Breakup Stories: How did your last one happen?

[xtnalogy]

Hmmm... It's when I called him up, one girl picked up the phone and apparently, my ex made her preggy and they were living together and the girl knew that I'm his girlfriend.

So, I never communicated with him ever since.

[cheskelly]

Hmmm... It's when I called him up, one girl picked up the phone and apparently, my ex made her preggy and they were living together and the girl knew that I'm his girlfriend.

So, I never communicated with him ever since.

Ouch.

[evolxess]

Ako, we broke up through text.. booohhh! well, there's nothing else we could do kasi we're far from each other.. and malabo yung usapan.. parang i was left hanging.. pfftt..

[lakers2010]

samin din ng ex bf ko thru text lang din.

pero ipinaglaban ko pa. ***** mag asawa na kami.......

[saweverything]

di ko akalain na mga 7-year couples eh naghihiwalay pa.

anyway, i had my last break up in feb 2009. sobrang sakit i don't know why. i dated a few but it seems like my mind and heart was all for him. we were together for 2 years he said i was too harsh on him so he wanted to end the relationship. ang sakit cos he was my first. til now i can't accept that he's gone

help?

What do you mean when you said he was your "first"

[aadvark]

break-up through text or over the phone is just plain PUSS*

[edfaj33]

I started getting cold na sa kanya, as in di na ako nagcocommunicate..then one day, sabi ko ayoko na..and then i ran away...ang bad ko...

[artemisX]

A few months after college.. we were falling out of love and was arguing alot. Happened through phone. She cried so much nga nun

[xtnalogy]

Ouch.

I know. It took me 1 year to move on, I think. Ang daming crying moments. Ang daming beses na sinubukan kong makipag-communicate pero I was strong enough not to do so. Or strong nga ba? Haha. Uso pa Friendster non. So lagi kong check yung profile nya. Until dumating yung time na nung check ko ulet, break na sila nung girl.

Bad man ako pero I'm happy nangyari yun sa kanila. Haha.

Schadenfreude. :P

[adiposethoughts]

Fell in love. Crashed and burned with someone from the office. He was our trainer. He was six years older than me. From the States. The business was being migrated from US to PH, that's why. He was not someone I'd usually date cos he's out of my league. Mahiyain, tahimik, mysterious, etc. Although there were a lot of women who likes him, I didn't give a damn. Binibiro ko nga lang siya palagi. Sinasabi ko lang na, 'hoy marami ka ng utang saking answers sa processes you've gotta take me out for lunch already!' Tas ngumingiti lang siya, tumatango. Then one time he asked me out. Shyly. Pinagbigyan ko lang kasi nakakahiya rin tumanggi he's nice naman. Little did I know he would silently speak volumes of who I was that time. We easily related with each other. Then I suddenly chose to love and like him for who he was inspite of everything I knew about him. We both fell in love.
... and then both of us chickened out. I now know that both of us had issues in the past we had to deal with, that's why. We fell out of love at different times, different levels, and different reasons. We didn't know how to handle each other. Love was not enough to hold us together. We didn't know how to handle LDR. Ewan. We never talked about it. He left without any closure. I found myself crying and mourning for 5 months every-single-day. I was in extreme pain. There were times I'd literally cut myself because it lessens the pain I had inside. Then my best friend came into the picture. He taught me how to suck it all up. I have learned how to tune out my emotions. I've learned not to care. I was never the same.

[adiposethoughts]

Ouch.

I think we've got the same camera. Is that Lumix?

[F-A Soldier]

Fell in love. Crashed and burned with someone from the office. He was our trainer. He was six years older than me. From the States. The business was being migrated from US to PH, that's why. He was not someone I'd usually date cos he's out of my league. Mahiyain, tahimik, mysterious, etc. Although there were a lot of women who likes him, I didn't give a damn. Binibiro ko nga lang siya palagi. Sinasabi ko lang na, 'hoy marami ka ng utang saking answers sa processes you've gotta take me out for lunch already!' Tas ngumingiti lang siya, tumatango. Then one time he asked me out. Shyly. Pinagbigyan ko lang kasi nakakahiya rin tumanggi he's nice naman. Little did I know he would silently speak volumes of who I was that time. We easily related with each other. Then I suddenly chose to love and like him for who he was inspite of everything I knew about him. We both fell in love.
... and then both of us chickened out. I now know that both of us had issues in the past we had to deal with, that's why. We fell out of love at different times, different levels, and different reasons. We didn't know how to handle each other. Love was not enough to hold us together. We didn't know how to handle LDR. Ewan. We never talked about it. He left without any closure. I found myself crying and mourning for 5 months every-single-day. I was in extreme pain. There were times I'd literally cut myself because it lessens the pain I had inside. Then my best friend came into the picture. He taught me how to suck it all up. I have learned how to tune out my emotions. I've learned not to care. I was never the same.

Awwwww.

Here you go baby.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MfuP4Cxgf0E

Poor babycakes.


Schniffly schniff schniffles.

[adiposethoughts]

Awwwww.

Here you go baby.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MfuP4Cxgf0E

Poor babycakes.


Schniffly schniff schniffles.

he he

can't access youtube here (argh lol)


what's that?

[MARVIN_101]

Fell in love. Crashed and burned with someone from the office. He was our trainer. He was six years older than me. From the States. The business was being migrated from US to PH, that's why. He was not someone I'd usually date cos he's out of my league. Mahiyain, tahimik, mysterious, etc. Although there were a lot of women who likes him, I didn't give a damn. Binibiro ko nga lang siya palagi. Sinasabi ko lang na, 'hoy marami ka ng utang saking answers sa processes you've gotta take me out for lunch already!' Tas ngumingiti lang siya, tumatango. Then one time he asked me out. Shyly. Pinagbigyan ko lang kasi nakakahiya rin tumanggi he's nice naman. Little did I know he would silently speak volumes of who I was that time. We easily related with each other. Then I suddenly chose to love and like him for who he was inspite of everything I knew about him. We both fell in love.
... and then both of us chickened out. I now know that both of us had issues in the past we had to deal with, that's why. We fell out of love at different times, different levels, and different reasons. We didn't know how to handle each other. Love was not enough to hold us together. We didn't know how to handle LDR. Ewan. We never talked about it. He left without any closure. I found myself crying and mourning for 5 months every-single-day. I was in extreme pain. There were times I'd literally cut myself because it lessens the pain I had inside. Then my best friend came into the picture. He taught me how to suck it all up. I have learned how to tune out my emotions. I've learned not to care. I was never the same.

Si adipose nag emo mode? HINDI BAGAY.

Sana tumingin ka sa salamin. Tapos sinabi mo sa sarili mo .... Ganda kong to iiyakin kita. Sabay tawa ng malakas.

[lunarpanda]

LDR ...

dude went to Oz to get citizenship, promised he'd be back to spend our birthdays together. six months passed and his promise turned into "i don't know when i'll be coming back."

we then rarely talked. he will just call prolly once or twice a month and we'll chat for a few minutes. that's it. we spent our first anniv away from each other. he greeted me "happy anniversary" and my reply was a cold "i can't exactly call it 'happy'" ...

i felt depressed and turned my attention to gaming and work. i then i got acquainted with another guy via an online game (who's now my bf). we met for the first time and i knew that i was in love again. hahah!

when i got home, i sent an email to the dude and i told him that im breaking up with him.

[HapiMe123456]

sinong tunay at matinong lalaki ang nakikipag-break thru text?

i second the motion/question

[Sweetkay]

"Come in." I was surprised, startled, at loss for words, hoping. I didn't think he would ask me to go inside his house. I thought he would just stand at the door, open it a bit, and tell me to go. It was over after all.

"Sit down." He asked me to sit down. Maybe there was still hope, maybe there was still a chance. Maybe. So many thoughts passing through my mind, so many things rushing by. I opened my mouth to speak and nothing came out. I wanted to say something but my mouth refused to utter the words.

"Why are you here? Didn't I tell you that I was tired and I don't want to talk?" Heartbreak. I could literally feel the hands crushing my heart, squeezing it bit by bit, not letting go, just holding tight until merely breathing required my full concentration.

"It's over." Wow, where did that come from. Oh, that was me. I can't believe I was able to say that in such a calm manner. So calm that it frightened me. It should have frightened him too. It would have, if only he truly knew who I was. He should have. Should.

He looked a bit shocked. I know he wasn't expecting it. He turned to face his computer. Maybe he didn't want to look at me, maybe he wanted to hide the pain he felt. Did he feel pain? I'd like to think so. We were together for quite some time. He did love me. Loved; with a D.

He tells me it's my fault. I wouldn't let it go. He got mad, said hurtful words. He was just angry, needed a break for now. For now. Like I was some toy he could just put on the shelf because he was tired of playing with me and when he misses me, he can just take me out of the shelf and play with me again. My fault really. I allowed myself to be treated that way and so he thought he could just do it again and again.

Big mistake. Really big. I refused to be treated that way. I deserve better. I knew better. I want something better. I needed someone better.

Beep beep ... the sound his mobile phone makes when someone messages him. I waited for him to pick it up. I waited for him to read it. I waited for him to reply. I waited. It didn't happen. And I knew ... I just knew in the bottom of my heart that there was someone else..

I took his phone and read the message. It seems there wasn't someone else. There were a lot of them. Blair, Diana, Jenny, and so many more. They were text mates ... there were flirtations, sexual innuendos. There were calls made at the wee hours of the morning. There were messages sent at times that he claims he could not text me because of work. There were so many more.

I snapped. I slapped him. He deserved it. He became angry. We fought. He smashed my head against the wall ... my ear turned bright red. The next day, I would be rushed to the ER of a hospital due to severe head trauma. We fought, we calmed down, we fought, and then calmed down again. We talked. He thought we'd still be able to sort things out in the future. I knew that there would never be a future for us. It wasn't meant to be.

Maybe it was him smashing my head against the cabinet but everything became clear to me. He wasn't the guy whom I portrayed him to be in my mind. He was nowhere near that guy. He was trash that I coated with gold and diamonds in my mind. He was nothing that I made into something. He was my nightmare that I turned into a dream come true.

That night happened over 4 months ago ... at times, it haunts me still. A part of me wishes that it never happened but a small part of me is glad that it did. It may have been painful and traumatic but it was exactly what needed to happen for me to realize what needed to be realized. It was the end of an illusion that I created and the beginning of the reality that is what I have right now.

Still, it haunts me from time to time; the same way that it is haunting me now.

[NorrisChuck]

^^ my nose-biting is no match to your head-smashing. you win

[thrixie]

Everything is perfect tapos biglang tadaaa! ayaw na nya. Hindi na nagpaparamdam kahit sa text man lang. Pinuntahan ko nga sa work, ayun umuwi pa din akong luhaan. Pinagpalit nya pala ako sa work nya. It really breaks my heart till now pag naalala ko kaso wala naman akong magawa

[atomic_kitty]

What do you mean when you said he was your "first"

first boyfriend, sorry late reply hehe