for the girls- has mind games or making pakipot ever really benefited you?

[siyado]

yup I know some girls still do that. making pakipot up the the point the guy found someone na..


Curiosu lang, what do you guys do when a girl you like so much make pakipot for a long time?

depends on the guy really. personally, i'd just leave her and move on. i wouldn't court for more than maybe 3-6 months, depending on what she's giving me.

unfortunately, some guys are clueless. they end up waiting for years for nothing. what a waste.

[excusemyfrench]

depends on the guy really. personally, i'd just leave her and move on. i wouldn't court for more than maybe 3-6 months, depending on what she's giving me.

unfortunately, some guys are clueless. they end up waiting for years for nothing. what a waste.

3-6 months?

[rickym]

that's what i mean. if the girl doesn't like the guy, she shouldn't continue to lead him on. some girls do this for as long as several years which is just nuts.

but i've heard of girls that say that a certain guy has been courting for several years only to find out the guy really hasn't or the guy has just been flirting for those years and he has been flirting with numerous others.

[rickym]

yup I know some girls still do that. making pakipot up the the point the guy found someone na..

i've met some girls who make pakipot when the guy is just getting to know her. so the guy just looked elsewhere.

Curiosu lang, what do you guys do when a girl you like so much make pakipot for a long time?

a friend of mine gave her a bouquet of flowers then never contacted her again.

[emanresu]

depends on the guy really. personally, i'd just leave her and move on. i wouldn't court for more than maybe 3-6 months, depending on what she's giving me.

unfortunately, some guys are clueless. they end up waiting for years for nothing. what a waste.

3-6 mos? LOL

There's a popular trend/rule among American teens on dating, if no sex in a week of the relationship, then break. LOL

[rickym]

i wouldn't court for more than maybe 3-6 months, depending on what she's giving me.

what she's giving you?

what should she give you so that you'll court longer?

[siyado]

lol okay too many reactions to quote. i'll just explain.

yes, when it comes to the formality, my max is 3-6 months though so far the maximum time a girl has made me wait was around 3 months. i tend to be patient with girls who are afraid of getting hurt. what i realized is those girls who don't make decisions like that hastily are the ones who tend to love the most.

i think this rule has to do with the kind of girls i go after (conservative in that sense). it's just the formality though. physical intimacy (but usually not sex) is already possible before that happens.

[siyado]

what she's giving you?

what should she give you so that you'll court longer?

it's a process. i'll continue to court if i see progress in our relationship like her getting more comfortable sharing personal stuff with me or her showing more care and affection. physical signs would include kissing and hugging. i think it's also easy to see if a girl is just ego-tripping.

[siyado]

3-6 mos? LOL

There's a popular trend/rule among American teens on dating, if no sex in a week of the relationship, then break. LOL

but in your example they're already in a relationship. i think 1 week is reasonable, especially if the guy courted the girl for a while. heck, the sex act itself could even be the girl's way of saying 'yes' to the guy so that's sex on day 1.

[rickym]

lol okay too many reactions to quote. i'll just explain.

yes, when it comes to the formality, my max is 3-6 months though so far the maximum time a girl has made me wait was around 3 months. i tend to be patient with girls who are afraid of getting hurt. what i realized is those girls who don't make decisions like that hastily are the ones who tend to love the most.

i think this rule has to do with the kind of girls i go after (conservative in that sense). it's just the formality though. physical intimacy (but usually not sex) is already possible before that happens.

i know what you mean, that was my policy before, i could even wait a year. but of course, if i find someone else i'll readilly transfer, it goes both ways.

now here's a question:
what if she tells you outright "no".
1. will you take her word for it and stop courting.
2. you will still continue since you feel she doesn't know what she's talking about since she's conservative and still can't make proper decisions.

if i were in the situation, a no is a no. i don't like girls who change their mind, whether they make pakipot or not.

[purpleheadd07]

i don't like playing mindgames, baka ako pa ang unang ma frustrate pag umayaw nga siya bigla.

[excusemyfrench]

never experienced an outright no. its more on the give me time, im not ready-yet, its too early sorta shiz.

girls, if you like em, get em. cause there's alot of girls out there, unless theres something really special(really hot) about you,we wont bother chase.
good looking MALES = dying race, alot are joining the homosexual exodus.

[siyado]

i know what you mean, that was my policy before, i could even wait a year. but of course, if i find someone else i'll readilly transfer, it goes both ways.

now here's a question:
what if she tells you outright "no".
1. will you take her word for it and stop courting.
2. you will still continue since you feel she doesn't know what she's talking about since she's conservative and still can't make proper decisions.

if i were in the situation, a no is a no. i don't like girls who change their mind, whether they make pakipot or not.

actually, my current girlfriend said no to me a couple of times before

first thing i'll do is i'll ask her reason for saying no. some girls really are just afraid of getting into relationships for reasons like being afraid of getting hurt again. they somehow make a conscious decision to just be with a guy who's good for them but one they're actually not in love with. if this is the case, i'll be patient and persist.

it really depends on her reason.

[intsik siomai]

Mukhang magaling sa ligawan si siyado,ah. I think it's better not to have sex when there's no exclusivity yet. It's ok to get a little physical on the getting to know stage, or what some call courtship stage. I think couples should engage in premarital sex before even discussing marriage.

What's the more appropriate length of time for "courtship" or getting to know stage? Suppose you see each other 2-3 times a week, maybe 3 months...w/ progress na yun.(holding hands at the very least).
I think the "ticket" or giveaway answer for men whether they should continue dating the girl or not is her response to your physical advances. Pag hindi nagpapachansing, wala na yan, nagpapalibre na lang yan at nag-iipon ng gifts.

[blue_tracer]

I think the "ticket" or giveaway answer for men whether they should continue dating the girl or not is her response to your physical advances. Pag hindi nagpapachansing, wala na yan, nagpapalibre na lang yan at nag-iipon ng gifts.

i agree..

imo, the moment you detect she's already playing mind games you should leave the 'scene' at once. or it will just be a waste of time.

[intsik siomai]

If a girl likes a guy, she'll "reward" him for all the nice things the guy does to her. If it becomes too one-sided, like if the guy gives too much and girl doesn't reciprocate, I don't think it's worth pursuing. If they become mag-on, most probably, the girl will expect the same amount of lavishing from the bf, and what, she just gives a wink in return? wag na.

Even if I'm kinda prostituty on dates, I still make it up with attention, gestures, and gifts as a sign of reciprocation if I like the guy. But my style with men I'm not interested to be bf, I pay my meal right away, he can't touch me, I don't owe him anything, so I don't make pachansing. It kinda sounds ridiculous. I act like a prostitute pag type ko?!?

The problem is many girls will make palibre even if they don't like the guy or the guy has no chance naman. I think that's worse than prostitution. That's extortion?

[rickym]

The problem is many girls will make palibre even if they don't like the guy or the guy has no chance naman. I think that's worse than prostitution. That's extortion?

it can go both ways. when an ugly guy goes out with a pretty girl, his value seemingly rises, at least with women. i've noticed that. if i go out with a known gold digger, the next time i see the women who saw us, they usually mind me. luckily i sometimes manage to go out with gold diggers who milk foreigners and not me.

once i went out with this friend of mine who is always very excitable when she sees me. since she has a bf, probably several. sometimes when we go out i also meet other girls in the bars we go out. and she tells the girls that i'm a nice guy. and two out of two times the girls would entertain me so much. one even invited me to her house and fed me supper. and when i asked them why are they so nice to me, they say its because they trusted my girl friend when she said that i'm ok.

my policy when spending for women is this.
never invest, always treat what you spend as an expense and not an expenditure. in non-accounting terms, it goes roughly like this. don't pay for something in which you expect to be paid for still in the future. what you spend for is what the company is worth for now. that way, even if she doesn't mind you the next day you're still ahead. only treat a woman as a friend or girlfriend material if she proves to be one. if you feel that she can't be that, treat her as entertainment. something which can be dropped at a moments notice.

[siyado]

salamat, miss siomai. i like to think i've at least learned a thing or two about this topic walking the earth for as long as i have

If a girl likes a guy, she'll "reward" him for all the nice things the guy does to her. If it becomes too one-sided, like if the guy gives too much and girl doesn't reciprocate, I don't think it's worth pursuing. If they become mag-on, most probably, the girl will expect the same amount of lavishing from the bf, and what, she just gives a wink in return? wag na.

agreed. couldn't have said it better myself.

Even if I'm kinda prostituty on dates, I still make it up with attention, gestures, and gifts as a sign of reciprocation if I like the guy.

that's cool of you. you make the job of the guy courting you easier and a lot more enjoyable/fulfilling

But my style with men I'm not interested to be bf, I pay my meal right away, he can't touch me, I don't owe him anything, so I don't make pachansing. It kinda sounds ridiculous. I act like a prostitute pag type ko?!?

actually, it's quite decent that you don't take the man's money if you have no intention of reciprocating anything.

The problem is many girls will make palibre even if they don't like the guy or the guy has no chance naman. I think that's worse than prostitution. That's extortion?

exactly my point earlier. a girl should have the decency to not create false hopes in a guy who has no chance with her.

[blue_tracer]

re: libre

ok lang sa akin.. first 2-3 dates, no problem.

kasi kung iisipin.. parang 'appearance fee' na rin yun.. nakks parang artista

'nanahimik' yung babae eh.. binulabog mo at invite mo for a date.. ok lang yun

pero kung 2 months na kayo sa dating.. at wala pa ring 'results' at puro gastos na lang ng guy.. kawawa naman doon yun guy.

[orangepink]

there are reasons why girls are pakipot. baka naman they're looking for something deeper than a one night stand. if a girl spreads her legs too soon, there are tons of terms for that --- cheap, easy, slut, bitch in heat, sampayan ng mga lalake. and i like to think that somehow, men aren't that shallow. sure, sex is the fastest way to his heart but everybody wants to be loved. that much is true.