Is it Ok to steal someone else's partner? (gf/bf/wife/husband/mistress/mister/lover)

[Nelsito]

Baka nga mahilig sa matinik, karapatan niya yan. Ako kasi tuna belly at blue marlin ang pipiliin ko.

[vincex]

Was just talking to a friend regarding this situation earlier. Was at school. Most of the "good ones" are taken. Girls that is. I proposed a typical scenario where these "good ones" are involved with certain guys for a long time and some of them actually get "dumped" or separated.

For many girls, this brings them back to ZERO since many of them could have been "loyal and exclusive", thereby their circle and network is limited. Since they were going to get dumped/separated anyway, would it be more favorable then that "STEALING" is more acceptable to save time? This may not apply to males though since guys are more practical and probably aren't that "exclusive".

[vincex]

OT:

On the object of "exclusivity". The coverage doesn't necessarily have to be about exclusive partnerships but even time.

A close friend who is always preoccupied with boys (never vacant), has always constantly practiced spending most of her time with her partners (whom she breaks up with anyway) and neglects the other people in her life during the process. I reminded her of her modus operandi and how detrimental it is for her in many aspects (and unfair to other people in her life) but I believe/know a lot of people think/practice the same way she does.

This is parallel to the detriments I have mentioned previously that are related to this thread.

To the others here, do you think that you should focus majority of your time to your partner? Or do you think that you should spread yourselves.. (no not that kind of spread).

Hmmm should I be opening a new thread?

[barelythere]

ay sorry! na spread ko bigla. di pala yun.

Anyway, somewhat related pa naman siya sa stealing, kelangan na nung mga kaibigan or relatives nung guy na i-steal siya from the girlfriend para magkaroon sila ng time to bond LOL.

I myself am guilty of wanting to spend more than half...well if not the entire day with an SO as much as possible, most especially pag bago pa lang kayo. I mean that's pretty normal, atleast for me lol. Pero siyempre di pwede, kelangan maghanap buhay LOL. Plus! it's true that too much familiarity breeds contempt. Although ofcourse may situations pa rin na considered as exemptions.

Di naman kelangan i-give up lahat ng stuffs/activities that you regularly do just because you are already committed. Most often than not people who had become like that stopped "growing" as an individual. Wala ng personal growth.

[ettevyvi]

Was just talking to a friend regarding this situation earlier. Was at school. Most of the "good ones" are taken. Girls that is. I proposed a typical scenario where these "good ones" are involved with certain guys for a long time and some of them actually get "dumped" or separated.

Can relate. Well, not exactly dumped but duped.

To answer the question, NO. Justifying actions for stealing are a no-no for me.
Kanya kanya lang yan. Choices nga. Why prove to someone who don't understand what your values are di ba? It would be futile and pointless. Basta sa akin, ayoko. Enough na 'yun. I'll stay away with people who believes in what I don't. Simple.

[Erning]

No. I believe in karma.

[Callgurl]

^i agree..digital ang karma

[iamagog]

For me, no. I believe in the sanctity of marriage. As for the other relationships, why steal someone else's girl/guy if you can have someone better, right?

[xPhilBrooksx]

Sa experience ko, may bestfreind ako nung hs na may crush sa isang girl and todo lakad pa ako sa kanya and it turns out na yung girl ay may gusto sa akin. So nung summer nag-ninja yung girl at di ko naman matangihan, pampaboost din kasi yun ng ego pero after a week, sobrang nagu-guilty na ako. So nagtago ako, bukod kasi sa fratman na yung bestfriend ko eh, di ko naman gusto yung girl coz mas imposing yung personality kaysa sa akin. And hindi talaga maganda ang napapala ng mga cheater bukod sa mainit na ang mata ng mga fellow fratmen niya sa akin, eh 2 times pa akong na cheat sa college. So ang lesson, lahat ng bagay ay may karma.

[pusang_miyaw]

I don't care about sulot. Kasi kung wala namang magpapasulot e di walang masusulot. Saka yung mga ganyan na nagtagumpay sa sulot, in the end sila lang din masusulutan. Marami na ko narinig na ganyan. Kasi nga ba naman, magtitiwala ka ba sa isang taong nakuha mo sa sulutan? Hindi ba malaking chance na masulot din sya ng ibang tao. Common sense itey.

[ettevyvi]

Kasi nga ba naman, magtitiwala ka ba sa isang taong nakuha mo sa sulutan? Hindi ba malaking chance na masulot din sya ng ibang tao. Common sense itey.

True. Tss.

[techno-organic]

okay, here's a scenario:

- guy met girl
- guy likes girl
- guy and girl become close
- guy found out that girl is his acquaintance's mistress (because girl told guy)
- girl believes that what she and guy's acquaintance have is something real and special
- guy told girl how he feels for her and what he wants
- guy's acquaintance has not been seeing girl (aka guy's acquaintance's mistress) lately (according to girl)
- guy's acquaintance recently contacted girl (aka guy's acquaintance's mistress) and told girl that he will start seeing her again soon (girl told guy)
- guy and girl become romantic and intimate (no sex)
- time's almost up for guy's acquaintance to start seeing girl (aka guy's acquaintance's mistress) again


and here are my questions:
- should guy make "sulot" girl since girl is guy's acquaintance's mistress anway?
or
- should guy let girl choose when time is up?

[Callgurl]

^haha nagyari saken to..guy didn't sulot gurl..but always make sure na anjan siya for her..to make her realize how it feels like to be a priority..not just a mistress.

in the end, friends pa din sila.

[techno-organic]

okay additional info:

- guy's acquaintance is married and has 2 young kids to his wife...
- girl is just waiting for guy's acquaintance to realize everything (focus on his wife and children) and go away...



follow-up question:

- should guy play his part by making "sulot" girl and save everyone from being hurt?

[Mighty_Th0r]

For me guys, LAHAT ng nanunulot wala sa tamang pag-iisip o kaya ay hindi ginagamit ng tama ang utak.

Libog lang ang pinaiiral sa panunulot.

"Is it OK to steal someone else's partner?"

My goodness, that is the most stupid question I've ever read or heard.

Kelan pa ba naging OK ang manulot at magpasulot.

People who do such things doesn't have strong foundation of character.

Sorry to say this, mukhang hindi napalaki ng maayos ng mga magulang.

I know many would probably react on this but this are just my opinions.

[pusang_miyaw]

ahhh... people have the freedom to make sulot ya know. let them be.
at kung nagwagi yung nasulot ibig sabihin lang nyan e deserve nila yung isa't isa (yung nanulot at nakuha). I swear, in the end sila sila lang din magkakaproblema.

Syempre unfair sa part nung nawalan pero come to think of it, blessing in disguise na din dahil atleast nalaman nya na madali palang madala yung ka relasyon nya. It only means na he/she deserves someone better.

[heckyeahawesome]

NO


The message you have entered is too short..

[curly tops]

feeling ko, the younger, the mang aagaw is, mas okay sa kanya. like pag mga 18-19, ganyang age, they don't think much, they just feel di bale ng may masaktan, basta sila napili. they don't think anymore kung ano mangyayari in the future, ang importante, sila ang gusto-sa ngayon.

well, if they cheat with you, they will also cheat on you, ganun lang naman.

[acceberanna]

Never.


Ayaw mo din naman sigurong agawan ka diba? So umayos ka din dapat!

[vincex]

For me guys, LAHAT ng nanunulot wala sa tamang pag-iisip o kaya ay hindi ginagamit ng tama ang utak.

Libog lang ang pinaiiral sa panunulot.

"Is it OK to steal someone else's partner?"

My goodness, that is the most stupid question I've ever read or heard.

Kelan pa ba naging OK ang manulot at magpasulot.

People who do such things doesn't have strong foundation of character.

Sorry to say this, mukhang hindi napalaki ng maayos ng mga magulang.

I know many would probably react on this but this are just my opinions.

So my next question is.. (since the assumption of the thread is that perhaps your more appropriate partner is already with someone else)...

does this mean you will settle for less since the person na mas bagay sayo is already "taken"?