Do Pinays think that their Wedding day is the most important day in a girl's life.

[quick_ben]

based on your experience?

Honestly, yes. more #2 pero siyempre, konting #1 kahit di niya sinasabi.

We were staying together already before our marriage.... Heh!

I honestly didn't need a piece of paper to tell everyone that I'm sticking it out through hell or high water.

But, I must admit, that piece of paper provides things:
1) security for the woman.
2) legitimacy to the children.
3) social benefits to all of them.
4) acceptance by a judgmental society (in terms of how they view the lady)

[kreuk]

it's grounded in reality and all the postive and negative comes with the package.

yea i prefer this too.

i won't enjoy a grand wedding... i don't like automated rituals...........

[prEttyInDistress]

No definitely, my mom is a superwoman she's far from being a trash, and my dad never treat her as one so

so you mean your trash este mom don't clean the house, tend to you guys, cook, laundry...etc?



and so your mom didn't get a wedding from your dad?


hmmmmmm.....

[Ice Burn]

Nope. Is that a problem?

[josiah2010_]

Honestly, yes. more #2 pero siyempre, konting #1 kahit di niya sinasabi.

We were staying together already before our marriage.... Heh!

I honestly didn't need a piece of paper to tell everyone that I'm sticking it out through hell or high water.

But, I must admit, that piece of paper provides things:
1) security for the woman.
2) legitimacy to the children.
3) social benefits to all of them.
4) acceptance by a judgmental society (in terms of how they view the lady)

All these reasons for getting that piece of paper doesn't make it the most important day of your life?

[josiah2010_]

Nope. Is that a problem?

are you lying to me , again, honey?

You did not have any wedding celebration with your family and friends? Like, really?

[Krayon]

are you lying to me , again, honey?

You did not have any wedding celebration with your family and friends? Like, really?

[BigoteAtBalbas]

are you lying to me , again, honey?

You did not have any wedding celebration with your family and friends? Like, really?

Masyadong affected ah

[Ice Burn]

Believe what you want to believe.

What's it to you anyway?

[quick_ben]

@josiah
No.

What century were you born, dude?
How old are you anyway?

We treated our wedding day just like a day na may occasion sa bahay.

[josiah2010_]

Believe what you want to believe.

What's it to you anyway?

nothing, I'm just amazed that a married woman will ever deny that a wedding celebration existed in her life just to prove a point.

^
No.

What century were you born, dude?

We treated our wedding day just like a day na may occasion sa bahay.

at least meron pa rin wedding celebration that occured, kahit na hindi magarbo.

[kreuk]

Marriage is hardwork. People who failed to realized that are the same people who ends up feeling unhappy about their spouses because they expected too much, and may I say unrealistic expectations.

yea never expect just enjoy the ride...

[JUST_JT]

No.

I never liked ostentatious waste of money events. Why spend so much on a one day event when there are other priorities to focus on later on?

In fact our wedding was a total surprise for me. My husband just asked me one day completely out of the blue. Hey wanna get married today? I said sure. And we got married the same day, civil, just the two of us and the officiant. We didn't even have a wedding ring or anything and both of us were just dressed plainly. We paid around $50 for the license and the officiant's fees. Then we went to our favorite restaurant to celebrate afterwards. Simple, no frills and no stress.

Been married over 3 years, have two kids, paying off mortgages, getting ready for the children's schooling, dealing with household expenses, managing finances etc. It's obviously not a fairytale ending but it's grounded in reality and all the postive and negative comes with the package.

you did not have any wedding celebration with your family and friends? NONE AT ALL?

She doesn't give a hoot about sharing the special event with friends and relatives.

-Just_JT
Maybe.the.couple.are.loners.

[leland]

No.

I never liked ostentatious waste of money events. Why spend so much on a one day event when there are other priorities to focus on later on?

In fact our wedding was a total surprise for me. My husband just asked me one day completely out of the blue. Hey wanna get married today? I said sure. And we got married the same day, civil, just the two of us and the officiant. We didn't even have a wedding ring or anything and both of us were just dressed plainly. We paid around $50 for the license and the officiant's fees. Then we went to our favorite restaurant to celebrate afterwards. Simple, no frills and no stress.

Been married over 3 years, have two kids, paying off mortgages, getting ready for the children's schooling, dealing with household expenses, managing finances etc. It's obviously not a fairytale ending but it's grounded in reality and all the postive and negative comes with the package.

I had a similar wedding although we didn't do it on the day that hubby proposed. The judge took our pictures while officiating the 5-minute rite. I didn't trust her photography skills so we went to Sear's for better portraits then had lunch in a restaurant.

The problem with so-called celebrity-scale weddings is that the bar is set high for future occasions like birth (dapat sosyal na hospital), christening, 1st bday. I think this mentality was propagated by the media focusing so much on stylish weddings of celebrities.

[josiah2010_]

She doesn't give a hoot about sharing the special event with friends and relatives.

-Just_JT
Maybe.the.couple.are.loners.

LONERS!

eh kahit nga loners dapat may kunting respeto pa rin sa mga magulang , kahit man lang as a simple thank you sa pagpapa-aral sa kanya.

Masakit yata sa parents na hindi man lang invited sa wedding ng anak niya o kaya kahit man lang celebration, walang nangyari.

They deserve to be part of it too , you know. They somewhat lost a daughter.

[quick_ben]

at least meron pa rin wedding celebration that occured, kahit na hindi magarbo.

I really don't get this obsession with the celebration.

Ginawa lang namin yun kasi, magagalit ang mga kamag-anak namin pag hindi man lang sila pinapunta nung nagpakasal kami. Siyempre kung may bisita, may pakain.

Konti nga lang pinapunta namin. 5,000 lang ata or less ginastos namin sa pagkain (less nga talaga yata). Sa bahay pa para hindi mahal.

[BigoteAtBalbas]

immoral ba yung ginawa ni ice burn at ni quick ben?

[JUST_JT]

LONERS!

eh kahit nga loners dapat may kunting respeto pa rin sa mga magulang , kahit man lang as a simple thank you sa pagpapa-aral sa kanya.

Masakit yata sa parents na hindi man lang invited sa wedding ng anak niya o kaya kahit man lang celebration, walang nangyari.

They deserve to be part of it too , you know. They somewhat lost a daughter.

Like I said, some people don't give a hoot about everyone else.

-Just_JT
At.least.owls.give.a.hoot.at.night.

[josiah2010_]

I really don't get this obsession with the celebration.

Ginawa lang namin yun kasi, magagalit ang mga kamag-anak namin pag hindi man lang sila pinapunta nung nagpakasal kami. Siyempre kung may bisita, may pakain.

Konti nga lang pinapunta namin. 5,000 lang ata or less ginastos namin sa pagkain. Sa bahay pa para hindi mahal.

celebration doesn't mean to have many guests..

kahit mommy and daddy lang with siblings..

just the immediate family.

[Ice Burn]

She doesn't give a hoot about sharing the special event with friends and relatives.

-Just_JT
Maybe.the.couple.are.loners.

Nah. We were both based in the US when we got married. My family and most of my friends were in the Philippines, most of his family was in Peru.

Anyway, when he first proposed to me a year before, it became a tug of war between our families. My family wanted a wedding in the Philippines, his family wanted a wedding in Peru.

Just think, gotta please two families? From 2 opposite continents and the expense that it will entail? Too much stress.