How to attract girls, if you're not a head turner-type of guy?

[Mark T. Market]

Firstly: "Looks" is a result of a genetic raffle. You either got it your you don't--and pretty much completely by random selection. Pretty parents don't necessarily produce pretty children and vice-versa. Also, what is "head-turning" usually is something that is "different"--so no look is inherently ugly or pretty, just normal or unique.

(Proof: why do we like foreign-looking people or mestizas/mestizos? Vice-versa, why do foreigners dig the "plain janes" here?)

Secondly: Using the same premise, compensate for normal looks by being unique in other things. Invest in knowledge, social graces, personality improvement.

Thirdly: But this doesn't mean you can ignore "looks" altogether--because physical appearance is usually the first foot in the door. Make yourself presentable and unique by developing your own style (no need to go with the fashion, but project something unique about you).

Fourth: Tailor your "attractiveness" to the kind of person you want to attract. Don't expect to attract "smart" partners by projecting a "dumb" appearance.

Lastly: Play the game. You can't attract anyone if you don't socialize. In a game of chance, regardless of your inherent odds of success, your likelihood of winning increases only with the number of attempts. You can't win a game you refuse to play.

[Fenix]

Be yourself lang. That way malalaman mo na kung meron man ma-attract sayo eh talagang gusto ka nya na kung sino ka talaga.

Gusto ng mga girls dito eh may sense of humor, mayaman (kahit di nila aminin, alam natin yan), dapat ganun, dapat ganyan, bla-bla-blah (dami gusto! whew!), eh kung sa tutoo naman wala ka nun, mahirap naman magpanggap na meron ka ng mga yan di ba? Kasi sa huli parehas kayo magsu-suffer.

Pero... kung GF na pang FUBU lang, bahala ka sa buhay mo!
....kanya-kanyang diskarte na yan, hehehehe.

[danL]

@fenix di fubu hanap ko,....

[spades000]

.. yup.. you dont have to put so much effort..

just be urself...

..i said.. sense of humor.. lam mo un.. in ur own simple ways.. mapapatwa mo kami.. wag nmn *** super o.a!! or trying hard.. ahhahahaha!!!

ahahahha!! FUBU??!! nyakkkss!! i think pag gnon.. no need to be a head-turner kind of guy!! wahahaha!!

[smiley1031]

you gotta have sense of humor, sense of style, personality is a must!!! you have to give the girl the attention but not to the point na very controlling or clingy na ang dating mo. learn to be a listener and kelangan magaling magdala ng conversation (dagdag pogi points). most of all, be a gentleman.... it may be 2009 but girls still love men who are such a gentlemen. rare species na kasi yung mga ganyan hehehe

[Fenix]

^ oh man... It IS 2009, and men and women are supposedly "equals" by now.

If you want a girl who projects a weak 'damsel in distress' image whom you will have to perpetually please and be a slave to, then fine, go ahead.
But if you want someone who is a match to you, that you don't have to please all the time while sacrificing your own personality, who will ALSO listen to what you say, then I suggest you not to heed her advise. Your choice.

[Fenix]

Then again the question is how to attract them, so I guess it's your choice, either to be who you are not just to get them- but you will have to sustain that in the long run, or, just be yourself.

[danL]

Yes, actually yung girl na type ko ** sa office,,, everytime na magkakasabay kami, she always ask anything about me and of course, ako naman medyo magaling magdala ng conversation with matching jokes......di nya yun ginagawa sa ibang guys na kaofficemate ko.....do you think may spark kaya sa aming dalawa?

....kaso may BF na sya......

[mothra_hater]

layuan mo na yung babae!!

wag ka ng umasa,,

please lang

[danL]

@mothra...you got a point! para kong ***** na kinikilig-kilig at nangangarap na kami,,,pero the truth is meron talagang nagmamay-ari sa kanya....

sensya na.., naiinspire lang....

[mothra_hater]

ayus lang yan madami pang babae dyan,,

wag lang gold diggers haa,,,hehe

[rickym]

^ oh man... It IS 2009, and men and women are supposedly "equals" by now.

If you want a girl who projects a weak 'damsel in distress' image whom you will have to perpetually please and be a slave to, then fine, go ahead.
But if you want someone who is a match to you, that you don't have to please all the time while sacrificing your own personality, who will ALSO listen to what you say, then I suggest you not to heed her advise. Your choice.

i agree with you there, in the medieval times the man rules but with equal opportunity nowadays, there is no excuse. but you know sometimes, it's still nice to meet a feminine player, if she attempts to play me, then i can play her and i won't feel guilty, something i wouldn't have the heart to do with a decent woman.

so simple, take the boyish girl who is your equal seriously and 'use' the 'damsel in distress player' as your fubu.

Then again the question is how to attract them, so I guess it's your choice, either to be who you are not just to get them- but you will have to sustain that in the long run, or, just be yourself.

i've noticed that these women you're talking about are the boyish ones, probably the ones who were tomboys when they were young. grew up with a lot of brothers or were very close to their father.

[rickym]

ayus lang yan madami pang babae dyan,,

wag lang gold diggers haa,,,hehe

ok lang yang mga gold diggers, basta manigurado silang sulit sila. nice thing with gold diggers is i don't mind discarding them like old clothes when they grow old, since i know that they would discard me too when i don't have money.

[danL]

message lang po kyo.......

[Fenix]

i've noticed that these women you're talking about are the boyish ones, probably the ones who were tomboys when they were young. grew up with a lot of brothers or were very close to their father.

Hehe, yeah. And I think they're cool. Also the 'haliparot' or 'kikay' ones. hehe. They're the ones who are easy to get along with as you don't have to guess everytime whats's on their mind. After all, that's what having a relationship is all about, being able to get along and not waste time in kaartehan and hangups.

[shaggy27]

maging snobero ka, sila na ang lalapit sayo

[kenzie13]

maging snobero ka, sila na ang lalapit sayo

hehehe hindi pwede gawin ng lahat ng guys yan ... may tipo tipo lang ang may karapatang mang isnab ng girls pero lapitin pa din...


meron naman kailangan ng unteng talento( sense of humor etc) kung talo sa looks at sa money department..

at the end of the day just be yourself bro it will all come naturally ...theres no sense in being a wannabe ...

[Mike Cortez]

dapat meron kang game. hehehe.

[041882]

Ako dati nung single pa madali ako mg ka gusto sa may sense of humor talaga kesa gwapo..I mean syempre yung gwapo ma-crushan ko pero pg tumagal na kasama ko yung gwapo at not so gwapo but with sense of humor, i find myself liking the not so gwapo guy. wag naman nuknukan ng pangit, syempre nasa league mo pa rin dapat itsura. Para saakin mas confident ang mga may sense of humor coz they know how to express their selves at dun mo makikita na witty sya..mahirap mg construct ng funny jokes lalo na maging spontaneous, if hindi ka witty corny lalabas na joke sayo. Dagdagan nyo pa ng konting flirt wag yung amoritis ha. Flirt in a sense u'll show ur confidence even more (it takes a lot of courage mg flirt, confident ppl lang nkakagawa nun)..like complimenting a girl in a 'joking-way" but "half meant" tone pero after mejo dedma para naman mapaisip ang girl..wag yung over-willing, over-papansin nakakannoy un. madami ngsasabi pera lang katapat nyan, pero in reality naman talaga, guys with personality gets the girl they want too hindi lang yung may mga pera...may kokontra pero sa ordinaryong tao na ngoopisina at hindi artista very possible...daanin sa diskarte, pwede yun!

-may kaofis mate ako na maganda, sexy din, pero bf nya hindi gwapo or hindi msyado sknya bagay, sa unang tingin sasabihin mo tsamba talaga..pero nakikita ko kung bakit, sobrang funny ang guy kasi minsan naririnig ko sila nagaalaskahan, kahit di ako kasali sa kwentohan natatawa ako sa mga sinasabi nya at punch lines nya..hindi ako mgtataka na nagustuhan sya ng girl at mag 7 years na daw sila...

[qa_belle_]

make sense.

sense of humor.common sense.
be smart but not overly smart. women of good calibre prefers men who can engage them in a mentally stimulating conversation.
be confident, it will exude sexiness in you that women will find attractive.