Money Matters - Madami Siyang Utang

[xBigoteAtBalbasx]

Wait what the eff am I talking about? nyahaha out out

[alvindm]

Wait what the eff am I talking about? nyahaha out out

you are actually making sense. malamang hindi ka in love ngayon kaya naiisip mo yan.

[rafaelluis15]

ok lang sa akin na magkaruon siya ng debt pero hindi pwede na ako ang magbabayad lahat .. siguro i could help a little pero not to the extent na uubusin ko ang lifetime savings ko para sa utang niya ..

when you are in love you tend to forget yung mga bad attitudes ng person na gusto natin pero sa akin , gumagana parin ang isip ko especially about money kasi make or break sa akin ang money if the relationship will last. ayaw ko ng parang parasite I am turned off easily sa mga tao na ganon.

what i mean isa sa mga basis ko ng trust depends kung mapagkakatiwalaan pagdating sa money ang isang tao.. para sa akin if you can't trust a person in how he/she handles the money , paano kayo mabubuhay nyan sa future.

mahirap maging idealist at sabihing pera lang naman yan pero sabi nga nila paano mo mamahalin ang isang tao kung yung basic needs ay hindi kaya iprovide sa pamilya niyo .. nasa maslow hierarchy of needs na dapat maprovide ang basic need bago ka mainlove

[infinite_trial]

I mean, you can try and know everything but since you love the person, you might ignore the bad stuff. If the guy is buried in debt, you might even offer help to pay them off.

It's good to know the financial health of your partner but before doing anything crazy hit your head with rock to think logically rather than emotionally he he

but aren't you supposed to help each other too? at least for me that's the way i think it should be.

i did actually hit my head with a rock and i think it was a balanced decision that time. i was hesitant lending him the money cuz of the way he said how the relatives even refused to lending him some. i helped him in other ways i can before i did finally give in. BUT i didn't let him know it came from me. i opted not to cuz he was also paying for other debts and i think he can easily slack knowing that he can pay me anytime since i was his girlfriend anyway. i helped him cuz the way he nagged about the situation everyday makes me think like he's expecting me to help in a financial level. i let him know that he had to pay monthly for the money and no excuses.

how the guy handles his finances and how is he like under pressure is important for me. i have seen how my mother suffered cuz she didn't have any work and my father just kind of neglected his responsibilities. as much as possible, i don't really borrow money or spend beyond my means cuz i don't feel good owing someone anything. nahihiya ako. i am lucky now that my guy is so straightforward that we settled all our dealbreakers including job and money matters before we even decided to give it a go. we both believe that it would be a waste of time to fall in love with somebody without knowing the waters you are treading.

anyway, all people at some point have money problems. i lost my job here twice and even though i felt helpless inside, i tried to be calm and composed. so i expect my partner should do the same, to be calm, composed and has a can-do attitude.

[jerseyvixen]

^words of advise sistah - don't reply to a BaB post with the words "can do"
j/k

[xBigoteAtBalbasx]

out na nga ako eh

[infinite_trial]

out na di pa ko nilala...

[xBigoteAtBalbasx]

out na di pa ko nilala...

prematured at walang condom, kaya hugot agad he he

[alvindm]

but aren't you supposed to help each other too? at least for me that's the way i think it should be.

i did actually hit my head with a rock and i think it was a balanced decision that time. i was hesitant lending him the money cuz of the way he said how the relatives even refused to lending him some. i helped him in other ways i can before i did finally give in. BUT i didn't let him know it came from me. i opted not to cuz he was also paying for other debts and i think he can easily slack knowing that he can pay me anytime since i was his girlfriend anyway. i helped him cuz the way he nagged about the situation everyday makes me think like he's expecting me to help in a financial level. i let him know that he had to pay monthly for the money and no excuses.

how the guy handles his finances and how is he like under pressure is important for me. i have seen how my mother suffered cuz she didn't have any work and my father just kind of neglected his responsibilities. as much as possible, i don't really borrow money or spend beyond my means cuz i don't feel good owing someone anything. nahihiya ako. i am lucky now that my guy is so straightforward that we settled all our dealbreakers including job and money matters before we even decided to give it a go. we both believe that it would be a waste of time to fall in love with somebody without knowing the waters you are treading.

anyway, all people at some point have money problems. i lost my job here twice and even though i felt helpless inside, i tried to be calm and composed. so i expect my partner should do the same, to be calm, composed and has a can-do attitude.

You are call. Seemed like you've learned a lot from life experiences.

[alvindm]

^^^ up this thread for new sharers!

[alvindm]

Up this thread

[shoelace]

bf/gf -- the heck i care, as long as di niya ako niya ako pinapabayad ng kinain niya.

husband/wife -- pretty big deal, for the guy. after all, he ends up being the bread winner. last thing i want to have is a guy i need to take under my wings, pay for the house by myself, pay for the household food by myself, in the middle of raising a child. i'm not saying i'd spend his money, but rather, he should earn enough to support his own family.

[4Wheeler]

Money management is a clear testament to a guy's character. If he is deep in debt because he kept spending more than he's earning and never care much about the future then what does that tell you about how he runs his life? If you both got married, his way of life will conflict with yours.

[Zeitgeist699]

I recently watched an episode of HIMYM where Marshall (Husband) found out that Lily (Wife) has Lots of Debts to Pay..

then I wonder,

In reality, how do a partner deal with this?.

if im married to that kind of girl, and didn't know about the financial situation she's in, i will leave her at once. i wont be paying the sh.it she stupidly misused with the money that ive worked hard for.

[hooney]

pasalamat ako dahil hindi ko naging problema sa husband ko ang pera at utang, siya pa nga namomroblema sa akin eh, pero hindi ako payag na sa couple gastos ng gastos ang isa tapos yung isa naman parang ***** na dahil couple daw sila ay tutulong, ang dami talagang nabubulag pagdating sa pag ibig at nawawala ang mga utak, ang galing galing magpayo sa ibang bagay pero sa matters of the heart sempang sa klase, puwede naman siguro pautangin mo ng pambayad sa credit card kung mataas na ang interest pero pabayaran mo rin sa kanya at wag lang TY, dahil uulit uli yan dahil may nahuhuthutan eh, ako nga ng magkautang ako sa credit card kahit hindi naman kalakihan nagulat ako na binayaran ng husband ko ng hindi ko alam, nagalit pa nga ako dahil bakit niya pinakikialaman ang finances ko gusto ko pabayaan niya ako sa utang ko at hindi ko pumayag na hindi ko bayaran sa kanya yun kahit ayaw niya tanggapin, baka kase mawili ako eh