Galante, KKB, how far is fair?

[shirlytemple]

^ The problem is, the guys know that this is a potential landmine. If they agree to split the tab with you, there is a possibility that you will never see/date them again. They wouldn't know which girl is honest in splitting the tab without perceiving the guy negatively.

Bakit naman hindi? If a guy knows how to treat a lady, if I had a good time with him, and if I see sincerity and honesty in his intentions, bakit ko naman hindi pagbibigyan ulit? I just hate guys kasi who think na komo lang nagbayad sila sa date, at gumastos ng medyo malaki, obligado na ako pagbigyan siya to a second one. I am speaking for myself of course. But I think no lady will disagree that the ultimate barometer if you will have a second date is if we had a good time. Bottomline, kapag nagsabi na yung babae na gusto nya magshare sa bill with matching pretty please with sugar on top, huwag masyadong magpamacho. Because nagiging mayabang lang dating nyo.

Yan kasi ang hirap sa ibang mga lalaki dyan. Akala kasi nila sa mga babae isda lang na madali bingwitin sa dagat basta me magandang pain lang. At kahit nga sinabihan mo na ng maayos na di ka interesado pag pupumilitan pa din sarili nila. For you boys who enjoy clubbing, you do need to know that we are not that stupid to realize that you are trying to get in our skirts. And yes, we do watch out for creeps like that in the dance floor.

[batman03]

I remarked here somewhere before that there are less quality girls than guys. This is because girls tend to focus on less pragmatic things and are more inclined to go husband hunting instead of learning new things. Saving included.

for once i agreed. and this fact pisses me off.

[shirlytemple]

^^

Hindi naman husband material lagi hinahanap namin. Ayaw lang namin na tratratuhin kaming parang trophy lang nung lalake tapos di naman seseryosohin. Pag naka firstbase na samin, ppupunta dun sa mga kainuman at magyayabang. Men like that are jerks.

[amor19]

i pick #3... and i want my future husband to have the same mentality with Kuya F-A Soldier.

i want a joint bank account since you can pay for pretty much pay all the bills online now, we put in our money there for the bills and family's needs and wants.
but the personal wants, i would expect him to pay for his own, and i pay for mine. i wouldnt mind paying for his at times, considered as gifts. if we'd go on dates, i wouldnt mind paying sometimes either. if he pays, i'd spend on something else for us just to be fair.
and we should have separate personal bank accounts/credit cards etc etc

[Romanticure]

Guys and girls, what do you think is fair for you? Which set up are you more likely to subscribe to so you won't feel used and shortchanged?

1. the husband pays for everything, from basic needs to the luxury of wife and kids. The wife's salary goes straight to her personal bank account.
2. the husband pays for all needs/necessities, while luxury of wife is paid for by the girl.
3. 50-50 talaga. The husband splits the bills and necessities with the wife. They spend for their own luxuries.

Follow up questionsgirls and guys)
1. Kapag KKB ba sa dates and courtship stage, KKB dapat hanggang after mag-asawa?
2. Kapag galante ba sa dating and courtship stage, does it follow galante hanggang after mag-asawa?

In short, how consistent is the "set-up" or "arrangement" between couples/lovers?
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1. the husband pays for everything, from basic needs to the luxury of wife and kids. The wife's salary goes straight to her personal bank account. (for backup/her needs)

follow up question:
1. hindi.
2. hindi rin. parang negosyo yung set up na sinasabi mo ts, pwede namang pag usapan lagi.

[~gIrLnXtDoOr~]

I'd choose:

4. We pool our finances together by having a JOINT PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT. We budget together and spend as we need and spend as we please.

this.

Follow up questions:(girls and guys)
1. Kapag KKB ba sa dates and courtship stage, KKB dapat hanggang after mag-asawa?
2. Kapag galante ba sa dating and courtship stage, does it follow galante hanggang after mag-asawa?

In short, how consistent is the "set-up" or "arrangement" between couples/lovers?

1 & 2 - pwede, pwedeng hindi. may or may not be consistent.

it depends on their personality (inherently galante? kuripot? mapag-panggap?) and
the situation (maybe previously maraming para, then naging tag-gipit/ vice versa)...
just like what Romaticure posted, pwede namang mapag-usapan.

but based on experience, it has been consistent. my hubby was galante during bf-gf stage; he still is, even after we got married.

[enaej426]

Guys and girls, what do you think is fair for you? Which set up are you more likely to subscribe to so you won't feel used and shortchanged?

1. the husband pays for everything, from basic needs to the luxury of wife and kids. The wife's salary goes straight to her personal bank account.
2. the husband pays for all needs/necessities, while luxury of wife is paid for by the girl.
3. 50-50 talaga. The husband splits the bills and necessities with the wife. They spend for their own luxuries.

Depende sa Income ng Mag-asawa :

1& 2. this usually happens , i know a friend who's into this setup , pero it's because the husband is earning 10x more than hi wife kaya keribels lang ang setup na ganito, pero pag average ang income ng couple , they have to share it 50-50 or whatever will be convenient for them basta it meets all their financial needs which is #2.

Follow up questionsgirls and guys)
1. Kapag KKB ba sa dates and courtship stage, KKB dapat hanggang after mag-asawa?
2. Kapag galante ba sa dating and courtship stage, does it follow galante hanggang after mag-asawa?

In short, how consistent is the "set-up" or "arrangement" between couples/lovers?

1. nope
2. nope

it isn't consistent , it can be agreed depende sa situation ng magasawa.

[vincex]

Depende sa lalaki. Ang mga open-minded na lalaki hindi magiging problema na mag-offer magsplit ng bill ang ka-date na babae. Titingalain pang may self respect iyong babae.

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my_2_cents

Kaya nga! Guys don't know which ones are really sincere.

[Jerrymaya]

Sa panahong parehong kumikita ang babae at lalaki hindi maganda kung lalaki lang lagi gumagastos.

[Meanie!!]

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[ka_deniz]

Bakit naman hindi? If a guy knows how to treat a lady, if I had a good time with him, and if I see sincerity and honesty in his intentions, bakit ko naman hindi pagbibigyan ulit? I just hate guys kasi who think na komo lang nagbayad sila sa date, at gumastos ng medyo malaki, obligado na ako pagbigyan siya to a second one. I am speaking for myself of course. But I think no lady will disagree that the ultimate barometer if you will have a second date is if we had a good time. Bottomline, kapag nagsabi na yung babae na gusto nya magshare sa bill with matching pretty please with sugar on top, huwag masyadong magpamacho. Because nagiging mayabang lang dating nyo.

Yan kasi ang hirap sa ibang mga lalaki dyan. Akala kasi nila sa mga babae isda lang na madali bingwitin sa dagat basta me magandang pain lang. At kahit nga sinabihan mo na ng maayos na di ka interesado pag pupumilitan pa din sarili nila. For you boys who enjoy clubbing, you do need to know that we are not that stupid to realize that you are trying to get in our skirts. And yes, we do watch out for creeps like that in the dance floor.

tama naman yan.