Do Pinays think that their Wedding day is the most important day in a girl's life.

[josiah2010_]

pakigamit naman ang utak mo please

I did, and Zanya said "why not"

Zanya,

that's so weird. If I am your husband I would take that as a sign our marriage will be soon over.

[kreuk]

^^^ maybe you won't have to PM kraykray anymore... he'll be around the corner of your bed

[caryatid_kitten]

Not sure this belongs here but I've specified Pinays so maybe it counts....

Many women, probably most spend their lives up to that point preparing and planning for their wedding.

And when they do, indeed, set their wedding, they spend heaven and earth in order to create the most lavish, stylish, enchanting wedding they can achieve.

Now if your a rich heiress, siguro okay lang. May pera si Papa pang gastos, why not?

Pero, I've even heard of some ladies or their families, mangungutang para lang sa araw ng kasal.

Tapos pag may konting gusot (like pangit ang design ng cake) mali ang kulay ng ganito-ganire, sira na buong araw.

Oprah said something like this: "Women think the wedding day is the most important day of their lives and spend their whole lives preparing for it and spare nothing for it... and then forget that there is a tomorrow. Later they wonder why their marriage failed"

So question:
Is it true? Do you ladies feel that way? Do you think your wedding day is the most important day of your lives? Do you ever think of the next day? and the next? and the next?

Some women are unreasonable regarding their wedding. It largely depends on her family. Of course, most women want a nice wedding, but of course you have to consider the economics or practicality of it all.

I was part of a wedding forum before and this bride was complaining about her in-laws shoving their noses in her choices. Thing was, her in-laws were paying for the wedding 100%. I told her flat out (much to the dismay of the other brides, I suppose - -I wasnt the most popular participant in that forum) that if she was so specific about something and didn't want anyone meddling about that detail then she or her family should pay for it. If your in-laws are paying for it, make them decide.

Coming from a family of mostly girls, my parents made it a point to pay for things that concerned ME alone such as my gown, hair and make up, jewelry, shoes, bag, etc...Para daw I'm free to decide who I want to work with. Same with the wedding planner. I paid for it because I wanted it. Ganyan din mga kapatid ko. Kasi shempre, pag yung in-laws or husband magbabayad, I'm not free to choose who I want. hahaha.

It was a big day in my life - - but was it the most important? Personally, I dont think it is. I wait for the day our future baby hands us that IVY LEAGUE diploma :P That is perhaps the most important day of my life. LOL.

[JUST_JT]

For those ladies who would answer YES to that question, I think its all about what they call "Expiration Dates" for women.

-Just_JT
Spoken.like.a.true.fuc....

[josiah2010_]

Some women are unreasonable regarding their wedding. It largely depends on her family. Of course, most women want a nice wedding, but of course you have to consider the economics or practicality of it all.

I was part of a wedding forum before and this bride was complaining about her in-laws shoving their noses in her choices. Thing was, her in-laws were paying for the wedding 100%. I told her flat out (much to the dismay of the other brides, I suppose - -I wasnt the most popular participant in that forum) that if she was so specific about something and didn't want anyone meddling about that detail then she or her family should pay for it. If your in-laws are paying for it, make them decide.

Coming from a family of mostly girls, my parents made it a point to pay for things that concerned ME alone such as my gown, hair and make up, jewelry, shoes, bag, etc...Para daw I'm free to decide who I want to work with. Same with the wedding planner. I paid for it because I wanted it. Ganyan din mga kapatid ko. Kasi shempre, pag yung in-laws or husband magbabayad, I'm not free to choose who I want. hahaha.

It was a big day in my life - - but was it the most important? Personally, I dont think it is. I wait for the day our future baby hands us that IVY LEAGUE diploma :P That is perhaps the most important day of my life. LOL.

caryatid, i do hope our future baby will meet your future expectations of him or her.

[Krayon]

pakigamit naman ang utak mo please

lol thats useless.

^^^ maybe you won't have to PM kraykray anymore... he'll be around the corner of your bed

ill be the butler?

[josiah2010_]

lol thats useless.


ill be the butler?

why is it useless, krayon?

bitter that you lose the 1+1 argument?

[quick_ben]

when they get married, men also thinks it is their most important day. The woman is finally theirs.

Where on earth did you get that idea?

A many men don't need a wedding so that "The woman is finally theirs". And many men avoid a wedding like the plague.

For men with purer intentions, many of them don't even require a wedding to be with their woman. They just go through the wedding because (1) the girl wants it, and (2) it legalizes their relationship giving social benefits to their wife and their coming children.

[Zanya]

I did, and Zanya said "why not"

Zanya,

that's so weird. If I am your husband I would take that as a sign our marriage will be soon over.

okay.

^^^ maybe you won't have to PM kraykray anymore... he'll be around the corner of your bed

Kray Kray? cutie nickname

[prEttyInDistress]

ill be the butler?

with the knife to cut off his.......

[Zanya]

Where on earth did you get that idea?

A many men don't need a wedding so that "The woman is finally theirs". And many men avoid a wedding like the plague.

For men with purer intentions, many of them don't even require a wedding to be with their woman. They just go through the wedding because (1) the girl wants it, and (2) it legalizes their relationship giving social benefits to their wife and their coming children.

based on your experience?

[josiah2010_]

Where on earth did you get that idea?

A many men don't need a wedding so that "The woman is finally theirs". And many men avoid a wedding like the plague.

For men with purer intentions, many of them don't even require a wedding to be with their woman. They just go through the wedding because (1) the girl wants it, and (2) it legalizes their relationship giving social benefits to their wife and their coming children.

well, the intentions are different.

But both see the wedding as the day that their lover is theirs legally.

They want to also share that day to their family and friends. To tell the world who they have chosen to spend the rest of their life with.

When a guy truly find the right woman that they respect and love, they generally want to celebrate that moment.

[BigoteAtBalbas]

Where on earth did you get that idea?

A many men don't need a wedding so that "The woman is finally theirs". And many men avoid a wedding like the plague.

For men with purer intentions, many of them don't even require a wedding to be with their woman. They just go through the wedding because (1) the girl wants it, and (2) it legalizes their relationship giving social benefits to their wife and their coming children.

don't mind him, he's a virgin.

[caryatid_kitten]

caryatid, i do hope our future baby will meet your future expectations of him or her.

AIM high! hahahha

[prEttyInDistress]

well it's your fault if you'll let your future husband treat you like trash.

hmmmm....so,your mom is a trash....

[Krayon]

...
Kray Kray? cutie nickname

hmmm, well, thats just my nickname, ha!

with the knife to cut off his.......

heeyyyy...
not the beard! not the beard!

[Ice Burn]

No.

I never liked ostentatious waste of money events. Why spend so much on a one day event when there are other priorities to focus on later on?

In fact our wedding was a total surprise for me. My husband just asked me one day completely out of the blue. Hey wanna get married today? I said sure. And we got married the same day, civil, just the two of us and the officiant. We didn't even have a wedding ring or anything and both of us were just dressed plainly. We paid around $50 for the license and the officiant's fees. Then we went to our favorite restaurant to celebrate afterwards. Simple, no frills and no stress.

Been married over 3 years, have two kids, paying off mortgages, getting ready for the children's schooling, dealing with household expenses, managing finances etc. It's obviously not a fairytale ending but it's grounded in reality and all the postive and negative comes with the package.

[Zanya]

hmmmm....so,your mom is a trash....

No definitely, my mom is a superwoman she's far from being a trash, and my dad never treat her as one so

[josiah2010_]

No.

I never liked ostentatious waste of money events. Why spend so much on a one day event when there are other priorities to focus on later on?

In fact our wedding was a total surprise for me. My husband just asked me one day completely out of the blue. Hey wanna get married today? I said sure. And we got married the same day, civil, just the two of us and the officiant. We didn't even have a wedding ring or anything and both of us were just dressed plainly. We paid around $50 for the license and the officiant's fees. Then we went to our favorite restaurant to celebrate afterwards. Simple, no frills and no stress.

Been married over 3 years, have two kids, paying off mortgages, getting ready for the children's schooling, dealing with household expenses, managing finances etc. It's obviously not a fairytale ending but it's grounded in reality and all the postive and negative comes with the package.

you did not have any wedding celebration with your family and friends? NONE AT ALL?

[BigoteAtBalbas]

No definitely, my mom is a superwoman she's far from being a trash, and my dad never treat her as one so

pag pasensyahan mo na, tinapon kasi sya ng kanyang mga magulang. parang basura lang