would you still go back to your husband just for your childs sake??? advise please!!

[emanresu]

I know a story where the wife working abroad, one day she told her husband in the Philippines, that she doesn't love him anymore and she did not like to go on with their marriage just for the kids. But the husband begged for her not to abandon their marriage. In response, she then told her husband the she has filed divorced abroad (w/c is illegal because they are married in the Philippines) already so there's no way they will be getting back together.

The guy found out later from one of her, yes, her bestfriend that the wife is having an affair with another guy (who is also with kids, with more money, of course, and also living abroad and who also left his wife).

Well, eventually the husband accepted the offer, left their old place together with their kids, totally cutting off every communication with the wife to their kids. He then told their kids that their mother is dead, and filed complaints in the DFA in order to get his wife deported back to the Philippines and be banned in the country where the wife is working.

Sounds like a fair game ehh

Remeber, people can do selfish acts and can become unfair as long as they think they can get away with it.

[starry_night]

ideally yes. what's important for me is what's best for the children.

[baklita]

If you where in my shoes would you still go back to your husband even though you dont love him, just for your childrens welfare?

sa aking paniwala... this may and may not work. and both sides
can be justified based on their right reasons. sa madaling salita ay
depende na yan sa pagdadala ng problema at usapang ng dalawa.
pero kung may involve na third party... the marriage is doomed.

ako nga nagkukunwaring buntis. sinumbatan agad ko, "ni matres
nga, eh, wala ka! bakla!"

kako sa kanya, "same to you!" at nagtawanan na laang kaming 2.

aihihihi!!! :lol

baklita

[emanresu]

^^

She falls out of love, means that she
is having sex with a third party and that she loves that third party.

Remember, for girls, sex = love.

Also, blame game plays a very important role as a coping mechanism in order to avoid the bad feeling or guilt due cheating or infidelity.

[motherof3]

i am separated with 3 kids.

whichever road you take...the kids would always be at the receiving end. so i guess, choose the less effect and the less damage it can do for your children. better yet, talk to them and let them understand your situation and your decision.

the kids now a days are smart and resilient. they will understand believe it or not. the most important thing here is...you have to make a decision and make it a decision that is worth keeping and fighting for. something that will make you whole and happy. that is what you owe your children.

good luck!

[motherof3]

there's always two sides of the coin....it is not easy to be separated with kids to think about. whatever happens to our children in the future, it would be us to answer and accounted for.

[reality_hurts]

^^

She falls out of love, means that she
is having sex with a third party and that she loves that third party.

Remember, for girls, sex = love.

Also, blame game plays a very important role as a coping mechanism in order to avoid the bad feeling or guilt due cheating or infidelity.

Not all girls, siguro. I can't give you guys every little detail kung what made me decide to pack up my things and bring my kids along.
Ang alam ko pag nag asawa ka, he'll take care of you and not make you feel dumb, hurt you physically and emotionally. 15yrs...puro ganun, everyday. I'm not blaming him, Im deciding for myself. You can't blame someone when that someone thinks na he didn't do anything wrong. Di rin tama na gawin mo dahilan yun di na nag work ang relationship nyo para kumuha ng bago lalake.

Besides, with my kids around who needs another partner in bed.

[reality_hurts]

i am separated with 3 kids.

whichever road you take...the kids would always be at the receiving end. so i guess, choose the less effect and the less damage it can do for your children. better yet, talk to them and let them understand your situation and your decision.

the kids now a days are smart and resilient. they will understand believe it or not. the most important thing here is...you have to make a decision and make it a decision that is worth keeping and fighting for. something that will make you whole and happy. that is what you owe your children.

good luck!

Thank you..your right. I want to feel whole again. whatever decision that i make i'll take the consequences. God Bless.

[vincex]

reality hurts

What benefit does your child have if you are "together"? He can always visit him WITHOUT you.

Differences will always be there and if you really can't get along, better not to then.

Also consider, if you have differences, could it be your fault as well? Just some thoughts to consider

[kreuk]

No... the child will witness a very unloving marriage. that is equally damaging. sometimes i think that is even MORE damaging to the morale of the children. as an example kami ng magkakapatid. walang third party dad ko pero he is not affectionate to my mom. and that really affects us at the level of our soul. i think that's the reason why wala samin married until now.

i would rather grow up into a loving family than with two people who obviously don't love each other. but of course if u CAN FIX ur marriage which requires u to find the love again... that is still the best option.

i don't know about the traumatic experience of a broken family to the children.. perhaps u should hear from others. iv given u the side of the traumatic experience from an intact marriage between an unloving couple.

[yohei_mito2]

the reply to the mere question is simply no... but...

more often, one has to look deeper into the real issue that
transpired between you and your husband. oftentimes, lack
of communication is one culprit. if both of you can fill up the
gap, slowly in a way build up the trust you both had and spend
more time together... there's a chance to revive the relationship.

kakain pa ba kayong dalawa sa mcdo katulad ng dati?

aihihihi!!!

baklita

ayos to sa tagal ko sa PEX ngayon lang ako nakabasa ng reply ni baklita na serious