Marriage before sex

[almightyge]

I’ve read through all your views, opinions, etc. =) Pero nagiging off topic na ata tayo. I thought i was reading through REALM OF THOUGHT! but am not..

so ok, on with the topic.

But before i do, a little backgrounder on me. Am 36 ( going 37), I just got married recently ( does April 2010 count as recent? =)

I am no longer a virgin when i got married, so is my wife. My sex life before i got married was like Happy New Year every now and then. Matinding putukan kaliwa’t kanan.

I knew every massage parlors, spakols all over the metro. Had a few fb’s. I made sure i get my fix at least ONCE every month.

ika nga natin, TAO lang tayo. Di tayo makatiis na walang release.

I get my release, my fix, it feels really good.. sarap! but after awhile.. to be honest.. deep inside me ( even my pocket! haha) , i don’t feel good.

Yes, it was my choice, free will as you guys say. But i knew it was wrong before i did such. Actually, performance wise.. aminin ko sa inyo.. am not satisfied with my own performance. Bakit? something was troubling me. inside my heart and mind actually. I knew i was doing wrong. Yes, i am a Christian. But i am weak, I am far from perfect. I am weak that is why i needed Him in my heart.

So basic lang, kapag stress ka, may iniisip ka, your performance gets affected.

I need help. I can’t do it by myself. So i look up to that big GUY, or TROLL or whatever you guys call God.

What is amazing about God is that He is loving, merciful, full of Grace and forgiving. Forgive me He did. I stayed single ( yes, didn’t have a relationship ) for 9 long years before i found my wife. 7 months after meeting her, we became a couple, after 1 1/2 month.. we got married! yes, that is 1 1/2 month! and no... she is not pregnant back then. ( She is now though! =) going 7 months preggy to date)

Our sex life ? it’s simply amazing when you have sex to the one you really love. it’s more passionate... it’s great. But i will be the first to tell you that it was at first weird for me as my instant thought, bawal ito... pero teka, asawa ko ito! hahhaa. indi pala bawal. We made love the very first time after we got married. Did I ever mention that our first kiss was at the altar as well? =)

And now.. we have a baby girl on the way. God is truly amazing.

I told my wife.. Parang pringles ang sex. Once you pop, you can’t stop. I will be very honest with everyone, i still struggle. I haven’t hopped into any sex joint since i got married but there is that constant tug of war. To the guys reading this, don’t tell me you never fantasize about having sex with that car show model? or that hot chick that walk past by you in the mall?

if i have the power to go back thru time.. I wish i didn’t engage in sex prior to getting married. I got used to having sex with different women from time to time.. I believe, because of that, kaya andyan pa rin yung strong struggle na yun. Isabay na natin na medyo mas blessed ako financially now more than ever.

ipasok ko na si free will dito ( with or without connection to the topic).. YES! it is my choice whether i want to engage in sex with different women even if i am married.. but what will that result in?

I could possibly get sick or terminally ill
I could possibly break my marriage and family entirely..
I could possibly break my bank account as well.

or i could choose to walk with Him. And be blessed all the more with a happy marriage, beautiful home with a pretty wife and cute cute baby in it.

I have to share with everyone here that the Bible is not written by the clergy. I know many of you are questioning it, even to the existence of God but let me ask you guys the following questions:

1.) how do you feel when your kid lies to you?
2.) have you lied even just once in your life? how do you feel after?
3.) how does it feel if you find out that your husband decides to have a hot sexy chick for a gf and never touches you?
4.) Would you mind if your daughter or son sleeps with someone who is married?
5.) Would you mind if your children do not respect or honor you?
6.) What do you tell your kid who just stole his or her classmates baon? ( medyo mababaw pero this happens right?! =)

The above questions involve actions that have consequences..

if you taught your kid never to lie, not to steal, not to sleep with someone who is married.. Who taught you those? Who taught your parents? The clergy? The priest? Where did they learn those? Your guess is as good as mine.

Some of you may question the Bible and God... but isn’t it amazing that something that was written more than 2000 years ago applies to our life ( even of social networking) today.

Do you love your neighbor? if it’s a yes, you are doing one of God’s greatest commandment of all. I am sorry if you met a lot of preachy Christians, i will tell you that they are just trying hard to share God’s love to you maybe not in the right way. Love is a big word, Love is even a bigger action. Love does not get any bigger than it’s creator. God is love.

To everyone here, we are entitled to our own opinion, let’s do share it with love and not make a mockery of anyone’s belief.

I am calling it a night! =) Sorry if my reply is very long.

[manangvi]

I’ve read through all your views, opinions, etc. =) Pero nagiging off topic na ata tayo. I thought i was reading through REALM OF THOUGHT! but am not..

so ok, on with the topic.

But before i do, a little backgrounder on me. Am 36 ( going 37), I just got married recently ( does April 2010 count as recent? =)

I am no longer a virgin when i got married, so is my wife. My sex life before i got married was like Happy New Year every now and then. Matinding putukan kaliwa’t kanan.

I knew every massage parlors, spakols all over the metro. Had a few fb’s. I made sure i get my fix at least ONCE every month.

ika nga natin, TAO lang tayo. Di tayo makatiis na walang release.

I get my release, my fix, it feels really good.. sarap! but after awhile.. to be honest.. deep inside me ( even my pocket! haha) , i don’t feel good.

Yes, it was my choice, free will as you guys say. But i knew it was wrong before i did such. Actually, performance wise.. aminin ko sa inyo.. am not satisfied with my own performance. Bakit? something was troubling me. inside my heart and mind actually. I knew i was doing wrong. Yes, i am a Christian. But i am weak, I am far from perfect. I am weak that is why i needed Him in my heart.

So basic lang, kapag stress ka, may iniisip ka, your performance gets affected.

I need help. I can’t do it by myself. So i look up to that big GUY, or TROLL or whatever you guys call God.

What is amazing about God is that He is loving, merciful, full of Grace and forgiving. Forgive me He did. I stayed single ( yes, didn’t have a relationship ) for 9 long years before i found my wife. 7 months after meeting her, we became a couple, after 1 1/2 month.. we got married! yes, that is 1 1/2 month! and no... she is not pregnant back then. ( She is now though! =) going 7 months preggy to date)

Our sex life ? it’s simply amazing when you have sex to the one you really love. it’s more passionate... it’s great. But i will be the first to tell you that it was at first weird for me as my instant thought, bawal ito... pero teka, asawa ko ito! hahhaa. indi pala bawal. We made love the very first time after we got married. Did I ever mention that our first kiss was at the altar as well? =)

And now.. we have a baby girl on the way. God is truly amazing.

I told my wife.. Parang pringles ang sex. Once you pop, you can’t stop. I will be very honest with everyone, i still struggle. I haven’t hopped into any sex joint since i got married but there is that constant tug of war. To the guys reading this, don’t tell me you never fantasize about having sex with that car show model? or that hot chick that walk past by you in the mall?

if i have the power to go back thru time.. I wish i didn’t engage in sex prior to getting married. I got used to having sex with different women from time to time.. I believe, because of that, kaya andyan pa rin yung strong struggle na yun. Isabay na natin na medyo mas blessed ako financially now more than ever.

ipasok ko na si free will dito ( with or without connection to the topic).. YES! it is my choice whether i want to engage in sex with different women even if i am married.. but what will that result in?

I could possibly get sick or terminally ill
I could possibly break my marriage and family entirely..
I could possibly break my bank account as well.

or i could choose to walk with Him. And be blessed all the more with a happy marriage, beautiful home with a pretty wife and cute cute baby in it.

I have to share with everyone here that the Bible is not written by the clergy. I know many of you are questioning it, even to the existence of God but let me ask you guys the following questions:

1.) how do you feel when your kid lies to you?
2.) have you lied even just once in your life? how do you feel after?
3.) how does it feel if you find out that your husband decides to have a hot sexy chick for a gf and never touches you?
4.) Would you mind if your daughter or son sleeps with someone who is married?
5.) Would you mind if your children do not respect or honor you?
6.) What do you tell your kid who just stole his or her classmates baon? ( medyo mababaw pero this happens right?! =)

The above questions involve actions that have consequences..

if you taught your kid never to lie, not to steal, not to sleep with someone who is married.. Who taught you those? Who taught your parents? The clergy? The priest? Where did they learn those? Your guess is as good as mine.

Some of you may question the Bible and God... but isn’t it amazing that something that was written more than 2000 years ago applies to our life ( even of social networking) today.

Do you love your neighbor? if it’s a yes, you are doing one of God’s greatest commandment of all. I am sorry if you met a lot of preachy Christians, i will tell you that they are just trying hard to share God’s love to you maybe not in the right way. Love is a big word, Love is even a bigger action. Love does not get any bigger than it’s creator. God is love.

To everyone here, we are entitled to our own opinion, let’s do share it with love and not make a mockery of anyone’s belief.

I am calling it a night! =) Sorry if my reply is very long.

Thanks !!

wala ka bang kakambal sa panininiwala ...
natanong lang

[Nils]

Ambot!

1 1/2 months lang palang 'pagtitiis' ang pinag-uusapan natin kung maka-pangaral kala mo eh napakalaking sakripisyo.

[almightyge]

Thanks !!

wala ka bang kakambal sa panininiwala ...
natanong lang

You are so much welcome.

Kakambal? wala daw sabi ng asawa ko nagiisa ako haha But marami dyan. Dont go looking for them, let them find u.

[purpleheadd07]

ahh well, 10 months din naman tinitiis ko every year ah.

[freshbabe]

Ambot!

1 1/2 months lang palang 'pagtitiis' ang pinag-uusapan natin kung maka-pangaral kala mo eh napakalaking sakripisyo.

^^ Count in the 7mos. after the 9years he met his wife. So 8 1/2 mos. siyang no "intimate contact" w/ anyone or even her special girl. I guess he's lucky to find the RIGHT ONE(GIRL). And lucky he found the RIGHT PATH for his own LIFE to be more "meaningful." And found that inner happiness and fulfillment.

-Than his previous endless cycle of hooking up w/ someone w/ no assurance of that person to really stay & take good care of him(meantime or momentary indulgence lang-not really happy inside) or no purpose or direction in life at all(lucky to eventually have a kid to raise & guide, inspire him).

-He'll probably would be a good father as well. For him to ask morally right questions. In order to raise a kid the RIGHT WAY. Kumbaga if he impregnated someone just for the heck of it, or by accident- w/o him not being this "Religious" and all and he was still into the vicous endless cycle of having different women anytime he likes. Probably there will be another "lost kid w/ a broken home & a broken soul".

[purpleheadd07]

kaya tama iyan, mag enjoy muna ng todo bago mag asawa.

[Nils]

^^ Count in the 7mos. after the 9years he met his wife. So 8 1/2 mos. siyang no "intimate contact" w/ anyone or even her special girl. I guess he's lucky to find the RIGHT ONE(GIRL). And lucky he found the RIGHT PATH for his own LIFE to be more "meaningful." And found that inner happiness and fulfillment.

Why should I? From his post:

"I am no longer a virgin when i got married, so is my wife. My sex life before i got married was like Happy New Year every now and then. Matinding putukan kaliwa’t kanan".

One wouldn't be in the wrong to infer that he was still sexually active even during the 7 months you have added to the period.

And even if there was a mistake with what he wrote, still you can't expect a guy who is still courting a girl to bed the girl. So it's still just 1 1/2 months.

[RBC]

It's interesting to see how adults (feeling bagets ako) argue about this issue.

If i'm a guy at i will be on the same page dyaynitor and many others.

and as a girl, i totally understand their dilemma.

I prefer marriage before sex but i don't mind ending up with the sex before marriage. Afterall i believe nsa babae parin ang desisyon kung gagawin nila yun or hindi

[almightyge]

ahh well, 10 months din naman tinitiis ko every year ah.

how come? =) he works overseas?

[almightyge]

^^ Count in the 7mos. after the 9years he met his wife. So 8 1/2 mos. siyang no "intimate contact" w/ anyone or even her special girl. I guess he's lucky to find the RIGHT ONE(GIRL). And lucky he found the RIGHT PATH for his own LIFE to be more "meaningful." And found that inner happiness and fulfillment.

-Than his previous endless cycle of hooking up w/ someone w/ no assurance of that person to really stay & take good care of him(meantime or momentary indulgence lang-not really happy inside) or no purpose or direction in life at all(lucky to eventually have a kid to raise & guide, inspire him).

-He'll probably would be a good father as well. For him to ask morally right questions. In order to raise a kid the RIGHT WAY. Kumbaga if he impregnated someone just for the heck of it, or by accident- w/o him not being this "Religious" and all and he was still into the vicous endless cycle of having different women anytime he likes. Probably there will be another "lost kid w/ a broken home & a broken soul".

@freshbabe - thank you for doing the numbers on how long i stayed sex free prior to my wedding day.

But to @doubters, let me ask a question.. mahilig ako magtanong eh.. hehe.. Do you think any girl would accept (you) or me in marriage just for the reason of sex? Girls.. would you?

if i didn't change my ways and with my track record on banging multiple women every now and then, do you think it would be easy for me to find a gf or eventually a wife of my own?

if it's the sex that i am only after..wow.. poor girl.. or should i say, poor wife.. i would still go after different women.... morena ngayon, mestiza bukas, chinita the day after.. say 20 years after..my wife would be old and grey.. i still would get it on (up!?) and still bang girls... who could be your niece, your daughter even! I don't think any girls would want me if i didn't change my ways. Right girls?

So @pexergirls, careful, if the guy wants you just because of the physical aspect and disregard what or how you are in the different aspect..i would suggest for you to re-think that relationship.

My dear friends, marriage is a totally different level compared to sex. Sex is made beautiful by God in marriage.

For couples here ( or to be couples) .. to whom did we ( or will you) commit in marriage? not only to our partners but we made a commitment to the Lord that we are going to love our partners, for better, for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health THROUGHOUT OUR MARRIED LIVES. Marriage is no joke for us right? We got our roles, our responsibilities, to love, to take care, to look after our family. With God as foundation of our respective marriages, then no earthquake, wind, or typhoon may crush your marriage.. we would be shaken when problem strikes... but with Him in our life and in our respective marriages, we will be just fine.

My point is, it's not 1 1/2 months, it's not just 6 months, or 1 year or 2 years or even 1 day ang pagtiis. What's important is the sincere change in there. Jesus saw that in the criminal who was beside him in the cross, but in the last minute, the criminal knew Jesus is God, could forgive sins and give life. He just made one simple request to join Jesus. Jesus took the same criminal with Him to Paradise. ( Talk about last minute check out! )

My wife and i.. we are just 2 broken persons.. joint in and blessed in marriage by God's grace. And i am thankful for my wife who accepted and embraced me wholeheartedly despite my crazy past.

To the single girls.. just ask God to help you look and see into the guy you are seeing ( or with) now. He will see you through.. He always does.

Anyway, i think i am veering away from the topic.. I do have a blog to which you can browse and read. www.geraldevangelista.com (totally different topics, it's more of my inspirational writings, i do have to update and write more though!

[spoliarium98]

^^ almightyge, sana may makilala rin akong guy na katulad ng pananampalataya nyo

almightge & blue satin, nauunawaan ko ang mga gusto nyong sabhihin at ishare dito... hanga po ako sa inyo

[Kenbone]

Sex before marriage is a pre-requisite. Aside from solving the 'compatibility in bed' issue, it's very cliche, but you actually give your all to each other when you make love.

[parokya47]

Madaling sabihin na wala muna sex before marriage, rerespetuhin mo *** gusto niya...e may mga girls na curious, tapos kung saan na napupunta *** page-explore...saka bilang lalaki, kapag nandun ka na, napakahirap tumigil, tapos papayag din naman pala siya pagkatapos nang mahabang pangungulit, pero sa ibang tao sandaling pambobola lang, mas mabilis kasi siyempre hindi na siya v***** (bitter hehe konti lang).

So from my own experience, next time, I will respect her decision. Mas tataas pa siguro *** tingin ko sa kanya. Kung hindi ko kaya, pupunta ako sa banyo at ililigo ko na lang. Saka kung karapat-dapat naman siyang iharap sa altar, siguro sulit na rin *** pagtitiis kumbaga.....Pero kung siya mismo nag-offer ng sex before marriage, sino naman ako para tumanggi....

[javafresher]

wow nakakablessed naman na may mga Christian na guys and girls pa na sinusunod ang will ni Lord =)

I am a Christian din, na di ako favor sa sex outside marriage. I'm proud to say that until now I'm virgin. I had 3 yrs relationship with my ex, pero walang nangyari sa amin. Now still single, may mga acquaintances ako na nagtatanong kung bakit virgin, na ang point of view nila na malaki na ko, by the way 24 na ko. So ayun, malaki na ko, bakit wala pa akong experience.

Para sa akin, di mo masasabi na 'matanda na ako or matured na ko' kelangan may experience na ako.

Mas maganda kasi kung first time nyo gagawin yun pag kasal na kayo. bakit? kasi balewala ang salitang "MARRIAGE" kung nagagawa nyo din naman pala ang mga nagagawa ng mag-asawa. di din naman basehan ng LOVE mo yung isang tao, kelangan nyo magsex agad. you can show love and affection without that muna. Mahirap pigilan kasi urge to ng katawan natin. that's why we need God to help us. pero I know magiging rewarding to in the end. love is patient.
Kung ang point of view ng lahat ng tao dapat magsex kasi baka di kami compatible sa ganung bagay, you value yourself more, ang importante eh yung urges na sex kesa love.

[ichigo_87]

First of all, tama ang principle na yan-we should save SEX for marriage and not dissect if into parts-kissing, fondling, etc. The Bible says it so, "do not arouse love until it's time" para sa akin, mas ok yung sexually pure kayo before marriage, at least, you will be looking forward to the marriage bed and will have lot's of time to explore. ang problema sa mundo ngayon, people have learned to equate sex with love, dala na rin ng influences ng media at internet. for me, so what if i'm a novice before getting marriewd? at least, mas ganado akong mag-explore kasama ng partner ko, LEGAL pa biblically, hindi pa ako magkakasala sa Dyos. eh ako nga 25 na, vurgun pa. and the girl i'm courting now is also a virgin and conservative. di porke walang physicallity sa relationship eh walang love..there are many ways to express affection without arousing passion. problema yun if a couple has given in sa lust.

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[ichigo_87]

wow nakakablessed naman na may mga Christian na guys and girls pa na sinusunod ang will ni Lord =)

I am a Christian din, na di ako favor sa sex outside marriage. I'm proud to say that until now I'm virgin. I had 3 yrs relationship with my ex, pero walang nangyari sa amin. Now still single, may mga acquaintances ako na nagtatanong kung bakit virgin, na ang point of view nila na malaki na ko, by the way 24 na ko. So ayun, malaki na ko, bakit wala pa akong experience.

Para sa akin, di mo masasabi na 'matanda na ako or matured na ko' kelangan may experience na ako.

Mas maganda kasi kung first time nyo gagawin yun pag kasal na kayo. bakit? kasi balewala ang salitang "MARRIAGE" kung nagagawa nyo din naman pala ang mga nagagawa ng mag-asawa. di din naman basehan ng LOVE mo yung isang tao, kelangan nyo magsex agad. you can show love and affection without that muna. Mahirap pigilan kasi urge to ng katawan natin. that's why we need God to help us. pero I know magiging rewarding to in the end. love is patient.
Kung ang point of view ng lahat ng tao dapat magsex kasi baka di kami compatible sa ganung bagay, you value yourself more, ang importante eh yung urges na sex kesa love.

i agree pare. i'm a new Christian na kababalik kay Lord ng dahil sa girl na to that i'm interested in. she's a dewvoted girl na may suot ngang tinatawag nyang "purity ring". para sa kanya it's her promise to God na di siya pagagalaw outside marriage, magkabf man siya (by the way, same kami walang experience sa relationships). dyan ako nainlove sa kanya, sa kanyang passion and devotion for God. compatible kami para sakin kasi we have the same interest in music. (we're both pianists and music was the reason we started our friemdship (hindi pa kami since she wanted to finish her studies pa, and that's not til next year) afyter reading the books of Joshua Harris-I Kissed DAting Goodbye at Boy Meets Girl-Say Hello To Courtship, eh sobrang blessed ko. siya lang yung girl na i lived with a pure thought life, yun bang hindi pinagpapantasyahan sa isip? dati kasi ganyan ako sa iba. but when she brought me back to God, things changed.

[ichigo_87]

I’ve read through all your views, opinions, etc. =) Pero nagiging off topic na ata tayo. I thought i was reading through REALM OF THOUGHT! but am not..

so ok, on with the topic.

But before i do, a little backgrounder on me. Am 36 ( going 37), I just got married recently ( does April 2010 count as recent? =)

I am no longer a virgin when i got married, so is my wife. My sex life before i got married was like Happy New Year every now and then. Matinding putukan kaliwa’t kanan.

I knew every massage parlors, spakols all over the metro. Had a few fb’s. I made sure i get my fix at least ONCE every month.

ika nga natin, TAO lang tayo. Di tayo makatiis na walang release.

I get my release, my fix, it feels really good.. sarap! but after awhile.. to be honest.. deep inside me ( even my pocket! haha) , i don’t feel good.

Yes, it was my choice, free will as you guys say. But i knew it was wrong before i did such. Actually, performance wise.. aminin ko sa inyo.. am not satisfied with my own performance. Bakit? something was troubling me. inside my heart and mind actually. I knew i was doing wrong. Yes, i am a Christian. But i am weak, I am far from perfect. I am weak that is why i needed Him in my heart.

So basic lang, kapag stress ka, may iniisip ka, your performance gets affected.

I need help. I can’t do it by myself. So i look up to that big GUY, or TROLL or whatever you guys call God.

What is amazing about God is that He is loving, merciful, full of Grace and forgiving. Forgive me He did. I stayed single ( yes, didn’t have a relationship ) for 9 long years before i found my wife. 7 months after meeting her, we became a couple, after 1 1/2 month.. we got married! yes, that is 1 1/2 month! and no... she is not pregnant back then. ( She is now though! =) going 7 months preggy to date)

Our sex life ? it’s simply amazing when you have sex to the one you really love. it’s more passionate... it’s great. But i will be the first to tell you that it was at first weird for me as my instant thought, bawal ito... pero teka, asawa ko ito! hahhaa. indi pala bawal. We made love the very first time after we got married. Did I ever mention that our first kiss was at the altar as well? =)

And now.. we have a baby girl on the way. God is truly amazing.

I told my wife.. Parang pringles ang sex. Once you pop, you can’t stop. I will be very honest with everyone, i still struggle. I haven’t hopped into any sex joint since i got married but there is that constant tug of war. To the guys reading this, don’t tell me you never fantasize about having sex with that car show model? or that hot chick that walk past by you in the mall?

if i have the power to go back thru time.. I wish i didn’t engage in sex prior to getting married. I got used to having sex with different women from time to time.. I believe, because of that, kaya andyan pa rin yung strong struggle na yun. Isabay na natin na medyo mas blessed ako financially now more than ever.

ipasok ko na si free will dito ( with or without connection to the topic).. YES! it is my choice whether i want to engage in sex with different women even if i am married.. but what will that result in?

I could possibly get sick or terminally ill
I could possibly break my marriage and family entirely..
I could possibly break my bank account as well.

or i could choose to walk with Him. And be blessed all the more with a happy marriage, beautiful home with a pretty wife and cute cute baby in it.

I have to share with everyone here that the Bible is not written by the clergy. I know many of you are questioning it, even to the existence of God but let me ask you guys the following questions:

1.) how do you feel when your kid lies to you?
2.) have you lied even just once in your life? how do you feel after?
3.) how does it feel if you find out that your husband decides to have a hot sexy chick for a gf and never touches you?
4.) Would you mind if your daughter or son sleeps with someone who is married?
5.) Would you mind if your children do not respect or honor you?
6.) What do you tell your kid who just stole his or her classmates baon? ( medyo mababaw pero this happens right?! =)

The above questions involve actions that have consequences..

if you taught your kid never to lie, not to steal, not to sleep with someone who is married.. Who taught you those? Who taught your parents? The clergy? The priest? Where did they learn those? Your guess is as good as mine.

Some of you may question the Bible and God... but isn’t it amazing that something that was written more than 2000 years ago applies to our life ( even of social networking) today.

Do you love your neighbor? if it’s a yes, you are doing one of God’s greatest commandment of all. I am sorry if you met a lot of preachy Christians, i will tell you that they are just trying hard to share God’s love to you maybe not in the right way. Love is a big word, Love is even a bigger action. Love does not get any bigger than it’s creator. God is love.

To everyone here, we are entitled to our own opinion, let’s do share it with love and not make a mockery of anyone’s belief.

I am calling it a night! =) Sorry if my reply is very long.

ok lang yan. nakakainspire nga eh, at least in this world may mga tao pang matino mag-isip. ako nga i get scoffed at sa office for my views on sex and virginity, kasi diba ang trend ngayon kung virgin ka pa sa ganitong edad, you are a laughingstock? ganyan experience ko ngayon. do you mind ifn i qoute you and share this sa FB? just to spread the word of God na pareho nating passion..

[sliceoftime]

Lagi ba talagang deal breaker if the girl says "no sex before marriage"? Paano kung perfect for you yun girl in every single way eto lang ang catch? What if you know that your girlfriend is no longer a virgin pero she now says she wants to wait?

I'm currently discerning eh.

Pero tingin ko if a guy breaks up with you just because of this, without him even trying, he doesn't deserve you.

[unknown_SM]

I’ve read through all your views, opinions, etc. =) Pero nagiging off topic na ata tayo. I thought i was reading through REALM OF THOUGHT! but am not..

so ok, on with the topic.

But before i do, a little backgrounder on me. Am 36 ( going 37), I just got married recently ( does April 2010 count as recent? =)

I am no longer a virgin when i got married, so is my wife. My sex life before i got married was like Happy New Year every now and then. Matinding putukan kaliwa’t kanan.

I knew every massage parlors, spakols all over the metro. Had a few fb’s. I made sure i get my fix at least ONCE every month.

ika nga natin, TAO lang tayo. Di tayo makatiis na walang release.

I get my release, my fix, it feels really good.. sarap! but after awhile.. to be honest.. deep inside me ( even my pocket! haha) , i don’t feel good.

Yes, it was my choice, free will as you guys say. But i knew it was wrong before i did such. Actually, performance wise.. aminin ko sa inyo.. am not satisfied with my own performance. Bakit? something was troubling me. inside my heart and mind actually. I knew i was doing wrong. Yes, i am a Christian. But i am weak, I am far from perfect. I am weak that is why i needed Him in my heart.

So basic lang, kapag stress ka, may iniisip ka, your performance gets affected.

I need help. I can’t do it by myself. So i look up to that big GUY, or TROLL or whatever you guys call God.

What is amazing about God is that He is loving, merciful, full of Grace and forgiving. Forgive me He did. I stayed single ( yes, didn’t have a relationship ) for 9 long years before i found my wife. 7 months after meeting her, we became a couple, after 1 1/2 month.. we got married! yes, that is 1 1/2 month! and no... she is not pregnant back then. ( She is now though! =) going 7 months preggy to date)

Our sex life ? it’s simply amazing when you have sex to the one you really love. it’s more passionate... it’s great. But i will be the first to tell you that it was at first weird for me as my instant thought, bawal ito... pero teka, asawa ko ito! hahhaa. indi pala bawal. We made love the very first time after we got married. Did I ever mention that our first kiss was at the altar as well? =)

And now.. we have a baby girl on the way. God is truly amazing.

I told my wife.. Parang pringles ang sex. Once you pop, you can’t stop. I will be very honest with everyone, i still struggle. I haven’t hopped into any sex joint since i got married but there is that constant tug of war. To the guys reading this, don’t tell me you never fantasize about having sex with that car show model? or that hot chick that walk past by you in the mall?

if i have the power to go back thru time.. I wish i didn’t engage in sex prior to getting married. I got used to having sex with different women from time to time.. I believe, because of that, kaya andyan pa rin yung strong struggle na yun. Isabay na natin na medyo mas blessed ako financially now more than ever.

ipasok ko na si free will dito ( with or without connection to the topic).. YES! it is my choice whether i want to engage in sex with different women even if i am married.. but what will that result in?

I could possibly get sick or terminally ill
I could possibly break my marriage and family entirely..
I could possibly break my bank account as well.

or i could choose to walk with Him. And be blessed all the more with a happy marriage, beautiful home with a pretty wife and cute cute baby in it.

I have to share with everyone here that the Bible is not written by the clergy. I know many of you are questioning it, even to the existence of God but let me ask you guys the following questions:

1.) how do you feel when your kid lies to you?
2.) have you lied even just once in your life? how do you feel after?
3.) how does it feel if you find out that your husband decides to have a hot sexy chick for a gf and never touches you?
4.) Would you mind if your daughter or son sleeps with someone who is married?
5.) Would you mind if your children do not respect or honor you?
6.) What do you tell your kid who just stole his or her classmates baon? ( medyo mababaw pero this happens right?! =)

The above questions involve actions that have consequences..

if you taught your kid never to lie, not to steal, not to sleep with someone who is married.. Who taught you those? Who taught your parents? The clergy? The priest? Where did they learn those? Your guess is as good as mine.

Some of you may question the Bible and God... but isn’t it amazing that something that was written more than 2000 years ago applies to our life ( even of social networking) today.

Do you love your neighbor? if it’s a yes, you are doing one of God’s greatest commandment of all. I am sorry if you met a lot of preachy Christians, i will tell you that they are just trying hard to share God’s love to you maybe not in the right way. Love is a big word, Love is even a bigger action. Love does not get any bigger than it’s creator. God is love.

To everyone here, we are entitled to our own opinion, let’s do share it with love and not make a mockery of anyone’s belief.

I am calling it a night! =) Sorry if my reply is very long.

Grabe! The most sensible, amazing post I have ever read in the entire PEx. I know where you're coming from, true, sex is like pringles. We can't stop the lust, the desire to have it over and over and over again. But at the end of each sex, I felt empty, I felt guilty, and yes because I knew from the start that what I was doing is wrong in the eyes of God. And the good news is that God is so compassionate and full of grace and when we are weak, He gives us the strength. He is more than sufficient in all things. I still struggle with lust as well, what I do is I pray to God to put me in sleep nalang and paggising ko wala na . You know when you remember those times you did it, grabe ang tawag ng laman.

I remember when I was in college, I was a virgin then, 2 dear friends told me that sex is like drugs, once you have it, you get addicted to it. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and never gave into my curiosity and lust. Siguro di ako nag-ii-struggle ngayon, but hey, when you've asked for forgiveness and accepted Jesus as your saviour, you're brand new.

His love is so high, so deep that no one could ever ever fathom. Right now, I am in faith to stay single until it is His time. And I will stay a 'virgin' for my future husband.