Dating 101

[milya03]

Hello. I'm 19 and never dated anyone before. hahaha. medyo boring ang life ko, homebody kasi ako. haha. anyway. can you guys help me. i mean when in date, any tips? hindi ko rin kasi alam kung paano magcreate ng conversation or what to say. haha. nahihiya kasi ako, ndi ako sanay. kaya nagtatanong pa lang kung pede lumabas no na kagad ako. takte. hahaha. ayoko naman maging disaster ang date ko if ever.

[Refill]

You're a girl, normally you don't initiate the conversation. You can just go with the flow.

If you're really timid, a group-date would be a great starter. Ask your date to bring a friend and you'll bring one too. (common friends are recommended)

In a one-to-one date (first date):

* Just relax and be yourself.

* Dress appropriately.

* Make the most out of the date by knowing the guy you're dating. With this you can gauge if you'll go out with him again.

* Go out on a date in a not so private place. (Pre-cautionary advice: Some place you can at least scream for help...)

* At least ask to split the bill. (ganda points for most guys, plus its a statement that you're an independent type of girl)

* If you enjoyed your date, say thanks and that you enjoyed your date. If you didn't, just say thanks.

and lastly...

* Don't spread your legs.

[Bankai09]

Sometimes when your date can converse with you very well, you may/can have fun and all the topics will just pop out in your head = You'll have a good, if not great, date. But if your date is boring or timid, then it'll be a quiet date. LOL

^^ Refill is right, don't spread your legs on your first date. haha

[JUST_JT_]

kung kasing idad mo ang ka date mo huwag kang mag worry. pareho naman kayong kabading. kaya go ahead and enjoy lang. huwag kang oorder ng mamahaling pagkain baka hindi ka na idate ulit. order ka lang ng siopao at mami. sa sinehan naman, tsokoleyt lang pabili mo

[milya03]

HAHAHA. Thanks po sa reply. I won't spread legs for sure.

bankai - pag quiet date sigurado wala ng kasunod yun. tsssk. hahaha.

just jt - tsokoleyt? hahaha paglabas mo ng sinehan baka masakit na tyan mo nun.

[blue_tracer]

tama yung sabi ni refill, in my opinion. dont spread legs on your 1st date.

kasi mukha namang hindi sex e.b. ang puntirya mo eh. kundi ma-experience talaga kung ano/papano ba ang takbo ng dating.

as long as makakauwi ka pa rin safely after your date.. bahala na kung maging pleasant ang conversation ninyo o magmurahan pa kayo.

maganda yung alam mo ang basic etiquettes, pero mas maganda pag nandoon pa rin yung spontaneity.

ang hirap kasi ngayon sa mga datings.. mas nagpo-focus na ang majority sa bawat moves/words ng bawat isa kaysa feelings na dapat experience. nagiging playing mode/mind games na kadalasan. nagbabantayan. hehehe

yung sinasabi nila na just be yourself.. does not necessarily mean na pupunta ka doon completely defenceless. siyempre, may common sense pa rin.

enjoy your date.

[michymichymoo]

^ Sabi ng teacher ko nung HS: "Open your heart, but not your legs."

[blue_tracer]

^ Sabi ng teacher ko nung HS: "Open your heart, but not your legs."

what your HS teacher has told you is correct.

besides, darating din naman 'yan eventually sa bukasan ng legs eh. kaunting patience lang.

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[Refill]

^ Sabi ng teacher ko nung HS: "Open your heart, but not your legs."

Sometimes girls, opens their legs because they opened their hearts too much (i just wish that it's always for the right guy).

Yet openings one's legs just for fun is a different topic...

[BlueandWhite8]

Pics please?

When on a date, just respond lang to what the guy is saying muna. Or open up a conversation about a topic that you think you both know.

Relax lang, don't rush things that you do or say.

[blue_tracer]

impromptu + spontaneous.

pag well scripted na rin lang, huwag na lang kayo mag date. deretso na lang sa moot moot. that saves you a lot of time. hehehe

[Jameaux]

As stated above, try dating several people. I'm not saying everyday but whenever the opportunity comes grab it. This will make you comfortable with people especially strangers. There are no perfect dates but there are definitely enjoyable ones.

One thing I notice is that most people make it a big deal when you are dating. Guys think too much like how soon they can get in the girls' pants. Or girls visualizing a movie-like romance even just on first dates. Just be spontaneous. Listen actively when your date is talking. That way, you will know how to connect appropriately.

When danger comes, follow your instincts.

Good luck!

[milya03]

tama yung sabi ni refill, in my opinion. dont spread legs on your 1st date.

kasi mukha namang hindi sex e.b. ang puntirya mo eh. kundi ma-experience talaga kung ano/papano ba ang takbo ng dating.

as long as makakauwi ka pa rin safely after your date.. bahala na kung maging pleasant ang conversation ninyo o magmurahan pa kayo.

maganda yung alam mo ang basic etiquettes, pero mas maganda pag nandoon pa rin yung spontaneity.

ang hirap kasi ngayon sa mga datings.. mas nagpo-focus na ang majority sa bawat moves/words ng bawat isa kaysa feelings na dapat experience. nagiging playing mode/mind games na kadalasan. nagbabantayan. hehehe

yung sinasabi nila na just be yourself.. does not necessarily mean na pupunta ka doon completely defenceless. siyempre, may common sense pa rin.

enjoy your date.

hahahaha. ndi talaga sex. un talaga yung gusto kong malamang, kung paano takbo ng dating. hahaha. ang inosente ko talaga, nakakainis. hahahaha

[milya03]

salamat sa lahat ng reply. )))

very helpful comments.
nakakalakas ng loob. HAHAHA.

[my_2_cents]

Kung conservative ka, magsama ka ng CHAPERON. At babalaan mo ang ka-date mo, "YOU TOUCH ME, YOU MARRY ME."

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my_2_cents

[michymichymoo]

what your HS teacher has told you is correct.

besides, darating din naman 'yan eventually sa bukasan ng legs eh. kaunting patience lang.

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toomoo!!!

Sometimes girls, opens their legs because they opened their hearts too much (i just wish that it's always for the right guy).

Yet openings one's legs just for fun is a different topic...

agree!

[Refill]

How about dating tips for guys?

How about on your first few dates: You don't have the right to be late. Just come in time. (Not too early though).

[milya03]

hindi naman ako sobrang conservative na type. hahahaha. wala lang talaga ako ideo kung pano uumaadar ang isang normal na date. pero ngayon madami na. hahaha.

pero kayo ba what do you expect sa date niyo?

[Refill]

pero kayo ba what do you expect sa date niyo?

Hirap din sagutin nito ah, mahirap din kasi mag-expect from her end, though I have expectations for myself. But I always prefer a 'date' that we didn't really notice na nag-ddate na pala kami. Suddenly we just started going out and it just flowed naturally.

[crazytequilarose]

Hello. I'm 19 and never dated anyone before. hahaha. medyo boring ang life ko, homebody kasi ako. haha. anyway. can you guys help me. i mean when in date, any tips? hindi ko rin kasi alam kung paano magcreate ng conversation or what to say. haha. nahihiya kasi ako, ndi ako sanay. kaya nagtatanong pa lang kung pede lumabas no na kagad ako. takte. hahaha. ayoko naman maging disaster ang date ko if ever.

Also, don't expect that something romantic would come out from a date. Isipin mo na lang,pag hinde naman kayo nagkagustuhan, atleast you gained a new friend, or possible future business contact. You can widen your horizon and social network when dating. Kaya, be decent and nice sa ka-date mo.

Have a back-up plan in case disaster yung date. There should be someone else who knows who you're going out with, and where.

Ask him first kung ano plan nya. Since siya naman yung guy, dapat siya may plan. And you take control by agreeing or saying no. And pag nag-no ka, give a suggestion. Kze hinde naman manghuhula ang mga guys. Pero kung wala talagang plano and asa lang sayo mag desisyon, ewan ko na lang, haha!

Dress appropriately. Kung movies and casual dinner lang, jeans and a nice top, and wear heels. Pwede ka ring mag-skirt, but not too skimpy. Basta, pag nag-skirt ka, dapat may sleeves yung top mo. Pag nag-jeans ka, atleast sleeveless. or tube/spaghetti top but wear a sleeveless vest or blazer, or croppedjacket. Okay din mag-dress. Pag nag-dress ka, mas cute pag doll shoes. Hehe.