Money Matters - Madami Siyang Utang

[alvindm]

I recently watched an episode of HIMYM where Marshall (Husband) found out that Lily (Wife) has Lots of Debts to Pay..

then I wonder,

In reality, how do a partner deal with this?.

[jerseyvixen]

first of all- I just wanna say that barney stinson rules and robin scherbatsky reminds me of myself sometimes lol

second of all - my future husband [goodluck to him lol] and I will have full financial disclosure [not necessarily a prenup] - I'm not marrying deadbeat

anywho - just to humor ts and say matters are reversed and I found out that my husband had a ton of debt - he and I are going to sit down and we're going to develop an action plan to resolve the matter - I would hate that lifestyle changes might be necessary but since I already married [following the plot] him - I will be willing to try to work on it

BUT IF I find out that he's veering from our plan - I will have no problem kicking him to the curb

[insomnia_queen]

my ex/estranged hubby is like that. he had a lot of debt. huge credit card bills and such.

i didn't have any intention of helping pay for something that didn't involve me. if he spent it on shopping for me, sige i'll help. pero most of his spendings were for gambling and to buy sh!t for his kid and the mom sa pinas.
hale fracking no did i help him pay for it. we have a joint bank account, as well as joint credit cards, but I gave it all back to him when we separated. aside from that, we also have our own bank and credit card accounts (not joint)
my money, my spending, my problem.

same goes for him. i couldn't care less if he goes bankrupt. which is likely to happen real soon.

[alvindm]

first of all- I just wanna say that barney stinson rules and robin scherbatsky reminds me of myself sometimes lol

second of all - my future husband [goodluck to him lol] and I will have full financial disclosure [not necessarily a prenup] - I'm not marrying deadbeat

anywho - just to humor ts and say matters are reversed and I found out that my husband had a ton of debt - he and I are going to sit down and we're going to develop an action plan to resolve the matter - I would hate that lifestyle changes might be necessary but since I already married [following the plot] him - I will be willing to try to work on it

BUT IF I find out that he's veering from our plan - I will have no problem kicking him to the curb

^^ First of all - You rock, Robin! Season Six is about to start.

Second of all - Hahaha! But in case madami sya utang, will anything change? I think normal lang naman no?

[alvindm]

my ex/estranged hubby is like that. he had a lot of debt. huge credit card bills and such.

i didn't have any intention of helping pay for something that didn't involve me. if he spent it on shopping for me, sige i'll help. pero most of his spendings were for gambling and to buy sh!t for his kid and the mom sa pinas.
hale fracking no did i help him pay for it. we have a joint bank account, as well as joint credit cards, but I gave it all back to him when we separated. aside from that, we also have our own bank and credit card accounts (not joint)
my money, my spending, my problem.
same goes for him. i couldn't care less if he goes bankrupt. which is likely to happen real soon.

The easiest way to go!

But did you even try to help him kahit sa umpisa lang?

[insomnia_queen]

The easiest way to go!

But did you even try to help him kahit sa umpisa lang?

yah at first. pero all out spending siya pag sa sugal, at pagbili ng mga kung anu ano para sa anak niya. which is ok lang sa akin, pero yung "iba" na niyang pinapamili eh para dun sa nanay, para daw hindi "magtampo"...yah right. and I'm wonder woman.

so after that, manigas siya.

[alvindm]

Hahaha! Natawa ako sa "manigas" siya. May iba'ng meaning ako na naisip. Hahaha!

You making him accountable for what he spend para sa sugal at "iba" pang bagay is actually being a Wonder Woman.

Pwede kang representative ng Gabriela sa Congress.

[jerseyvixen]

Second of all - Hahaha! But in case madami sya utang, will anything change? I think normal lang naman no?

I disagree that that's normal - following the plot - in which marshal and lily got married UNDER FALSE PRETENSES - marshal didn't know lily owed that much money - that's not normal - if reversed and I found out my husband hid debt from me - I would give it a shot - eventhough deception is something out of the ordinary

everything changes at that point - the way I look at him - which can be redeemed IF he chooses to fix the problem with my help [my help doesn't mean SOLELY paying for what he owes but what little bit I know about finance and economics] - and presumably - the way he looks at me [taking him to task with his irresponsibilities] - I'm a woman - I have the ability to nag the sh-it out of my future husband lol

[insomnia_queen]

Hahaha! Natawa ako sa "manigas" siya. May iba'ng meaning ako na naisip. Hahaha!

You making him accountable for what he spend para sa sugal at "iba" pang bagay is actually being a Wonder Woman.

Pwede kang representative ng Gabriela sa Congress.

sis, kung alam mo lang ang mga kalokohan niya at mga ginawa niya sa akin, pasalamat siya at meron pang tumitigas sa katawan niya.

the nerve of that guy pero ok lang, nakakarma na naman siya eh

[alvindm]

^ Nagga.

In reality, it is likely that this issue can cause indifference between partners. And i just realized a difference:

there is difference between GIRL having tons of debt - just like in HIMYM - and the BOY having financial obligations.

Man is more likely to just accept things as it is and probably help the girl get out of it..

While WOMAN will yeah, "nag the sh-it out" of her husband.

UNFAIR.

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Kung GF-BF Status pa lang? Can this cause a break-up?

[alvindm]

^^ for jerseyvixen

[alvindm]

sis, kung alam mo lang ang mga kalokohan niya at mga ginawa niya sa akin, pasalamat siya at meron pang tumitigas sa katawan niya.

the nerve of that guy pero ok lang, nakakarma na naman siya eh

I supposed you meant SIR, not sis.

Anyway,

Pero other than the money stuff mukhang may iba pang reason why you had to part ways ha.

Could this be related sa "manigas" na part?

[jerseyvixen]

Kung GF-BF Status pa lang? Can this cause a break-up?

absolutely - my man stays my man for as long as his assets are greater than his liabilities

[alvindm]

that is great.. hahaha!

so money matters pa din.. you absolutely don't want a burden.

[jerseyvixen]

^nor do I want to be someone else's

money matters big time - I'm not going to marry a man that is struggling financially

[xBigoteAtBalbasx]

^ cheap pinay ha ha

[jerseyvixen]

^that's me - don't wanna end up with a parasite

[alvindm]

^nor do I want to be someone else's

money matters big time - I'm not going to marry a man that is struggling financially

cool. i mean, who wants additional burden in life?

sakit sa ulo..

[alvindm]

that's me - don't wanna end up with a parasite

hehehe.. who would?

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Gender issue: Would guys want to end up with a "parasite" girl?

Can the stereotype Man being the provider be considered "parasitism"?

[jerseyvixen]

^I don't understand your premise - do you mean is it paratism if a man can't provide for his family? or is it - is it paratism if a woman completely relies on the man to be the sole provider?