Para fair girls any questions??...sasagutin naming mga GUYS!! second chapter

[Nils]

^ imposibleng di nyo pa nagagawang pagtakpan isa't isa.

hindi namin kailangang gawin yan brod, wala naman kaming ginagawang kalokohan. walang pagtatakpan. good boys kami... (ang kumontra hindi na makakatikim ng orgasm)

Here's the package of an interesting girl in front of you. She is attractive, intellectually interesting, very articulate, works hard, independent, fun to be with, doesn't have vices, modest, mature, emotionally deep, nice and friendly, sweet, caring, and God fearing.

But here's the big BUT.. she comes from a failed marriage; 7 years separated, no kids, and on the planning stage of getting her annulment (finances get in the way that's why she couldn't do it as fast as she could).

Question is, would you risk being with her? Would you fall in love with a woman like her?

why not?

[bubblewrap14]

@bubblewrap14 - I have a different opinion. I can love that woman you're talking about. But I would not hesitate to leave her if the relationship won't work out because of her personal issues.

By personal issues you mean if she still exhibits carrying baggages such as emotional baggage or that the annulment is taking too long? What if there is completely no emotional baggage, no issues with her and her ex, but that you need to wait for the annulment to get done, would you leave her?

[bubblewrap14]

your personal opinion is still from a judging standpoint, thus, it's offensive.

Let me clarify it to you.

A judgement requires a carefully evaluated opinion or evidence. An opinion is a personal belief, an impression. This is the difference between the two.

Now if you think my opinion is offensive, then by all means, take it as how you want it.

i've been noticing a trend here lately. you women ask for men's opinions and when you like what you read, you take it like fucking candy and when you don't, you go berserk.

Not all women here react that way. Do not generalize.

if you say you want opinions, then just read what we post. don't judge.

This is PEx and it's all about exchange of opinions.

[bubblewrap14]

wala namang imposible eh...kahit sino pa yan pwede ma-inlove...

BUT...then again, it has to happen naturally, as mentioned, if i am to base my interest or my love for her, for that matter, according to how hot she is, definitely, hindi lang naman siya ang uber hot.

mathematically speaking... even if shes a 10, her baggage would give her a negative exponential amount, and unless i am hopelessly and madly in love with her, i would settle for someone who is a base 9, sans the baggage.

This is a realistic explanation.

[bubblewrap14]

oxymoronic yung situation mo eh.

kasi if tama yung first part, walang problema yung second part. hindi baggage yun, situation lang na you have to handle.

Siguro ang mali sa first part is t@ng@ lang yung girl? Kasi tama sinabi mo na kung walang problema sa first part, walang problema yung second part. Kung t@ang@ si girl yun ang nagdala sa kanya sa sitwasyon na yun. Correct?

to answer your question, yes i can. and a lot of men will. the question really is, are they man enough to stand by the woman? do they have the cujones for such a situation?

See that is the big question.

[ka_deniz]

A long time guy friend who you got acquainted in the past and had a bit of an attraction but never got the chance due to some unavoidable circumstances suddenly comes out of the blue and starts communicating. Then he blurts out if you can introduce him to any of your single friends, if you have. Then you asks him what qualities does he look for in a girl. Then he tells you the exact description of who you are. And then he moves on to asking you on a coffee date.

What's with that?

umiis-style, gumi-gimick. ano pa?

[ka_deniz]

I believe so that's why I asked. The past tells a lot about the character of a person. Was she a bad woman? Or was she just a real victim that even polished her into becoming the woman she is now?



First, I am not looking for a possible mate here and this question is not even about me. The question was an innocent question. Not stupid, I believe. Sorry to blow your wrong impression, though.

I asked because I simply wanted to see men's different POVs. Like you said, not all people are the same and their POVs are presented in different ways.

this is overly romantic. you've been watching too many melodramas. her situation is just a consequence of her choices.

wala namang victim unless rape or abusive talaga ang sitwasyon. nobody forced her into that relationship. she chose to stick around. kahit tinatakot sya, sa dami na ng support system sa abused women ngayon, choice na nya talaga yun kung hindi sya bumaklas. kung nakabaklas na sya,madami na din paraan and support from the law. actually kahit annulment pwedeng libre eh. or at least, minimum ang expenses.

so really, its a matter of choice. gusto lang nung babaeng binubugbog sya o kaya inuuto ng lalaki.

[ka_deniz]

It was my personal opinion when I said the other pexer was a real man when he pointed out his opinion. And for me, what he said is just absolutely admirable because not all men can do that.

Did you notice me bashing anyone who said otherwise? Please stop saying I am here to judge anyone. That is completely wrong. Read up and chill!

and it is totally unrealistic and totally detached from reality.

madali magsalita. but the truth of the matter is,we don't reallythink about such things whenever we are in a relationship. nagugulat na lang tayo mabigat na pala yung dinadala nating sitwasyon. we usually take things one day at a time. we stick with our partner because we can't stand the day being without the partner. we don'tthink about tomorrow, just today. and before we know it, ang tagal na pala nating pinaninidigan yung syota natin.

[bubblewrap14]

umiis-style, gumi-gimick. ano pa?

Mga lalake talaga gasgas ang style.

and it is totally unrealistic and totally detached from reality.

madali magsalita. but the truth of the matter is,we don't reallythink about such things whenever we are in a relationship. nagugulat na lang tayo mabigat na pala yung dinadala nating sitwasyon. we usually take things one day at a time. we stick with our partner because we can't stand the day being without the partner. we don'tthink about tomorrow, just today. and before we know it, ang tagal na pala nating pinaninidigan yung syota natin.

Ganda ng sinabi mo ka deniz.

[hamsterson]

Now that's a real man with a real heart.

But do you realize that it's not going to be easy?

thing are not that easy in reality there will still be ups and downs for both parties, specially the girl is not yet over from her past plus the fact that things are not that really easy to go along with. a very long patience, moral communications and honesty.

[TTJ]

madali magsalita. but the truth of the matter is,we don't reallythink about such things whenever we are in a relationship. nagugulat na lang tayo mabigat na pala yung dinadala nating sitwasyon. we usually take things one day at a time. we stick with our partner because we can't stand the day being without the partner. we don'tthink about tomorrow, just today. and before we know it, ang tagal na pala nating pinaninidigan yung syota natin.

agree ako sa lahat. sapul na sapul.

[lancealmekian]

Let me clarify it to you.

A judgement requires a carefully evaluated opinion or evidence. An opinion is a personal belief, an impression. This is the difference between the two.

Now if you think my opinion is offensive, then by all means, take it as how you want it.

and where did you get all those definitions?
this website says judgement IS an opinion (definition 6). and you can fuck with dictionaries all you want, but that doesn't change the fact that you were being offensive. para mong sinabi na yung user lang na yun ang 'real man with real heart' dito sa pex dahil wala sya paki sa nakaraan nung babae, at kaming mga may paki, hindi. sheesh. kaengotan yan. natuwa ka lang sa sagot nya, todo compliment ka. you're not even sure if that's what he'd say if he were asked the same question IRL.

Not all women here react that way. Do not generalize.

where's the generalizing? i didn't say ALL YOU WOMEN here in pex. i had specific usernames in mind when i wrote that post.

This is PEx and it's all about exchange of opinions.

yes and it goes without saying that one should know when to post stupid ones and when not to. not every user here is an idiot who wouldn't mind reading stupidly opinionated posts. expect to get bashed for being stupid.

[ChenesKayo]

Are there any reasons why you would not delete an ex in FB even if you don't even talk or see each other or communicate in any way at all?

[lancealmekian]

^yup. so the number of my friends on the list won't decrease.

[bubblewrap14]

and where did you get all those definitions?
this website says judgement IS an opinion (definition 6). and you can fuck with dictionaries all you want, but that doesn't change the fact that you were being offensive. para mong sinabi na yung user lang na yun ang 'real man with real heart' dito sa pex dahil wala sya paki sa nakaraan nung babae, at kaming mga may paki, hindi. sheesh. kaengotan yan. natuwa ka lang sa sagot nya, todo compliment ka. you're not even sure if that's what he'd say if he were asked the same question IRL.

Oh did I just hit a nerve? You've been reacting sharply. Haven't you noticed that so far, you're the only one who's been reacting that way here. Parang may galit at gigil factor ang bawat ibato mong reaction. Why kaya?

where's the generalizing? i didn't say ALL YOU WOMEN here in pex. i had specific usernames in mind when i wrote that post.

Oh right you said "you women" not "some women". You have specific usernames in mind then by all means post their names away.

yes and it goes without saying that one should know when to post stupid ones and when not to. not every user here is an idiot who wouldn't mind reading stupidly opinionated posts. expect to get bashed for being stupid.

If you feel one post is stupid, then don't bother reading it. The thing is you're even interested in reading a post, which you consider stupid. Stupid people read stupid stuff.

[miss_pak]

need your opinion on this...

I have this ex who's starting to flirt with me. He broke up with me
before we reach our 2nd monthsary. His reason was his job but Only to find out that he has another girl. Eventhough I was devastated with the break-up we remain friends. His relationship with the other girl did not last coz he found out that the girl is a two-timer.
After five months of being separated from him, this guy started to
flirt with me. He was very vocal that he's very eager to go to my place and have sex with me (the guy is based abroad and nothing happened between us before). Whenever we talk on-line he would never fail to say "I Love You" before we end our conversation. Honestly, I don't feel any spark whenever he would say that line maybe because he never said that when it was still "us". One time he said that he find it weird why he's so eager to see my place and do that thing. I said maybe because he's only bored and so far I'm the only available girl that he can talk to. But he said, NO.
Is my answer not right or he just does not want to admit that I'm correct? If he's only playing games with me, what will be your advice so that I can play this game well?

[Jameaux]

^

Are you sure you really just want to play games? If you can handle that, then my advice would be to left him hanging. Its like making him think that you still like him but not that much. If you want to teach him a lesson, be a cheap pinay(I copied the term ) who makes him spend his money and time for you.

[miss_pak]

^ definitely you will think na umaasa pa ako na magiging kami pa rin in the end. Honestly, there are times that I would think about that. But whenever I recall what happened between us in the past, it will be a NO! NO! Thanks for the advice.

[mayonnaise]

need your opinion on this...

I have this ex who's starting to flirt with me. He broke up with me
before we reach our 2nd monthsary. His reason was his job but Only to find out that he has another girl. Eventhough I was devastated with the break-up we remain friends. His relationship with the other girl did not last coz he found out that the girl is a two-timer.
After five months of being separated from him, this guy started to
flirt with me. He was very vocal that he's very eager to go to my place and have sex with me (the guy is based abroad and nothing happened between us before). Whenever we talk on-line he would never fail to say "I Love You" before we end our conversation. Honestly, I don't feel any spark whenever he would say that line maybe because he never said that when it was still "us". One time he said that he find it weird why he's so eager to see my place and do that thing. I said maybe because he's only bored and so far I'm the only available girl that he can talk to. But he said, NO.
Is my answer not right or he just does not want to admit that I'm correct? If he's only playing games with me, what will be your advice so that I can play this game well?

YOU HAVE him figured out. he wants to drill someone and you're around so he's trying. if you want to play the game, you must understand that guys have two vulnerable spots. our ego and our wallet. keep sayin' no to his advances and at the same time, get him to spend money on you. you say he's overseas and you talk on-line, ask him to buy you stuff and have them shipped to your house. promise him sex the next time you see him in return and i guarantee you he'll send them.

JUST make sure though, that you don't hold your part of the deal. for as long as he's spending money on you and you're not giving him sex, you're winning the game. make sure you say "no." no can hurt the average guy's ego. guy's dont like hearing "no." and ranks second only to "i'm pregnant" of "unlikeability."

[Jameaux]

I won't promise s3x. I'd say entice him as much as possible like flirting with him on the phone or even fake a phone s3x but never promise something you can't give him when he decides to see you. And just when he "assumes" that you want that s3x he's been longing for, you have all the right to decline him. At least you will still have control of the situation.