Social Anxiety Disorder in the Philippines

[happydude]

@will21
Thanx ng marami sa link pre, mejo may problem lang ako sa internet connection, sana maayos na, para ma-dl ko na.
pm ulit kita kapag na-dl ko na for further discussions.
thanx again!




@suhneigh
We can use this thread as our support group.

[Entei002]

Nako may ganito rin yata ako.

Bata pa ako tahimik na talaga ako eh.

Actually , 2 times ako nagkaroon ng 'most behaved' award noong elementary. And I really hate that award , maybe because it reminds me of my "boring" personality. Consistent honor student ako pre-school to HS but dont get me wrong, hindi ako "NERD" at alam ko sa sarili ko yan.

Nung Highschool ako I tried to look "cool" by befriending malilikot and naughty boys in our class. But I've never looked cool.. anta/nga ko dahil na BULLY pa ako. I really learned my lesson that time. The next year I transfer school . And I cant tell to my parents why I suddenly want to transfer schools. After that incident I think lumala ang kalagayan ko, dahil narin siguro naging maingat nako and that limits the possibility of making new friends.

Inis na inis ako.. naiingit ako sa ibang tao na napaka-natural kung makipag-socialize . But hindi ako sumusuko, kahit na hanggang ngayon masasabi ko na I'm not yet fully recovered dun sa incident na yun.

[happydude]

just finished earlier the dl of the audio therapy, currently listening on the first session.

the author speaks so slow, nakakaantok, but the content is very good,
especially since he is also a sufferer of s.a.d., he can absolutely relate to us.
hoping to finish the whole 20 sessions, mejo matagal ito - 20 weeks, as the author strongly advised to hold on one session per week.

[ashnight]

just finished earlier the dl of the audio therapy, currently listening on the first session.

the author speaks so slow, nakakaantok, but the content is very good,
especially since he is also a sufferer of s.a.d., he can absolutely relate to us.
hoping to finish the whole 20 sessions, mejo matagal ito - 20 weeks, as the author strongly advised to hold on one session per week.

where did you get it? effective ba? anong pakiramdam?

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guys, alam niyo, narinig ko mga classmates kong pinaguusapan ako tapos sabi nung isa, may abnormalities daw ako

[happydude]

where did you get it? effective ba? anong pakiramdam?

hi!
got it from will21, you can try to ask him.

[violetbabe]

nice thread

i still suggest that before you conclude having one, have a visit muna to a professional aka psychologist/psychiatrist.

ako i could say na may s.a.d. ako based sa nakasulat sa wikipedia. introvert ako and matindi ang pagrepel ko sa presence ng mga tao. you just dont know how my body/system reacts with every embarassing situation. madapa lang eh halos magblack out na ako.

but not a single doctor diagnosed me having s.a.d. iba ang diagnosis nila.

point is, madami psychological and personality disorder sa books and you may confuse one with another. pwedeng delikado kasi na self help kayo without any guidance from experts.

opinion ko lang po

but nice thread pa rin

[ashnight]

yung mga school that offers "personality development" workshops like john robert powers, effective po ba yun pantanggal ng s.a.d natin?

by the way, share ko lang etong forum site about sa s.a.d :

socialanxietysupport.com/forum/

[robi_07]

As a result, sufferers of agoraphobia avoid public and/or unfamiliar places, especially large, open, spaces such as shopping malls or airports where there are few places to hide. In severe cases, the sufferer may become confined to his or her home, experiencing difficulty traveling from this safe place. Although mostly thought to be a fear of public places, it is now believed that agoraphobia develops as a complication of panic attacks.[1]

[foreverhoping]

hi! i'm just new here. actually, i just signed-up because i saw this thread when i searched for "anxiety disorder".

i have an anxiety disorder for almost 3 years now. i was forced to quit college just a year before i supposed to graduate. and because of that, i also developed agoraphobia. nagpatingin na ko sa psychiatrist noon pero tinigil ko kasi ayoko ng mga medications. i can't go out without my mom with me. she's been my "comfort person" ever since i've had this. nakakalabas naman ako mag-isa pero hanggang sa malapit lang na tindahan. outside i look ok, like there's nothing wrong with me. pero inside me, i'm really struggling. before, lagi akong inaatake(anxiety attack) kahit na kasama ko family ko. to the point na naiiyak ako, na hindi ko na mapigilan, tapos uuwi na lang kami agad. ngayon, minsan na lang kasi i'm really trying my best not to let it control me. although seriously it's exhausting, na parang hinihigop lahat ng energy ko kasi sobrang nilalabanan ko(i hope that made sense). ngayon, hindi pa rin ako makalabas ng ako lang pero when i'm with my mom or with my family i can go to malls, restaurants even sa mga crowded places like divisoria. but honestly, i'm already tired of this routine. alam ko, dadating ang panahon na hindi ko na makakasama ang mom ko or family ko to guide me, which makes me afraid just the thought of it, but it's too difficult that i don't even know where to start again. currently, may pinagkakakitaan ako online pero alam ko hindi to makakatulong sakin or baka lalo pang makaapekto to sakin, pero ito lang yung kaya kong gawin for now para na rin hindi ako maging pabigat sa family ko.

pero sa totoo lang, ang pinakamahirap sa sitwasyon na 'to, e yung kung pano mo i-eexplain sa iba kung ano yung pinagdadaanan ko kasi unaware sila kung ano yung anxiety disorder and agoraphobia. kahit ako nung una, i really have no idea until i found out through internet. buti na nga lang may mga communtity support groups akong nahanap noon (anxietytribe.com) and dun nakahanap rin ako ng mga pinoy na tulad ko pero konti lang. siguro yung iba unaware sila na meron sila nun. meron din akong laging binabasa na blog ng isang girl from london. may agoraphobia sya and she's blogging about her daily experiences with agoraphobia which i can very much relate to. ito yung site http://cristalily.tumblr.com/

anyway, sorry kung medyo mahaba to gusto ko lang talaga mag-share nung nakita ko to. and i'm glad na may ganito. sana meron pa kong makilala na mga kagaya ko.

[happydude]

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[happydude]

nice thread
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point is, madami psychological and personality disorder sa books and you may confuse one with another. pwedeng delikado kasi na self help kayo without any guidance from experts.

opinion ko lang po

but nice thread pa rin

Ei thanks for sharing!
agree with this also, s.a.d. can be confused with agoraphobia, avoidant personality disorder and selective mutism.
And those symptoms of different psychological and personality disorder can overlap with s.a.d., kaya kelangan talaga nang may proper diagnostic galing sa mga pros.

hi! i'm just new here. actually, i just signed-up because i saw this thread when i searched for "anxiety disorder".
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anyway, sorry kung medyo mahaba to gusto ko lang talaga mag-share nung nakita ko to. and i'm glad na may ganito. sana meron pa kong makilala na mga kagaya ko.

Thank you too!!

[_marica_]

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[juribese]

I think I have SAD too or AvPD?

Like you guys, lagi ako "best in conduct" nung elementary. Pano, di ako nagsasalita masyado. Hehe. I have friends, pero sobrang konti lang. Then came college, nakatatlong school ako. Palipat-lipat every year. I can't keep up with my classmates kasi I feel weird around them. Tahimik lang ako e. Gusto ko magkaron ng kaibigan pero I don't know how to make conversation with other people last. I gave up on myself, nagstop ako ng schooling. 2 years na yata.

Ngayon I'm seeing a psychiatrist from Philippine Mental Health Association. Di naman niya dniagnose kung anong sakit ko or ano bng meron ako. Kwentuhan lang kami tas nagprescribe siya ng gamot Solian (amisulpride). I read sa socialanxietysupport.com png SAD at depression siya. Support group! Kailangan ko para magkafriends naman ako.

[happydude]

^^Ei juribese, thanks for sharing here.
Sana madami kang maging friends dito.

[sunfire]

Have you read about the qualities of Introverts?

Kasi ako, I am one. I'm generally quiet and shy, kahit nung bata pa. Gusto ko lang sa bahay, at ayokong makipag social interaction. It's my choice. Although pag meron namang mga parties na kailangan puntahan, pumupunta naman ako pero i only talk with a few people kaya napapagkamalang snob, pero di ko lang talaga feel na kausapin lahat ng tao. Tapos konti lang friends ko, pero they're very close. I can go to movies alone, eat out alone, or go out alone, and it's fine with me. Ang energy kasi ng introverts ay sa loob, and they don't want casual or shallow conversations. Deep thinkers sila and they only want to engage in those topics. They love to read books, watch movies, tinkering stuffs (crafts, sewing, painting) or stimulate their minds, blogging, etc. Sa games naman, mga pang isahan or dalawahan lang, like chess, crossword puzzles, sudoku, etc... HIndi nga sila mahilig mag parties or sa crowd, but they also go out (dinner, movies, hang out) with a few of their friends na talagang close lang nila. Sa work naman, they work best when they're alone, and not in groups, so pili kayo ng mga trabaho na konti lang ang social interaction.

Ok lang ang maging introvert, it's a personality trait. Ganon ako, the thing is, it's an extrovert world, so somehow you still need to learn how to socialize. It takes time, nung nagkatrabaho na ako, doon ako nakapag practice kausapin ang ibang tao, dahil kailangan ko sa trabaho ko. Siguro nga motivator ko ang sweldo. Kung hindi ako kikilos, susuffer ang work ko, but it gave me the confidence. Pero sa trabaho lang, outside work, introvert pa din ako.

[freshbabe]

self-confessed introvert ako. -i have tendencies.

-tapos in a group setting-- i find myself "blanko" tapos
listener lang ako, pero madalas matanong lang ako-di ako
makwento.

- makwento lang if funny story, or may pandagdag sa story. Or I feel comfortable with the group.

-here in pex i seem outspoken pero in the real world
NOPE. I really can express myself in writing.
And if in the mood -i have sense of humor.
I'm more of a listener.

pero i never experienced yung sobrang worst case tulad ng nababasa ko. (can't go out alone/ dependent with a family member when going out/hates malls)


well eto tendencies ko :

- I don't OPEN UP easily with a group of people na kaka-kilala ko pa lang.

-I HATE SOCIAL GATHERINGS/ PARTIES/ CLUBS/ BARS/ places
na crowded na lugar for drinking or dancing.

- homebody (comfort zone : my room w/ aircon, tv & net)



i always have the fear na ma-OP ako, okrayan ng outfit-flaws sa katawan, maging wall-flower, baka diss ako ng friend ko in the party, ayoko ng napapansin ako. pero if kailangan ko um-attend talaga. gusto ko well-dressed ako.

- eto napansin ko : out of friendship with EXTRO people I meet.
Na-influence nila ako. Either sa sense of humor, or sa clubs na
sasalihan, OR activities na gusto nilang subukan ko. -basta close
ko.

-Funny thing is napaka-Extro ng nakakatabi ko(at work/in class).
Or nakakasabay ko umuwi. So there, kapag jive kami sa humor at immune na SIYA sa timid ways ko, ayan.

-I always depend with the one person na magiging close ko, for me to be accepted in the group that she introduces me too. I stick to that group & don't initiate to know a different one on my own.

- i really don't talk with girls na i find intimidating at maarte up to now. pero kapag nice siya at feel niya akong kilalanin, or natutuwa sa kin. YUN NA. (break the ice na )

-i chose an industry na everybody is EXTRO. Requires you to fluently speak english & communicate well. The english part check ako diyan, pero interacting & connecting well with different groups of people (wala). I enjoy na lang the company of EXTRO people na feel akong maging friend at ang salary, comp&ben ng company. Ang rason ko- I can deliver naman(skills). Kahit intro ako.

-my fear of gimik places-(drinking clubs/bars/open spaces for drinking & partying) started when i entered the industry. i experienced being bullied/back-stabbed by bad rumors na scandalous ang dating sa kin...(at work)

so i feel na may makakakilala sa kin at parang pag-uusapan ako, pinagtatawanan --paranoia?!


- back in college- basta first day of classes- like going inside a roomful of students... makes me nervous. di ako makapasok sa classroom sa sobrang di ko feel classmates ko.
(tapos i'd drop that subject). Pero 2x ko lang nagawa yan.

-I finished college in time- kahit shifter at irregular student ako.

- since elementary, hs days my proffessors always say the same thing ---too timid, too shy, too timid./ most behave-kindergarten, most shy/cooperative-pre-school

-pero come breaktime(back in hs) when i'm around a group of people na close sa friend ko(barkada niya)- i'm the butt of jokes(di ako pikon) i'm naturally funny. i have my own group pero katulad ko rin na introvert(i still keep them up to now). my group is friends with her group too (my smart friend na intro) the thing is she's friends with a bunch of extro. -watak na sila at di ko na close ngayon.

- close ko back in college - puros pretty, meron din gimikera pero may pagka-intro din, pero ako pinaka -shy & smart (nerdy ako back in college).

- But I can do ORALS defending a thesis, or DEBATES (basta confident ako sa research/documents ko).

- my cousins (motherside) they do the initiative to reach out with me. pero with (fatherside) close ko, i'm talkative & funny.

- I can express myself kapag maraming natutuwa sa kin.
I can be a stand-up comedian (in class/ or at work).

-I WAS NEVER A PARTICIPATIVE STUDENT (hand-raising freak)
& never butt in my ideas in a group setting(UP TO NOW).

-Nakapag-PROM/HS DANCE(1x) ako, RETREATS(3x).

--joined dance club/girl scouts club-elementary days
(out of friendship-kahit trying hard ako sa dance club).

-kapag forced akong um-attend sa isang social gathering ayan wala na akong kawala, i was raised by my parents na wag lumabas ng bahay ng di sila kasama at wag tumambay sa bahay ng kapit-bahay so wala akong closefriend na neighbor(kumbaga ayaw nila ako ma-alikabukan nung bata pa ko or the neighbor dapat ang pumunta sa bahay ko (so nagka-galos din naman ako at naka-experience ng paglalaro sa ibang bata) *childhood ko*).

- hs days ko nga ayaw nila ako mag-commute tapos ngayon hustler nako sa pag-commute

- Bawal over-night/out of town gimiks (up to now),
at dapat may kinalaman sa studies ang excuse. So nung bad girl
days ko- excuse ko is group work.
Napayagan lang ako out of town nung thesis ko.
Ang curfue 9pm. Beyond that -make a call na at home.

[foreverhoping]

tahimik rin ako sa school noon pero when i'm with my friends sobrang kalog ako and makulit. noon ok naman ako when i'm around people walang anxiety, tahimik lang talaga minsan. weird nga e kasi sabi ng mom ko ang daldal at ang biba ko daw nung bata. tapos nang nag-college na ko yun na medyo nararamdaman ko na yung mga symptoms. yung bigla akong kakabahan. hanggang nadevelop na siguro kasi hindi ko pinansin nung una. kaya advice ko lang sa inyo if may nararamdaman na kayong symptoms of anxiety disorder, consult a psychiatrist na habang maaga, wala namang masama...

[foreverhoping]

@juribese

don't worry we're all here to support each other!

one day, pag ok na talaga ko, gusto ko ma-meet personally lahat ng kagaya ko... parang masarap lang yung ganong feeling, nakakausap mo yung mga taong alam mong makakaintindi sayo kasi same kayo ng pinagdaanan.

[lancealmekian]

used to suffer from GAD, SAD, and clinical depression (not at the same time). i have yet to break free completely from all of them but i learned to cope.

most of the time, it's the desire to make the fear go away that makes it bigger and more powerful. fighting fear, hiding from it and/or analyzing it will not make it go away. instead, one must learn to enjoy fear, to stay with it when it's there, to roll with it, to be one with it. it may never go away, but even if it's there, everything's still going to be okay. it's like the clouds. every once in a while, it blocks the sunlight making the skies dark, but the sun will always shine no matter what.

[freshbabe]

@juribese

don't worry we're all here to support each other!

one day, pag ok na talaga ko, gusto ko ma-meet personally lahat ng kagaya ko... parang masarap lang yung ganong feeling, nakakausap mo yung mga taong alam mong makakaintindi sayo kasi same kayo ng pinagdaanan.

^^^ GIRLIE... no offense meant pero paano ko malalaman kung inaatake ka ng whatever man yun? Anu ba yun bigla ka na lang umiiyak out of nothing?? Or bigla ka na lang magiging aloof?? Or bigla ka na lang nanginginig or kinakabahan??? Parang kunwari kapag nagsasama-sama kayo na pare-pareho... tingin mo ba magiging lively kaya yung grupo niyo. Eh diba nga INTROVERTS, so meaning yun na nga.


ADVICE ko na lang girlie, dapat makihalubilo kayo sa mga
GEB's na mix yung crowd. Para may EXTRO DIN DIBA??
Kasi baka depressing yung atmosphere kapag nagsamasama kayo tapos pag-uusapan niyo yung mga symptoms niyo. Just to help out, no offense meant.