guys- if you met a girl who insists on kkb how would you feel?

[rickym]

guys- if you met a girl who insists on kkb how would you feel?

1. intimidated, insecure
2. this girl is girlfriend/wife material, don't let her go
3. the man is the man of the house, women shouldn't do that
4. men should pay for the women, that's the way its done
5. drop all the other women who ask me to pay and stick to this one
6. it's a trick/test, no woman in her right mind would do that
7. i think the woman is desperate, there's probably something wrong with her
8. so women like this exist, i think i have to reassess my views on women

choose one or several.

i'd choose 2, 5 assuming i wanna get a gf.

how about you.

[Dunedain]

None of your 1-8. I'd play along and see how this thing goes.

[siyado]

i would assume that she has a good reason for insisting so i'll let her. i'll probably get curious though and ask her why she insists on paying for herself.

to me, really, that piece of information is kind of minor to be drawing sweeping conclusions from. there could be many reasons why a girl would do such a thing.

[RedhotOne]

I choose none of the above. I'll offer to pay but if she insists on kkb, then I'll have to respect her decision. It's no big deal to me.

[sinnerorsaint]

its a major turn off for me if its a guy..hehehe...

well maybe the girl is being practical lang...

[blue_tracer]

None of your 1-8. I'd play along and see how this thing goes.

same here. i need to know her 'history' first before drawing up any conclusions. and that is only possible after having some several dates with her. you can never tell that early.. whether she's a mangga-ganchu or not.. that you have to find out first.

[qa_belle_]

i did this once before and i insisted that we go dutch.

a woman who does dutch treat on dates wants the guy to know that she is independent.

[kaningbrown]

My gf was like that when we were still dating. Apparently she came from a relationship where the guy is a total toad. It took some getting used to, since I came from a relationship where I paid for everything, but after a while she got used to me shelling out more than her.

[king_lek12]

Personally, if we're still dating, I would insist that I'll shoulder all the expenses though I dont mind if she wants to share some.

[purpleheadd07]

insists or offers?

[kreuk]

tanong din... how do guys feel if a woman or gf insists to foot the entire bill??? coz my friends do that to their bfs as parang gift...

[rickym]

tanong din... how do guys feel if a woman or gf insists to foot the entire bill??? coz my friends do that to their bfs as parang gift...

baka once in awhile only. when a girl offers that i say, this bar, she pays, but next bar i pay. then i joke her and say "nakaka in love ka naman".

[azw]

tanong din... how do guys feel if a woman or gf insists to foot the entire bill??? coz my friends do that to their bfs as parang gift...

Okay lang sakin kung mapalit siya pero para skin pag nasa relationship na isang tao dapat lagi my give and take. Bawi ka na lang sa ibang araw. Minsan sa girl pag mahal talaga nila guy nahihiya siya lagi na lang sila nililibre pero minsan my ibang girl makapal muka un lang.

[qa_belle_]

guys if you really want to pay the tab to impress the girl and she insists in sharing, you may want to compromise. Like tell her " i insist on this one, if you want you can pay for the coffee perhaps?" in an asking tone. Its another way of telling her that you still want to be with her for the night.

Now if she still insists to share the tab after saying that, it means that she does not want to go any further. She is calling the night. And now, that's different story.

[baklita]

ipakilala mo ako sa babaeng ganyan. gusto ko siya kasi praktikal at
independent si babae. kung bibili ako ng kotse tatapatan kaya niya?
kung bibili ako ng bahay makiki-ride on din kaya siya? kung bibilhin ko
siya, bibilhin din kaya niya akwo? sus ginoo!

aihihihi!!!

baklits

[baklita]

ano nga ba ang ibig sabihin ng kkb?

... kuliti, kulugo, biniyak?

... kasuplada, kasungit, bulol?

aihihihi!!!

baklits

[rickym]

tanong din... how do guys feel if a woman or gf insists to foot the entire bill??? coz my friends do that to their bfs as parang gift...

i just remembered this happened to me. one day i was waiting for my money and my friend invited me out. so i told her my money was coming in a few days. so we ate in this open air place, i think she ordered several meals and rice and drinks, not only did she pay for the food but she also gave me money for taxi to go home.

and mind you, we don't go out that often, we hardly talk to each other on the phone, she has not landline and she had a boyfriend that time, it's just that we respect each other that much.

[rickym]

this is another kkb story.

i used to frequent this 'red light district' in manila and watch the girlie shows. i befriended this prostitute who gets clients from the streets and she asked me to do her a favor. she said she also wants to see pretty girls in the bars and if i could bring her also when i go in. i said, you it will be very awkward if i spent money on her in the bar then her customer calls up in the middle of it. so why not do it this way. i bring her in as long as it's kkb. that way if a customer calls she can leave me immediately, but she should call the waitress and pay her bill separately so i don't look like a fool being left for a richer customer. she happily agreed.

for several months it was ok until she went abroad, i never hit on her and she always pays for her bill.

[RedhotOne]

insists or offers?

The topic specifically says "insists."

Kung "offer," the guy can usually convince the girl against paying for her order since he is the one who extended the invitation. Most girls should have no problem with it.

[prEttyNdisTress]

Off topic muna...

I find this KKB amusing living here in the Philippines.

I grew up the "Chinese" way. Which means that when I go out with Chinese friends, only one person pays the bill. Never had I experienced KKB when dining with Chinese crowds. Paying the bill is also not an easy task in the Chinese dining. People will make efforts to pay silently. Pretend to go to the washroom or call the waiter and throw a hefty bill in his hand w/o knowing how much the total bill cost... Some will even get mad if you even open your wallet.

With this kind of upbringing, I will insist paying for the bill if I go out with Filipino friends. Pinoy kasi sanay sa KKB and they never say 'NO' when someone insist to pay. hahaha... But what's funny here is before I thought paying the bill is show of respect and power. no! With some circle of friends na pinoy, they took advantage of this and always ask for libre.. That's how I learned to do KKB if I'm with some pinoy friends.

But if I dine with my Chinese friends na meorn guys and girls, as much as we wanted to pay for the bill it's always the boys do it. But, there are rotation. Sometimes, I will call them up and said that if you will go, you better leave your wallet home coz I'm paying the bill this time. Goes to show that respect and frienship within the same culture.

Here are some article I found online re Chinese Dining etiquette

http://www.chinese-tools.com/forum/r...313%23msg-7313

http://www.teachabroadchina.com/who-...nner-in-china/

Now back to topic:

I don't know what the TS is thinking on putting a thread re a girl insisting to do KKB on a date. I mean that's really rare and stup!d. Why would a girl who goes out on a non bf/gf relationship date pays the bills or even offer KKB?

If I'm not into a relationship with a guy. I will never pay for the bill. Duh! You ask me out right? My rule and also the common rule in the society is:When a guy ask a girl out and they are not into a relationship, it's the "Gentleman" who should pay the entire bill.


I'm a girl and should be treated as one. It's one nice thing being a girl. Someday when we are married, that will be the end of our dating period. Where's the fun being a single girl dating and paying the bill. This type of girl definitely missing out the fun of being a girl.

KKB is CHEAP!!




here are some man's point of view I found online.

The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy

Twenty years of marriage and you get china. Twenty years of dating and you can’t even get Chinese food without paying your half of the bill. Dim sum tough facts, DR.

You’re correct and I agree, the asker should pay for the whole meal and the askee should offer. If the guy wants to go Dutch without telling you so beforehand, tell him to go on a long walk in wooden clogs.

It reflects well on you that you offer to pay and you deserve a guy who appreciates this. By comparison your friends who NEVER even OFFER to pay, well, they should get used to being single with rules like that.

If a guy can’t afford to pay for a whole dinner, then he shouldn’t ask you to dinner. There are less expensive dating options: drinks, coffee, a hike. It requires a little more thought, but these options are just as viable as a dinner date. After all, food is the way to a man’s heart, not a woman’s, right?

So, DR, you deserve a guy who asks you to dinner and holds up his end of the deal and pays. When he does, I suggest you buy him an after-dinner drink if the date continues. This isn’t necessary but I think it’s endearing, fair, and respectful.

In the future, if a guy asks you out to dinner but asks you to pay half, then YOU can consider him unworthy for a second date.


Fortune cookie say: if guy ask you to foot the bill, you know where to put other foot.

The gay man’s perspective: Darren Maddox

Girl, you’re 122 percent right about everything you’re saying. If he asks, he pays! If you ask, you should pay (or at least offer to anyway). Chivalry is not dead! A true gentleman would not let you pay for dinner on your first date unless he forgot his wallet. Then he better prove it. Think about the date like it’s a birthday party. If you get someone excited about taking her out to dinner for her birthday, would you ever expect her to pay for her own meal? It’s the same way with a date!

Concerning your question about whether or not it “means something” if he asks you to split the bill on the first date, hell yes it means something. It means he clearly misplaced the manners his mamma gave him and you better count your lucky stars you’re finding this out before you get too involved with his cheap a$$. But if this does happen again, go ahead and pay for your half. Then head for the door smiling at the fact that you won’t end up marrying the bast@rd.


@ rickym - If you PM and ask me out on a date. Don't worry. I'll pay for the bill and no need for KKB. How about Shangrila Edsa, the Chinese resto there? hahaha... Any "boys" (Gentleman? ) here who wanted to join? I'll pay for the bill and I insist!

Gotta wait when I'm back to Manila in a few months...