Should I or should I not??? Please help...

[Ikea_Scull]

Hello guys and girls out there!

I just thought of sharing this to everyone and gather inputs that can help me contemplate on this dilemma. You can be nice, mean and blunt to me.. just as long as you share your ideas to help me.

To start with, I am a career woman of age 30. Single, sociable and not even dating for almost a year now. I'm afraid of men, scared of being in a relationship so to cut it short, I've never been in a relationship in my entire existence. I'm not too pretty nor too attractive but to be fair to myself, I'm not facially challenged and am confident of who I am. I've dated men in the past but honestly I end up cutting ties with them.. just making excuses that I am just not ready to dive in (which is partly true) so I always end up being alone. Pathetic me..

For all the years that had passed, I've kept questioning myself if this happened because I was too hard to myself, or I'm just not meant to be with someone. I've already accepted to myself that I'll end up being a spinster and have already plans in case it really happens. That's just one of the issues. Secondly... now while writing this I've been thinking soooo hard if I should really say this. But I've decided to say it... ahaha.. I'm still a virgin. Violent reactions please.. That's another one. The third one is that I like this guy so bad..

Moving forward.. these three things got into me so much and I feel like I'm the most damned creature in the entire universe.
On being single.. I think I CAN still handle it as I've been really praying so hard to God and commend myself under His care but still having a hard time coping on the idea that I am such a loser for not even having a boyfriend. I oftenly feel sad being in this state.. but good thing is that I have friends to cheer me up. The problem is I’ve already set standards and it’s so difficult to find a guy that would meet that standard. Now I’m scared... to be alone I guess..
On being a virgin.. gosh, everyone who knows about this kept on pushing me to give it up as I’ve been missing a lot in my life. Peer pressure it is.. yes, I am so pressured by my friends! There are even times that I don't know if I should still be proud of saying this as I find it shameful that I've reached this age and still got no experience of having sex with guys.. what do you think? Is this a major turnoff to guys or would they find me boring or what???? Honestly, I always get indecent approaches from colleagues as soon as they hear about me being still a virgin.. but turned it down since I fear that they only want to steal that away from me. In other words, I trust no guys anymore. Now the worst part.. I’m in love with a very close friend but I’m not sure if he’s into me as well. He’s of same age and works at the same office. He was married and has a kid. Since were this close, I could openly and jokingly tell him straight that I love him so much and would do everything for him. He knows about my feelings, and that we could be intimate but just playing around on that part hehe. I think I’m so falling for him already. I’ve been telling him that we can try being in a relationship but he does not believe me at all. Just this morning, I’ve sent him an inspiring message and he texted back. Out of the blue he mentioned if I want to be his girlfriend but warned me that he’s that person whose hard to understand and deal with. I’m not sure If I have to give in just because of what he asked me but scared at the same time that he might just be joking on me. Do I have to believe him and use this chance to tell him what I really feel for him or just keep it all to myself? Instead, do I have to initiate more to get him? Do I have to do crazy things just for him to realize that I am damn serious? I’m also afraid that I might be able to give up this virginity just for him to realize that I really love him.

Guys, I’ve never tried this before (initiating) but I don’t know if it’s right to dive in and risk? Need your help badly..

Thanks.

[dlsuchix]

dont find love... let love find u

[ttoy]

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ikaww naman talaga teh isusugal mo na lang ang bandera mo dun pa sa may sabit pa tsk tsk tsk ...


naka tagal at naka tiis ka na nga up to this time tapos sa undeserving guy mo pa isusugal ... hala sige teh mag living la vida loca ka dyan at matanda ka na alam mo na mga consequences ng actions mo na yan ...


dami dyan na single ... huwag ka lang kasi puro sa office naka tingin ....


ayaw mo ba na someday pag kinasal ka na dun sa deserving na walang sabit na matinong guy mo ibigay ang bandera mo ???


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[ttoy]

dont find love... let love find u

huuuwwaaw asteeg toh pre ah ... pa kiss nga


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[Ikea_Scull]

dont find love... let love find u

thanks dlsuchix. I've been saying this to myself over and over again and I think it still works though at times.. I just feel so empty I guess. but thanks much. I'll keep this in mind.

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ikaww naman talaga teh isusugal mo na lang ang bandera mo dun pa sa may sabit pa tsk tsk tsk ...


naka tagal at naka tiis ka na nga up to this time tapos sa undeserving guy mo pa isusugal ... hala sige teh mag living la vida loca ka dyan at matanda ka na alam mo na mga consequences ng actions mo na yan ...


dami dyan na single ... huwag ka lang kasi puro sa office naka tingin ....


ayaw mo ba na someday pag kinasal ka na dun sa deserving na walang sabit na matinong guy mo ibigay ang bandera mo ???


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onga eh may tama ka. he's actually annulled but has a kid so legally I don't find anything wrong about this. yes, you can say he's unworthy for me.. I've known him for years and I would say, he is a good person. yup, nakatagal nga ako ng ilang years diba so sige I would try to preserve it more.

sa office lang kasi halos nagrerevolve ang buhay ko. I do go out sometimes but I don't trust guys I meet in bars and gimik places kaya sa work nalang talaga ang network ko. Thanks soo much too for your inputs.

[ttoy]

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okay ka lang teh ... hinde lang naman sa mga gimikan ka makaka kilala ng mga kelots eh hahaha ... just use your creativity more okies hehehe


kahit ano pa justification ang sabihin mo teh ... may sabit pa din yan ... in theory akala mo it's perfectly fine but in reality ... well ... discover it at your own risk hahaha ...


nagbigay na nga sayo ng hint na "person whose hard to understand and deal with" eh pero sige lang teh walang basagan ng trip kung gusto mo talaga na living la vida loca mode ka hahaha


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[Ice Burn]

editing earlier comment:

annulled naman pala.

if you are that horny eh di go for it.

funny naalala ko lang yung comment ng isang kakilala ko.

ganyan din, 30 years old before she first had sex.

her say. "sana pala hinde ako naghintay ng ganito katagal para gawin to."

[ttoy]

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basta final words ko sayo teh ay ....


there's nothing wrong with you ... you're fine ....


meron ako mga tropa na nagpapitas ng mansanas nila mid 30s pa nga eh and they said it's worth it that they waited ...


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[dlsuchix]

huuuwwaaw asteeg toh pre ah ... pa kiss nga


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sa pisngi lang tol ah?


Ikea_Scull- it really does make you feel lonely at times...lalo na when all of your friends are out and you are left alone to deasl with your loneliness and boredom... thats why i also joined pex...so if i dont find myself sleeping...on rd... and my friends are all busy... these peeps here can give you real good company...

we are having one night out for the boys tomorow keep yoourself occupied... for me...save the best for the last... what you dont know is a lot regret that they are no longer virgins...

a girlfriend confessed that she sometimes regret giving that precious thing just to realize that she did not end up with her ex and now shes married...how she wished she could have given that to the guy she married who thinks she believes deserve that more...some girl does feel the same way too


usualy, yung mga babae na malakas mangantyaw na "eeewwww!!! virgin ka pa!" just want you to be one fo them dahil sila nabigay na nila and you haven't.... believe me sis!

[Nils]

thanks dlsuchix. I've been saying this to myself over and over again and I think it still works though at times.. I just feel so empty I guess. but thanks much. I'll keep this in mind.



onga eh may tama ka. he's actually annulled but has a kid so legally I don't find anything wrong about this. yes, you can say he's unworthy for me.. I've known him for years and I would say, he is a good person. yup, nakatagal nga ako ng ilang years diba so sige I would try to preserve it more.

sa office lang kasi halos nagrerevolve ang buhay ko. I do go out sometimes but I don't trust guys I meet in bars and gimik places kaya sa work nalang talaga ang network ko. Thanks soo much too for your inputs.

wow! haba ng hair! he's unworthy, ampf!!!

[cura_cha]

I'll be straight with you Ikea_Scull, you're 30 years old, never had a bf and you're a virgin...seriously...it's time for an overhaul sweetie!!!

1. Are you overweight?
2. Do you have dry and unruly hair?
3. Do you have unwanted facial hair?
4. Does wearing orange make you look like the fruit itself?
5. Do you have bad breath?
6. Do you have body odor?
7. Does your wardrobe consist only of loose shirts, loose jeans and ugly sneakers?
8. Do you wear lipstick only when someone tells you that you look too pale?
9. You do not know the difference between a lipstick and a lip gloss?
10. Do guys tell you all the time that you're a "good friend" and that's all there is?
11. Do you have cross stitch projects?
12. Is your idea of a date going to McDonald's and drowning yourself fries and soda?

If you say YES to 2 of these 12 questions...then it's time for a make over!!!
If NO to all, you're lying. Hahahaha!
30 is supposed to be the age where a girl's libido is as high as the Sears tower. GO USE IT TO THE FULLEST!!!
30 is supposed to be the age where a girl realizes she's truly a wonderful WOMAN comin' out of her cocoon. Pls get out of that shell and show yourself to the world hunny!!! Goodluck!!!

PS...That guy who thinks he likes you, doesn't really like you. He just finds comfort in you. Ditch the dude and go find yourself fresh meat.

[invi]

^ lol i agree.

Honey, virginity is sacred but so dammn overrated. Sex is not always dirty (although dirty can be good too lol), it's a liberating experience. But of course if you're not ready don't do it. But don't tell me you're still not ready? Lol

And please don't go after any dude. Prettify yourself and let the guy chase you. That way, when you let him catch up, he won't take advantage of you (he gives more worth to things he put effort on chasing)

[finaldestination]

I'll be straight with you Ikea_Scull, you're 30 years old, never had a bf and you're a virgin...seriously...it's time for an overhaul sweetie!!!

1. Are you overweight?
2. Do you have dry and unruly hair?
3. Do you have unwanted facial hair?
4. Does wearing orange make you look like the fruit itself?
5. Do you have bad breath?
6. Do you have body odor?
7. Does your wardrobe consist only of loose shirts, loose jeans and ugly sneakers?
8. Do you wear lipstick only when someone tells you that you look too pale?
9. You do not know the difference between a lipstick and a lip gloss?
10. Do guys tell you all the time that you're a "good friend" and that's all there is?
11. Do you have cross stitch projects?
12. Is your idea of a date going to McDonald's and drowning yourself fries and soda?

If you say YES to 2 of these 12 questions...then it's time for a make over!!!
If NO to all, you're lying. Hahahaha!
30 is supposed to be the age where a girl's libido is as high as the Sears tower. GO USE IT TO THE FULLEST!!!
30 is supposed to be the age where a girl realizes she's truly a wonderful WOMAN comin' out of her cocoon. Pls get out of that shell and show yourself to the world hunny!!! Goodluck!!!

PS...That guy who thinks he likes you, doesn't really like you. He just finds comfort in you. Ditch the dude and go find yourself fresh meat.

well said..

@TS pm mo po si ate cura_cha you need her expertise.....
@cura_cha ate ako rin po pa make-over haha.jk

[ttoy]

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hala sige curacha emakeover mohhh akoohhhh hahaha



@fd ... babae ka ba ? mukha ka kasi ano eh hehehe


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[finaldestination]

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hala sige curacha emakeover mohhh akoohhhh hahaha



@fd ... babae ka ba ? mukha ka kasi ano eh hehehe


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parang gay? haha oo gay po talaga ako 500%...

[dlsuchix]

amf di lang 100% ttoy.....

[ttoy]

amf di lang 100% ttoy.....

hahaha sabi ko na nga ba eh ... para kasing may pilantik mga tingin mo sa pix eh ... malagkit na may lambing sa dulo kasi eh hehehe


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[cura_cha]

May lambing sa dulo!!! hahahahahaha. MALANDI! hahahahaha!
TS dapat maging MALANDI ka!!! That's the word. Maging HAROT! KIKAY! TALIPANDAS! Dibey?

[finaldestination]

hahaha sabi ko na nga ba eh ... para kasing may pilantik mga tingin mo sa pix eh ... malagkit na may lambing sa dulo kasi eh hehehe


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[jacoolmination]

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@fd ... babae ka ba ? mukha ka kasi ano eh hehehe


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ont:
hala cge.. pasibak ka na TS. sayang ng oras