mas mahirap ba mag move-on kapag ikaw ang iniwan?

[janelacson]

Definitely yung mga nang-iiwan, pinagplanuhan nila na mang-iwan.
Hay! masakit pala ito. Pinaghahandaan ko na ito para hindi ganun kasakit later on since sabi niya yung feelings niya sa akin is not anymore as strong as it was daw.
am sure God has better plans for me, I feel so light after praying to him.
Bakit kaya yung matitino yung iniiwan. Ayaw ko na maexperience ito uli, masakit sa puso.

[shining]

@Jane, Planado na talaga most ng mga break-ups, super planado. Naghahanap na sila at naka-move on na, before they say it to you. (Most ha? Not all, honsetly) Pero, depende kasi sa isang lalake eh, mabilis kasi magpalit ng feelings eh, tendency, cheating. Kasi, may mas magandang babae ang nahanap eh. Ganun.

Yeah, right, God has a better plan.

[staplewire]

Unbelievable. The almost the same thing happened to me too.

A few years ago, my gf of almost five years broke up with me for no apparent reason at all. She was an engineer in a telecoms company. I was studying for my graduate degree. Then, out of the blue, she dumped me. Just like that. I found out later, she fell in love with her co-worker, a fellow engineer.

She didn't even had the courage to face me and explain everything. She broke up with me on the phone, and all I received after that call were a few text messages and a long e-mail. (Sucks talaga) The timing was really bad too. I was in the middle of my exams. Major fit hitting the shan. I don't even know how I passed considering how fcuked up I was at that time. I still remember taking my exams shaking uncontrollably with tears running down my cheeks.

"ako ang may pagkukulang"
"and choice ko na magkagusto sa kanya at yun ang nararamdaman ko"
"Di ako maiinlove sa iba kung ang pagmamahal ko sayo ay tulad pa ng dati"

These are just some of the last things she said to me.

But what really took the cake was what the guy (her co-worker) said to me. "Pare, wala namang batas na bawal manulot"

Such insolence and gall! That sent me into a rage. I wanted vengeance. Luckily, my friends stopped me from doing anything stupid.

It took me quite a while to pick up the pieces and sort my life back. I lived. I worked out, ran everyday. There was even a time I went to mass everyday just to make sense of it all. Faith really helped. It was cathartic. In sum, I became a better person.

But, I know I'm not fully healed yet, emotionally or psychologically. It is a burden I have to bear. But I wholeheartedly believe there are better days ahead of me.


You have my sincerest empathy. Hang in there, man. You'll pull through.

i don't actually post comments here but i've read both your stories (sorry i dunno how to include akocjobz's post in this message), and can relate to how INSANELY draining being dumped could be.

i'm on the same boat, you see. difference is, i don't know if there was a third party at all. only my gut feel tells me that. besides, guys wouldn't admit that right? so i just simply assumed that my ex-bf was already eyeing someone, otherwise he wouldn't be all so quick in letting me go. he was my first bf. all these years of waiting for "the one" and i got dumped. i've never felt so hurt in my entire life. its been more than a year now and like you, i'm getting by. i still think about him once in a while. i really don't know what's better though - you knowing that they left you because they fell in love with someone else, or you not having a closure at all? in any case, its still the same i think. you got dumped. no words could express how hurt you are deep inside because of that.

i came across this line while checking my FB today: "You'll never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have". this is what keeps me going, i guess. i didn't know it but i simply didn't allow the breakup to eat me up like acid. it was never easy, and it still isn't but we all have to fight right? believe me, you'll feel so great realizing how strong of a person you've turned out to be because of this ordeal. its the only thing that makes me smile nowadays

@Fallschirmjager - good thing that you still think that there are better days ahead of you. i hope that when you do get to see those "better days" you'll look at your break up as something that you had to go through to get to where you're supposed to be. i'm sure you'll be at your happiest

@akocjobz - you are deeply hurt and we all could understand that. grieve if you must but make sure that you don't let this bring you down. you have your whole life ahead of you. we went through the same phase and IT IS NASTY. give yourself time to take it all in, cry all you want, but make sure that you pick yourself up after some time. no one could help you but yourself. i do hope that it all gets better for you too

if there was a quick fix to a broken heart, im sure all three of us would be scrambling to grab a hold of it. but sadly there is none. we just need to decide for ourselves that we can pull through.

[taken13]

guys,

question, mas mahirap ba mag move-on kapag ikaw ang iniwan?

i just experienced this 4 months ago. and ewan ko, sobrang hirap pa din ako hanggang ngayon... pinipilit ko talaga na sobrang maging okay... pero sobrang hirap pa rin...

sa mga iniwan, same din ba kayo?

eh yung mga nakipag-break ba, nahihirapan din? feeling ko nga, mas nagiging okay sila ng mabilis eh...

Mahirap naman talaga!!. Sino ba nagsabi ng madali diba? Pero ang dapat natin isipin, talaga bang kailangan kung pahalagahan ang sakit na nararamdaman ko para lang sa walang kwentang tao na minhal ko? Sa panahon kasi ng break up especially *** iniwan ka ng walang dahilan, tapos *** pa nagmahal dapat kasi nating ipairal ang ating isipan. Hindi lahat ng mga bagay o sitwasyon na masaya tau nakakabuti sa atin.. Naranasan ko din yan. Sobra pa nga eh. :C

[reycie_c]

yeah.. sobrang hirap mag move on kapag ikaw ang iniwan. Almost 3 years *** ng bf ko but 1 day nagpaalam ** na bibitiw na daw pero d daw ibig sabihin ndi na nya ako mahal gusto lang daw nya mag isip at babalik **** daw ** & pagbalik nya aayusin nya ang lahat. a week pa lang after break up, *** nmn ako choice kundi tanggapin ang desisyon nya kc alam ko *** na ako magagawa para mapagbago pa ang isip nya.

Sobrang sakit kc halos umikot sa kanya ang mundo ko. Pilit ko inalam kung ano ang totoong dhilan then nalaman ko katext nya yung long time ex-gf nya. Yun pala ang totoong dahilan kung bkit nya ako iniwan sana sinabi nya agad at d na lang ako pinaasa na mahal nya pa ako at babalikan..ang sakit sakit nun. Sa dami ng pinagdaanan nmin sa isang iglap nabalewala ang lahat.

Di ako umiyak sa harap nya pero pag mag isa ako d ko alam kung pano ako magsisimula ulit. Nkakangiti ako sa harap ng kaibigan ko at sa kasama sa work pero deep inside gustong sumabog ng nararamdaman kong sakit.

[reycie_c]

Mahal na mahal ko sya, hindi ko alam kung pano magsisimula ulit. For almost 3 years halos lagi *** magkausap, magkatext, magkasama tpos biglang wala na lahat. Bakit ganun? **** gno mo mahalin ang isang tao darating pa din **** yung point na iiwan ka kahit alam nilang hindi mo kaya.

[taken13]

yeah.. sobrang hirap mag move on kapag ikaw ang iniwan. Almost 3 years *** ng bf ko but 1 day nagpaalam ** na bibitiw na daw pero d daw ibig sabihin ndi na nya ako mahal gusto lang daw nya mag isip at babalik **** daw ** & pagbalik nya aayusin nya ang lahat. a week pa lang after break up, *** nmn ako choice kundi tanggapin ang desisyon nya kc alam ko *** na ako magagawa para mapagbago pa ang isip nya.

Sobrang sakit kc halos umikot sa kanya ang mundo ko. Pilit ko inalam kung ano ang totoong dhilan then nalaman ko katext nya yung long time ex-gf nya. Yun pala ang totoong dahilan kung bkit nya ako iniwan sana sinabi nya agad at d na lang ako pinaasa na mahal nya pa ako at babalikan..ang sakit sakit nun. Sa dami ng pinagdaanan nmin sa isang iglap nabalewala ang lahat.

Di ako umiyak sa harap nya pero pag mag isa ako d ko alam kung pano ako magsisimula ulit. Nkakangiti ako sa harap ng kaibigan ko at sa kasama sa work pero deep inside gustong sumabog ng nararamdaman kong sakit.

Hmmm.. apir!!! parehas pala tayo mabuti na yun kaysa naman magmakaawa ka sa harap niya.. Di naman ikaw ang nawalan ng totoong nagmamahal. Siya naman diba?

[reycie_c]

hirap magpretend na okey lalo pa na lagi mo sya nakikita..

[ivysynergy]

..oo kasi hirap sbhin na ok ka *** pero dip inside it hurts.. it hurts u know :haha:
'saka kunwari tumatawa ka un *** umiiyak ka na.. ouch..

[Tomoeshinji]

I don't know. In my case, ako nang iwan, and it still hurts. Especially seeing her with another guy. Sucks so much.

[sweet_mitch]

lalo n in my case weve been living 2gedr 4 years.he was d sun of my universe,den as d routine goes im of 2 work aftr work as expectd im eager 2 go home 2 b wid him den oct 21 2010 i almost died.bgla *** n ** sulat nlng *** ns bhay.i was left clueless we never had a fight.d letter reads he need time nd dat he wil be back,he never txted nevr called.aftr 3days i juz receive an email(n nov 1st ko n nbs,my god **** k0ng humb0l s mga patay dat day)my hands was shaking my knees was melting as my eyes was strolling at d words 'im sorry' so in short he wont be coming back

[Nils]

^yan ang masakit, hindi mo alam kung bakit umalis and you don't have an idea what made him leave, hindi mo maaayos kung may mali man sa iyo

[mihyuljang]

what can we do but to face the music.

[torchie82]

It hurts to realize that it has come such a long route (4 years) to end up this way. But why can’t I shed a tear right now? Maybe tears would fall later, maybe next day… maybe next week or months or maybe never.

So basically you just fell out of ‘love’. And you point out that distance and the fact that we’re far from each other is the sole reason. Can’t blame you for that. So you’ll be living your life with a clean slate then. I guess, I’ll do the same.

Friends? Let us time decide that for us. For now, I’ll mend my broken heart, I assume we don’t share the same case. I think you don’t have a heart to nurse... nor any tears to wipe off your face.

Wishing you all the best, and praying that you’ll get through whatever you’re in. As you’ve said you have all yourself to rely to. And you deserve to be with someone else, too. Someone who can help you out or someone who simply would complete you that I never did nor, maybe, came close in doing so. Wish you all the luck and the finest things this life has to offer.

I’ll bid my goodbye as you did yours. Thanks for everything.
Bye.

Then the music of Keith Urban's "You'll Think of Me" plays along...

[zaechi]

I feel bad, really bad kasi natamaan ako sa thread na to.

Nangiwan kasi ako nuon. alam ko nalito siya, clueless siya, walang idea ano ang nangyari. pero in our case, sobrang na fall out of love ako. alam naman niya walang third party kasi after the break up, ayun, 2 years pa ata ako bago nag ka bf...

[revhard]

Definitely yung mga nang-iiwan, pinagplanuhan nila na mang-iwan.
Hay! masakit pala ito. Pinaghahandaan ko na ito para hindi ganun kasakit later on since sabi niya yung feelings niya sa akin is not anymore as strong as it was daw.
am sure God has better plans for me, I feel so light after praying to him.
Bakit kaya yung matitino yung iniiwan. Ayaw ko na maexperience ito uli, masakit sa puso.

Wag ka mag alala, sa tingin ko naman hindi ka iiwan ni TTJ

[cumshotme]

Definitely yung mga nang-iiwan, pinagplanuhan nila na mang-iwan.
Hay! masakit pala ito. Pinaghahandaan ko na ito para hindi ganun kasakit later on since sabi niya yung feelings niya sa akin is not anymore as strong as it was daw.
am sure God has better plans for me, I feel so light after praying to him.
Bakit kaya yung matitino yung iniiwan. Ayaw ko na maexperience ito uli, masakit sa puso.

I agree, wala nang sasakit pa sa iniwanan...

[saveitforlater]

TS try mo kaya? tanong tanong ka pa jan e obvious naman

[mack_mack]

Definitely yung mga nang-iiwan, pinagplanuhan nila na mang-iwan.
Hay! masakit pala ito. Pinaghahandaan ko na ito para hindi ganun kasakit later on since sabi niya yung feelings niya sa akin is not anymore as strong as it was daw.
am sure God has better plans for me, I feel so light after praying to him.
Bakit kaya yung matitino yung iniiwan. Ayaw ko na maexperience ito uli, masakit sa puso.

tama, buong akala mo ok pa kayo pero may iba na pala silang plano.

masakit pag iniwan ka, dahil naranasan ko rin yan..pinilit ko ibaling ang atensyon sa iba,(hindi naman rebound) pero wala akong connection na naramdaman sa kung ano man meron kami, walang mapagusapan,we got nothing in common, dahil wala pa rin ibang laman ang puso at isip ko kundi sya.

magkaganon man, kami na uli.i can say she's worth it.

[MIGSY_08]

Kapag nang-iwan ka kase, binalak mo na... buo na yung pasya mo, sa madaling salita, di ka na mahihirapan makaget-over... di tulad ng kapag ikaw yung iniwan, unexpected siyempre kaya mahirap makamove on, matagal din bago mo matanggap yun.
Pero, yung isipin mong nakahurt ka, nangiwan ka, yun yung mahirap iovercome, pero kung wala ka namang puso na eh di mo na iisipin yun