Do Pinays think that their Wedding day is the most important day in a girl's life.

[quick_ben]

Not sure this belongs here but I've specified Pinays so maybe it counts....

Many women, probably most spend their lives up to that point preparing and planning for their wedding.

And when they do, indeed, set their wedding, they spend heaven and earth in order to create the most lavish, stylish, enchanting wedding they can achieve.

Now if your a rich heiress, siguro okay lang. May pera si Papa pang gastos, why not?

Pero, I've even heard of some ladies or their families, mangungutang para lang sa araw ng kasal.

Tapos pag may konting gusot (like pangit ang design ng cake) mali ang kulay ng ganito-ganire, sira na buong araw.

Oprah said something like this: "Women think the wedding day is the most important day of their lives and spend their whole lives preparing for it and spare nothing for it... and then forget that there is a tomorrow. Later they wonder why their marriage failed"

So question:
Is it true? Do you ladies feel that way? Do you think your wedding day is the most important day of your lives? Do you ever think of the next day? and the next? and the next?

[Alpha_Green]

So question:
Is it true? Do you ladies feel that way? Do you think your wedding day is the most important day of your lives? Do you ever think of the next day? and the next? and the next?

Sorry I'm not a lady but can I share my POV on that? I hope you won't mind.

For those ladies who would answer YES to that question, I think its all about what they call "Expiration Dates" for women. The priority is try to get married before you get "expired", so if ever it is achieved its really a "sigh of relief" for them and is a BIG DEAL. For these women, its all about child-bearing years and them investing so much on looks to attract mates so what if they get old? Although there are options for them nowadays such as adoption or surrogacy, deep inside they know that the "normal" way is still the best way.

You can also partly blame the local media for this. These days we see so much romance based telenovelas in local channels that it makes some women feel bad about their situation if their ideal romantic fairy tale didn't happen to them in real life.

[kreuk]

i don't. i don't.

[bondgirl]

So question:
Is it true? Do you ladies feel that way? Do you think your wedding day is the most important day of your lives? Do you ever think of the next day? and the next? and the next?

My wedding = nope
Marriage = yes

My wedding was really simple and 'within the budget' lang. Family and closest friends and some important people in the AFP came. My wedding wasn't the perfect one but I didn't care if the cake is not a fondant one, the lights and sound system doesn't collaborate with each other, or if one guest arrived showing her mammary cleavage to the world. I only cared for the union itself. It was my happiest day because after 3 years of being together (and for the quarrels and almost break-ups that we have endured), kami pa rin talaga

and by the way, parehas na gastos namin yung pagpapakasal i know of some people in the province who will look for lenders para lang magkaroon ng bonggang kasalan and some of them sa amin lalapit para lang manghiram ng mga damit na isusuot. nakakainis yung mga ganun, bakit kasi hindi pinaghahandaan.

[Zanya]

^me too Kreuk. For me, the most important day would be the day I am already the CEO of my company.

[quick_ben]

For those ladies who would answer YES to that question, I think its all about what they call "Expiration Dates" for women. The priority is try to get married before you get "expired", so if ever it is achieved its really a "sigh of relief" for them and is a BIG DEAL. For these women, its all about child-bearing years and them investing so much on looks to attract mates so what if they get old? Although there are options for them nowadays such as adoption or surrogacy, deep inside they know that the "normal" way is still the best way.

Got your point.

but to explain my question further I was trying to gauge why some women want this "fairy-tale" wedding program and plan and spend everything for that occasion, and then later discover after the wedding the realities of life come crashing down on them, things start to mess up.

May women say "I want to feel like a princess on my wedding" and prepare prepare prepare, spend spend spend, plan plan plan.

After the wedding, they have no idea about what to do with the house, how to manage finances, prepare for pregnancy, handle kids. I know some women who freak out.

It's all because they don't look beyond the wedding day. It's almost like the story stops at the wedding.... "and they live happily ever after". But it doesn't and when some women realize that, they deal with it in the wrong way. And when marriages fail.... THEY BLAME THE GUY (who is partly at fault most of the time, admittedly. But "partly" is the operative word here).


Disclaimer: I'm not a complainer. My marriage is good. My wife is great. She didn't complain when I told her we can't afford a lavish wedding and we did a private one with family only. I'm just an observer of others. And my wife does agree with my observation.

[prEttyInDistress]

yes...yes..yes.....


I want a fairy tale wedding and live happily ever after....





For those men out there who would disagree, isa lang ibig sabihin nyan....you are a SORE LOSER WHO CAN'T AFFORD TO GIVE YOUR WOMAN A GRAND WEDDING....dami pa dakdak.....pfffft!



I see some blood coming....nyahahahahahaha...but I don't give a sh!t!...this is my principle my belief...

hmpf!!

[Zanya]

It's all because they don't look beyond the wedding day. It's almost like the story stops at the wedding.... "and they live happily ever after". But it doesn't and when some women realize that, they deal with it in the wrong way. And when marriages fail.... THEY BLAME THE GUY (who is partly at fault most of the time, admittedly. But "partly" is the operative word here).

I said this on the dilemma section. Some women thinks that getting married is a fairytale ender, like cinderella and the prince.


There is no such thing as happily ever after, that's crap! Marriage is hardwork. People who failed to realized that are the same people who ends up feeling unhappy about their spouses because they expected too much, and may I say unrealistic expectations.

what happened after the wedding? Most probably, cinderella and the prince filed a divorce after 6 mos. of being married.

[Alpha_Green]

And when marriages fail.... THEY BLAME THE GUY

I guess that answers your question?

They don't worry about it because they know that if all else fails, they can always blame the guy. They very well know that if a husband and wife encounter marital problems, society's sympathy is always for the wife and therefore they use that to their advantage. Thats why bad things happen to them...thats why husbands cheat on them....KARMA kasi nila.

[Krayon]

I said this on the dilemma section. Some women thinks that getting married is a fairytale ender, like cinderella and the prince.


what happened after the wedding? Most probably, cinderella and the prince filed a divorce after 6 mos. of being married.

maybe it was worth it still. all honeymoon?

[prEttyInDistress]

what???? I'm going to tend to you like a babysitter, watchout for your 3 meals a day, made love to you, get fat for you because you want a baby, clean the house, breastfeed the baby, do the laundry....


...and you won't give me a damn wedding???





FCUK YOU!!!!

I'M NOT YOUR DAMN INSTANT KATULONG!!!

[gonefishing]

yes, ganito lang yan if the groom can afford it then why not of course w/o sacrificing their lives after the wedding.

if he can't then I think maintindihan naman ng bride yun.

some couple are just choosing a simpler wedding for them to be able to splurge on a grand honeymoon.

so depende na lang sa usapan ng mga couple kung ano mas gusto nila.

but to answer the TS's question yes and no. yes bec it's their day and no bec pwede rin na maging most important day nila eh yun the day nannganak siya sa first child niya.

[Zanya]

maybe it was worth it still. all honeymoon?

you can have sex even without a wedding date.

[josiah2010_]

Sorry I'm not a lady but can I share my POV on that? I hope you won't mind.

For those ladies who would answer YES to that question, I think its all about what they call "Expiration Dates" for women. The priority is try to get married before you get "expired", so if ever it is achieved its really a "sigh of relief" for them and is a BIG DEAL. For these women, its all about child-bearing years and them investing so much on looks to attract mates so what if they get old? Although there are options for them nowadays such as adoption or surrogacy, deep inside they know that the "normal" way is still the best way.

You can also partly blame the local media for this. These days we see so much romance based telenovelas in local channels that it makes some women feel bad about their situation if their ideal romantic fairy tale didn't happen to them in real life.

the same way men thinks, alpha_green!

when they get married, men also thinks it is their most important day. The woman is finally theirs.

I don't know what kind of world you live, but nowadays, people actually chose their mates because they truly love each other. Men are not forced into marriage anymore like your grandparents may have been.

[Krayon]

you can have sex even without a wedding date.

but i heard from three different sources that honeymoon sex is amazing. and well, the wedding night?

oh crap, i just remembered something...

what???? I'm going to tend to you like a babysitter, watchout for your 3 meals a day, made love to you, get fat for you because you want a baby, clean the house, breastfeed the baby, do the laundry....


...and you won't give me a damn wedding???

lol, so demanding. you dont have to do all that naamn eh...

[Zanya]

but i heard from three different sources that honeymoon sex is amazing. and well, the wedding night?

oh crap, i just remembered something...

what did you remember Krayon?


I haven't tried it, honeymoon sex, but when I do, I'll pm you

[josiah2010_]

what did you remember Krayon?


I haven't tried it, honeymoon sex, but when I do, I'll pm you

you will PM him when you are still in your honeymoon?

[Zanya]

what???? I'm going to tend to you like a babysitter, watchout for your 3 meals a day, made love to you, get fat for you because you want a baby, clean the house, breastfeed the baby, do the laundry....


...and you won't give me a damn wedding???





FCUK YOU!!!!

I'M NOT YOUR DAMN INSTANT KATULONG!!!

well it's your fault if you'll let your future husband treat you like trash.




Josiah, why not?

[BigoteAtBalbas]

you will PM him when you are still in your honeymoon?

pakigamit naman ang utak mo please

[BigoteAtBalbas]

well it's your fault if you'll let your future husband treat you like trash.

she is trash so tama lang