ang tutulong sa inyo.

[masteruten]

Tandaan: kung tunay ang pagsisisi at nangakong putol na trulili ang kanilang relasyon kahit na anong komunikasyon ay pinutol na, at nakikita mo talaga sa gawa ang pagsisi nya, mahahalata mo ito sa kilos nya, naging mas malapit ba kayo sa isa't isa ? mas palagi na ba kayo magkasama at magkausap, mas intimate at mas madalas na ba ang banatan nyo na dating naging madalang pasa patak ng ulan ? , kung may makita kang ibang stroke at isipin mo natutunan nya kay principal un eh ouch ka na lang, kasama yan sa titiisin mo. Pwede mo din itext o imessage *** lalake na owner ng school sabihin mo iho de poota wala ka sa respeto sa may asawa, alam ko na ang ang nangyari sa inyo ng asawa ko' that's it wag ka magbanta ng maski ano, hayaan mo siyang mag isip kung ano ang plano mo, para din na din siya mag attempt na makipag communicate sa asawa mo, isa pa e kung bigla kang maburyong at ibayad mo yan ihoe de **** na yan eh di wala ka sabit dahil di ka naman nagbanta.


Kaya mo yang problema na yan, di ka nag iisa sa ganyang situasyon, Sino ba tayo para di magpatawad kung ang tao ay nagsisisi at talagang nagbabago ? mabigat *** torture sa isip, pero from day 1 na magkasundo kayo at mangako ulit sa isat isa, eto *** simula ng bagong memories na papalit sa pait ng naranasan mo matagal
kasi back to zero, ibalik nyo *** dating bago pa lang kayo, mamasyal kayo palagi, i date mo siya dito mo
mahahalata kung talaga mahal ka pa nya at true ang pagsisisi nya.

PERO, datapawat, ngunit ... kung mapansin mo na ikaw na lang nag gustong magtuloy ng relasyon nyo, medyo
di na siya ganado sa inyo at laging tahimik sa isang sulok pabikol bikol, at mas gusto pa magsolo, at *** gusto nya e dapat masunod na para ka ng uto uto, e malamang di tunay ang pagsisi nyan at kahiyaan na lang dahil nabuko mo ... ehem ehem dapat wala na siyang peysbook account, kung meron man eh add nyo naman ako he he he. Hindi, dapat alam mo ang username at password, yahoo messenger nya o iba lahat may access ka, hanggat maari bawasan nya na ang pag gamit nito at baka matukso pa siyang mapa chat at mangamusta. Cellphone, wala muna putulan mo muna kung baga ay probationary period muna siya ... lahat to kasama sa titiisin nya kung talagang nagsisisi siya e tatanggapin nya tong mungkahi na to, tandaan : sabihin mo temporary lang lahat ng ito para din makali mot na din siya ng tuluyan. Kung isa sa mga ito ay pinapalagan nya kagaya ng gusto ko pa din cellphone, gusto ko pa din privacy, e mag isip isip ka na ulit ... bili ka ng dora rat killer at araw araw bubuhusan mo ng 5 piraso ang coke nya.