Payo niyo sa mga babae ngayon

[infinite_trial]

i agree with rickym

- girls should be independent from men. having a guy should be just a bonus. get a job and earn your own money so a guy will not be able to take control of you or take advantage of you. i've seen a lot of friends who are stuck with their husbands for the sake of their children and money. they keep complaining that they are not happy but they don't have the balls to get out of the relationship because of the comfort they get out of the marriage money-wise.

- think like how a guy would think. but don't do it for the purpose to please a guy. some women claim that they think like a guy but still are very submissive. i am not saying be a b!tch either. what do i mean by this? enjoy your youth. date, get your heart broken, move on and learn...enjoy the experience.

- i agree with jerservixen too that women are in control. you just have to think that you have the option to choose your guy, your partner. some women settle with a so-so guy then complain. you have the control. you just have to know yourself first, know what you want and always have that mindset that you are in control of getting what you want.

- don't mind it if some guys don't pay you attention or reject you. reflect first if there's something wrong about you or with them. maybe you two aren't just a match. there's nothing wrong with being picky as long as you get your quality guy. men do that all the time. they get a gf, upgrade, then marry the woman they think is the best of all. don't ever downgrade! don't compromise your wants if you know you are gonna regret it later and resent your partner.

- now we know that we have control, there are some things though that we don't have control of. we cannot control the guys emotions and other factors. this is where frustration comes in...when you expect too much and get mad about things you have no control of. learn when to give up, accept that you don't have control of these things and don't take it personally.

- your ideal guy is just IDEAL. he only exists in your head. this is also related to the point above. but i thought you should not compromise your wants? yes, you still shouldn't compromise...but this is about some stupid expectations women have about guys. for example, a woman complains that her boyfriend does not text her enough. okay, maybe your boyfriend thinks 5 text per day is enough since you are spending the whole weekend together anyways. men are not mind readers. you need to tell them your issues in a none nagging manner. like i said, don't take things personally. this is more of your problem than his. you have created this man in your head and now he cannot act within your conditions, you get hurt. however, if you know you are not being irrational with your demands, you already told him about it and still he won't budge...then it's time to dump him.

- learn the art of "rubber-banding." most of us often wonder what we've done wrong after spending a wonderful time with a guy, then they suddenly disappear and lose interest. this maybe won't happen if we didn't give into sex early or stupidly called them a bunch of times after spending time with them. spell clingy. try this on a guy. spend a wonderful time with him and expect that the next day, he would rather spend the day alone, or with his friends. a guy has to gain back his masculinity and being intimate with you meant that he has lost in touch of this. when to contact him? well there's no rules, really. he could be really gone forever after that lol. my rule is, i let the guy contact me. if i don't hear from him, i just shoot him a plain message like hi, how's your day. if he doesn't initiate that much then he's not that into you. don't put all of your eggs in one basket.

[invi]

...pahabol.

Kung maggygym or running kayo, dapat tight and clothing nyo.

Sorry. Pag tumatakbo ako mukha akong lalaki, para walang istorbo.

Advice: Don't take life too seriously! Dadami ang wrinkles.

[Ice Burn]

Be sensible and if you do make mistakes, learn from them...

[intsik siomai]

Payo sa kapwa ko babae: We can solve the population explosion problem in the Philippines by taking charge of not just the number of kids we can have, but of making sure we can only have kids we can provide alone---without a man, no husband. Most girls pass the responsibility of child support to men, but it's not prudent to do that. I also want to promote divorce in the Philippines. If men can get a divorce easily, girls have no choice but to MAKE SURE she can provide a kid she plans to have. Divorce puts the girls in the edge of the cliff, and that's a way to sove population explosion. Hitting 2 birds with one stone.

[vincex]

^ This is a parallel analogy to girls being COMPETITIVE. Girls should try to evolve and be the best they can be (ex. fit, sexy, educated [read more please], good attitude[not *****y, etc etc] etc.). if there is no competition and there is no reason to be on your toes (the same way wild animals are), there will be a decline in the quality of girls. Men at least are pressured by society to strive more or are intrinsically more active so its easier for them to evolve.

Girls often stop evolving upon partnership.

[Nils]

Girls often stop evolving upon partnership.

That's partly due to the fact that divorce is not legal here in PH. Once a woman gets married, she thinks she's got the guy for life no matter what. Ergo, no need to exert effort to keep him, she's got a rope tied to him whether she maintains herself or not.

[antimoronic4_]

That's partly due to the fact that divorce is not legal here in PH. Once a woman gets married, she thinks she's got the guy for life no matter what. Ergo, no need to exert effort to keep him, she's got a rope tied to him whether she maintains herself or not.

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[antimoronic4_]

i agree with rickym

- girls should be independent from men. having a guy should be just a bonus. get a job and earn your own money so a guy will not be able to take control of you or take advantage of you. i've seen a lot of friends who are stuck with their husbands for the sake of their children and money. they keep complaining that they are not happy but they don't have the balls to get out of the relationship because of the comfort they get out of the marriage money-wise.

- think like how a guy would think. but don't do it for the purpose to please a guy. some women claim that they think like a guy but still are very submissive. i am not saying be a b!tch either. what do i mean by this? enjoy your youth. date, get your heart broken, move on and learn...enjoy the experience.

- i agree with jerservixen too that women are in control. you just have to think that you have the option to choose your guy, your partner. some women settle with a so-so guy then complain. you have the control. you just have to know yourself first, know what you want and always have that mindset that you are in control of getting what you want.

- don't mind it if some guys don't pay you attention or reject you. reflect first if there's something wrong about you or with them. maybe you two aren't just a match. there's nothing wrong with being picky as long as you get your quality guy. men do that all the time. they get a gf, upgrade, then marry the woman they think is the best of all. don't ever downgrade! don't compromise your wants if you know you are gonna regret it later and resent your partner.

- now we know that we have control, there are some things though that we don't have control of. we cannot control the guys emotions and other factors. this is where frustration comes in...when you expect too much and get mad about things you have no control of. learn when to give up, accept that you don't have control of these things and don't take it personally.

- your ideal guy is just IDEAL. he only exists in your head. this is also related to the point above. but i thought you should not compromise your wants? yes, you still shouldn't compromise...but this is about some stupid expectations women have about guys. for example, a woman complains that her boyfriend does not text her enough. okay, maybe your boyfriend thinks 5 text per day is enough since you are spending the whole weekend together anyways. men are not mind readers. you need to tell them your issues in a none nagging manner. like i said, don't take things personally. this is more of your problem than his. you have created this man in your head and now he cannot act within your conditions, you get hurt. however, if you know you are not being irrational with your demands, you already told him about it and still he won't budge...then it's time to dump him.

- learn the art of "rubber-banding." most of us often wonder what we've done wrong after spending a wonderful time with a guy, then they suddenly disappear and lose interest. this maybe won't happen if we didn't give into sex early or stupidly called them a bunch of times after spending time with them. spell clingy. try this on a guy. spend a wonderful time with him and expect that the next day, he would rather spend the day alone, or with his friends. a guy has to gain back his masculinity and being intimate with you meant that he has lost in touch of this. when to contact him? well there's no rules, really. he could be really gone forever after that lol. my rule is, i let the guy contact me. if i don't hear from him, i just shoot him a plain message like hi, how's your day. if he doesn't initiate that much then he's not that into you. don't put all of your eggs in one basket.

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[vincex]

^ Whatever credit (or discredit) Nils is in real life, what's important (while in PEX that is) is the persona/comments posted here. As far as the last few posts are concerned. I have to agree with him.

What these people are in real life, is what we have to deal thru our real selves.

I once debated with a friend. You don't have to be SKILLED in a craft to be a consultant in that field. It is an added factor. Being knowledgeable may be enough. My friend disagreed. As proof positive I cited VENUS AND SERENA WILLIAMS DAD. Who happens to be their COACH and is NOT a tennis player.

[ExtraJoss]

Don't get pregnant. You don't know how easy it is to get pregnant. Insist on using a condom. Always have one in your purse. No guy has ever walked out of sex refusing to use a condom.

Date as many guys as you can during your single years. How are you going to find the right guy if you're already commited?

Evaluate your bf every 6 months. If he's not the one, break up and move on. Don't waste any more of your time. Don't expect him to change. Don't change him. Don't keep hoping he'll change.

[barelythere]

I'm no one to advice but this:

Take care of yourself before you think of taking care of others. All the rest will follow suit.

exactly!!!

[Jameaux]

I dunno if its true that some men are just too smart to let women think they are in control of the relationship. Well, its all in the mind. You can be in control while being submissive. Human emotions and the brain are still a complicated topic.

But yeah, I agree. Most(not all) women are control freaks even though some aren't aware of it.

[adiposethoughts]

I dunno if its true that some men are just too smart to let women think they are in control of the relationship. Well, its all in the mind. You can be in control while being submissive. Human emotions and the brain are still a complicated topic.

But yeah, I agree. Most(not all) women are control freaks even though some aren't aware of it.

Jameaux, would you care to cite some instances where women has the 'control' of the relationship even if they're not aware of it?

[hardylaine]

Jameaux, would you care to cite some instances where women has the 'control' of the relationship even if they're not aware of it?

yung gf ko ngayon masyado dominante.. hayyyyy...

[Jameaux]

@adiposethoughts,

I guess you misunderstood what I meant. I was referring to women being "control freaks" in the last sentence. The type that attempts to dictate how the relationship should be and will battle any objection from their man. The term maybe derogatory for women(apologies ) but that's what most of whom I know manifest as well as some PEXers here.

As for men, being in control is actually a good thing. It doesn't necessarily mean that they want to dominate and make women suffer. Men are born protectors. It is in their nature, as you see it even in animals. I would say women who have issues with men being in control are insecure of their feminity. The only problem, or probably an exception, is when men who are supposed to be in control are not capable of the job. I would then agree for women to take over.

Having control is not a big issue for men in general. They involuntarily exhibit that personality. Whereas for most women, they appear as "control freaks" and not the ones having control when they start displaying improper behaviour.

[adiposethoughts]

yung gf ko ngayon masyado dominante.. hayyyyy...

huuuu... kala ko ba masaya ka ser kasi mahigit 1 year na kayo?

[hardylaine]

huuuu... kala ko ba masaya ka ser kasi mahigit 1 year na kayo?

masaya naman ako.. kaso minsan umiiral yung pagiging dominante nya eh..

[DokTots]

Pahabol question:
Para sa mga lalaking andito. Ano kayo?
Boob men or butt men?

More often than not, i'm a butt man.

Nakakahiya kasing tumitig sa chests ng girls, kasi kaharap mo nga sila.

Sumisilip lang ako sa wetpaks pag nakatalikod na sila.

Pero okei naman atang mag-Glance sa chests as long as you don't ogle at them.

[ishi_missy]

my advice?i know this is a cliche but at the end of the day,you must still save some love for yourself.everybody can hurt you,even the man who is madly in love with you.

[ibarra28]

Seven years na kaming magkasintahan ni misis nang kami ay magpakasal.

Sa simula ng isang relatioinship, when you are both young, nandun yung cliche na "huwag ka magbago". We can also hear or read that cliche from songs or poems,"...don't ever change."

Pag pinairal yan, malamang di magtagal yang relasyon na yan.

The challenge in every relationship is how to accept changes in your partner.

If both will commit to accept changes, nandun at kusang loob na rin sa bawat isa ang maging considerate sa sasabihin at damdamin ng partner niya.

Kung balewala sa partner mo ang sasabihin at damdamin mo, is this partner worth keeping?