i-post niyo ang msasakit na nangyari sainyo .any problem about love life ?

[tradewind26]

Back in college days. I courted this girl and rejected me after 2weeks of courting. Next semester, we were classmates in 1 subject. After 1 month we became close friends and we enjoyed each others company. Our friends were telling us why dont we try to be more that friends, but I keep telling "Nah we are just friends at na busted na ako before".

The semester is almost finish and she was already preparing to transfer to different school. It was just okay with me, and was confident that we will still contact and see each other. Summer came, we keep calling each other and she made the move. She confronted me if i like her to be my girlfriend, and i said yes. Since i was busted before, i didnt took our relationship seriously. Kumbaga sya yung nagdadala ng relationship namin. Until one day, she suddenly dissappered and binaliwala ko lang. I took me 2months after I started to realize that I miss her so much and love her. I tried so many times to search for her, but with no luck cant find her.

I was even thinking before to hire a private agent to look for here, but i was still a college student back then

[chasingpavements]

i had this friend of mine that i seem to find it hard to forget. we were a constant text/call buddy, he was there when i have no one else to talk to. we like each other and we became very close. i was on this stage where i was almost falling for him though in the back of my mind, i know he will never feel the same. he only sees me as a friend.

and now he's gone, we lost contact. he did that before when he lost his phone but he asked for my number through my friend. i don't know if he would do that again, or if it's really the end of the road this time. i don't know the reason for his disappearance. a lot of things come to my mind like what if something bad happened to him, or he got married and went to a far away place. but i realized i will never know the answer.

everyday i was waiting for a text from an unregistered number hoping it's him. everyday i was hoping that he would just appear in my doorstep or just bump it into him and he would hug me and say that he missed me. but i realized, that the waiting and hoping will only prolong the hurt. and that it's senseless to wait if i'm just waiting for nothing. right now i'm not expecting him to call me anymore, or to fall for me, but i'm just somewhat hurt that i lost a friend in him despite the fact that i tried to be a very good friend to him.

and now it seems, for myself he became the standard for the other guys i will ever know. i feel that i can never get close to another guy than i was with him. tsk, that's the down side of expecting too much and so much for me hoping that he will be meant for me.

you know, sometimes life plays with us and we just don't know how to deal with it. and a lot of times, the things we expect, the things we hope for, just don't happen and it shatters you and you have no choice but to start over again..

hello zei.. you know.. i had the same experience like yours.. the only advice i could give is to TELL HIM WHAT YOU FEEL IMMIDIATELY! as in now na! asap! forget mo muna kung anu ssbihin niya.. bsta kailangan mailabas mo muna ang nrrmdaman mo.. malay mo nmn db.. who knows.. believe me! thats the best thing you could do... kc kung papatagalin mo pa yan.. bka magsisi k *** sa huli..

[_Zei_Emu_]

hello zei.. you know.. i had the same experience like yours.. the only advice i could give is to TELL HIM WHAT YOU FEEL IMMIDIATELY! as in now na! asap! forget mo muna kung anu ssbihin niya.. bsta kailangan mailabas mo muna ang nrrmdaman mo.. malay mo nmn db.. who knows.. believe me! thats the best thing you could do... kc kung papatagalin mo pa yan.. bka magsisi k *** sa huli..

how can i do that now that he's gone? well i guess it's already too late. i'm tired of waiting na eh. the sad part is that i don't know if i can find someone better. i guess i will but i will always find a piece of him in other guys.

[cherryboomboom]

mag-4 years na sana kami ng bf ko ngayong august. since high school kami na. nag-away lang kami sa chat at natapos na lahat.sa CHAT lang..nasayang lahat. 2 months na kaming walang communication. wala pang closure. di pa kami nakakapag-usap ng personal. hindi ko alam kung bakit ganun lang kadali sa kanya na talikuran lahat, habang ako, hanggang ngayon umaasa pa

[rokrok]

^ Walang 3rd party?

[cherryboomboom]

^ Walang 3rd party?

Hindi ko alam. Marami yung "best friend" na babae eh. At madalas ko napagseselosan yung mga yun. Pero nung huli naming away, hindi sila kasali sa issue. Para bang lagi nlang walang time para sakin. Hindi nagpapaload. Sa FB, nahuli ko pa na naka-invisible siya sakin. Pinaexplain ko kung bakit siya ganun, sabi niya "tinatamad daw siya". Kaya yun, nasabihan ko ng "i hate you" at "walang kwenta" dami ko masasakit na sinabe pero di niya ako pinigilan Pag kinekwento niya sa friends niya yung nangyari, ako lagi lumalabas na masama kasi namura ko siya, di nila alam kung gano niya ako binalewala kaya ko nagawa yun.. Ako pa nga unang nagsorry at naghabol eh, pero ayaw na niya. Siya pa una nagdelete sakin sa FB.. 4years na sana, konti nalang. pero wala na 1st namin isa't isa at akala ko kami na talaga

[rokrok]

Hindi ko alam. Marami yung "best friend" na babae eh. At madalas ko napagseselosan yung mga yun. Pero nung huli naming away, hindi sila kasali sa issue. Para bang lagi nlang walang time para sakin. Hindi nagpapaload. Sa FB, nahuli ko pa na naka-invisible siya sakin. Pinaexplain ko kung bakit siya ganun, sabi niya "tinatamad daw siya". Kaya yun, nasabihan ko ng "i hate you" at "walang kwenta" dami ko masasakit na sinabe pero di niya ako pinigilan Pag kinekwento niya sa friends niya yung nangyari, ako lagi lumalabas na masama kasi namura ko siya, di nila alam kung gano niya ako binalewala kaya ko nagawa yun.. Ako pa nga unang nagsorry at naghabol eh, pero ayaw na niya. Siya pa una nagdelete sakin sa FB.. 4years na sana, konti nalang. pero wala na 1st namin isa't isa at akala ko kami na talaga

May 3rd party jan. Trust me.

[cherryboomboom]

May 3rd party jan. Trust me.

siguro nga, right after namin magbreak sa chat, binuksan ko account niya. at ayun, cinocomfort sya nung girl na pinagselosan ko noon. nung binabasa ko yung pagchachat nila nakita ko kung paano makipagchat yung ex ko sakin nung nagsisimula pa lang kami. ang sakit sakit. pero ang kinekwento niya e sa lahat e kasalanan ko lahat kung bakit kami nagbreak. napaka-one sided niya magkwento.....

[fluex07]

before I met my ex gf which is now my wife.... I have my previous relationship... I remember the days nung single pa ako na ayaw kong magkaroon ng kahit anung relationship sa kahit sinong babae sa paligid ko! Ayaw ko ng gastos! Ayaw ko ng may kaagaw sa oras ko! Pero lahat pala ng sinabi ko ay kakainin ko rin....

Nagstart yung relationship ng dati kong gf sa isang simple conversation never kong naisip na talagang magiging maayos ang conversation na yun we talk a lot and we share stories..... Hanggang dumating yung time na nakilala ko buong family nya mula sa kapatid hanggang sa lolo at lola.. Sabi ng mommy nya nuon di ako mahirap mahalin dahil marunong akong makisama and pag hindi ako napunta sa kanila malungkot ang bahay nila at sanay na silang andun ako palagi.... The relationship went deeper and deeper I even introduce her to my friends where he meet my childhood friend.... trio na kami noon we talk things sa lahat ng bagay and minsan kahit personal na lakad naming dalawa kasama sya. I was working then kaya lahat balance sa time and effort di ko naman akalain yun ang magiging daan para magkaroon ng lihim na relationship silang dalawa ng kababata ko and I didnt expect it... I tried to convince myself na hindi yun totoo that they are just close friends mula nung malaman ko ang ganung balita na nagdadate ang dalawa na di ko alam I made a promise to myself na pagiigihan ko pa na mapabuti ang relationship namin I gave up everything my family nawalan ako ng time sa kanila my friends na hindi na ako nakikita sa loob ng isang buwan and my career na nagresign ako para lang mabigyan ko sya ng magandang panahon at oras.....

But I was wrong until one night i came to their house and asked her what happened what went wrong? then ang sinagot nya lang sakin isang malakas na sampal and sigaw na hindi nya ako mahal talagang nasaktan ako pero sinabi ko sa kanya kahit na saktan nya ako kahit anung gawin nya sakin mahal ko pa rin sya....

Para akong pusa na hinagis palabas ng bahay nila and kahit ang parents nya walang nagawa... Umuwi ako ng 2am galing sa kanila sa sobrang lungkot at sama ng loob nilakad ko ang mula Rpapa hanggang sa Pasay di ko alintana ang ulan at kung sino makakakita sakin.... Pagdating ko sa bahay at pag lapat ng katawan ko sa kama umiyak ako ng umiyak walang tigil sa pagiyak hanggang sa nakatulog ako at muling nagising na umiiyak pa rin... Lumipas ang araw na tulala ako walang ganang kumain at ni minsan di man lang ako masinagan ng araw. Kinausap ako ng parents ko bakit ako ganun di ako makapagsalita wala rin akong mapagkwentuhan sa nangyari.....

Pilit kong binalik sa dati ang buhay ko nung wala sya pero ang hirap habang tumatagal lalong lumalalim ang sugat... nakahanap ako ng bagong work ko lahat fresh start dun ko binuro ang sarili ko sa trabaho papasok ng 6am uuwi ng 12 midnight ayaw kong manatiling walang ginagawa dahil alam kong iiyak lang ako ng iiyak.... Nabalitaan ko na lang sa isang kaibigan na buntis sya at kaibigan ko ang ama... Nung una akala ko tanggap ko na pero di pa rin umiiyak pa rin ako sa gabi inaaliw ko na lang sarili ko sa trabaho at sa mga kaibigan...

nung panahong depress ako kahit sino kinakausap ko wag lang mabakante ang oras ko dito ko nakilala ang asawa ko ***** 2 years bago ko nakalimutan ang lahat and dun lang ako nagstart na manligaw sa kanya na buo ang pagkatao and 5years in the making before kami kinasal this may 15, 2010......

***** mas mahal ko ang asawa ko ***** higit sa lahat ng bagay sa mundo and I'cant live without her by my side at lahat ng pangyayari sa buhay ko alam nya and from there matatag ang relationship namin

Happy ever after...

Thank you pasensya na medyo mahaba story...

[supremo elyag]

Ako first love ko siya, basta yung time na nalaman kong gusto niya rin ako dun naman siya nawalan na ng interes sakin. Sana lang sa guys linawin nila ang intensyon nila minsan kasi nangungulit lang tapos onting usap lang hindi mo aakalaing type ka na pala. Ang masakit doon hindi ko pa rin siya malimutan para akong ewan talaga ng marealize kong gusto ko na siya, kumbaga pa eh naiwan nako ng tren.

Ngayon hirap akong magmahal ulit, may mga crush lang ako pero pag parang may nagpaparamdam na malaking pa ring parte sa akin ang ayaw na lang ientertain kahit crush ko pa siya. Ewan ko bakit ang sakit sakin nung nangyari, hindi pa rin ako maka get-over.

[_Zei_Emu_]

Ako first love ko siya, basta yung time na nalaman kong gusto niya rin ako dun naman siya nawalan na ng interes sakin. Sana lang sa guys linawin nila ang intensyon nila minsan kasi nangungulit lang tapos onting usap lang hindi mo aakalaing type ka na pala. Ang masakit doon hindi ko pa rin siya malimutan para akong ewan talaga ng marealize kong gusto ko na siya, kumbaga pa eh naiwan nako ng tren.

i feel the same way. we don't realize the value of a person until it's too late. the thing is, it's hard to make the move coz ako yung girl. and now it's too late and i can never bring back the past. i've lost the chance that life gave me and now what sucks is i'm still hanging on to that past hoping that it will ever come back.

[angel_rulez]

My bf is a married man w/ one kid. He got separated for 2years and His marriage is in the process of annulment na.His family is in province and he's living here in Manila.Nililigawan palang nya ko, alam ko na situation nya but then tinanggap ko pa rin and after a month of ligawan, sinagot ko na sya. During the courting stage,naging routine na yung text,tawagan, kwentuhan, tawanan. He's good naman kasi.. sweet, mabait,may sense of humour, matalino,well educated, financially stabled na.Honestly, sinagot ko sya pero parang hindi ko sya ganon kamahal compare sa mga exes ko. So i pursue pa rin the relationship we started kasi baka naga-adjust palang ako. Weeks after, nagbago sya. Wala nang calls, once a day nalang magtext.Minsan pa ittext nya ko na parang friends lang kami.HIndi naman ako nagi-initiate ng text lalo na calls kasi i know his situation naman so ayokong mag expect nang sobra sa relasyon namin.If he calls i answer,if he text i reply naman.2days syang di nagparamdam, then when i asked, kung gusto nya pang ipagpatuloy relasyon namin, sabi nya sorry daw kasi naging busy sya sa hearing ng annulment nila and sa anak nya.He's so down daw and ayaw nyang madamay ako.We'll talk daw pagbalik nya.First month namin, he wasn't able to greet me.Second month, he wasn’t able to initiate a date manlang para makapag celebrate kami, and then nalaman ko nalang na he’s in the province again to take care of his sick child kasi nasa ICU.Third month, he greeted me naman thru text but we’re not able to celebrate again because of work.

After 1week of our monthsary, this girl added me on facebook and I confirmed her naman. When I saw her profile, I found out that she’s a long time gf of my bf as in pinagsabay kami. When I confronted him thru text, he told me that he’s so sorry for what happened. Minahal daw nya ako kasi natanggap ko sitwasyon nya pero gf nya hindi. Hindi daw nya ako ginamit, minahal nya daw ako. Nung sinagot ko daw siya, he really want to tell me na may gf na sya and wala lang sya lakas ng loob.Di naman daw kasi nya iniexpect na sasagutin ko sya.I initiated the breakup agad and hanggang ngayon sila pa rin nung girl.

Ang sakit sakit lang on my part kasi minahal ko na sya, tinanggap ko sitwasyon nya pero nagawa pa rin nya akong lokohin.Ginawa pa akong reliever ng gf nya.HIrap mag-adjust, back to zero na naman ako, wala nang texts,calls from him. Yung love and care na na-feel ko naman kahit papano..Yung pagchcheck kung kumain na ko, nakauwi na ba. Pagmmonitor pag nasa gimikan, pagsselos pag kausap ko ex ko… Ang hirap, ang hirap hirap…

[krysbarcia24]

[B]He was my first bf,back then I've got a crush on him and luckily he liked me too. Things have changed when he got too busy with work, almost no time for me. We were working in a same company and so I thought it would not be hard for him to reach out for me, but sadly I was wrong. I deciced to break up with him thru a text message without further explaining why I have to do that. I knew that he also learned that our relationship would go nowhere because even if he was not telling me what was on his mind, I could feel that "I'm just her girlfriend literally". We only lasted for 2 months but that short period made me feel that somehow my-then-crush turned out to be my bf and I felt to be loved. He didn't bother to spend a time talking to me about the matter. Kung dati pa wala sya makuhang time for us to be together ngayon pa na wala na kami? I just learned that she had already an affair with his former co-worker at pinagsabay pala kami. I felt so betrayed and down like hell pero hindi ko pinakita sa mga taong magtatanong na "ok ka lang ba, wala na daw kayo ni.......?", instead I got myself busy with makeups Nasabi ko na lang sa sarili ko noon na "Look at what ur missing!" hehe.
Binaon ko na sa limot kasi ako naman ang kawawa if I still cling to that dreadful event that happened in my lovelife.... Then after 2 years, I met this amazing guy who made my world go round, he always maked me laugh and all, really enjoyed his company... And that guy is now my husband, he knows what had happened, he's open-minded ang very understanding. "Love you ASAWA". And hey, we already have a charming 14- month old daughter.

[getdown]

Masakit pala tlgang masaktan kapag pinaglaruan ka ng environment mo.. Yung tipong, feeling mo both sides are okay.. but hten later part.. malalaman mo, GINAGO ka nya.. and yet buong environment nya agree sa ginawa nya sayo.. hay ang sakit. until now hindiko alam kung napatawad ko na ** or what.. :-(

[getdown]

actually first ko kasi.. sorry to say.. nakakahiya man sabihin.. :-(

[Kevinbite]

I moved away to the girl closest to my heart
and its taking its toll on me day and night.

[litr15]

masasakit na nangyari sakin?

8 years ago nagka boyfriend ako for the first time. He was a year younger than me.

Kapag kaming dalawa magkasama, tawag nyang endearment sakin ay "Mie" (short for mommy). Pero kung sa iba habang nakatalikod ako, pinakikilala nya akong "ate" sa mga barkada nya lalo na sa mga babaeng friends nya as in ipinagkaila nya ako.

He cheated on me twice behind my back. Napaka stupid ko noon at naive sa pag-ibig kasi first boyfriend ko sya. Noong nagrereview pa ako for board exam, he broke up with me through text saying makikipagbalikan na siya sa ex nya kasi mahal daw nya yun at ayaw daw sakin ng mother nya dahil sa kapansanan ko (I have hearing impairment) at ayaw daw nya na mahirapan sya sakin. Sobra sakit nung mga sinabi nya noon kaya nakaapekto sa pagrereview ko yung nangyari. Bumagsak ako sa board exam dahil dun.

[charizma0315]

stupid love

nagka boyfriend ako.. nakaabot kami ng 4 months..akala q magtatagal tlaga kami.. ubod ng bait nya sakin,malambing at pa lage akong pinatatawa.. madalas nya aqng sinasabihan na ur my only one.... bkit noong minsan nakita sya ng kaibigan q na may kasama daw cyang babae at ang sweet2 daw nla... tinanong q sya kung 22o ba yon.. sabi nya ha?? kaklase nya daw yon.. at wala daw clang relasyon.. ahmm... actually his a 3rd year college and i'm a 2nd year highschool... dahil may tiwala ako sa kanya binali wala q nalang yong sinabi ng kaklase q.. nag end ang relation namin last Sept. 17.2010 marami talagang sinayangan sa relasyon namin.. dahil halos perfect na talaga daw kami sa isa't isa at hndi rin daw kami nag aaway.. kahit ako na sayangan.. akala q kami na tlaga kc gux2 na nya tlaga magpakilala s parents q.. at gux2 nya din ako ipakilala s mga parents nya... pro nagbago nlang sya bigla..minsan nlang nkikipag usap sa akin ng personal at minsan nlng nag tetext.. ang ikinagagalit q tlaga sa kanya bkit sa text pa sya nakipag break na ang lapit2 lang tlaga namin sa isa't isa nong tym na yon.. inis na inis din ako sa sarili q dahil na unahan nya tuloy ako sa pakikipag break up.. pro makalipas lang ng dalawang araw in a relationship na agad sya sa fb nya.. how dare..! before that pa pala may isang tym nasa seminar ako ng journalism s school namin.. na wrong send sya sakin sabi nya "mhine.. may disco ba sa inyo mamaya?" tas ang tawagan namin sweethart.. sabi q ha? mhine?? kalokohan... tssk2... reply naman nya may nkitext lang daw sa cp nya.. kaibigan nyang lalaki.. sabi q naman impossible naman yan.. bkit nya e.sesend sa akin yon?? ang layo2 nag letter M sa letter S.. ayon hindi nag reply.. sabi q sa sarili q ay..! iba na tlaga 2..kailangan mag move on nlang ako ng maaga... para hndi nlang masyado masakit at mahirap... ayon salamat naman hndi naman ako masyado nasaktan sa pakikipag break nya sakin.. pro kahit ganun ang nanyari i still love him parin..

[shining]

so, inactive account na. I'll answer some advice, even though, I am not the TS.

[shining]

My bf is a married man w/ one kid. He got separated for 2years and His marriage is in the process of annulment na.His family is in province and he's living here in Manila.Nililigawan palang nya ko, alam ko na situation nya but then tinanggap ko pa rin and after a month of ligawan, sinagot ko na sya. During the courting stage,naging routine na yung text,tawagan, kwentuhan, tawanan. He's good naman kasi.. sweet, mabait,may sense of humour, matalino,well educated, financially stabled na.Honestly, sinagot ko sya pero parang hindi ko sya ganon kamahal compare sa mga exes ko. So i pursue pa rin the relationship we started kasi baka naga-adjust palang ako. Weeks after, nagbago sya. Wala nang calls, once a day nalang magtext.Minsan pa ittext nya ko na parang friends lang kami.HIndi naman ako nagi-initiate ng text lalo na calls kasi i know his situation naman so ayokong mag expect nang sobra sa relasyon namin.If he calls i answer,if he text i reply naman.2days syang di nagparamdam, then when i asked, kung gusto nya pang ipagpatuloy relasyon namin, sabi nya sorry daw kasi naging busy sya sa hearing ng annulment nila and sa anak nya.He's so down daw and ayaw nyang madamay ako.We'll talk daw pagbalik nya.First month namin, he wasn't able to greet me.Second month, he wasn’t able to initiate a date manlang para makapag celebrate kami, and then nalaman ko nalang na he’s in the province again to take care of his sick child kasi nasa ICU.Third month, he greeted me naman thru text but we’re not able to celebrate again because of work.

After 1week of our monthsary, this girl added me on facebook and I confirmed her naman. When I saw her profile, I found out that she’s a long time gf of my bf as in pinagsabay kami. When I confronted him thru text, he told me that he’s so sorry for what happened. Minahal daw nya ako kasi natanggap ko sitwasyon nya pero gf nya hindi. Hindi daw nya ako ginamit, minahal nya daw ako. Nung sinagot ko daw siya, he really want to tell me na may gf na sya and wala lang sya lakas ng loob.Di naman daw kasi nya iniexpect na sasagutin ko sya.I initiated the breakup agad and hanggang ngayon sila pa rin nung girl.

Ang sakit sakit lang on my part kasi minahal ko na sya, tinanggap ko sitwasyon nya pero nagawa pa rin nya akong lokohin.Ginawa pa akong reliever ng gf nya.HIrap mag-adjust, back to zero na naman ako, wala nang texts,calls from him. Yung love and care na na-feel ko naman kahit papano..Yung pagchcheck kung kumain na ko, nakauwi na ba. Pagmmonitor pag nasa gimikan, pagsselos pag kausap ko ex ko… Ang hirap, ang hirap hirap…

I'll give an advice.

First, Why did you accept the relationship, kung alam mo naman palang may asawa na, noon? Then, second, try to move on, alam mo kung bakit, kasi, masasaktan ka lang nang masasaktan, kahit sabihin pa nating mahal mo siya, find someone who will love you the rest of your life, yung hindi ka lolokohin at sweet, hindi lang pag hindi pa kayo, pero, pag kayo na, he is still sweet. I know it is really hard eh, tanggapin lang and try to move on, masakit eh. Pero, what if, the situation is, narealize niyang gusto niyang bumalik sa iyo, nagsisisi siya sa mga kaga gu han na ginawa niya. Are you going to forgive him? Yes, but wag mo nalang mahalin. Stay friends.