First date - dapat hati sa gastos?

[heavyy_qear_XII]

i think makapal ang mukha ng babae if hindi man lang mag-offer ito to pay half of the bill and even more na makapal if she did offer but never mean it. it's up to the guy to either accept or insist.

[SagabaL]

kung sino ang nagyaya siya ang taya. no brainer.
sa getting-to-know-you stage... usually the guy ang nagyayaya.

kung ako ang niyaya at treat daw niya ako, i'd accept at super happy ako pero magdadala ako ng surprise gift.

kung hindi niya nabanggit na siya ang taya, expect ko na ako ang magbabayad. so aalamin ko kung saan niya ako dadalhin at sisiguraduhin ko na may pera ako bago ako umoo sa kanya.

dates. always strive to make it special for her. you have to come prepared. a little bit of planning goes a long way.

[sunfire]

Depende naman yan sa nagd-date. Para sa kin, sa first date, kung sinong nagyaya, siya magbayad, usually guys naman nagyayaya ng first date. Kung babae nagyaya, di okay lang na siya...

Pero ideally, the guys asks the first date, and he should pay. Turn off ako sa guys na magiinsist na split the bill on the first date! Pakita nyo naman na interesado kayo sa babae kaya niyo nga niyaya mag date no. And then syempre pag may mga next dates, pwede nang split yung bill or pagusapan kung sinong magbabayad.

[JUST_JT]

Verdict so far: MEN ALMOST ALWAYS INITIATE THE FIRST DATE THEREFORE SHOULD PAY FOR FIRST DATE.

Mga babae: Kung ganyan ang pananaw ninyo, MALAYO PA KAYO SA EQUAL OPPORTUNITY. Huwag kayong magtataka kung bakit INAALILA at INAAPI pa rin kayo ng mga LALAKI sa panahon ngayong 21st century na....

-Just_JT
Women.will.continue.to.be.SUBSERVIENT.to.men.

[barelythere]

Verdict so far: MEN ALMOST ALWAYS INITIATE THE FIRST DATE THEREFORE SHOULD PAY FOR FIRST DATE.

Mga babae: Kung ganyan ang pananaw ninyo, MALAYO PA KAYO SA EQUAL OPPORTUNITY. Huwag kayong magtataka kung bakit INAALILA at INAAPI pa rin kayo ng mga LALAKI sa panahon ngayong 21st century na....

-Just_JT
Women.will.continue.to.be.SUBSERVIENT.to.men.

i disagree,ang topic kasi FIRST date,just because us women expect/let the guy shoulder the expenses,again on the first date,doesn't mean we're being/will continue to be "subservient".

i find that "conclusion" lame...very.

i may say im fine with splitting the bill,then again it's a minus point, well that's just for me...i mean may magagawa ba ako kung kulang pala pambayad niya

besides first date is all about making an "impression",and shouldering the expenses is just one of 'em

[JUST_JT]

i disagree,ang topic kasi FIRST date,just because us women expect/let the guy shoulder the expenses,again on the first date,doesn't mean we're being/will continue to be "subservient".

The fact that MEN **ALMOST ALWAYS** INITIATE the first date is a SIGN that WOMEN are SUBSERVIENT to MEN.

Do y'all agree?

-Just_JT
Nakatunganga.lang.ang.babae.naghihintay.mahulog.ang.bungangkahoy.mahulog.sa.kanyang.bunganga?

[barelythere]

The fact that MEN **ALMOST ALWAYS** INITIATE the first date is a SIGN that WOMEN are SUBSERVIENT to MEN.

Do y'all agree?

-Just_JT
Nakatunganga.lang.ang.babae.naghihintay.mahulog.ang.bungangkahoy.mahulog.sa.kanyang.bunganga?

i still don't agree

women who initiate the first date are...desperate

a guy who would ask a lady out means that he's really interested and is more about on getting to know her,thus wouldn't mind if the girl did not even bother to offer to share the bill.

[JUST_JT]

women who initiate the first date are...desperate

Very sad society we live in where women who are pro-active in pursuing their interest are tagged as DESPERATE....

-Just_JT
Gender.stereotypes.should.go.now.that.we're.in.the.21st.century.

[barelythere]

Very sad society we live in where women who are pro-active in pursuing their interest are tagged as DESPERATE....

my bad...tsk tsk tsk...'guess im just speaking for myself.

a not so desperate woman have her own way,"subtle" way of making the guy ask her out instead.for me,if that "tactic" didn't work out,i let it go,it's either he don't know how to read between the lines (slow,tsk) or! he's just not that interested...make no mistake though,there's nothinq wrong with asking a guy out on a date,however proactively doing it kinda spells "desperation" for me.

still,i don't agree with your post #64

[JUST_JT]

there's nothinq wrong with asking a guy out on a date,however proactively doing it kinda spells "desperation" for me.

And I'm sure many women share your sentiments. Which drives back to my point about A SAD SOCIETY tagging women who are pro-active as DESPERATE.

-Just_JT
Subtle.subliminal.messages.not.pro-active.enough.

[barelythere]

And I'm sure many women share your sentiments. Which drives back to my point about A SAD SOCIETY tagging women who are pro-active as DESPERATE.

there are a lotta more things that we can go/be desperate about and be proactive than asking a man out on a date,which are far more worth it.

[hardylaine]

lalake dapat lahat sa first date para maka score agad... kapag naghati kasi sila olats yun.. baka wala pa sa second base yun.. ako nga first date ko sa sinehan pa lang nirereyp ko na yung girl.. hahahaha... dinadaliri ko na yung girl eh... hahaha...

and dapat kapag may plano ka na makipag date mag ipon ka na ..kung hindi ka balasubas na lalake.. at maginoo ka.. kung makikihati ka pa.. wala kang karapatang makipag date sa babae...

[JUST_JT]

lalake dapat lahat sa first date para maka score agad... kapag naghati kasi sila olats yun.. baka wala pa sa second base yun.. ako nga first date ko sa sinehan pa lang nirereyp ko na yung girl.. hahahaha... dinadaliri ko na yung girl eh... hahaha...

Walang problema. Kung babae ang magbabayad ng first date at nag-sine, libre na niyang jack-coolin at achupin si lalaki ... o di ba?

-Just_JT
Women.can.SCORE.too.right?

[GrantJeffrey]

Very sad society we live in where women who are pro-active in pursuing their interest are tagged as DESPERATE....

-Just_JT
Gender.stereotypes.should.go.now.that.we're.in.the.21st.century.

I agree with you there, sir.

[infinite_trial]

i think gender equality goes both ways. if we keep saying that guys should initiate, girls should remain virgin, labeling roles according to gender then we cannot achieve gender equality.

[s_lo75]

Guys na makwenta ay...ILOKANO! (from dating up to the time you're married)

[mommy_palaboy]

para sa akin... mas gusto kong maglabas ng pera...kahit manlibre pa... lalo na kung gusto kong walang i-expect sa akin ang lalake...ayokong naoobliga ng kung ano ano dahil lang nailibre ako.

[blue_tracer]

depende na 'yan sa guy din.

for me.. tutal 1st date pa lang naman, ako na mag volunteer magbayad sa bill. or.. kung mag insist pa rin talaga yung girl, okay kkb na lang. para hindi na maging complicated pa ang issue.

[GrantJeffrey]

If the guy is an oil sheik, splitting the bill with his date is something weird.

[barelythere]

napaisip tuloy ako kung lahat ba ng lalaki pag hiningi na yung bill (regardless if they're ok with not splitting the bill or not) iniisip nila kung "ako lang ba magbabayad lahat?" or "hindi ba siya mags-share?" ...and alam ko kasi mas sa ibang "bagay" naglilikot ang isip niyang mga yan eh