Social Anxiety Disorder in the Philippines

[happydude]

If there's any S.A.D. sufferer here in the Philippines, i hope you can post here, so that we can support each other to recovery. Thanx.


some information from wikipedia:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety_disorder

[desirexist]

So you have S.A.D.? How's your life anyway?

[enchante]

If there's any S.A.D. sufferer here in the Philippines, i hope you can post here, so that we can support each other to recovery. Thanx.


some information from wikipedia:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety_disorder

what makes you say you have this disorder?

[josiah2010_]

If there's any S.A.D. sufferer here in the Philippines, i hope you can post here, so that we can support each other to recovery. Thanx.


some information from wikipedia:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety_disorder

yup. I think I have Social Anxiety, at ADHD..actually, marami akong mental illness which makes it hard for me to interact with people around me.

My mom won't accept that fact. Naiinis siya when other people say na meron akong sakit. Para sa kanya, lahat ng anak niya NORMAL. Wala daw "baliw" sa amin. I think she meant well. Pero hindi niya alam na mas nasasaktan ako sa attitude niya kasi the more na hindi ako nag-reach for help, the harder it is for me to live a "normal" life.

I go to prayer meetings, active ako sa youth org namin ,etc.. Just try to expose myself to a lot of people kahit na mahirap sa kalagayan ko. We only have one life to live, and I won't let these "sickness" interfere with my life. Sabi nga ng isang close friend ko "ano ba yung normal? Ito ba ay nakasulat na sa bato? o ito ay nag-eevolve with the society?"..

It's okay to admit na hindi tayo perfect. Remember ko yung sociology subject na kinuha ko when I was still in college. May isang sociologist nagsabi na the more modernize we are , there will be more people who will have a harder time to cope with drastic changes in just a short period of time.

Sometimes kasi , it is not US who are wrong, it is the society that we LIVE in. Making money yung priority palagi, that we have ignored what is important for us to EVOLVE. Nagigin sophisticated na yung mga machines o technologies natin, but how about us HUMANS? are our emotions more sophisticated? the way we deal with people are more sophisticated?

the answer is NO. why? because of death. Because we die, and new babies are born, and they have to relearn everything again. While technologies just continue to MOVE forward..

we are intrinsically moving at a much slower pace. Kaya nagkakaroon ng conflict at kaya masasabi nating hindi tayo "normal" because we can't seem to get things right.

[enchante]

yup. I think I have Social Anxiety, at ADHD..actually, marami akong mental illness which makes it hard for me to interact with people around me.

My mom won't accept that fact. Naiinis siya when other people say na meron akong sakit. Para sa kanya, lahat ng anak niya NORMAL. Wala daw "baliw" sa amin. I think she meant well. Pero hindi niya alam na mas nasasaktan ako sa attitude niya kasi the more na hindi ako nag-reach for help, the harder it is for me to live a "normal" life.

I go to prayer meetings, active ako sa youth org namin ,etc.. Just try to expose myself to a lot of people kahit na mahirap sa kalagayan ko. We only have one life to live, and I won't let these "sickness" interfere with my life. Sabi nga ng isang close friend ko "ano ba yung normal? Ito ba ay nakasulat na sa bato? o ito ay nag-eevolve with the society?"..

It's okay to admit na hindi tayo perfect. Remember ko yung sociology subject na kinuha ko when I was still in college. May isang sociologist nagsabi na the more modernize we are , there will be more people who will have a harder time to cope with drastic changes in just a short period of time.

Sometimes kasi , it is not US who are wrong, it is the society that we LIVE in. Making money yung priority palagi, that we have ignored what is important for us to EVOLVE. Nagigin sophisticated na yung mga machines o technologies natin, but how about us HUMANS? are our emotions more sophisticated? the way we deal with people are more sophisticated?

the answer is NO. why? because of death. Because we die, and new babies are born, and they have to relearn everything again. While technologies just continue to MOVE forward..

we are intrinsically moving at a much slower pace. Kaya nagkakaroon ng conflict at kaya masasabi nating hindi tayo "normal" because we can't seem to get things right.

this is true... one reason is because our cultures are more deeply embedded in our human nature than the physical changes we bring forth to our society. so, even if we accept these "societal" changes happening around us, unconsciously, our perspective (when it comes to our human social experiences) remain closed because it has been long part of our nature as humans... even longer than the existence of modernization and industrialization, we have long learned of these cultures, which, despite variation across nations, taught us, in general, the ways of human social life--our actions, behaviors, beliefs, customs, norms, religions, traditions, and much of our differences--all of these account for the social stigma we put on each others' shoulders. it will probably take us more time than what we expected before the society gets used to accepting mundane realities as yours.

[happydude]

So you have S.A.D.? How's your life anyway?

what makes you say you have this disorder?

I cannot say i have a life, i mean im not living the ideal life (at least the normal life) that i want because of this disorder.

Having s.a.d. is very difficult. I look normal in the first glance, but i always have these irrational fears inside me (as per symptoms of s.a.d.), and as you know, it always projected outside, and people notice me always acting odd within a social situation or any other group gatherings, especially in the workplace, the meetings, parties, and other office events etc.

When in this situation, i'm so quiet (and nervous, thats why i became more noticeable within the group), and when i'm required to speak, it becomes more dreadful to me, i cannot concentrate on what to say, the sweats, the stuttering and the trembling..

As a result, when people notice that i am socially odd, times become more harder, i'm now stigmatized, my relationships with officemates suffer, they will isolate me on future social gatherings. This is where my s.a.d. end up into severe depression. Of course, like all human, i have a need or desire to be connected with people, for friendship, for companion. Having this disorder loses all the opportunity.

Even the opportunity for a good career. I resigned in the office about a year ago, and its because of s.a.d.. My close friends and family didn't understand why i resigned until now, i cannot explain to them the real reason.

Currently looking for another job, but foreseeing the same social situation again, will be a big big challenge for me. I cannot afford professional counselling, (technically, my situation is not yet diagnosed by a psychologist or therapist) that's why i rely only on reading self help books and meditations.

I'm grateful that these books helped me at least a little. But i cannot know for sure until I'm in the same social situation again.

I go to prayer meetings, active ako sa youth org namin, etc.. Just try to expose myself to a lot of people kahit na mahirap sa kalagayan ko. We only have one life to live, and I won't let these "sickness" interfere with my life. Sabi nga ng isang close friend ko "ano ba yung normal? Ito ba ay nakasulat na sa bato? o ito ay nag-eevolve with the society?"..

Happy for you that you're fighting or taking action on your disorder.

As part of my action plan, I'm also attending a christian church ministry and it helps, by forcing myself to go to a social gathering helps, but its always a challenge, and i failed a lot of times (and some christians are just the same as other people, they can be unforgiving, but i understand them anyway), but lets keep on going. As you said, we cannot let this disorder interfere with our life. It has done a lot of damage in my life, and it should not anymore.



Just want to add, very few people here in the Pinas knew of S.A.D., even those who are suffering from this didn't know what its called. Just like me before. Our culture here always concludes that we are just crazy. I hope there's a way of spreading the information about s.a.d., a television documentary episode will be a great idea.

[saweverything]

i think i have this also........

[happydude]

i think i have this also........

Maybe you can share your story?

[Jeffreyw]

Were you as a child "programmed" (sorry for the lack of better term) to fear people?

Example is "Sige, punta ka dyan, may mga tao dyan (or may pulis)."

[red-switch]

Okay.. I so understand you josiah.
Anyway, i have that also and im actually into selfhelp, i do a lot of search bout it online, and right now, i cant say that im totally well. I think exposure in people with great confidence and compassion is very helpful to me so far.

[happydude]

Were you as a child "programmed" (sorry for the lack of better term) to fear people?

Example is "Sige, punta ka dyan, may mga tao dyan (or may pulis)."

Wala naman ako natatandaan na ganito or related dito na pangyayari during childhood. But you're right, childhood experiences contributed a lot in many psychological disorders.

yup. I think I have Social Anxiety, at ADHD..actually, marami akong mental illness which makes it hard for me to interact with people around me.

Ang s.a.d., i think, ay resulta na lamang ng iba pang nating illness, in your case, adhd. Kapag nakikita mong everytime na di ka always effective sa interaction around people, may mga fears and thoughts na nabubuo unti-unti subconciously. Hanggang sa one day, makita mo na lang may s.a.d. ka na pala.

Okay.. I so understand you josiah.
Anyway, i have that also and im actually into selfhelp, i do a lot of search bout it online, and right now, i cant say that im totally well. I think exposure in people with great confidence and compassion is very helpful to me so far.

Anlaki ng tulong na nagagawa ng exposure sa people, kasi doon na-papractice ang mind natin to cope-up. Drawback lang eh kapag di naging successful ang exposure at sinamahan pa ng low self-esteem, lalo lumalaki ang challenge. Laking tulong din ng mga close friends dahil sa support nila, minsan lang hirap magsabi about our s.a.d. to them, baka kasi di ka nila maunawaan.

[kwaeguhl]

This topic is interesting for me because I think I have a S.A.D. too, pero hindi ako sure.

Bata pa lang kasi sobrang mahiyain na ako. Tapos in my high school days, I tend to cut classes because i'm not comfortable with the people around me. I graduated high school with only two bestfriends and i am known to be the most behaved kid in my class kasi bihira akong makita ng mga teachers na maging magulo o madaldal.

Tapos ngayong college may mga times na natatakot talaga ako pumasok kasi some of my subjects requires group interactions.

I think the main reason of why I fear social interaction is I don't want to be misjudged by other people.

Sa tingin niyo ba, lahat ng may S.A.D. ay low ang self esteem?

[red-switch]

Yeah. It'll be great if the media will just give their attention to this, i mean seeing that there are S.A.D. patient like us and knowing that their experiences are exactly what we have been.. sometimes people with worst situation would give us this little insight and confidence that we can,.. compare to them, cause i met such..

[happydude]

@ kwaeguhl,
Baka extreme shyness lang yan, pero malaki possibility na mauwi sa s.a.d. kapag hindi ma-manage.
Meron pang isang katulad na disorder na closely related sa s.a.d., ang registered term ng mga psychologist eh, Avoidant Personality Disorder. Almost same symptoms kaya parang social anxiety pa rin.

I have the same symptoms as yours during college, pero nakayanan ko, ang di ko nakayanan eh nung nag-work na ako, almost everyday laging struggle for me na pumasok sa office. Dami ko experiences sa workplace battling with s.a.d., hassle na lang i-share sa dito..

I think, may kinalaman ang low self-esteem, because it runs alongside with s.a.d.
Pwede mangyari na because of s.a.d., we developed low self-esteem; or because of low self-esteem, therefore s.a.d. developed.


***To All,
Baka meron sa inyong nakasubok na ng Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), share nyo naman ang mga experiences nyo dito, for the benefit of everyone. For those who are not familiar with CBT, I encourage you to try this, books i read always mentions that it's so far, the most effective in treating s.a.d. and depressions.

[curash2010]

i do have social anxiety disorder for yrs now. it started in college due to some awful experience of being bullied. it became a cycle til i'm in a workplace in an office scene. hirap na nga ako ng ganito. di ako nagtatagal sa work kaya til now wala pa nangyayari sa akin. ni undergrad nga ako sa college eh dahil dun. natrauma na ako. minsan nakakaparanoid lumabas ng bahay. feeling ko pagtitripan lang ako ng tao sa paligid, which is dami ko na beses na prove. haay. buti i came across this kind of topic sa forum. wanna let out a lot of things reg that matter..

[ashnight]

unfortunately i have s.a.d

i was being verbal bullied when i was a child, lagi akong inaasar... hanggang ngayon, college na ko.. di na ko inaasar pero i know nawweirdan sila saken, that's why sa classroom, di ako umiimik, yung mga katabi ko, di ko kinakausap, halos mga friends ko lang kinakausap ko kasi pagfeel kong ayaw saken or nawweirdan saken, ayoko na rin sa kanila.

im not shy type pero nandahil sa nawweirdohan sila saken, talo ko pa ang mga mahiyain sa sobrang katahimikan. feeling ko super lala ng s.a.d ko, buti kayo mahiyain talaga ever since, eh ako, madaldal, outgoing, adventurous at fun loving. naiinis ako kasi it's like changing my personality

[will21]

may alam ba kayo na support group? May na download ako na audio therapy sa net. Natapos ko na. malaki tulong pero kelangan pa rin ng group para mapractice.

[amilopro]

im not sure if this counts as sad but I often don't find pleasure in social gatherings. Plastikan lang minsan or our of common courtesy that i pretend to be interesed with a person or a group of individuals. (syempre for my own image and for business purposes).

Ako kasi yung tipo ng taong hirap mainteresado sa tao pag hindi naman talaga ako interesado. Mapili ako sa kaibigan at kasama.

My life is...normal naman? I don't have a thousand friends in school but I have a moderate sized circle of friends naman. )

[happydude]

may alam ba kayo na support group? May na download ako na audio therapy sa net. Natapos ko na. malaki tulong pero kelangan pa rin ng group para mapractice.

wala pa akong alam na support group dito sa pinas.

share mo naman sakin yung audio, try ko kung effective. paki-pm mo sakin yun link.

[suhneigh]

Gawa tayo ng support group.