A Story of a Taken for Granted Single Mom

[jayson03]

nakakabilib kayo.. Saludo ako..

[bhelicious]

be strong enough for your baby, ok *** yan kahit alang father, as long as anjan k for ur baby..hayan mo ** bk pag nakita nya *** anak mo bk mag sising alipin p **...

[Dromon]

'Siguro...'? LOL. Honey, honey, honey. How old are you? You do know that ultimately YOU (and no one else) is responsible for majority of what happens to you daily.

Once again REGARDLESS of what he said, of what he is, and what his responsibilities are in the situation...YOU got yourself in this hole.

You are an adult. And adults should know that they shouldn't fck 1. if they're not protected 2. if they're not ready for a baby.

You met the guy a few months and you believed him? Look babykins if I, a total stranger or someone you just met, told you give me 5000 dollars and I'll give you my shirt, if I then end up duping you, is it my fault or your fault, an adult with full mental capacity, in the end?

It doesn't matter if I was there, if I heard the conversation, one thing is certain you were stupid to think 1. he someone you barely know, who just got out of a long term relationship, who's relationship started and ended in the computer---is someone you could trust with your future 2. that you are 'blameless'.

Situation won't and can't change now. It's TOO LATE. The end all is this: your baby and the conception of your baby was, is, and will be your responsibility, regardless if he sugar talked you (he didn't put a gun to your head to fck you did he? He didn't put a gun to your head and said I won't be fcking you without a condom did he?).

This is your problem: stop blaming others of your circumstance because your problem was 1. avoidable 2. so visible 3. after the fact, inevitable.

Yes he should have some responsibility with the baby. That I believe. But your decision to 1. allow him to fck you without protection 2. keep the baby 3. to trust an obvious, obvious stranger with your future is a sign of stupidity and lack of self-responsibility.

Stop thinking in your head you're this innocent victim. YOU'RE NOT. You're an adult who made stupid decisions. Which you have to live with.

You want a tip? Stop blaming others, you're an adult and now you're going to be a mother. Move on, learn from your mistakes, and find a way to live for the future and not the past, for your sake and that baby you're having.

Harsh words, but sometimes the truth can be pretty hard to hear. I agree with this advice wholeheartedly.

People need to take responsibility for the results of their decisions. Nakakatakot lang na baka ilabas nya yung galit nya sa guy on her baby. Sana nde pero mukang marami pa syang bitterness na itinatago.

[john_hopkins]

Haba naman ng backread ko... kamusta na kaya si TS wondermom?
Anyways, enjoy motherhood na lang and be strong (stronger) to become better. Life sometimes makes us learn the hard way.

[pixiestinkerbell]

I don't hate you. I just dislike how you don't have personal responsibility---typical in today's world.

You want to blame all the problems external to you, when you're an adult with a fit mind. Like you had no control over yourself. As if the world happened to you, than you picking and choosing your actions.

No offense, your story and outlook just personifies what I dislike with a lot of women today: they ask for respect for equality, but do not and would not take responsibilities for their action. That's why you're always seen as weak.

AGREE!
Keep it up Bro!

[einarrsflower]

This is an old thread I know pero do ko mapigilan ang inis ko kaya magreply na rin ako kahit malamang di naman to mababasa ng TS.

My gosh.
Just accept the fact na naging stupid ka at nagpabuntis, then move on.
Wag mo na pakialaman yang tatay ng anak mo, sabi mo nga eh wala syang kwenta. Don't associate yourself with walang kwentang tao.
Were I you, ni hindi ko ipapakita ang anak ko sa ama nya. Bahala syang di nya maranasan ang saya at fulfillment ng pagkakaroon ng isang anghel. He chose not to take responsiblity, then wala siyang karapatan sa anak ko.
But then you were not me, you have chosen your path. Leave the guy alone, and focus all of your attention sa pagpapalaki ng anak mo.

And yes, ito ang isa sa mga hindi maintindihan sa mga Pinay at sa kultura nating mga Filipino. Gusto makipagsex, ayaw mabuntis pero di naman gumagamit ng condom. Hello, girls, kahit boyfriend or husband (unless you're perfectly sure he doesn't play around) ninyo ang kasex ninyo, doctors still advice the use of condoms. Aside from birth control, para safe na rin di ba? Ok so ayaw ng condom, kasi daw di mafeel yung sensations, there are pills and other birth control methods naman.

But then, things happened already and you have a beautiful angel na, so what you can only do is to let go of all the hurts and grievances against the ex...COMPLETELY. Let go! Wag ng pakialaman buhay nya.

And when a relationship ends, matapos man yan in a good or bad way, learn to exit with grace.

[selosa]

you'll be surprised kung anong kaya at gang saan ang kakayanin mo lalo na ngayong na mom kana. i-focus mo nalang lahat ng time, attention and energy mo sa pagpapalaki ng tama ke baby

besides, wag ka ng umasa ng respeto sa ex mo. you must learn to respect yourself first bago mo iexpect sa ibang tao yan. stop meddling with his lovelife, kasi honestly ina kalang ng anak nya (na nung una pa man ee ayaw na nya panagutan), nde ka asawa. masakit man tanggapin ee yun yung totoo.

tsaka di maganda ang negative vibes habang nagpapalaki ng baby, maiistress kalang. pag numenega ang vibes mo, tingin kana lang ke baby tanggal lahat yan!