Can a guy and a girl can really be just friends

[mankey]

meron akong friend na girl, ex siya ng tropa ko.. and never kaming nadevelop sa isa't isa.. we hold hands pero biruan lang.. hanggang dun lang.. no kiss, no s**.. if you respect naman *** friendship nyu pede naman eh.. depende na lang kung my hidden desires ka..

[mayonnaise]

They always invite me if they want to drink or just hang out.

OF COURSE they do.

Can a guy and a girl can really be just friends?

NO. guys can pretend to be friends with chicks but a chick and a guy can not be true friends. when a guy thinks a chick is hot, he's only being nice to her not because he wants to be friends, but because he's looking for an opportunity to get in her panties. when a guy thinks a chick is a dog face, he can be close to her without thinking of sleeping with her.

IN BOTH instances, the guy is not being a true friend. a true friend will not think of bending over a friend so he can stick his penis in her vagina. and a true friend will not judge a friend's beauty (or lack thereof). when a guy thinks a chick is fugly, he's not being a friend. can a girl be friends with someone who thinks she resembles a dog?

[miletjs]

im in a field that mostly guys are working. There are a couple of girls in our team but i dont really like them that much. I do have a bf but i like to hangout with guys eventhough im the only girl in the group. I havent told my bf that im hanging out with them like drinking etc. Is that fine? They really are good guys and i literally treat them as my friends. They always invite me if they want to drink or just hang out.

Hmmm.. I think it's okay to hang out with them but I won't suggest drinking with them. Minsan kasi pag lasing na, nawawalan ng "reason" eh. Maaring "good guys" nga sila, pero natanong mo ba ang sarili mo
na baka naman ikaw lumagpas sa limit mo?

Yun tanong mo na kung pwedeng maging friends lang ang guys and girls.. alam mo dati hindi ako naniniwala dun.. pero nang nagdaan ang panahon, yes I believe they can just be friends. Sa outside world, lagi ka naman talagang may makakasamang lalaki, at ganon din naman sa mga lalaki - lagi din silang may makakasamang babae. Naniniwala ako na pwedeng mangyari na close ang girl and boy pero hindi talaga sila attracted sa isa't-isa. Pero kadalasan ng nakilala ko, pag sobrang close ang lalaki sa babae or vice versa, nagkakagustuhan na sila. Ok naman kung mutual sana ang feelings. Ang problema pag isa lang ang na-develop.. ouch sa friendship yun.. hehe Meron akong alam, naging close sila sa work pero talagang friends lang ang tingin ng girl sa guy. All along the girl thought ganon din yun guy.. until nag resign si girl sa company. Then yun close friend nya na babae sinabi na yun guy pala may gusto na sa kanya kaso hindi masabi kasi natatakot na masira ang friendship. My point is, you can never tell kung yun close friend mo na opposite sex is attracted sayo or hindi. Baka mukha lang silang good guy, pero hindi lang pala nagsasalita..

[Vainpire11]

It depends but it can happen, I have a guy friend who used to be a suitor, (binasted ko kasi he's way too young for me) we ended up being best friends.

For hanging with all boys naman I think you should be wary parin, put your guards up and expect the worst case scenario, you can never be too careful.. so definitely NO.

[eunice_2011]

To some extent yes.
Dapat may limitations pa rin..

I used to believe na pwede....but it turned out (based on my experience)..na hindi pala..
You can never be tooo close with the opposite sex ...

You have to set limitations pa rin..

[vincex]

You people are so paranoid about the opposite sex. Meaning you probably don't have REAL friends of the opposite sex. They (or you) are just interested in each other as an "excuse" to be friends.

[mayonnaise]

You people are so paranoid about the opposite sex. Meaning you probably don't have REAL friends of the opposite sex. They (or you) are just interested in each other as an "excuse" to be friends.

/raises hand

I DON'T HAVE true chick friends. i know a lot of women but i don't really consider them my friends because i either wanna tap that or they're ugly. the okay looking ones, i'd still hit with the right amount of alcohol in my system.

[MONTO GAWE]

Theoretically, yes. Friendship knows no gender.


Kaso, from experience:

pag maganda - it's hard not to fall for the girl

pag hindi - there's a tendency they'll fall for the guy

Case to cases basis, siguro.

Further, I guess the sexual tension is stronger when the parties are younger.

[feisty_virago]

OF COURSE. All my kabarkada guys are those I met way back in college. Right after graduation, we would go out every weekend. But when we grew up, some of us took our MBAs, switched jobs, had gfs/bfs out of the group so mejo nabawasan ang labas. Now that we're pushing 30, some of us are already married and engaged to people outside of the group. But we still go out at least 2x a month.

It is possible. And I am lucky that my guy friends are the gentlemen type. Sila *** nagpapautang ng datung sakin nung na-hold ang backpay ko ng 2 months na di inaasahan kaya wala akong cashflow for a month, naghahatid sakin sa bahay pag wala akong dalang tsikot, willing suntokin yung mga lalakeng sinaktan ako etc. And I never saw them as potential BFs kahit na may itsura sila. I guess it really depends on the chemistry. Wala talaga nagka-developan samin. Para talaga kming magkakapatid.

[collegestudent]

Theoretically, yes. Friendship knows no gender.


Kaso, from experience:

pag maganda - it's hard not to fall for the girl

pag hindi - there's a tendency they'll fall for the guy

Case to cases basis, siguro.

Further, I guess the sexual tension is stronger when the parties are younger.

I agree with this.

OT: my bf already knew about the quiet guy in my office, funny thing is that he was mature about it (loved him more because of this). This quiet guy I don't talk to him anymore unless he talks to me. Got tired of always initiating a conversation with him.

[isoy_gurl]

Yup! Dito kasi sa IT industry, kadalasan lalaki. So far, walang malisya. We can hang out together, barkada talaga. In my case, mas madalas kong nagiging close e lalaki. Best friend ko din lalaki. Platonic lang talaga. Never crossed our minds na talo kaming dalawa.

[Jimdel]

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[cornelsky]

im in a field that mostly guys are working. There are a couple of girls in our team but i dont really like them that much. I do have a bf but i like to hangout with guys eventhough im the only girl in the group. I havent told my bf that im hanging out with them like drinking etc. Is that fine? They really are good guys and i literally treat them as my friends. They always invite me if they want to drink or just hang out.

it is a dangerous TALAGA, ANG LALAKI PAG TINIGASAN HIRAP AWATIN

[taj_2306]

Based on experience... NO...
ok ill rephrase it... friends maybe... close friends...nah...

[stevethedog]

Hmmm. I work on the IT industry and yes, it is possible for us to have friends (in the truest essence) with the opposite sex. Pero pansin ko lang, minsan ang mga babae namimisinterpret pag masyado na kaming close so we keep our distance. Tamang close lang. I'm not speaking for everyone. This is something I just observed.

[drakeymat]

i would have to say no.. eventually the guy or the girl would fall for the other person.

[pushpop]

pwede naman.

basta malinaw ang usapan ninyong dalawa na friends lang talaga. Mahirap kasi kung aasa yung isa tapos yung isa, walang alam sa nangyayari

[vincex]

You can still be friends with someone even if you fall or you wanna nail the person. Unless you have forgotten to objectify. hehehe.

Friendship should be segregated from attraction and other thought processes. Even respect. You can be attracted to someone you have or have no respect for as an example So why can't you be friends.

[enaej426]

It is POSSIBLE.
It depends on WHO and WHAT kind of people you hang out with .
Hindi sa lahat ng oras at panahon puro kalibugan ang nasa utak ng mga babae at lalaki .

[peculiar_chick]

friends? yes. as in acquaintance lang and the usual mundane niceties like lunching out with officemates, classmates etc.